Poem: Be Contented Avoiding Toxic Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Respect yourself enough to avoid toxic friendships
With the rude and ignorant who shamefully gossip,
Who post status updates that are passive-aggressive,
And whose comments imply they're insecure or jealous.
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You know they're not true friends if they aren't supportive,
If you gratefully express joy they become quiet,
If they laugh at you, and your invites are rejected.
Let go of them. Their negative vibes are not needed.
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It feels free to disconnect from those hateful critics
Who don't add value to our lives so they're plain useless.
Their presence brings discomfort, their speech lacks benefit,
And dialogues with them are boring, lacking merit.
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Stay away from them if these awful traits are spotted:
Tendency to lie, to spreading rumors addicted,
Confirming envy when they got you disrespected,
And taking advantage so the care is one-sided.
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As we rise to Jannah and by Allah we're guided,
Vanishing of wrong kind of friends should be expected.
With Allah's Will someday they can be substituted
By like-minded souls who truly deserve our friendship.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you know who is the bankrupt?” They said, “The one without money or goods is the bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander, consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. The oppressed will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he will be thrown into the Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2581
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire destroys wood. Charity removes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

Hadith: Avoid Jealousy And Injustice.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you know who is the bankrupt?” They said, “The one without money or goods is the bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander, consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. The oppressed will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he will be thrown into the Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2581
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire destroys wood. Charity removes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir

Poem: Our Main Goal In Life Is To Worship Allah.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If the dead were brought back to life, given chance to live,
Granted respite to have their accounts of actions fixed,
After witnessing what occurs once they are buried,
They'd do more good and lack interest in getting rich.
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They'd probably do Tawbah and worship Allah more,
Be kinder and do charity if they can afford,
Share their gifts and blessings with others which they would hoard,
Forgive, help, let go of long-term grudges and discord.
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They'd realize luxury mansions were of no use,
The feasts they enjoyed, branded clothes worn, cool gadgets used,
And pictures of their flawless faces and fancy food,
Could not save them from Allah's judgment He'd execute.
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Understand our main goal is to serve Only Allah,
Not to be aimless on earth nor settle in dunya.
The means that Allah gave must be pathways to Jannah.
Wealth and lawful things shouldn't be sources of fitna.
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Inner joy is attained when our purpose is fulfilled.
When we're loved by Allah, we feel complete, whole and healed.
It doesn't matter if some are wealthy, smart or skilled,
If the reason why they were born remains unfulfilled.
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So concentrate on serving Allah and do your best,
Regardless of how many challenges cause distress.
Wherever we go in this world, expect various tests.
To pass them, have Taqwa. Trust Allah. Don't stay upset.
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Instead of collecting credentials and worldly gains,
Strive to earn Allah's Love, increase good deeds for His sake.
Assist each other as Muslims in strengthening faith,
So we meet Allah and reunite near Jannah's gates.
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📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person. Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149
Sahih Muslim 2960
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."
Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Note: The Humble Are Willing To Learn From Others.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 An example of false humility is to force yourself to be the most passive person in a group, behaving as though you're humble enough to listen to everyone yet deep inside you knowingly roll your eyes, cringing each time somebody confidently states a fact or shares an opinion. An actually arrogant person when told about some news or facts is likely to say "So what?", "What's your point?" and "Shut up. I already knew that", uninterested in whatever comes out of your mouth because to them they're the only ones who have every right to speak, deliver lectures and regulate.
Genuinely humble individuals are eager to learn from others. They're teachable, willing to be corrected, ready to progress in life for Allah's sake, prepared to be proven wrong if they're incorrect, and they never hesitate to admit they don't know something if they aren't familiar with that topic yet.
Acting like one has full knowledge of everything and refusing to receive information from other humans are among the indicators of actual arrogance.
Next time we come across a user's status update on social media, instead of instantly preparing ourselves for the perfect "eye-roll", we can make effort to analyze:
1] What hidden message is this user trying to state? Are they attempting to defend the truth? Motivate? Inspire others to do the same? Or are they posting it to release tension and relieve emotional wounds?
2] What can this user teach me so I can be a better Muslim and more developed human for Allah's sake?
3] Why should I resent this Muslim for being outspoken and communicative, when Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the One Who granted them the ability to express themselves freely, while they're accountable for their statements stated and actions done deliberately? It's not our place to judge somebody's intentions when we are unaware of their entire story.
📖 Haritha ibn Wahb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Shall I not tell you about the people of Paradise? They are every humble person considered weak, but if they gave an oath by Allah it would be fulfilled. Shall I not tell you about the people of Hellfire? They are every harsh, haughty, and arrogant person."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4634
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives except that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah except that Allah raises his status."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih
📖 Ibrahim ibn Al-Ash’at reported: I asked Al-Fudayl ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, “What is humility?” Al-Fudayl said, “It is to humble yourself for the truth, to act in accordance with it, and to accept it even if you hear it from a child.” I asked, “What is patience with calamity?” Al-Fudayl said, “It is to not publicize your complaint.”
Source: Hilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11692

Note: We Can't Like Nor Judge What We Don't Know

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Among the most unjust things that some people do is instantly judging a person based on false rumors being spread about them. We could at least investigate and ascertain that the complaints against them are justifiable, rather than abruptly boycotting them once we're told of something they did, which they probably didn't do or had to do but with a valid reason.
We can't accuse so-and-so of being a "pathological liar" if they disappointed us one time or we're the ones rejecting the validity of their excuses.
Describing someone as "miserly", "selfish" or "useless freeloader who's taking advantage of your friendship" is unfair if you refuse to understand that person's side of the story. Did it ever occur to you that they probably couldn't return your generosity because they're temporarily struggling financially? Or just when you wrongly regard them as obnoxious ingrates, they actually mention your name profusely in their loving Du'as while you're sound asleep.
It is not right to criticize another Muslim when we barely even spoke to them.
"Don't support them, they're 'Ikhwaani'", "Stop communicating with that woman, she's a former gangsta.", and "You don't want to befriend him, he's everything you don't want to be." are few examples of nonsensical warnings we're likely to receive from those who claim to care about our well-being, warning us without accurate evidence and tangible proofs to defend their accusations.
🔸 It is reasonable to describe somebody as such-and-such, because we're acquainted enough with them, if we:
1] Talked to them numerous times face to face, rather than evaluating them by their social media posts. And by "talk" I mean actually talking, conversing, discussing ideas, swapping valuable advice, extending sympathy, sharing news, and exchanging personal information that bring you closer together, not merely "how are you? I'm fine."
2] Traveled with them, had a memorable sleepover with them, or went outdoors with them several times, so we were able to observe how special, helpful and caring they are.
3] Have been familiar with them for at least three years. It's unreasonable to consider a stranger as a "best friend" or subject whom you can thoroughly analyze if you've only known them for a number of months.
Also acknowledge that rumors about a Muslim are usually disseminated by:
1] Jealous haters who had a falling out with them or who feel threatened by their positive vibes.
2] Hateful critics who insecurely loathe their good qualities or who denounce what they're calling to.
3] Insecure strangers who don't know them at all yet they verbally bulldoze them to pacify their insecurities.
Oftentimes what we may guess about another Muslim isn't their actual description, but those untruthful assumptions are shaytan's evil suggestions, designed to keep you away from forming a connection that has possibilities of strengthening your faith/Imaan.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719, Sahih Muslim 2563
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim