Poem: Dealing With Letdowns And Disappointments As Muslims

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Tips on how to deal with letdowns and disappointments, 

As Muslims who strive to accept what Allah destines, 

So when someone's acts disappoint you, you stay patient, 

You'd react with, "I had a feeling that would happen. 

I'm not surprised. We can't always trust Allah's servants."

~•~

Consider, when some people tell you they'll do something, 

Such as students who promise they'll send their assignments 

Or customers who agree on certain transactions, 

Recall that they're humans, with feelings, limitations, 

And above all, Allah controls all situations.

~•~

If Allah the Most Wise, All-Knowing and All-Seeing, 

Did not predestine a particular occurrence, 

Then regardless of efforts to ensure it happens, 

Through your friends' assistance and frequent supplications, 

Such event won't take place if it was never destined.

~•~

Let each annoyance train you to excel at patience, 

As you thrive, with Allah's Will, by gaining more wisdom, 

Increased awareness that you can't depend on humans, 

Specially those who were deprived of good upbringing. 

Liars inspire us to thank Allah we're not like them.

~•~

Also note that many delay their prayers often 

And most disregard Allah's Rights and Legislations, 

Yet Allah the Almighty stays True, Firm and Patient. 

Keep serving Allah, despite people's disappointments. 

In Jannah we'll see the rewards of persevering.

~•~

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: Some Things To Consider Before You Indulge In Backbiting About Other Muslims

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some things to consider before you wish to complain 

About somebody's traits, unintentional mistakes, 

Or unappealing attributes they clearly display, 

So you're not guilty of a sin which Allah forbade - 

Backbiting or verbally abusing Allah's slaves:

~•~

If you and some friends give someone a funny nickname, 

Or describe them in a way that they would really hate, 

What's your intention? To hurt them as you entertain 

Your ego and insecure fans? Or to motivate 

Others to oppose them to soothe your personal aches? 

~•~

If through your complaints you aim to decrease your self-hate, 

Or to demonstrate rage on something that can be changed, 

Then keep dismay to yourself so good deeds are retained,

Or confront those who mistreated, meet them face to face, 

And bravely clarify why they must quit their mistake.

~•~

There's no need to criticize how a person behaves, 

Looks, smells, sounds, or makes choices if complaining portrays 

Pride that provokes impatience or desire to bring shame 

To your foes, and whining doesn't push problems away.

~•~ 

Before bashing a Muslim, put yourself in their place, 

Would you approve if about you critics said the same? 

If dissing other Muslims doesn't eliminate 

Religious ignorance while it just keeps your pride safe, 

Then remain quiet, and ditch rumors for Allah's sake.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (and backbiting), consuming wealth, shedding blood (unlawfully murdering), and beating others. The oppressed (the Muslims whom they treated with injustice) will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he (the oppressor) will be thrown into Jahannam/Hell."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim's

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu reported that they mentioned a man in front of the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they said, “He only eats if he is fed! He only moves if he is made to move!” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You have backbitten him." They said, “We only said what is true about him.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough sin to mention bad things about your brother."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If what you said about him were not true, you would have slandered him."

Source: Musnad ‘Abdullah ibn Al-Mubārak 2

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Mundhiri 

📖 AbdurRahman Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah and those who spread gossip, separating between loved ones, and causing misery to the innocent."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna’ut

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Note: Checklist To Determine If You Have Some Narcissistic Qualities

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Checklist to determine if you are a narcissist, who is mostly driven by pride / kibr and lacks ability to empathize with others: 

1 ] Whenever you enter a room that is occupied with some people, arrive at a crowded mall, or attend a social gathering, do you immediately expect a number of individuals to first greet you with a grandiose welcome, or compliment on your good looks or new outfit / haircut / accessory? Do you feel offended if you don't receive VIP (very important person) treatment?

2 ] If an entire day passes by without getting undivided attention from a specific person or loved one, would you feel empty because you're accustomed to receiving compliments and enjoy it when all eyes are on you? 

3 ] Do you feel overly confident and proud of your outward appearance, tall height, and fit figure? Do you get jealous, even slightly envious, when you discover that someone else online or offline appears more attractive than you? 

4 ] Was there an occasion when you distributed some items or gifts to the guests while purposely leaving a particular individual out because you personally despised the latter? Do you habitually go out of your way to let somebody know that you despise them, instead of maturely keeping unwarranted feelings to yourself? 

5 ] When it comes to choosing your close friends, do you chase those who seem to have abundant wealth or impressive status in society, so the connection benefits your selfish personal gain? If someone isn't as good-looking, healthy, or wealthy as you, do you dismiss their efforts in trying to be more acquainted? 

6 ] When an individual annoys you or embarrasses you in front of others, do you later spend a considerable amount of time plotting of ways to get even the next minute you see them, instead of analyzing the possible reasons for their misconduct? 

7 ] Is it challenging for you to say nice things about another individual on their looks, achievements, or skills, because you pridefully believe that you're way more superior, and nobody on earth can equal your awesomeness? 

8 ] Do you have a bad habit of interrupting people's conversations without sincerely apologizing or clarifying why you're in a hurry? 

9 ] Is it difficult or intimidating for you to apologize when you've made a mistake or tell someone that you love them? 

10 ] Do you often bring food to gatherings with reluctance and unwillingly give what you can share only to display that you're "generous", "caring" or "fabulous" at gift-giving? Were there times when you gave some people some freebies not due to genuine kindness but because you wanted the recipients to return your shady generosity?

