๐ Be flexible, lenient and open-minded regarding how you perceive your husband's actions and conduct towards you, if you're serious about maintaining your marriage for Allah's sake patiently. For instance:
๐ • When your husband walks in front of you or climbs up the staircase before you:
❎ Don't assume he's not being a gentleman by insisting you go first.
✅ See his action of walking ahead as his way to shield you and protect you from the front, ensuring that the steps and paths which you're about to tread on are safe and secure.
• When your husband instructs you to avoid approaching him if you see him talking to or spending time with some of his male friends or colleagues:
❎ Don't childishly assume that he's embarrassed to be seen with you.
✅ Believe that he's just protecting you and doesn't want any other guy to notice you since you're that special to your husband.
• When your husband leaves your messages on "seen" mode or answers you with very concise sentences from time to time:
❎ Don't speculate that he's not taking you seriously nor accuse him of being too lazy to type.
✅ Understand that he's likely very busy and intended to respond to you later but forgot to do so, or he attempted to send some replies but they could not be sent due to some technical problems or internet connection issues etc. or he's simply one of those people who dislike typing lengthy messages and he prefers to chat with you face to face.
Your husband is like a blank sheet of paper given to you by your Arts teacher who can sense that you're so creative or clever enough to use that paper in artistic and beneficial ways. If you don't have color markers, colored pencils, oil pastels or paint for coloring, you could try black and white sketching or calligraphy. If a pencil is unavailable for drawing or scribbling, you could still decorate the paper with glue, shiny glitter, colorful sequins and yarn etc. and if those items are not available, you could try origami and make paper boats, plane, hats, cups, fans, frames and paper boxes etc. with that blank sheet of paper. There should always be a solution
Inn-sha-Allah when you wish for anything to last longer even until the next life. Why throw away that paper if you'll only receive another one which is precisely identical to the one you discarded (with possibly almost similar shortcomings and imperfections as the former one).
~•~
๐ Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
๐ Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
