Note: Signs Of Insecure People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 There is a huge difference between being "shy" and "insecure". One person may appear to be outgoing, courageously ready to mingle and socialize, yet deep down inside they're incredibly insecure and unconfident. Another individual can be described as "shy" when they dislike bringing unnecessary attention to themselves, feel uneasy around large social gatherings, or they refrain from behaving in a manner that could repel or turn off those whom they look up to.

Many reserved introverts or ambiverts who are "shy" when among strangers actually have a good amount of self-esteem. They can be regarded as "confident" when they do things with a reasonable purpose regardless of people's opinions and criticism. Insecure individuals on the other hand act out because they excessively care about what people think. They're usually driven by their own emotions or ego and how onlookers view them.

🔹 Three signs that indicate a person could be insecure - they are unhappy with who they are or they lack self-confidence:

1] They're quick to judge your intentions and question others' motives. 

If you and some friends are laughing, the insecure person instantly assumes they're the subject of your discussion, when that isn't the case. If you want to share some information because you think it can benefit others, an insecure person would speculate you're "showing off again" or "acting like a know-it-all". If you're asking questions because you're curious and willing to develop your friendship, an obnoxiously insecure individual would get offended and assume you want certain information only for selfish reasons.

They're so insecure and unsure of themselves that they can't even see others in a positive way.

2] They shamelessly verbalize wrong assumptions about others.

Instead of keeping their bad thoughts to themselves, like mature adults do, insecure people utilize their social media accounts to bring others down. Their gigantic load of insecurities is what drives them to post passive-aggressive status updates which are directed at those whom they're too afraid to confront. They are so enriched with insecure self-hatred that insulting others and counting people's flaws to distract oneself from one's own are done to pacify their minuscule self-esteem.

3] They deliberately do and say things to make you feel bad about yourself.

"Oh your baby recently started crawling? That's sad. Mine learned to crawl at five months.", "How come your husband doesn't work in the same city you're in? Maybe you should influence him to find another job so you're not neglected. You're extremely weak if you never remind him what your rights are.", and "Why did you style your hair like that? Are you copying me? This hairstyle is unsuitable for your face shape." are some examples of statements you may hear from insecure haters.

People who are secure, glow with confidence, and who are grateful for the blessings that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave them, uplift others and spread cheerful vibes, not mistreat people whom they regard as competition or threats to their limelight.

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."  

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987  

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest." 

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him not harm his neighbor." 

And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him uphold family ties."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672, Sahih Muslim 47 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

Poem: Some Signs That Good Wives Love Their Husbands

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A pious woman's love, when she loves for Allah's sake,

Isn't limited to a kiss but in myriad ways.

Her love is not restricted to sweet words, tight embrace,

And cuddles, but through other means her love is portrayed.

~•~

She proves her love for her husband when she tries her best 

To be his grateful wife who doesn't bring him distress,

Contented with what he can provide, sad when he's stressed,

Doing what she can so he smiles, and helping him rest. 

~•~

The phrase "I love you" for her man are put to action 

When she raises her hands to say Du'a, and mentions 

Her husband's name in loving supplications often,

Praying for his guidance, safety and soul's well-being. 

~•~

Her love is proven each time she misses his presence, 

Whether he's gone for few hours or longer duration.

While in most of her thoughts and dreams he's an occupant, 

She loves Allah so much more, hence she remains patient. 

~•~

Her statements "I love you" for her spouse are enacted 

Sincerely when she strives to pass each marital test, 

By lowering her gaze, shunning those deemed attractive,

And staying fiercely loyal to protect her marriage.

~•~

In modesty and keeping her charms for her husband, 

Avoiding flirting and needless chats with non-mahrams,

Her loyalty is shown, wholehearted and genuine, 

Growing in compassion since Allah connected them. 