11 ] Does gossiping, fault-finding, or laughing at others' flaws come to you naturally? Was there more than one incident when a person whom you disliked turned their back on you or walked away, and you made an offensive remark about them which caused your friends nearby to laugh or giggle?

Allah the Almighty knows best. If you answered "yes" to at least five of the above questions, then you may have some traits that are characteristic of narcissists. 

❌ 5 Things you can't do with narcissists:

1 ) You can't trust them at all, since they care more about themselves and their gigantic ego than you and your betterment. 

2 ) You can never tell them any secret, because they'll either make fun of you or utilize the info you shared with them as a hot topic for their immature gossip. 

3 ) You can't ask them for sincere advice, as seeing you progress or improve in any way adds misery to their life. 

4 ) You can't expect them to support or cheer for you when you're trying to start a project, pass an exam, or attain a certain goal. A narcissist loves to assume that they're always right, "flawless", more successful than you and they celebrate whenever they see you fall. 

5 ) You can't feel good around narcissists because every meeting with them is an invitation to compete in terms of worldly matters. You can sense your level of faith/Imaan becoming weaker each time they deliberately attempt to make you feel ashamed, incompetent or inferior. 

To protect your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being, avoid narcissists for Allah's sake or minimize unnecessary interactions with them. 

~•~

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down upon the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: What It Means To Boycott And Warning Against Boycotting Another Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five scenarios to clarify what boycotting means, 

What prideful boycotting looks like while it's not esteemed, 

As it entails arrogance that disrupts harmony, 

Harms Muslim communities and divides families, 

As though pleasing Allah matters less than how one feels:

~•~

First scene - An 'adult' who moves out of her fam's abode, 

After some misunderstandings which haven't been solved. 

Many months pass by, and from her there's no text, no calls, 

And her own parents don't receive a salaam at all. 

When will she reconnect? When Allah retrieves her soul?

~•~

Second - When a Muslim who claims to appreciate 

Good manners and forgiving others for Allah's sake 

Decides to block your profile online so there's no way 

To check on them, send salaams, or explain your mistakes, 

And if you cross paths offline, they awkwardly escape.

~•~

Third - When you're asked to attend an ex-friend's funeral, 

And in traveling to their place there's no obstacle, 

Despite not being busy, you grant them refusal, 

No Du'a for the dead because pride makes you recall 

Your frequent quarrels or how your friendship had to fall.

~•~

Fourth - When you're in a conference, social gathering, 

Or wedding, and someone you once liked greets you smiling,

And instead of answering, you stare at them scowling, 

And so long as they're nearby, you choose to stay silent, 

Unaware acting sulky shows you're unconfident.

~•~

Fifth - When the person you're avoiding asks for advice, 

Financial support, or assistance of any kind, 

While you have the means or know how to kindly reply, 

You leave their messages on seen mode, or say goodbye 

By blocking them, and you refuse to apologize.

~•~

It's normal to argue with loved ones, once in a while, 

And feeling hurt makes it hard to look them in the eyes. 

After three days though, one must be brave enough to rise 

And say salaam to please Allah, and ditch lousy pride. 

If you can't reconcile, at least forgive from inside.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days. Whoever boycotts for more than three days and dies (upon that state of arrogantly boycotting), he will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4914

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Ayyub RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three nights, such that they meet each other and turn away from one another. The better of the two is the one who initiates the (salaam) greeting of peace."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5727

Sahih Muslim 2560

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not hate each other, do not envy each other, do not turn away from each other, but rather be servants of Allah as brothers. It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5718

Sahih Muslim 2559

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Poem: Some Of The Reasons Why Some Muslim Men Remarry

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Seven reasons why a Muslim man may remarry, 

Keeping the first wife while loving another lady, 

While he can afford, with financial ability, 

To try his best to care for multiple wives fairly:

~•~

One: The woman whom a married guy wants to marry 

May be someone whom he went on dates with formerly, 

When he was ignorant, back in university, 

Or in high school, and by marrying her lawfully, 

He protects himself from zina and adultery. 

~•~

Two: He's fatherly, likes kids, and wishes to increase 

The size of his family, or the first can't conceive 

More babies, or she's tested with infertility. 

Three: The woman happens to be one of his colleagues. 

By having her as his wife, he preserves chastity.

~•~

Four: With a wife from a different tribe or country, 

The man seeks to strengthen the Muslim community. 

By marrying from another nationality 

Or background, one plays a role in bringing harmony 

Among Muslims and tribalism too can decrease.

~•~

Five: To comply with the request of the first wifey, 

Who aims to ensure that her husband is not guilty 

Of zina when encountering fitna, specially 

If he works or studies in a faraway city, 

And her agreement proves that her love for him is real.

~•~

Six: He's the kind of guy who gets fed up easily, 

Gets bored with just one lover and fixed daily routine. 

You can't blame him if how he was brought up previously 

Taught him it's fine to be spoiled and meet needs instantly.

Wives of such kind of guys are trained to love patiently.

~•~

Seven: He manages branches in various cities. 

With a wife in each assigned place, he can guarantee, 

With Allah's Will, extra output and efficiency. 

As a Muslim servant, don't question Allah's Decree, 

And as your husband's wife, if you know your love is real, 

You'd never leave, even if your soulmate remarries.

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will restrain his impulses."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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