Poem: Don't Be Affected By What People Claim About You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three qualities if found in a person then their words 

Carry no meaning, specially if they're meant to hurt: 

First quality - their life lacks significant purpose,

They don't serve Allah, they follow shaytan the accursed, 

And when compared to donkeys, their morals are much worse.

~•~

Don't trust all remarks that an unbeliever utters. 

If they oppose Allah, what they say shouldn't matter, 

Especially if the truth isn't what they're after,

But what matters more to them is watching you suffer. 

Dismiss their lies and jokes. Overcome them with Sabr.

~•~

Second - they're unaware of every move that you make, 

Heedless of many of your dreams and statements you state, 

Ignorant of your past and feelings you don't portray, 

And if they don't know you completely, then there's no way 

For them to judge you when their guesses contain mistakes.

~•~

Third - they can't define your worth if they themselves are flawed. 

If they bark insults or leave rude comments, calmly nod 

And tell yourself, "I get it. They criticize my flaws 

To be distracted from their sorrows and countless faults. 

If they're happy, they wouldn't provoke others at all."

~•~

Ignore deluded critics' misperceptions and slurs. 

If their claims can't inspire progress or they're plain absurd, 

Don't take it personally. They're the ones who are hurt 

By ignorance or character filthier than dirt. 

Only Allah can correctly judge us in both worlds.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Hadith: Good Etiquettes Regarding Sneezing And Yawning In Islam

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah likes sneezing and dislikes yawning. When one of you sneezes and praises Allah, it is a duty on every Muslim to say to him: 'May Allah have mercy on you.' As for yawning, it is from shaytan. When one of you yawns, let him hold it back (restrain the yawn) as much as he can. When one of you yawns, shaytan laughs at him."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5872

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Poem: Three Signs You've Become Too Attached To Someone And What To Do To Detach Peacefully

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three signs you've become too attached emotionally 

To another human, and this "love" is unhealthy: 

One - With them, there's separation anxiety. 

When they're absent, you feel empty, distressed or angry, 

Can't function well without them, as though you're incomplete.

~•~

Chatting with them keeps you energized, bubbly and pleased, 

And simply having them nearby brings about relief. 

Grief and worry emerge as soon as they disappear. 

If they leave you for some days, you wonder anxiously, 

"Did I push them away somehow? Do they still like me?"

~•~

Two - You think of them a lot, far too excessively, 

Hoping they're okay and that they miss you equally, 

Thinking of them often before you pray, eat and sleep, 

As if thoughts of them are needed to breathe peacefully, 

When abnormal attachment actually makes you weak.

~•~

Three - Seeing them care for others evokes jealousy. 

If they discuss someone else, you ditch them pridefully, 

Disinclined to even ask about their family, 

Because you desire them for yourself so selfishly, 

Like leaves firmly glued to feeble branches of a tree.

~•~

Tips to detach from someone easily or gently, 

Whether they're your spouse, loved one, or friend you've known for years, 

So if they die, move out, or they make you feel unheard, 

You can move on without them patiently or gladly, 

Satisfied with the Love of Allah the Almighty:

~•~

Know that each soul we meet is like life's difficulties, 

Meant to test our faith/Imaan and they're temporary. 

Accept that all humans have flaws and ability 

To offend or disappoint you occasionally. 

Thus never assume they'll stick around permanently.

~•~

Prioritize serving Allah and trust Him Only. 

Know that what follow you to your grave are your good deeds. 

Respect yourself enough to let go confidently 

Of any person who fails to take you seriously, 

And tell yourself often, "Allah is Enough for me.".

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Aslam Al-Habashi RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, "How is this?" Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated (obsessed) like a child. When you hate someone, you want destruction for your companion."

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Tips: Five Differences Between Those Who Genuinely Care About You And Those Who Prefer To Keep Their Distance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five differences between someone who likes you as a friend and somebody who isn't interested in befriending you, so you can 

Inn-sha-Allah identify who is worthy of your efforts to become more acquainted and quit attempting to connect with those who are clearly incompatible: 

1] When meeting face-to-face or on video calls, those who genuinely like you appear happy to see you. Regardless of their current mood, they can readily smile or greet cheerfully upon your arrival. In contrast, those who dislike you for whatever reason, due to jealousy or an unresolved misunderstanding, roll their eyes with annoyance or scowl as soon as they notice you or hear your voice.

2] Those who don't have any envy or grudge against you generally talk to you with a cheerful tone. When asked a question, they respond with enthusiasm and also return your questions with queries of their own, a sign they're willing to get to know you better. On the other hand, those who despise your presence usually behave as if they don't enjoy interacting with you. Besides rolling their eyes or frowning, they seem rudely distracted or indifferent whenever you try to socialize, answering your questions abruptly or vaguely and seldom asking you about yourself. 

3] Friends of the same gender who care about you often initiate hugs, offer handshakes, and give you friendly pats or lightly touch your shoulder or upper arm when speaking to you. Someone who still regards you as a stranger would do whatever it takes to avoid touching your skin and sitting nearby.

4] Somebody who is eager to build a connection occasionally makes the first move when it comes to calling, sending messages, asking how you're doing, inviting you to a gathering, and keeping the friendship stable. A person who sees you as an acquaintance only reaches out when there is an absolute necessity. 

5] Individuals who consider you as part of their circle occasionally share some of their belongings, food and personal details with you. Those who prefer to keep their distance wouldn't bother sharing anything with you even if they were neighbors, colleagues or seatmates. 

• How to deal: 

° With those who show interest in improving their connections with you: Reciprocate their favors. Value their companionship with steadfast patience, gratitude, good manners, loyalty and willingness to forgive as many times as you're capable of forgiving. 

° With someone who is unreachable or unwilling to associate with you: Maintain basic politeness with them, answer their salaams, and don't expect too much from them to be free from disappointments. Your secrets, dreams, plans, projects and valuables should be kept far from them, specially if their trustworthiness hasn't been confirmed. Understand their disinterest does not measure your worth as a Muslim. If the temperament, goals, and languages of two souls are completely different, it makes logical sense that establishing harmony may be unlikely or take some time.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly and befriended, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended. The best of people are those who are the most beneficial (helpful or cooperative in what is right) to the people."

Source: Al-Mu'jam Al-Awsat 5937

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

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Poem: Five Signs That You're A Tough Wife And Your Husband Is Fortunate To Be Married To You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five signs that you're a tough wife, and loyal wives are few, 

And your strength comes from Allah Who knows your love is true: 

One - In spite of challenges you may sometimes go through, 

You still love your spouse - to quit loving him you refuse, 

As discarding blessings is not something you would do.

~•~

Two - When at times he acts in a way that can confuse, 

Or his choices often cause critics to misconstrue, 

You empathize, remain firm, don't feel at all "abused", 

Because you sense behind his actions are reasons you 

Don't know yet, and he's not someone you're willing to lose.

~•~

Three - Since being his wife is a gift which you value, 

Other wives' complaints about their men can't impact you, 

And stories of divorcees inspire you to ensure 

That fierce loyalty towards your soulmate remains true. 

You're not a fake lover whose commitment is untrue.

~•~

Four - You're not nosy, even if some assume it's cute 

When ladies spy on their lovers to be reassured. 

Lack of clinginess or nosiness doesn't reduce 

Your care for your other half, but it implies that you 

Trust him, and believe Allah sees what His servants do.

~•~

Five - Whether he remarries or he works far from you, 

You're content with loving him, and of his love you're sure, 

And your faithfulness won't drop even if he is poor, 

Outwardly aloof, or to strangers not good for you. 

Marriage is like a game which strong wives don't wish to lose.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.