Poem: Maintain Taqwa, Good Manners, Contentment, Empathy, And Patience To Prevent Spousal Abuse

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Know what to avoid, as your husband's respectful wife, 

So you don't end up being one of those battered wives 

Or newlyweds who feel "abused" or unsatisfied 

When by the husband's bad temper they get terrified. 

Prevent spousal abuse through Taqwa and deeds upright. 

~•~

Refrain from interrogating him when he arrives, 

Specially when his gestures and face signal he's tired. 

Instead of whining, "why are you late?", "Again you lie!", 

And "next time don't disappoint, or I'll take your kids/child.",

Gently welcome him and thank Allah he's still alive. 

~•~ 

Strive to stay away from actions which your spouse dislikes, 

Including pestering him when he is clearly tired, 

Poking or shoving him when he's a more serious type, 

Playing childish pranks, playfully smacking his behind, 

And messing around while he has tasks to finalize. 

~•~ 

With a sensitive guy or one who struggles with pride, 

Be kind and ensure the words he hears from you are nice. 

Sometimes the complaints of  most women can amplify 

Insecure men's urge to react furiously or strike. 

At times your silence is wiser than proving you're right. 

~•~ 

Your husband, a trust and gift from Allah the Most Wise, 

Should be handled with care and patience, each day and night. 

He's not a stuffed toy to yell at whenever you like 

Nor a fictional genie that can grant all desires. 

He's your friend and soulmate - invite him to Paradise. 

~•~ 

Don't diss his parents, siblings and loved ones from his side, 

Even if you intend to rectify or advise. 

Politely correct mistakes which he can't recognize 

In a one-on-one manner and considerate style, 

Whilst praying for his progress every once in a while. 

~•~

Don't be defeated by greed and this temporal life. 

Be pleased with what your dear zawj can afford and provide, 

Conscious of the fact that the pleasures in Paradise 

Are more lasting and worthwhile than dunya's brief delights. 

To thrive in both worlds, be your husband's respectful wife.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/poem-tips-on-how-to-respect-your-husband.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-five-mistakes-that-muslim-wife.html 

Hadith: Allah's Mercy And Justice

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'O My servants, I have forbidden injustice for Myself and I have forbidden it among you, so do not oppress one another. O My servants, all of you are astray except for those I have guided, so seek guidance from Me and I shall guide you. O My servants, all of you are hungry except for those I have fed, so seek food from Me and I shall feed you. O My servants, all of you are naked except for those I have clothed, so seek clothing from Me and I shall clothe you. O My servants, you sin by night and day and I forgive all sins, so seek forgiveness from Me and I shall forgive you. O My servants, you are unable to harm Me and you are unable to bring benefit to Me. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you, to be as pious as the most pious heart of anyone of you, that would not increase My dominion at all. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you, to be as wicked as the most wicked heart of anyone of you, that would not decrease My dominion at all. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you, to rise up in one place and make a request of Me, and were I to give everyone what he requested, that would not diminish what I have any more than a needle would diminish the sea if put into it. O My servants, it is only your deeds that I record and then recompense for you. Let him who finds good praise Allah, and let him who finds something else blame no one but himself."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2577

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://t.me/ittibaalsunnah 

https://t.me/AltaqwemAlsalafee 

https://youtu.be/STzS2U_X3-0

Poem: Love Allah More Than Any Of His Servants So "Unrequited Love" Becomes Manageable

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Unrequited love - ever felt that feeling before? 

When you develop feelings for souls you can't ignore, 

Adoring them from afar while you try to ensure 

That your attraction for each crush will never unfold? 

When you're "in love" with one whom you can't marry nor hold. 

~•~

Unrequited love - so deeply felt but don't want shown, 

Because you fear that those whom you secretly adore 

May freak out and don't want you around them anymore. 

You know it's real. You're attracted to them. It's no joke, 

Yet you keep it to yourself with a mask that stays on. 

~•~ 

As a Muslim whose goal is to serve Allah, recall 

That shaytan, our worst foe, would try his best to enthrall 

And urge you to do things that could lead to your downfall. 

Catching feelings for those who are not marriageable 

Is from shaytan's tricks. Maintain Taqwa. Remain careful.

~•~ 

If the subject of your love is truly lovable, 

As they strive to be pious, generous and helpful, 

Whilst marrying them is clearly unachievable, 

Admit from within you like them but you must move on, 

Lower your gaze, pray for them, and uphold self-control.

~•~ 

When concealing your love for someone unreachable 

Provokes sorrow and you're tired of all the mixed signals, 

Talk to Allah and pray that He makes this bearable - 

A special test to examine if you are truthful, 

If you can resist treating people as His equals.

