Tips: How To Behave Towards Somebody Who Is Jealous Of You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ What to do when you realize that somebody's misconduct and mistreatment emphasize they're jealous of you: 

1] As much as possible keep your distance from them online and offline. Quit stalking their social media accounts, being interested in what they have to say and socializing with them unnecessarily. 

2] Don't trust them at all, even if they act cheerful and approachable towards you. 

3] Never tell them about your dreams nor ask them for advice. 

4] Never be affected by their criticism, complaints and jokes about you. Understand that their efforts to annoy you could indicate they're struggling with feeling insecure, jealously threatened or inadequate. 

5] Never confide in them about your worries, problems and secrets. Envious individuals may misuse the information you share for mockery or gossip.

6] If they ever borrow money and items from you, don't expect a timely response or the item they borrowed being returned in its proper condition. Good manners and loyalty are not to be expected from those who can't restrain themselves from envying other Muslims.

7] Feel sorry for them. Their discontentment with Allah's Justice and Wisdom is probably why they're unhappy inwardly. You don't need to get back at someone who's dealing with misery when they're already insulting themselves through jealousy.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here," and he pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his life, his wealth, and his reputation."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: When Some Gossip/Backbite About You, They Also Give You Some Of Their Good Deeds

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 To the people whose mouths mentioned me negatively,

Who kept themselves busy with backbiting jealously,

Who joked about me in my absence and when near me:

Thanks for taking my sins. Thank you for all your good deeds.

~•~

Being spoken of badly is from Allah's Mercy,

When rewards are sent to my account effortlessly,

When sins I've done previously disappear easily -

Each time I'm ridiculed by those guilty of envy.

~•~

I know I'm not perfect, and I'm a threat to many,

I admit people's thoughts are not my reality.

Hence I don't backbite, even critics and enemies,

Since gossip is nonsense and shows instability.

~•~

The morally unstable, weak emotionally,

And sadly insecure are more likely gossipy.

Instead of saying Dhikr and Du'as fruitfully,

They sacrifice some good deeds to ease their jealousy.

~•~

Weren't they brought up to treat others respectfully?

Don't they know that being rude proves they're jealous clearly,

And their life doesn't improve by making people weep?

Broken things can't get fixed by causing beings to bleed.

~•~

Seeing how I was taught to preserve true dignity,

I minimize chit-chatting with people needlessly,

Replacing them with moments to self-reflect wisely,

Content with Qur'an reading to keep me company.

~•~

In an era when most are confirmed untrustworthy,

It's best to isolate, learn from afar carefully,

And leave gossipers with negative mentality,

To rely on Allah Only Who knows us truly.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is the bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (gossipping, falsely accusing and spreading rumors), consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. The oppressed will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he will be thrown into the Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, “Allah and His Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) know best." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is to mention your brother in a way that he dislikes." It was said, "What do you think if what I said about him is true?" The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If what you say about him is true, it is backbiting. If it is not true, it is slander."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2589

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Tips: Seven Things To Avoid To Achieve Inner Peace And True Happiness

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things to quit for Allah's sake to achieve actual happiness and inner peace: 

1] Quit listening to songs and music. Instead, read and reflect more often on the Aayaat (verses) of the Noble Qur'an. 

2] Quit nosily spying on the lives of strangers who absolutely have nothing to do with you, and you don't gain anything valuable from watching their frequent vlogs. Instead, focus on valuing the unique blessings which Allah the Almighty chose to give you, and always aim to improve as a Muslim.

3] Quit stalking the social media accounts of people who make you feel bad and who are unable to inspire you to become a better human. Forty-five minutes of reading from the Noble Qur'an or listening to an Islamic lecture is more rewarding than thirty minutes of browsing through  negative, demotivating and nonsensical status updates. 

4] Quit expecting every single person on earth to have the exact same manners and temperament as you. Just because somebody treated you badly does not signify you're a bad individual. How others treat you usually reflects their character, upbringing and current moods. 

5] Quit being nice to people mainly because you want them to thank you or so they can return your favors in the future. Do good deeds sincerely to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and you can't be disappointed. 

6] Quit making it a rule that every time you dine in a restaurant or halal cafe you must take pictures and upload them on social media to prove how wealthy you are. If someone's motive for uploading photos of food and beverages is not to supportively promote a Muslim's halal business, then the need to regularly flaunt what they ate and drank may indicate that the foodie or coffeeholic is awfully insecure. 

