Poem: I Believe That My Husband Was Wisely Chosen By Allah For Me

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If my husband were a toy that I could redesign, 

If he were a robot which I could personalize, 

And if I had freedom to control him anytime, 

I'd say my delight as his wife would be amplified, 

Specially if he'd stay beside me each day and night. 

~•~

So he'd be my ideal type of guy, I'd modify 

His body size, so he'd be in shape, increase in height, 

And his inner glow would outshine how he looks outside 

Every time he clearly strives to be knightly and kind, 

While there'd never be fights as he'd do everything right.

~•~ 

But that's only a dream, wishful thinking, and desire. 

How nice it would be if he were flawless all the time. 

Before when I was single, and this isn't a lie, 

I asked Allah for a caring spouse. Thus I surmise 

My husband is a blessing from Allah the Most Wise. 

~•~

I confirm I can find another guy if I liked, 

Claiming I'm tired of just seeing this man a few times 

Or the amount he provides can't fully satisfy,

But I won't substitute him even if I were bribed. 

I choose to love him for Allah till one of us dies.

~•~ 

He's not very rich nor romantic, I certify, 

But being his wife inspires my faith / Imaan to rise. 

I apply patience when his absence prompts me to cry, 

And when he makes me smile, gratitude is exercised.

I pray this bond leads to perfect love in Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise).".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-love-your-husband-patiently-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-patiently-understand-and-empathize.html 

Tips: Signs Of Females With Very Weak Personalities

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three signs of females with a very weak personality, despite their sad attempts to act "savage", "tough" or "suplada": 

1🔹 Instead of trying to focus on pleasing Allah the Almighty steadfastly, they care more about how people perceive them, so they desperately seek to fit in with modern society. 

e.g. a woman who used to wear the niqab for several years decides to stop wearing it, along with the hijaab and abaya, because none of her female relatives and friends were convinced to join her in dressing modestly. She dreads the idea of being the "black sheep" or "odd one out". 

2🔹 They're not strong enough to control their speech and they have a toxic tendency to gossip, unduly criticize, tell pathetic lies, whine, and insecurely make fun of people. 

e.g. a social media user who frequently posts cowardly passive-aggressive, overdramatic, and gossipy status updates to indirectly insult or complain about individuals whom she can't stand. 

3🔹 They're easily prone to jealousy and inferiority complex. 

e.g. frenemies or fake "friends" who are unsupportive, uncooperative, and occasionally treat you with disrespect "as a joke" may be jealously threatened by you. Their undeniable envy comes from their weak personality. 

☑️ What to do when you've discovered that a certain relative, acquaintance, neighbor, colleague, classmate, teacher, employee, so-called friend, or co-wife is clearly insecure: 

• Never trust them with your secrets, dreams, and most sensitive information. A lot of people with weak personalities are generally unreliable and dishonest.

• Avoid clinging to them. So if ever they abandon you, unfriend you, or signal they're no longer interested in being close, you remain unbothered by their choice to walk away.

• Still maintain polite manners with them, without initiating unnecessary dialogues. It's not your duty to listen to them blabber about themselves aimlessly or chat with them unwillingly. 

If you sense that there are many benefits of staying connected to so-and-so, patiently advise them concerning what they can do to become better Muslims for Allah's sake, teach them about what it means to be confident, and be patient with their imperfections.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech." We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy." We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter." They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believer with good character."

Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-three-qualities-common-among-those.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-eleven-signs-of-people-with-strong.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-insecure-people-do-and-tips.html

Note: While We Can Invite People To The Truth, We Can't Force Anyone To Stay Firm.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Say you know somebody who has been an alcoholic for some time. Then after a number of years, Allah the Almighty guided them to stop their alcoholism, until one day their spouse died and their depression caused them to go back to their awful ways. What would you do? 

Imagine that one of your closest friends decided to wear the hijaab and dress modestly. You feel happy for her until after only a few months she returns to being a cheap model-wannabe, because her husband ordered her to look more attractive outwardly as his friends' immodestly clad wives make him feel insecure terribly. Would you still be bosom buddies or will you avoid her for Allah's sake as you don't want to be negatively influenced by her fakery, emotional instability, weak personality, inconsistency, and unwillingness to pass Allah's tests patiently? 

