Note: Real Muslim Men Do Not Wear Jewelry And Fancy Accessories

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If Muslim men were to take the advice of the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam with regard to refraining from imitating the behavior of birds and animals, they'd avoid wearing unnecessary jewelry and decorating themselves with ornaments to appear more attractive in the same way male peacocks try to show off their colorful feathers when attempting to court their female counterparts. A real man doesn't require additional accessories, gold chains and bracelets, to feel or look good. He's not an overly desperate peacock nor "xmas tree". 

A Muslim man just needs to keep his beard for Allah's sake to maintain his manliness, along with his eagerness to dutifully take good care of his wife/wives and family, distinguishing himself from male penguins that mostly sit around and look after the babies while the female penguins busily search for their livelihood in the sea.

~•~ 

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed men who imitate women and women who imitate men.

In another narration, Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma said: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed men who copy women and women who copy men.

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6445

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/hadeeth-6-women-imitating-men-in-clothing-behaviour-speech-danger-of-radical-feminism/ 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/young-men-who-wear-bracelets-and-strings-on-their-wrists-shaikh-salih-al-fawzan/ 

Note: The Importance Of Being Careful When Choosing Your Close Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ "...and the Muslim, when he/she befriends righteous companions, then he/she does not hear from them anything apart from what is good, and they do not enjoin upon him/her to do something but that which benefits, and they do not help him/her in something except in obeying Allah the Almighty, and they do not scold him/her except to correct a mistake so they can all improve together as Muslims, and they do not prevent him/her from anything but that which is evil and wicked. 

By accompanying the pious, one is protected from listening to backbiting, rumors, slander, making fun of people, unfairly judging Allah's servants and instantly suspecting others. 

Through befriending the righteous Muslims who sincerely strive to please only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, you attain encouragement to do good deeds and seek only what is virtuous. 

If you befriend, o' believer, someone who respects their parents, then they will also inspire you to respect your parents. If you befriend someone who strives to maintain good ties with their relatives, they motivate you to uphold kinship with yours. And if you befriend somebody who loves to help the people, particularly those who are in need, then they encourage you to do the same. If you befriend a Muslim who enjoys seeking authentic Islamic knowledge, he/she pushes you to enjoy learning more about Islam similarly. If you befriend one who is a dedicated worshipper and who prefers to live an ascetic lifestyle, you become inspired to worship Allah the Most Loving more and appreciate simplicity likewise. And so on and so forth. 

If you befriend the pious, they try to urge you to do good and protect you from doing what is harmful for your soul." 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://t.me/AbdurRazzaaq_Albadr

https://t.me/sh_al_badr

https://youtu.be/qhHExUoTyl4

https://youtu.be/m64gi-ecRuQ

Poem: Toxic Friendships Which We Cease For Allah's Sake Do Not Come With Regret

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 I'm the kind of person who can't feel any regret 

Once I've decided to have some users "unfriended" 

Or ceased maintaining friendships which were clearly toxic. 

Facebook can suggest profiles of familiar faces, 

And I'd go, "Oh, it's them. Nah, I'm uninterested.". 

~•~

Browsing through their timelines of jokes and lies they've posted 

Is something I'd never do. I'd truly detest it. 

Trust me, I can't get tempted to stalk their lame pages. 

Adding them to list of blocked users isn't needed. 

Why disconnect when we've never really connected? 

~•~ 

When their names show up on posts of those we're still friends with, 

I guarantee you, I don't feel one bit nostalgic, 

Won't even bother reading their full comment / message, 

Since each time they reappear offline or on the net, 

I recall all the terrible things they did and said. 

~•~

Yes, I've forgiven them. Childish grudges aren't kept. 

Nonetheless, I don't mix with souls who are dishonest, 

Whose words and love for gossip remind me of garbage, 

And regardless of their fake smiles, I sense they're jealous. 

Those who tend to envy us can never be trusted. 

~•~ 

I'm glad their awful chapter in my story ended. 

From them I've learned it's ugly to be narcissistic, 

Selfish, self-obsessed, two-faced, insecure, deceptive, 

And passive or tactless due to feeling envious. 

