Hadith: Doing Good Deeds For Allah Moderately

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take up good deeds only as much as you are able, for the best deeds are those done regularly even if they are few."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4240
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam entered while I was with another woman. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam asked, “Who is this?” I said, “She is a woman who never sleeps because she is always praying.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must only perform deeds you are capable of doing. By Allah, Allah will not withhold from you until you give up. The most beloved religious deeds to Allah are those performed regularly."
In another narration, 'Aisha RadhiAllahu anha said, "When the household of Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam committed to an act of worship, they would do it consistently."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 43, Sahih Muslim 785
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Note: Sunnah Fasting On The 13th, 14th And 15th Of Every Month

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Today Wednesday July 1 is the 10th of Dhul-Qi'dah. The 13th, 14th and 15th of Dhul-Qi'dah will be on:
Saturday July 4
Sunday July 5
Monday July 6
It is Sunnah to fast on the thirteenth, fourteenth and fifteenth of every month.
The more good deeds we sincerely do for Allah's sake, the higher our station in Jannah with Allah's Mercy and the more guidance we attain from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O Abu Dharr, if you are going to fast three days of the month, then fast on the thirteenth, fourteenth, and fifteenth days."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 761
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Sahl ibn Sa’d RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, there is a gate in Paradise called Ar-Rayyaan, through which only those who fasted will enter on the Day of Resurrection. No one else will enter it along with them. It will be said: 'Where are those who fasted, so that they may enter?' When the last of them enter, it will be closed and no one else will go through it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1797
Sahih Muslim 1152
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever fasts a day in the way of Allah, Allah will move his face away from the Hellfire by a distance of seventy years."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2685
Sahih Muslim 1153
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
https://abdurrahman.org/category/islam/optional-fasting/

Note: Some Signs You And Your Husband Are Close

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some of the things that your husband does or has done which indicate you're close to each other and he deserves respect:
1] Waking you up for Salah at times when he gets up before you. At least once he woke you up while you had your monthly period. Seeing his partially surprised or guilty look for disturbing your sleep is just adorable.
2] Cooking for you when he isn't busy, buying what you've ordered, or bringing edibles when he comes home from work.
3] Being your Imaam while you try to hold back tears of joy as you pray behind him.
4] Listening to you read from the Noble Qur'an or an Islamic book.
5] Patiently hearing your stories, rants or complaints and giving you some advice or a loving hug to comfort you.
6] Allowing you to keep one of his personal belongings like his jacket, coat etc. for sentimental reasons.
7] Making you fall in love with him every time he displays charisma in being playful with children and fluffy cats.
8] Frequently calling you 'beautiful' and having no problem with seeing you without make-up.
9] Not being disgusted with your feminine issues. Knowing that you're having your monthly period and tolerating your frequent mood swings.
10] Advising you to forgive your parents, siblings and other individuals whenever he notices that you're not in good terms with them temporarily.
11] Cheering you up and making jokes to hear you laugh especially when he catches you not feeling well emotionally.
12] Not caring about your weight gain. Finding you pleasant or cute regardless of how heavy you weigh.
13] Letting you pat, playfully smack or massage him and not getting annoyed by your weird side.
14] Lovingly reminding you to wear the hijaab/niqaab before you go outdoors.
15] Apologizing to you and saying sorry whenever he thinks he has hurt you.
16] Feeding you by his right hand when eating or insisting that you try some snacks he enjoys.
17] Drinking from the same glass or mug you drank from, enjoying your direct and indirect kisses.
Whenever you and your husband go through a misunderstanding, try to imagine if you were in his place and realize that his tendency to make mistakes, forget, delay, cancel or offend you once in a while could result from tiredness, overwork and excessive stress. Remember all the loving things and favors that your husband has shown you. Realizing he is a human being too, with flaws and limited strength, you should strive to help him obey Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, guide him to being a pious Muslim spouse, and don't give up on him so you can
Inn-sha-Allah be granted entry to Jannah Paradise together.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

