๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Three disadvantages of trying to search for a good spouse via matrimonial websites:
1] A lot of the profiles could either contain false information and include invented stories to impress other users or the developers of certain matrimonial websites may be managing those sites for moneymaking purposes - for instance, you won't be granted access to view the complete details of a particular profile until you pay the web administrators online a significant amount of money.
2] You could be wasting a lot of time by browsing around numerous profiles and finding it very challenging to select which person is the most ideal candidate as your future spouse, particularly if it can take several weeks to receive a response that isn't ambiguous from somebody whom you may be interested in marrying.
3] There can be lots of fitna in having to browse around a variety of profiles displaying photos of non-mahrams and many of those uploaded pictures could be fake or overly edited.
Allah the Almighty knows best.
✅ Suggested means of finding a righteous spouse
Inn-sha-Allah, whether you're a Muslimah who was previously married or you have never had a husband yet:
1] Inform your mother and/or father about your sincere willingness to get married for Allah's sake.
They could Inn-sha-Allah inquire their relatives or close friends if they can recommend a marriageable Muslim man whom they believe is most suitable for you etc.
2] Inform your grandparents, aunties, uncles, siblings or female cousins about your interest in marrying at your age. Maybe they can suggest some marriageable Muslim men whom you can choose from and request that they approach your father (individually), brothers or uncles etc. to be evaluated if they deserve to marry you.
You can Inn-sha-Allah meet the willing suitor while in the presence of at least two of your male mahrams (๐Note: your male cousins are not your mahrams even if they're a lot younger than you) to check if you'll accept the guy's marriage proposal for Allah's sake.
3] Courageously ask one of your friends or colleagues if they'll be okay with you as their future sister-in-law if you find yourself feeling seriously attracted to her brother or one of her brothers. If she likes the idea of you becoming his wife for Allah's sake, she could
Inn-sha-Allah inform him as well as their parents to reach out to your father or male mahrams to pursue the marriage proposal.
•Note: It is strongly advisable to pray two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara, to carefully contemplate before deciding to approve or decline a Muslim's marriage proposal, and to ensure that you do everything with sincerity/Ikhlaas just for Allah's sake, as decisions that are made genuinely to please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala are in general never followed by remorse.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not resisting nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