~•~

Respecting her soulmate's rights, caring for their children, 

Maintaining friendly ties with his parents and loved ones, 

And learning Islam with him so their faith is strengthened,

Are from countless signs a wife truly loves her husband.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Be Strong Enough To Forgive Others

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Be strong enough to forgive people for Allah's sake,
Even those who gossiped about you, tarnished your name,
Who still owe you some money, tried to humiliate,
Ignored your salaams, mocked you, or put you under blame.
~•~
Forgive like the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) was forgiving,
Who forgave Taif's people who weren't welcoming,
Abu Sufyan and Hind who had Hamza's heart bitten,
And Wahshi with others who later became Muslims.
~•~
Forgive as the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) was kind and tough,
Who pardoned those who unjustly accused him and scoffed,
Called him names that didn't suit him and had him laughed at,
Unaware he's a mercy sent from Allah above.
~•~
Forgiveness doesn't mean returning to destruction,
Allowing oneself to befriend toxic companions
Who are used to lying, abusing, and backbiting,
Whose companionship brings nothing but bad influence.
~•~
To forgive Muslims for Allah's sake is to be free
From the urge to plot revenge, get even childishly,
And from enmity that keeps one from sleeping soundly.
It proves inner strength, faith and enhanced maturity.
~•~
Forgive that Muslim although you're not close anymore.
To forgive is to release them from being abhorred,
Despite remembering their insulting acts or words.
Forgive, even if the emotional wounds still hurt.
~•~
Forgive and move on. It's your right to choose friendly wisely,
Pious friends who aren't too proud to say they're sorry,
Who understand your story, forgive you readily,
And who live their lives to gain Allah's Love and Mercy.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One (Allah) in the heavens will have mercy upon you."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1924
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Al-Shafi’i, may Allah have mercy on him, wrote in his poetry, “When I forgave and stopped holding malice against anyone, I relieved my soul of the worries of enmity.”
Source: Dīwān Al-Shāfiʻī 31

Note: Thoughts On Bad Dreams We Have About Some People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Oftentimes we wake up from nightmares or strange dreams about people whom we're acquainted with, whether they're our relatives, colleagues, neighbors or someone we've met through a mutual friend. Some of the visions we've had about those people may cause excessive worry, anxiety or feelings of discomfort when we're around them.
Allah the Almighty knows best. Two examples of bad dreams about individuals whom we know offline, regardless of how close our connection is with them include:
1] Seeing somebody try to harm us physically or emotionally in a dream. Being harmed, chased or confusingly ridiculed by them.
2] Having a weird dream in which you and a familiar face are being unusually intimate or inappropriate. Being in bed with them, enjoying a supposedly romantic date with them, strangely flirting with one another, watching them propose to you, or kissing them are some things you may have seen in this kind of dream.
🔸 Some possible meanings of certain nightmares concerning people:
1] Allah the Most Wise may be giving you signs regarding how this person truly feels about you. Perhaps they like you a lot or find specific traits of yours admirable, and this dream is a warning for you to ensure your affectionate moves are displayed moderately or you're given signals to avoid being too available, so the bond between you doesn't lead to something haraam/forbidden or abnormal.
Otherwise if you saw this person in your dream hurting you, there's a possibility that they could be secretly jealous of you, or they're completely against a number of your qualities or life choices. This dream may be a message from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for you to stay safe by slightly distancing yourself from them and accepting the fact that they can't always be relied on.
2] It may be that shaytan is attempting to play emotional and mental games with you by appearing in your dreams and resembling the image of people you know. Perhaps he wants you to pursue your feelings of attraction to someone and commit zina with them, or he desires that you discontinue a blessed friendship with a righteous Muslim by making them seem unpleasant and dangerous in a nightmare.
Inn-sha-Allah such nightmares, which shouldn't be interpreted literally, can't negatively impact you as long as you seek Allah's protection and resist the urge to spread it around.
3] A lot of your dreams could also represent your innermost thoughts, feelings and current condition. Maybe you miss that person so much so that a copy of them showed up in your dream as a way of coping with the sorrowful emotions associated with missing them. Maybe there's a quality that they possess which you can benefit from if you had it too e.g. humility, courage, confidence, assertiveness or generosity. Or maybe their presence in your life actually has significant meaning. Thus rather than taking them for granted, do what you can to maintain good connections with them for Allah's sake in a manner that inspires you two to be successful Muslims in both worlds.
https://www.abukhadeejah.com/notes-on-dream-interpretation/
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “When one of you sees a dream that he likes, it is from Allah so let him praise Allah for it and speak about it. When one of you sees something else he dislikes, it is from shaytan, so let him seek refuge from its evil and not mention it to anyone. It will not harm him."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6584
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If one of you sees a dream which he dislikes, let him blow on his left side three times and seek refuge in Allah from shaytan three times. Let him turn to the other side on which he was sleeping."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2262
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever sees me in a dream has truly seen me, for shaytan cannot assume my form."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6592
Sahih Muslim 2266
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The good dream is from Allah and the bad dream is from shaytan. Whoever sees something that he dislikes, let him blow to his left side three times and seek refuge from shaytan. Verily, it will not harm him and shaytan cannot appear in my form."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6594
Sahih Muslim 2261
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If one of you is frightened by a dream during sleep, let him say: 'I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allah from His anger, His punishment, and the evil of His servants, from the insinuations of devils and their presence.' Verily, they will never harm him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3528
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Note: Some Qualities Of INTJs (MBTI Personality)