Note: 3 Ways To React When Insulted

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If someone makes an offensive remark about your looks, jokes about your current weight in a way that is intended to insult you, or intentionally says something insulting to get a reaction out of you, you have three ways to respond:
1] Ask them a rhetorical question like "Is that your tactic of emphasizing you're jealous and insecure? Or are you trying to imply that you had a miserable upbringing, which explains why you lack good character?", "Are you describing yourself? What do you gain by saying those awful nonsense?", or "What? Please repeat that. And? Your point is? Are you done demonstrating how your manners are so low?" to assist them in rethinking what they said.
2] Be patient, ignore their lame insults that indirectly reflect their own self-hate, and walk away from their negative vibes. Consider them as merely an acquaintance or stranger whom you are no longer interested in getting close to. Maintain basic courtesy with them, and do not let their impudent misbehavior lower your morals.
3] Agree with them as though their contemptuous slurs didn't impact you at all. Example: If told "You are ( insert adjective here that is meant to offend you )" answer with "Yeah I need to work on that. Thanks for pointing it out." or "She is so etc." when you walk away, turn around and say "Yes you're right. Do you have any tips so I can improve myself? I didn't know that criticizing people and giving advice were your hobbies."
In general as a Muslim you don't need to carry out revenge on those who insulted, mistreated or expressed their envious hatred towards you when you are aware that Allah's Justice always prevails at the most befitting time.  When some gossip and backbite about you, rather than copying their obnoxious conduct so there are two impolite idiots instead of one, earn rewards by striving to practice patience for Allah's sake. Sensing that a user posted a ridiculous status update on their timeline ranting about how weird or ignorant you are isn't an invitation for you to post your own passive-aggressive message. Simply unfollow them on social media and avoid interacting unnecessarily with those who can't add any significant value in your life and faith/Imaan.
Encountering haters, critics and troublemakers doesn't indicate you're not loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala but He loves you so much that He wants to strengthen your ability to have Sabr and upgrade your status in Jannah Inn-sha-Allah.
The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, the best of all human beings, was considered as a "magician", "liar" or "lunatic" by a number of hypocrites and unbelievers yet he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam didn't address those disbelievers with derogatory names.
Be better than your opponents and rivals by maintaining noble manners for Allah's sake sincerely, and refuse to participate in immature tit-for-tat games.
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abdullah bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If two people exchange harsh words, it is against the instigator (the person who started the fight) as long as the wronged one does not transgress."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2587
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Tips On How Not To Be That Extremely Jealous Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Answering a sister in Islam who asked for advice on how to deal with feeling extremely jealous whenever she notices females liking and reacting to her husband's status updates. Posting my response here in case other wives can relate. Alhamdulillah as I've mentioned before, I am not "Facebook friends" with my husband and brothers, though I genuinely love them for Allah's sake, because I don't want them commenting on my posts or responding to others' comments and whatnot. Yes I regularly communicate with my husband on Facebook messenger application, yet when it comes to knowing what he posts on his timeline and paying attention to who tags him etc. I choose to be completely unaware, indifferent and oblivious, not because I don't care about his online presence but to protect myself from unnecessary drama, since I can imagine myself getting into a dramatically furious debate every time a female colleague or acquaintance from his college years would comment or react to a status update of his.
Whenever I check my husband's timeline on browser to send him a direct message, I willfully refuse to scroll down his timeline, even if I notice a part of the topmost status update from one of his Facebook friends, and they happen to be female, tagging him along with several other users. "Ignorance is bliss" can be useful in cases like these, where not having all the facts concerning a circumstance is a way of protecting yourself from needless emotional stress.
Alhamdulillah I also don't scan through his mobile phones even if he makes them easily accessible for me, although I can visualize my husband at times communicating with some females due to a necessity, seeing how he works as a medical doctor.
From my perception, one of the signs you truly love your spouse for Allah's sake is to decisively trust them and display that you recognize the potential in your other half in being trustworthy, just as you'd like it if your soulmate doesn't mistrust and suspect you. Generally it is improbable for a decent person to show willingness in being close to someone who finds it difficult to trust them. If you can't trust me, then why should I trust you? If you constantly assume I shouldn't be trusted, why would I bother investing love and energy on somebody who rejects my loyalty and reliability?
🔸 Tips on how not to be that obsessively protective wife who jealously hates it when other women interact with her husband:
1] Always trust Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who sees everyone and everything. Understand that even if you hired some individuals to spy on your husband, to ensure he isn't cheating on you or flirting around with others, you still won't have all the intricate details of what your husband is doing when you and your recruited forces aren't watching. Let Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala deal with His servants.
2] While being triggered with feelings of jealousy is a natural tendency for many females, acting irrational upon envy indicates massive insecurity and lack of self-esteem.
Wives who are confident in themselves, while trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala at all times, do not behave with an annoyingly clingy and possessive attitude.
Children who don't want their favorite toy destroyed or lost is a cute and understandable thing, while seeing a kid have tantrums each time another child tries to converse with the plaything seems like they were brought up to be awfully paranoid, selfish or unsympathetic. Be your husband's faithful wife who trusts him, not one to overreact feeling threatened by other female species.
3] Respectfully remind your husband to lower his gaze as a pious Muslim is expected to, and let him know that wherever he goes, he's always being watched by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while there are special Angels assigned to record every statement he purposely says and every action he chooses to do.
4] Include your husband in your loving Du'as often, praying that Allah the Most Merciful keeps his faith/Imaan strong and protects him from anything that can lead to fitna.
5] On Judgment Day Inn-sha-Allah all of the deeds of Allah's servants can be revealed if Allah Wills. So if your husband ever did anything that he shouldn't have done in this world, eventually you'll discover it on the Day of Resurrection. You don't need to act like a female investigator who scrutinizes her subject's every move.
Your husband should be your sweetheart who can accompany you in your journey towards Jannah Paradise, not a subject matter to investigate 24/7.
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever Allah provides with a righteous wife, Allah has assisted him in half of his religion. Let him fear Allah regarding the other half."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat 992
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani