Note: Can A Muslimah Attend Her Husband's Second Wedding? Yes Or No?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Can a Muslimah attend her husband's second wedding? Allah the Almighty knows best. Since there is no clear evidence regarding the prohibition of a first wife attending the second wedding of her husband, she may attend that special occasion as long as she willingly, wholeheartedly, and enthusiastically wants to be a guest at her husband's second wedding, while the new bride stated that she is completely fine with the first wife's presence. Nonetheless if the first wife believes that attending such wedding could only trigger conflict and unwelcome drama, she has a right to stay at home and decline the invitation, particularly if many of the guests may be distracted by feeling sorry for her rather than congratulating the new bride for getting married. 

✅ When is it reasonable for a Muslimah to attend her husband's second wedding? 

1] If she herself persuaded her husband to remarry, and the woman whom he agreed to marry for Allah's sake happens to be one of her close friends or cousins, while there's no enmity between them.  

2] If she feels that she is confident and strong enough to handle watching her husband marry another woman, while she has spoken to the new bride several times before, and she intends to consider her as one of her good friends, not competitors, for Allah's sake. 

3] If she was invited by the new bride to attend the wedding and she seems eager to form a friendship with the first wife. 

❎ When is it wiser for her to not attend her husband's second wedding? 

1] If she has a plan to spoil the wedding, to embarrass the new bride, or to command the attendees to take her side and persuade her husband to cancel his second marriage. 

2] If she can sense that the new bride still doesn't feel comfortable around her and attending the special event could make the new bride feel awkward or guilty about marrying an already married guy. The first wife can patiently wait for some days to go by until she gradually gets more acquainted with her co-wife.

3] If her husband politely requested or clearly commanded her to not attend his second wedding, while reassuring her that he will always love her for Allah's sake even if he is married to up to four wives. 

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📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not cause harm or return harm. Whoever harms others, Allah will harm him. Whoever is harsh with others, Allah will be harsh with him."

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 11070

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-can.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-i-love-my-husband-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-understand-that-theres-wisdom.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-when-is-polygyny-better-than.html 

Tips: Seven Things To Tell Yourself To Avoid Feeling Envious Of Your Co-Wife / Co-Wives

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Seven things which you can tell yourself to avoid feeling envious of your co-wife/co-wives: 

1] "Allah the Almighty has made it lawful/halal/permissible for Muslim men, who are capable financially and responsibly, to be married to up to four wives. Why should I complain about something which Allah the Most Wise legislated and permitted?" 

2] "I see my husband's other wife/wives as a potential friend (potential friends) whom I can also care about for Allah's sake. If she/they is/are unwilling to reciprocate my willingness to build a friendship, at least I look forward to attaining plentiful rewards from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for striving to maintain patience, good manners and contentment with Allah's Qadr/Destiny." 

3] "My co-wife isn't my enemy. In fact, seeing how we both love the same handsome, caring, funny, hardworking, and huggable Muslim man as our husband, it's one sign that we have a lot in common. Our actual foe is shaytan, and this devil despises it when Muslim co-wives strive to be at peace with one another." 

4] "From the signs of being a pious Muslimah is to want for other Muslims what one wishes for oneself. I choose to be friendly and courteous with my co-wife just as I'd like it if she treated me cordially as well." 

5] "My co-wife has her own special qualities which my husband finds attractive. Likewise I'm contented with the unique traits which Allah the Most Loving has bestowed upon me and which keep my husband feeling grateful for having me as his patient, loyal, faithful, dedicated and empathic wife." 

6] "Anything which my co-wife does intending to provoke, upset or annoy me occurs because of shaytan's evil whisperings. She's a human being after all, prone to making mistakes once in a while. I'd rather forgive her for Allah's sake than satisfy shaytan by stooping to the level of insecure adults who constantly play tit-for-tat to pacify their insecurities." 

7] "Envying other human beings is almost the same as questioning Allah's Wisdom in how He has wisely distributed His favors and blessings to His servants. As a Muslim Alhamdulillah who strives to accept Allah's Qadr with Shukr (gratitude) and Sabr (patience), I refuse to act on jealous feelings, particularly to preserve my good deeds."