When somebody whom you thought you could trust turns into someone whom you can never admire, or they start behaving in such a way that they're trying to challenge Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala by returning to their dreadful past mistakes, it's up to you to continue associating with them or to gradually walk away from their lousy acts of self-sabotage and wrong decisions. 

We humans can't force anybody to accept the truth nor stick to the correct path. We can simply advise them occasionally, correct them whenever they do something incorrectly, and regularly include them in our Du'as, praying that Allah the Most Forgiving softens their hearts and guides them back to what He and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love. 

Even the generous uncle of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam couldn't listen to dear Prophet Muhammad's advice before breathing his last. Why worry too much about a person's act of digging their own grave, causing trouble to themselves when that's what they stubbornly insist on? We can't really push anybody to move or improve if their heart has become even harder than a mountain.

While we can do Da'wah for Allah's sake, invite, remind, warn, and encourage, we can't always persuade each soul to make the best choices, specially if such souls are spiritually deaf, incapable of listening to us nor unable to understand our soul's language. 

May Allah the Most Merciful keep us firm and steadfast upon His Way to Jannatul Ferdaus, and protect us from anything which leads to fitna. Ameen.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A time of patience will come to the people in which adhering to one's religion is like grasping a hot coal."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2260

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must not be impressed with anyone until you see their end. Verily, a servant may do righteous deeds throughout his life, or for a long time. If he were to die in that state, he would enter Paradise, but then he diverts himself and does evil deeds. Verily, a servant may do evil deeds for a long time. If he were to die in that state, he would enter Hellfire, but then he diverts himself and does righteous deeds. If Allah intends goodness for a servant, He puts him into action before death." They said, O Messenger of Allah, how is he put into action?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "He is guided to do righteous deeds and he holds firmly to it."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 11804

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Sufyan Ibn Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, "O Messenger of Allah, tell me of a word in Islam I will not need to ask of anyone after you." The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Say, 'I have faith in Allah,' and then remain steadfast."

Source: Sahih Muslim 38

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-taqwa-patience-and-trusting-allah.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-dawah-is-to-kindly-invite-others.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-common-qualities-of-close.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-it-means-to-be-steadfast-and.html 

Note: Sharing To Show Off VS Informing To Inspire

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 There is a difference between sharing a story or information to purposely show off and informing something with an aim to inspire or warn others. Three examples of cases to clarify how they are different: 

1] A social media user posts multiple photos of an exotic dish they've made. It is riyaa / showing off if the actual purpose of uploading those pictures is to flaunt their culinary skills and intentionally make their stalkers jealous. On the other hand, they'd be helpful if they generously include the full recipe, share some cooking tips, and encourage others to try it out. 

2] A frequent traveler has an online collection of photos of the various places they've been to. They may be guilty of riyaa / showing off if they intend to display how rich they are that they can travel anytime, and publicize how they're more fortunate than certain individuals because they've traveled to more cities than others did. It's not riyaa / showing off if the motive behind the pictures and videos of their trips is meant for viewers to enjoy and feel as they've already visited those areas they went to. Think of a vlogger who gives you a tour around an interesting park or village so you don't have to go there anymore since you've already seen what it's generally like, or to help you decide whether or not that place is worth visiting someday. 

3] A motivational coach or writer shares some of their life experiences on their Facebook timeline, website, books, blog, or an article. It would be riyaa / showing off if their content is deliberately designed to impress particular readers or trigger jealousy to inflate their ego and pacify their insecurities. It would be inspirational, beneficial, and uplifting if the info they shared can persuade others to do the same good deed they've mentioned to motivate for Allah's sake or to avoid their mistakes which they're trying to warn people against. 

A large spatula is useful when you use it for frying or mixing. It could be viewed as weird if somebody uses it daily to scratch their back and it turns into a threat if it's used as a weapon. Same item... same appearance... its outcome changes according to its user's intention.

~•~ 

📖 Ma'qil Ibn Yasar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I departed with Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu to meet the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, and the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O Abu Bakr, there is idolatry (shirk / polytheism) among you more hidden than the crawling of an ant." Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “Is there idolatry other than to make another god alongside Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, there is idolatry more hidden than the crawling of an ant. Shall I not tell you something to say to rid you of it both minor and major? Say: 'O Allah, I seek refuge in You that I associate partners with You while I know, and I seek Your Forgiveness for what I do not know.'"

