Poem: Five Signs Of Emotionally Manipulative People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five signs of a toxic person playing hard to get, 

Who disrespects your feelings, can never be trusted, 

And who is emotionally manipulative, 

Yet they desire to befriend you for the benefits 

Found in your affection, if you fulfill their requests: 

~•~

First sign - Whenever they can, they'd try their very best 

To appear friendly while making sure you're excluded. 

In some events, they'd distribute gifts whilst you notice, 

Greet a select few, as they'd ignore you on purpose, 

And act like you're not there until you get them scolded.

~•~

Second - They go out of their way to make it obvious 

That they're reachable and online they can be addressed, 

Yet when you reach out or attempt to send a message, 

Their replies are delayed or they send vague responses, 

And then ghost you. Your aches make them feel energetic. 

~•~

Third - When you talk to them, you sense your time is wasted, 

As the convos don't flow, or all they do is gossip, 

Or you can tell they're jealous, or they're inauthentic. 

Fourth - It's true, they have a side that's kind and generous, 

But only if you play along they'll seem supportive.

~•~

Fifth - If they detect you outdoors, in public places, 

They won't make the first move but wait to be confronted. 

Feeling entitled, superior and narcissistic, 

Toxic people like it when your life is chaotic,

And when you beg for their care, their pride gets inflated.

~•~

How to deal with actors sent by Allah as a test, 

So their bad vibes can't affect your overall progress: 

Always trust Allah. With Allah's Love stay contented. 

Understand Allah's slaves can't bring lasting happiness. 

Forgive those who mistreated you. From fakes disconnect.

~•~

Quit attempts to click with those who act like hypocrites, 

Who disrespect your need for space, take you for granted, 

Who often lie to your face and misapply kindness. 

Staunch efforts to ditch stubborn liars and narcissists 

Simplify shunning sins so our faith is safeguarded.

~•~

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

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Note: On Reciting The Surahs In Salat Al-Fajr Audibly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: If a person missed an audible prayer (a prayer in which the Surahs in the first two Rak'ahs are recited loudly such as the Fajr prayer) and wanted to pray it (after sunrise), then should they perform it silently or audibly?

📝 Answer: The Sunnah is to perform it audibly, in the daytime, if one is to pray the Fajr prayer after sunrise (due to oversleeping) then they recite the Surahs loudly. 

In some of his journeys, when the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam overslept and missed the Fajr prayer at its right time, and what woke him up was the heat of the sun, he prayed the Fajr prayer after sunrise audibly, reciting the Surahs loudly (the way it is done when praying Fajr before sunrise).

Allah the Almighty knows best.

From the Fataawa of sheikh AbdulAziz Ibn Baz (May Allah have mercy on him. Ameen.)

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If the people knew the virtues in the call to prayer and the first row of prayer and that they could not get it but by drawing lots, they would surely draw lots. If they knew the virtue in joining prayer at the beginning of its time, they would race to it. If they knew the virtue in prayer at evening and at dawn (Salat Al-Fajr), they would surely come even if they had to crawl."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 590, Sahih Muslim 437

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Hadith: On The Ten Companions (RadhiAllahu 'Anhum) Who Were Promised Jannah Paradise

📖 AbdurRahman Ibn 'Awf RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Abu Bakr (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. Umar (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. Uthman (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. Ali (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. Talhah (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. Az-Zubayr (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. AbdurRahman Ibn 'Awf (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. Sa'd (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. Sa'eed (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise. Abu 'Ubaydah Ibn Al-Jarrah (RadhiAllahu 'anhu) is in Paradise."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3747

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: With Or Without Many Friends, What Matters Is We Still Have Allah's Love

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 What's your concept of a "good friend"? What makes a "true friend"? 

One who likes talking to you and checks on you often? 

Who gives you free food and takes you out to restaurants, 

As if you can't cook or afford your own sustenance? 

Or who jokes and gossips with you for entertainment?

~•~

On behalf of introverts who don't have many friends,

And sage thinkers who are cautious with their selection 

Of close companions whom they can trust and confide in, 

I say it's possible to welcome independence 

And thrive without friends, when we befriend Allah our King.

~•~

While some can't survive without social interaction 

And a week without chatting brings them restless boredom, 

Some of us require solitude to relieve tension, 

And we relish solace in frequent Qur'an reading, 

Saying Du'a, Dhikr, researching and reflecting.

~•~

There are reasons why we detach from some connections 

And why we're disinterested in certain persons, 

When we saw their potential to enjoy gossiping, 

Detected their lies, confirmed envy and resentment, 

Toxic gestures and how they can't teach us anything.

~•~

We're not arrogant - just careful of our well-being. 

Aloneness is better than pointless socializing,

One's house is safer than parties full of gossiping, 

And restful moments spent with Allah the Most Loving 

Are more rewarding than "pretend play" with His servants.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Whoever shows hostility (enmity) to a righteous friend of Mine, I have declared war upon him. My servant does not grow closer to Me with anything more beloved to Me than the obligatory duties that I have imposed upon him. My servant continues to grow closer to Me with extra good works (nawaafil deeds like praying Tahajjud and fasting Sunnah fasts) until I love him. When I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask something from Me, I would surely give it to him. Were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant it to him. I do not hesitate to do anything as I hesitate to take the soul of the believer, for he hates death and I hate to disappoint him.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6137

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

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Poem: On "Gheerah" / "Ghayrah" Protective Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three examples to clarify what a "dayyooth" is, 

A cuckold or coward, who lacks actual manliness, 

Devoid of protective jealousy,  not one bit strict, 

Who's fine if his womenfolk are flirts or immodest, 

Wanting their love or due to intentional neglect: 

~•~

One - When a guy takes some photos with his wife and kids, 

While his partner and daughters are not modestly dressed, 

Not wearing hijab while revealing parts of their legs, 

Then he shows the pics to his pals, and says, "Look at this, 

My wife's a hottie, and my children are just perfect!"

~•~

Two - When a guy insists that his wife meets his colleagues, 

Commands her to shake their hands and showcase her beauty. 

Three - When a guy lets his sisters act flirtatiously, 

Doesn't denounce their tight clothes or skirts up to their knees, 

And his excuse is, "They're young. YOLO! Let them be free.".

~•~

Such traits don't suit Muslim men who are truly manly. 

Real men strive to guide, shield, and safeguard their families, 

Without being abusive, negligent and extreme. 

From the many signs that a man loves you is when he 

Ensures you wear hijab and serve Allah correctly.

~•~

Thus don't surmise that some females must be so happy 

To have male relatives who aren't at all bossy, 

Who can't lead women or teach them to like modesty.

Brave men value Allah's Rights, take duty seriously, 

And know how to be leaders with justice and mercy.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Sa'd Ibn 'Ubadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “O Messenger of Allah, if I find another (non-mahram) man with my wife, should I leave him alone until I bring four witnesses (to testify if zina was committed)?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “Never! By the One (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) Who sent you with the truth, if that happened to me I would quickly grab the sword!” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Listen to what your leader is saying. Verily, he (Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu) has a sense of honor (ghayrah/gheerah), and I have a greater sense of honor than him, and Allah has a greater sense of honor than me."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1498

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children, and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719

Sahih Muslim 1829

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Among protective jealousy is what Allah loves and hates. As for what Allah loves, it is jealousy when there is probable cause. As for what Allah hates, it is jealousy without probable cause (based on mere suspicion)."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1996

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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