~•~

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees (the chastity of) what is between his jaws and what is between his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 'Ubadah Ibn Al-Samit RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Guarantee for me six deeds and I will guarantee for you Paradise: Be truthful when you speak, keep your promises when you make them, fulfill the trust when you are trusted, guard your chastity, lower your gaze, and restrain your hands from harming others."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22251

Grade: Sahih li ghayri according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, get married. Verily, it lowers the gaze and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast as it (fasting for Allah's sake regularly) will restrain his passions (desires)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806 

Sahih Muslim 1400

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-take-care-of-your-heart-by.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-differences-between-truly-loving.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-advice-to-heartbroken-and-those.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-tips-to-detach-and-move-on-from.html 

Poem: Live As A Stranger Or Traveler Who Seeks To Meet Allah In The Next Life

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 By the Messenger Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) we were commanded 

To live in this world as travelers, strangers or guests. 

Think of ourselves as tourists touring a large palace. 

It would be foolish for a guest to stay distracted 

By the lavish furnishings while the tour guide has left. 

~•~ 

As a stranger in someone's apartment or office, 

If you were asked for an appointment or brief visit, 

You wouldn't grab items you don't rightfully possess 

Nor insist on keeping the owner's things and trinkets. 

You'd accomplish the mission of why you're there instead. 

~•~ 

If you've traveled abroad before, can you recollect 

How your trips to each city were like dreams - short and quick? 

Similarly, the pleasures of dunya are short-lived. 

For now we're alive. The next thing you know we're buried. 

Prepare for death before deeds get evaluated. 

~•~

Rather than fretting over how and when we'll be rich, 

Focus on gaining Allah's Love to earn real success. 

Better than stressing to be a graduate, intellect, 

Or a wealthy founder of a high-income business 

Is striving to please Allah, so from Hell we're shielded. 

~•~

This passing life is a test. There's no doubt about it. 

The time of our demise Allah has already set. 

Pack up your luggage with righteous deeds which benefit 

You in the next life. By shaytan don't be distracted. 

Let's not get too comfy on earth to evade regret.

~•~ 

📖 'Abdullah Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path."

Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma would say, “If you make it to the evening, do not wait for the morning. If you make it to the morning, do not wait for the evening. Take from your health for your sickness, and from your life for your death.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6053

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-as-allahs-servants-someday-we-must.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-do-your-best-to-be-ready-to-meet.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-more-we-remember-death-regularly.html 

Tips: ISFP vs INTJ (and how to get along with any MBTI personality type)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Five ways that INTJ personality types and ISFPs are so different, which is why they usually clash with each other: 

1] ISFPs generally enjoy living in the moment. They'd rather choose instant gratification or do something enjoyable at present than patiently wait for tangible results. INTJs are more focused on the future. They're willing to sacrifice comfort or current pleasures if doing so can benefit their long-term goals. 

2] ISFPs in a group setting aren't readily cooperative unless the tasks which they've been assigned to do are considered favorable by them and agreeable to their values. Although most INTJs are not natural team players, they're receptive to cooperating as long as the other group members can prove they're trustworthy and they don't disrupt their efficiency or structure of working.

3] ISFPs can be very sensitive and get hurt easily. At the same time they can be revengeful if they believe that you treated them unfairly, according to their understanding and perception. INTJs are thick-skinned, indifferent to people's opinions about them, and not overly emotional. They see negative feedback, criticism, and insults as good opportunities for them to improve. INTJs would rather forgive and move on than waste their energy plotting revenge if trying to get even is irrational. 

4] ISFPs typically dislike bossy individuals while they themselves shy away from taking leadership roles. INTJs will take the initiative to manage a group only if there's no reliable leader, and they'll enthusiastically comply with orders on condition that the instructions make logical sense to them. 

5] A pleasant atmosphere for many ISFPs in a social gathering would include activities which allow them to creatively express themselves e.g. art, calligraphy, painting, flower arranging, spoken word poetry etc. INTJs would prefer small get-togethers with carefully selected friends or like-minded acquaintances with whom they can discuss ideas, tips or theories which they find intriguing. 

🔹 You can Inn-sha-Allah get along harmoniously with any MBTI personality type if: 

1] You both understand each other's language, dialect or way of speaking, while the respect is mutual. 

2] Jealousy, pride/kibr, selfishness, insecurities, lies or suspicion do not get in the way of your dealings and interactions. 

3] You can stay patient, lenient, and forgiving for Allah's sake with one another mutually.

4] You have several qualities, interests, or life experiences in common. 

5] You both sincerely strive to do what Allah the Almighty likes, not mainly what your nafs or ego desires. 

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📋 To discover what your MBTI personality type is:

https://my-personality-test.com/personality-type-indicator 

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test 

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

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https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-istj.php

https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-intp.php

https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-infj.php 

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2020/01/06/intjs-and-their-compatibility-with-every-myers-briggs-personality-type