💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 The words "spinster" and "old maid" are used to describe an unmarried woman who has reached a stage that is beyond the usual age for marriage. Alhamdulillah I personally know at least five Muslim women who are in their forties or fifties and they're contented as they are - single but independent, and free from the additional responsibilities of being a wife.
Although she never had a husband before, the mother of Prophet Jesus, Maryam (May Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala be pleased with them both) is counted as one of the best women on earth and one of the believers promised to be granted entry to Jannah Paradise. So long as you're blessed with Allah's Love, you don't need a man to feel complete nor obtain the status of being "married" to be regarded as successful in this temporal life.
It is possible for a Muslimah to be happy enjoying singlehood, believing she's satisfied with loving Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, while not being dependent on another human being.
🔸 Some of the likely reasons why a number of women choose to avoid matrimony include:
1] They're fed up receiving marriage proposals from men who don't seem to be good enough according to their standards. They'd rather wait for their flawless spouse in Jannah Paradise than deal with the negative consequences of marrying "the wrong guy".
2] They have full satisfaction with their current job. The income they get from their profession is more than enough to sustain themselves and their loved ones. They're the type of women who don't require assistance and support from any human, especially a man.
3] They could be "asexual" or not interested at all in anything that has to do with physical intimacy, romance and sexual reproduction. To them, there are other ways to achieve happiness which are not connected to marriage.
4] They've seen too many "failed marriages" that they lost interest in becoming wives. They prefer staying single and free from worries to not being an "ideal wife".
5] They could be from the minority of females who are not sexually attracted to males. Falling in love with the opposite gender doesn't come to them easily. Instead of marrying unwillingly and showing love to the husband artificially, these women are satisfied rejecting and not receiving marriage proposals.
🔸 Tips concerning this issue:
1] Never look down on a woman who hasn't received a marriage proposal yet. A woman's value is in her Taqwa, faith/Imaan and love for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not in the amount of marriage proposals she got or the quality of guys she was married to in the past.
2] If you're currently single, don't feel pressured to get married soon just because a lot of your friends and relatives finally had their wedding. Continue preserving your modesty, as you keep praying to Allah the Most Loving to bless you with a pious husband who is worthy of your loyalty and affection.
3] Married life isn't equivalent to joy and success. Once a woman gets married, she should expect various trials and tests, including how patient she can get with her husband and whether or not she can always remain loyal.
Your worth as a Muslimah isn't attached to your marital status, but to how strong and genuine your connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is.
Single, divorced or widowed, what matters really is that you're from those souls whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves and guided.
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the nations before me and one or two prophets would pass by with only a few followers and another would pass by with none. Then a large crowd of people passed in front of me and I asked: 'Are they my followers?' It was said: 'No, this is Moses (Prophet Musa 'alaihis salaam) and his followers.' Then it was said: 'Look at the horizon.' Behold, there was a multitude of people filling the horizon. It was said: 'This is your nation from which seventy thousand will enter Paradise without being taken to account.' Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam entered his house without telling them who the seventy thousand were, so the people started discussing the issue and they said, “It is we who have believed in Allah and followed His Messenger, so those people are either ourselves or our children who are born in the era of Islam, for we were born in the time of ignorance.” When the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam heard that, he came out and he said: "They are those who do not treat themselves with incantations, nor do they believe in bad or good omens, nor do they get themselves cauterized. Rather, they put their complete trust in their Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)." ‘Ukkashah ibn Muhsin said, “O Messenger of Allah, am I one of them?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said 'yes.' Another man got up and he said, “Am I one of them?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Ukkashah has preceded you."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5378
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna/fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
