๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, give some examples of how very selective you are when it comes to befriending and being curious about others?
๐ Answer: Some examples depicting how choosy I am regarding my choice of close friends and who deserves my full attention at times:-
1. Regularly waking up from vivid and unforgettable dreams and imagining how nice it would be to discuss what they could mean, but refraining from mentioning what I dreamt of to certain individuals because I know for sure they're not trustworthy.
2. Browsing around social media late at night for several minutes and noticing that so-and-so is online, yet I don't feel interested in reaching out to them although I've got the energy and ability to type quickly Alhamdulillah and chat for long periods about random topics.
3. Someone whose vibes I don't trust informs me about their Facebook profile or website and I show absolute zero interest in scanning and evaluating the pages they desperately wish I'd look at.
4. Despite not being busy in the workplace or during a gathering for some minutes at times, I would rather browse around my mobile phone or read something such as a downloaded PDF document than start a long conversation with a colleague or mere acquaintance who's just a few steps away.
5. Not bothering to ask how someone's vacation or trip went when we haven't communicated with each other for many days, even though I believe I'm capable Alhamdulillah of asking a wide range of questions when I am genuinely interested in something or somebody e.g. "oh you were at the same hotel which I and my family stayed at when we traveled to that city before. Did you feel the floor rotating at their revolving buffet restaurant? How often did you go out for sightseeing or did you mostly relax indoors? Have you visited such and such a place? What are some of the most memorable activities you did? Anything funny or intriguing which you discovered? Did you try riding a camel? What about a carriage pulled by two or more horses? Tell me all about your journey, I'm all ears." etc.
➡️ When I am uninterested in connecting with someone on a more personal level, because they've already shown me how unreliable or inauthentic they are, or I figured that our goals and temperament are too mismatched, I:
1. Don't take 99% of their acts, promises, statements and stories they invent seriously.
2. Don't bother checking out their social media posts and websites etc.
3. Refuse to prolong most conversations with them, and I avoid unnecessarily talking to them as much as possible.
4. Almost never mention their names to others (unless another individual has the same name as theirs) if there's nothing positive to state about them.
5. Almost never request for their advice and opinion on anything, until they prove to be reliable and not guilty of even an ounce of jealousy.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
๐ Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 5
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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