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🔸Some qualities or signs of an INTJ type:

1] In a group setting they're usually the quiet one, silently observing and attentively learning from behind the scenes. They speak up only when they believe that vocalizing their thoughts is beneficial or necessary. 

2] They never get bored reading, researching online and accumulating random information which they consider as relevant to their life goals or interests. "Robotic", "nerdy", "studious", "serious" and "erudite" are words that could describe them. 

3] They're either the only one not laughing, maintaining a straight face, when others are making jokes about other people, or they're the only listener grinning when they understood a sarcastic joke not about people but a subject that they find amusing.

4] They avoid public speaking if possible and their speech is usually brief, concise and to the point. 

5] They can often read between the lines and identify how someone may actually feel on the inside despite their outward behavior. Those whom they detect as untruthful or untrustworthy individuals who like playing passive-aggressive games are eventually avoided for their well-being.

6] From their teens or a younger age, INTJs typically feel like outsiders, not fitting in with their peers. They are oftentimes more mature and intellectually curious that they can't always relate to what seems popular, trendy or socially acceptable to the majority. Gossip is something they also intensely abhor.

7] Out of the 16 personality types INTJs are the most independent. They can be satisfied and contented, not "lonely", when solo especially if performing a task or accomplishing something on their own (with Allah's help) is more efficient than with a group of unreliable individuals. 

8] They don't get offended easily since they value the truth, logic and reason more than fluctuating emotions. You can yell at them, scold them, accuse, insult or exclude them from gatherings and they still (with Allah's Will) manage to stand up resilient and move on confidently, unfazed by criticism and irrational moves. 

9] Because they're more future-oriented, visionary and forward thinking, they easily move on from the past. They're not afraid of detaching, cancelling some plans, and disconnecting from certain distractions if doing so is more sensible and advantageous than continuing inefficiently. 

10] While it takes a lot of time to befriend INTJs, as they're extremely selective regarding who they emotionally invest in, once they regard you as part of their circle of trusted companions, they prove to be very caring, loyal and protective. You get to see a side of them too which they conceal from strangers. 

11] Actual INTJs, not INTJ-wannabes, aren't obnoxiously disrespectful and insulting without justification. They're not the kind to bully others specifically since they dislike dealing with unnecessary emotional reactions. They'd rather avoid those who conflict with them than indulge in unwanted interactions and fruitless arguments. 

https://personalitygrowth.com/most-likely-first-impressions-of-each-personality-type/

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