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 715

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Mahmud Ibn Labid RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, my greater fear for you is the lesser idolatry (minor shirk/polytheism)." They said, “What is the lesser idolatry, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is ostentation (riyaa). Allah the Almighty will say to them on the Day of Resurrection, when people are being recompensed for their deeds: 'Go to those for whom you made a show in the world and look, do you find any reward with them?'"

Source: Musnad Ahmed 23119

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam came to us while we were discussing the False Messiah (the dajjaal). The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Shall I not tell you about my greater fear for you than the false messiah (dajjaal)?" We said, “Of course!” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is hidden idolatry (minor shirk / riyaa), that a man stands for prayer and beautifies his prayer when he sees another man looking at him."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4204

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-good-deeds-must-be-done-sincerely.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-reminder-to-myself-and-others-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/note-importance-of-doing-good-deeds.html 

Tips: Some Advice On Learning And Understanding The Arabic Language

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 When I was around thirteen years old, I remember shopping with my family at Obeikan Bookstore to buy some books and cassettes for learning French language. Despite the French books and dictionaries I bought to assist me with French class at Manarat Al-Riyadh school, I still can't communicate well in that language because in my opinion there's no reason to learn it. I didn't have plans to work in France nor marry some guy from Paris. As for Arabic, Alhamdulillah, while some people learn the language of the Noble Qur'an in an actual academy or university, with Allah's Will I was able to learn some Arabic when my late parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) enrolled me at Al-Yamamah School where I was the only Filipino student among Saudis and other Arabs. They also signed me up for evening classes which were regularly conducted at Dar-Adh-Dhikr and WAMY (World Assembly Of Muslim Youth). Watching the news and shows in Arabic, including those Fatawa programs that are broadcasted live, and street interviews in Arabic are some of the things I often did that helped me improve in my comprehension Alhamdulillah. Looking up the meanings of some Arabic words and occasionally browsing the dictionary to learn some new terms are also important for those who are serious about learning the Arabic language.

📋 Some tips for those who are interested in learning Arabic language so they can Inn-sha-Allah read Arabic text even without the vowels:

1] Fix your niyyah/intention and have a purpose. Anything aspired or done for Allah's sake can Inn-sha-Allah be achievable and worthwhile. From the reasons to learn Arabic are to better understand Allah's Words (The Noble Qur'an in the original way It was revealed) and to be able to comprehend useful Arabic articles and Jumuah/Friday sermons/lectures delivered in the Arabic language.

2] Attend Arabic classes online or ones that are available around your area, or learn Arabic through self-study and careful research.

3] Have an Arabic dictionary and thesaurus, install Arabic dictionary applications or frequently study the meanings of Arabic words via Google Translate.

4] Watch educational videos on YouTube that can assist you in learning Arabic, programs with Arabic subtitles or motivational videos with Arabic captions such as clips from this channel:

https://m.youtube.com/c/IsmaelovishMtvn1/videos 

Or 

https://youtu.be/rhKczOhM_dM 

5] Actually practice reading and communicating in Arabic with native Arabic speakers or someone who is likewise eager to learn Arabic. Memorizing some Du'as from the Noble Qur'an, understanding their meanings, and regularly saying them when talking to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala are other effective ways to be more fluent in Arabic language.

6] While studying Arabic, avoid comparing your level of competency to another speaker's fluency or speed of learning. Your goal to learn Arabic should be to bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala through understanding Arabic materials that can help you become a better Muslim, not to compete with linguists for some worldly recognition.

7] Never stop learning the Arabic language as there's always beneficial information and knowledge you have yet to discover. Continuously review the lessons you learn and for Allah's sake try to share them with others whenever you find the chance to do so. 

🗒️ I admit I'm not 100% proficient at speaking Arabic since I'm still learning Alhamdulillah and I acknowledge the fact that there are many others who are more skilled and eloquent than I am in communicating in the Arabic language.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abdurrahman.org/2014/03/20/how-can-one-possibly-learn-and-understand-islaam-without-arabic-language/

https://abdurrahman.org/2014/03/23/means-to-learning-arabic-dawud-adib-transcribed/

https://maktabahuthaymeen.wordpress.com/2015/05/07/encouragement-to-learn-the-arabic-language/

https://maktabahuthaymeen.wordpress.com/2012/02/28/some-benefits-of-learning-arabic/

https://maktabahuthaymeen.wordpress.com/