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyadh As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-what-to-expect-when-youve-become.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-whats-it-like-to-love-your-husband.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-types-of-wives-you-may-encounter.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-tips-for-co-wives-in-polygyny.html 

Tips: Seven Things Which Inspire Your Husband To Thank Allah The Almighty For Having You As His Devoted Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Seven things which can make your husband happy and grateful to Allah the Almighty for having you as his faithful wife, besides trying to look good, cooking for him regularly and mentioning him in your loving Du’as frequently:

1] Making him feel appreciated. Thanking him on a regular basis for the big favors and little things he does.

2] Making him feel and sense that you truly trust him, that you don’t suspect his moves or find the need to constantly check on his cellphones and whereabouts etc.

3] Laughing at his jokes or finding his efforts to make you laugh adorable, or returning his comical remarks with similarly playful comments without purposely hurting his feelings – because you respect him.

4] Trying your best to deal with his loved ones kindly and courteously. A lot of guys’ affection for their wives increase significantly when they see their wives getting along so well with their mothers.

5] Giving your husband space, peace and quiet when he needs it. Not disturbing him with irritating questions and unnecessary interviews as soon as he arrives from work or time spent with his colleagues etc.

6] Not being petty, immature, oversensitive, overly interfering, and too clingy. The more thick-skinned you are and the more you solve marital problems using logic, along with trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala, the more you can thrive as your husband’s loyal wife.

7] Frequently letting your husband/soulmate know that he’s the only soul on earth whom you’re in love with. Not cheating on him at all, not having male non-mahrams on your social media “friends list”, not staring back at non-mahram guys, not indulging in any emotional affair even jokingly, and not carrying any feelings of attraction for anybody apart from him (your husband whom you love patiently and wholeheartedly for Allah’s sake).

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/what-makes-a-man-happy-and-what-makes-him-miserable 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-five-signs-that-your-husband-does.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-three-common-mistakes-which-some.html

Note: Five Signs Indicating It Is A Blessing You Are Not Close Friends With Some People Anymore

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five signs indicating it's a blessing you are no longer close to certain people (former "friends") and there is no reason to look back at your old chat conversations: 

1] You feel that your faith / Imaan has increased and you've found more tranquility ever since they stopped communicating with you. 

2] If you ever stumble upon their social media accounts, you notice they still haven't changed for the better - they're still narcissistic, frequently uploading vainglorious selfies with loads of makeup on and occasionally posting passive-aggressive posts as though they haven't given up their toxic addiction to backbiting and fault-finding. It's for your own good that Allah the Most Wise decreed to keep you far away from their negative influence.

3] Although you may hear their names being mentioned or see their usernames online once in a while, there's not a single bit of remorse in detaching from them. This shows that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't destine your souls to connect. Why cry over somebody who was never meant to network with you?

4] Staying connected to them doesn't add any value to your life as a Muslim. Instead of showing interest in learning more about Islam, generously sharing authentic Islamic knowledge, and discussing topics to strengthen your belief/'Aqeedah, they're more fascinated with materialistic matters, watching movies, listening to the latest songs, purchasing items on sale or joking about other people's flaws. 

5] With or without them you know you can Inn-sha-Allah manage, aware that the empty spaces they left behind can eventually be replaced by other souls who are more deserving of your love for Allah's sake and Du'as if not in this world then in Jannah Paradise.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-go-for-allahs-love-and-mercy-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-how-to-tell-if-somebodys-vibes-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-open-letter-to-ex-friends-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-its-okay-to-detach-from-false.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-tips-on-how-not-to-regret-letting.html 

Note: On Identifying Oneself As A Salafi Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 I remember when I was around 19 years old back in Saudi Arabia we had some British Bangladeshi neighbors whose kids would hang out with me from time to time. I still recall their names being Zainab, Zakiyyah, Adam and Ibrahim. They were around the ages of 10, 8, 6 and 2 or 3. During one of their visits, when two of them asked me "are you Salafi?" I honestly didn't know how to respond but said something like "I'm a Muslim. I'm Sunni." and they'd ask again "yes, but are you SALAFI?" since I couldn't adequately answer their questions, I tried to distract them with some children's games until they became disinterested in making sure if I'm "Salafi" or not.