Allah saw their bad motives, so we separated.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Whoever shows hostility (enmity) to a righteous friend of Mine, I have declared war upon him. My servant does not grow closer to Me with anything more beloved to Me than the obligatory duties that I have imposed upon him. My servant continues to grow closer to Me with extra good works (nawaafil deeds like praying Tahajjud and fasting Sunnah fasts) until I love him. When I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask something from Me, I would surely give it to him. Were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant it to him. I do not hesitate to do anything as I hesitate to take the soul of the believer, for he hates death and I hate to disappoint him.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6137

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Ibn Hibban RahimahuAllah narrated that Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one who is silent, and one who is silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalaa 56

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-allah-almighty-controls-all-things.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-what-it-means-to-hate-someone-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-regrets-in-life-should-be-lessons.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-no-regrets-but-lessons-learned.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-some-tips-to-cope-with-being.html 

Poem: What You Can Do When You Discover That There Is No Person Whom You Can Trust

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "What advice can you give to people who realized 

There's nobody whom they can trust in this current life?" 

Remind yourself firstly we have Allah the Most Wise. 

So long as just pleasing Allah is from our desires, 

We won't feel bothered if by Allah's slaves we're despised. 

~•~ 

If you find gossipers to your left, and to your right 

Are actors who pretend to like you while deep inside 

Lingers jealousy that's darker than black ants at night, 

And behind you are trolls that seek to spoil your spotlight, 

Trust Only Allah, and move forward to Paradise. 

~•~ 

Since most people are prone to envy, don't be surprised 

If those whom you surround oppose you most of the time, 

Despite your willingness to improve, share, and be kind, 

As jealous hearts can't stand strong faith/Imaan, cheerful vibes, 

And your passion to serve Allah keeps them terrified. 

~•~

It's fine if part of your temporary tests in life 

Is feeling like a lone outsider most of the time. 

Don't cling to people. Connect with Allah the Most Wise. 

Keep calm with Adhkaar, Qur'an, and prayers day and night, 

With true knowledge and good deeds which brighten your soul's light.

~•~

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 

Sahih Muslim 2960

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-trust-allah-almighty-and-strive-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-to-socialize-and-be-friendly-or.html 

Note: Three Probable Reasons Why Some Wives Like To Discuss Their Marriage Lives Online

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If you're currently single, you've probably found yourself rolling your eyes, while scrolling through your Facebook news feed, whenever certain users would openly gush over their spouses and announce how blessed they are to be married for the nth time. At least once you may have debated with yourself, wondering if you should or shouldn't unfriend a particular user because you've gotten tired of their annoyingly repetitive posts about their love life. Constant exposure to cringeworthy content could frighteningly worsen your moods. 

Before confirming that you're allergic to people who brag about their marriages, make effort to figure out the probable sources of their eccentric behavior or seemingly insecure acts. 

Your relative, friend, or acquaintance who seems to enjoy boasting about her married status may not have any intention to make you feel jealous or insecure, but that's probably one of her coping mechanisms when dealing with certain challenges, including: 

1] Resisting unwanted or inappropriate feelings of attraction, so for Allah's sake she remains loyal to her husband: It could be that since she has an unexplainable crush on you or on somebody else, by emphasizing her love for her destined other half or soulmate, she believes she can effectively ignore the attractiveness of people whose relatable qualities act as distractions. 

2] Dismissing, avoiding, or brushing off desperate love-seekers many of whom don't get the hint that she's contentedly married: By publicly declaring that she's grateful to be her husband's wife on a regular basis, she aims to terminate the interest of bored users who fill up her inbox with unnecessary greetings and flirtatious messages. 

3] Trying to survive and thrive in a competitive atmosphere as a co-wife: Occasionally stating how happy she is with her husband could be an indirect message to his other wife/wives that they're all in this together and she has no plans whatsoever to leave him. 

Truly confident individuals who don't have issues with inferiority complex are able to listen to a Muslim's inspirational stories and joyful announcements without going, "not again. Brace yourself for another episode of cringey romance." or "nobody cares.". With empathy, they'd try to imagine being in that person's place and conclude they probably would've behaved almost similarly if they were in the same position.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Al-Bayhaqi reported: Hamdun Al-Qassar, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If one of your brothers commits an error, seek seventy excuses for him. If your hearts do not accept it, know that the fault is with yourselves.”

Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 10436 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-avoid-false-assumptions-leave.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-importance-of-avoiding-suspicion.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-avoid-unjust-assumptions.html