7] Quit assuming that if a person doesn't go out much to chill with loved ones or if the quality of their social skills is low from your viewpoint then automatically you can label them as "depressed" or "lonely". A lot of introverts are genuinely contented with not having a large circle because few or no close friends means preserving oneself from: taking part in artificial conversations, flattering narcissists whose acts are not praiseworthy, avoiding responsibilities towards individuals who envy you secretly, gossiping childishly, and wasting priceless minutes when a Muslim's time should be spent on more worthwhile duties.

~•~ 

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of a person's perfection in Islam is to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Good / Righteous Friends vs Toxic Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ Five signs indicating that a person is a righteous and good friend: 

1] You feel comfortable and at ease when you're with them, aware that they won't suddenly criticize you in front of others nor talk badly about you when you're not around. Judging people's appearances and pridefully laughing at their mistakes are things they avoid doing.

2] For Allah's sake they regularly share Islamic reminders on social media, advise gently when you require consolation, and correct you whenever you do something wrong. 

3] They motivate you to treat your parents respectfully, maintain family ties, and show genuine concern for your loved ones, instead of wanting all your attention to themselves like insecure and manipulative narcissists.

4] After talking to them online or face to face, you notice a significant increase in the level of your faith/Imaan, because the topics you often discuss actually energize you and bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

5] You're incapable of feeling anxious before attempting to visit them and check their Facebook timelines, as you know that their actions, statements and postings are devoid of gossip and passive-aggressive behavior. You don't perceive them as a threat to your religious and emotional well-being. In fact, you look forward to learning from them as you can't get tired of their good vibes and positive influence. 

❎ Five indicators of toxic people who don't deserve our trust and friendship: 

1] You don't feel safe and secure when they're nearby, as if you can sense that they have the potential to offend you anytime or compel you to do something which you dislike. 

2] You've observed that even after a long time of being acquainted with their names, you still didn't learn anything valuable and inspirational from them. They seem to be more obsessed with pretentious selfies, consumerism and worldly matters than willing to put effort into seeking authentic knowledge of Islam through reliable sources.

3] You can tell that they despise one or some of your family members due to unreasonable reasons. Those who hold grudges against anybody from the individuals who are closely connected to you mustn't be trusted. 

4] After interacting with them personally and virtually, even for a few minutes, you feel emotionally worn out and unmotivated. Their words mostly consist of lies, rumors, gossip, mockery and complaints which trigger negative emotions.

5] Almost every time you're about to join a meeting with them or check their online posts, you feel agitated and uneasy, as though it is obvious that your soul's energy clashes with theirs.

~•~ 

📖 AbdurRahman ibn Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah are those who carry gossip, separating between loved ones and seeking misery for the innocent."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Tips: Ways To Tell If Your Grudge Is Due To Jealousy Or Being Too Different

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some ways to tell if your grudge against another Muslim is due to jealousy or being unrelatable and too different: 

❎ If you hate a certain individual because their beliefs, attitude, personality, interests and goals are too "weird" or in conflict with yours, you would: 

1] Feel uninterested in wanting to build any connection with them, so thinking of interesting topics to discuss online and face to face or asking them personal questions can be difficult. 

2] Acknowledge the fact that their absence and presence have no significant impact on you. When they've been absent for several days, you don't miss them at all. Once they're around and easily reachable, you prefer to keep your distance and begrudgingly interact with them only when necessary. 

3] Avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible (on social media and offline) because you can't gain anything valuable from being affiliated. Chatting with them feels artificial, time-consuming and pointless.

❌ If your hatred for some individuals actually stems from envy, you would: 

1] Act distant upon seeing them express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for the blessings which He gave, and angrily scowl whenever you notice a smile on their face. 

2] Ardently focus on their negative qualities much more than their agreeable traits, annoyingly make a big deal out of their mistakes, and publicly criticize them whenever you can to spoil their image and name. 

3] Admit that you cringe with jealous animosity whenever you go through their online posts or hear their voice and laughter. 

4] Agree that you've become accustomed or addicted to gossiping and backbiting about them, to feel good about yourself and less inferior. 

5] Avoid actually spending quality time with them because you can't stand how most of the information they oftentimes share with you trigger uncomfortable feelings of jealousy. 

📑 Reminder to myself and others: While you're allowed to unfriend and unfollow anybody whose Facebook status updates make you feel uneasy, it's not okay to utilize social media as a virtual stage where you behave like a politician bashing other politicians to obtain the crowd's votes and sympathies. Before attempting to collect fans to hate on another Muslim through sinful backbiting, ask yourself "am I about to disseminate info which can 

Inn-sha-Allah motivate others to become more confident Muslims? Or should these complaints be left unsaid because shaytan and his allies find arguments between Muslims absurdly amusing?"

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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