Alhamdulillah after some years, Allah the Almighty guided me to understanding the importance of having the correct 'Aqeedah/belief. When a Muslim who wholeheartedly believes in Allah's Oneness (Tawheed) labels himself or herself "Salafi", they intend to clearly distinguish themselves from the other sects of people who claim to be Muslims. A lot of those groups are guilty of committing erroneous acts which are connected to shirk/polytheism and bid'ah/innovated religious matters, such as celebrating the so-called "mawlid an-nabi", praying towards cemeteries, supplicating to the dead, wearing amulets to protect oneself from jinns, practicing witchcraft or sorcery, getting into mut'ah/temporary marriage or legalizing zina/fornication, and outrageously considering somebody to be 'kaafir' just because of a certain sin etc. 

🌼 Is it mandatory to call yourself "Salafi" to be among those who enter Jannah Paradise? No. According to one of the sayings of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam in a Hadith, some people from hell/jahannam will ultimately be taken out by Allah the Most Forgiving if in their hearts is even a tiny bit of faith/Imaan in Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while they also did what they could to follow the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. To avoid being admitted to jahannam, even for some minutes, we should strive for Allah's sake to do what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love, one of them being to ensure that one's belief/'Aqeedah is not tarnished or spoiled by any polytheistic action and bid'ah/innovation.

🎒🧳🛍️👜 Imagine if you were shown a number of travel backpacks prior to embarking on a long trip to a friend's large mansion but before it can be reached you'd have to pass by several forests and mountainous areas. Which would you carry, a bag containing: 

A ] Plastic toys and disposable plates? 

B ] A number of can openers without even canned foods? 

C ] Notebooks, pens which ran out of ink, and flashlights which aren't functional anymore? 

D ] A gigantic box with different kinds of snakes? 

Or E ] The backpack which has your basic essentials for traveling and hiking including solar flashlights that don't require batteries, lighters and matches, camping tent etc? 

This is why as Muslims we can identify ourselves as "Salafi" to make it clear that we are not with the misguided sects who take Allah's Laws lightly or do certain good deeds incorrectly. 

While no human is perfect, it is imperative to try our utmost to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in the way that He wants us to worship Him. How can that be achieved? By striving to patiently adhere to the teachings and tradition of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while following how his companions/Sahabas RadhiAllahu 'anhum and the righteous predecessors (salaf) lived their lives to do what they could to stick to the Sunnah of the beloved Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, without undue extremism and intentional negligence of our duties as Muslims.

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📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

📖 Al-‘Irbad Ibn Sariyah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam prayed with us one day. Then he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam faced us and delivered an eloquent sermon that brought tears to our eyes and by it shook our hearts. It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, it is as if this is a farewell sermon. What do you instruct for us?" The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I advise you to fear Allah, listen, and obey, even if an Abyssinian slave is put in charge of you. Whoever lives after me will see many conflicts. You must adhere to my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the righteous, guided successors. Hold firmly to it (to his Sunnah/tradition) as though biting with your molar teeth. Beware of newly invented matters, for every newly invented matter is an innovation (Bid'ah) and every innovation is misguidance."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4607

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What comes over my nation will surely be what came over the children of Israel, step by step until if one of them fornicated with his mother, one from my nation would do the same. Verily, the children of Israel split into seventy-two sects and my nation will split into seventy-three sects. All of them will be in Hellfire except for one sect." They said, “Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who follow my way and my companions."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2641

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-it-means-to-be-muslim-and.html  

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/the-label-salafi-and-who-they-are-by-ibn-taymiyyah-ibn-abdul-wahhaab-ibn-baaz-al-albaanee-and-ibn-uthaimeen/

https://youtu.be/ivHZp-USRyo 

https://youtu.be/a5tkuP6l3LY 

https://youtu.be/INRPX9bM4Gs 

https://www.salafidvo.com/external-resources.html 

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