Tips: ISFP vs INTJ (and how to get along with any MBTI personality type)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Five ways that INTJ personality types and ISFPs are so different, which is why they usually clash with each other: 

1] ISFPs generally enjoy living in the moment. They'd rather choose instant gratification or do something enjoyable at present than patiently wait for tangible results. INTJs are more focused on the future. They're willing to sacrifice comfort or current pleasures if doing so can benefit their long-term goals. 

2] ISFPs in a group setting aren't readily cooperative unless the tasks which they've been assigned to do are considered favorable by them and agreeable to their values. Although most INTJs are not natural team players, they're receptive to cooperating as long as the other group members can prove they're trustworthy and they don't disrupt their efficiency or structure of working.

3] ISFPs can be very sensitive and get hurt easily. At the same time they can be revengeful if they believe that you treated them unfairly, according to their understanding and perception. INTJs are thick-skinned, indifferent to people's opinions about them, and not overly emotional. They see negative feedback, criticism, and insults as good opportunities for them to improve. INTJs would rather forgive and move on than waste their energy plotting revenge if trying to get even is irrational. 

4] ISFPs typically dislike bossy individuals while they themselves shy away from taking leadership roles. INTJs will take the initiative to manage a group only if there's no reliable leader, and they'll enthusiastically comply with orders on condition that the instructions make logical sense to them. 

5] A pleasant atmosphere for many ISFPs in a social gathering would include activities which allow them to creatively express themselves e.g. art, calligraphy, painting, flower arranging, spoken word poetry etc. INTJs would prefer small get-togethers with carefully selected friends or like-minded acquaintances with whom they can discuss ideas, tips or theories which they find intriguing. 

🔹 You can Inn-sha-Allah get along harmoniously with any MBTI personality type if: 

1] You both understand each other's language, dialect or way of speaking, while the respect is mutual. 

2] Jealousy, pride/kibr, selfishness, insecurities, lies or suspicion do not get in the way of your dealings and interactions. 

3] You can stay patient, lenient, and forgiving for Allah's sake with one another mutually.

4] You have several qualities, interests, or life experiences in common. 

5] You both sincerely strive to do what Allah the Almighty likes, not mainly what your nafs or ego desires. 

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📋 To discover what your MBTI personality type is:

https://my-personality-test.com/personality-type-indicator 

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test 

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

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https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-istj.php

https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-intp.php

https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-infj.php 

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2020/01/06/intjs-and-their-compatibility-with-every-myers-briggs-personality-type

Poem: Sometimes Some People Detach Themselves From You To Protect You Both From Fitna

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Just as germaphobes don't touch objects that carry grime, 

And those on a diet avoid carbs or minimize 

Weight gain by drinking water to reduce appetite, 

Some users who may have caught feelings for you online 

May unfriend or unfollow you so their faith can thrive. 

~•~ 

Perhaps they got tired of feeling excited each time 

They saw you update or share info on your timeline, 

While the growing attraction they try to fight inside 

Inspire them to fantasize about you or descry 

You in dreams from which they rise and ghusl is required. 

~•~ 

Their choice to stop spoiling you with reactions and likes 

To your comments and posts doesn't at all signify 

That they hate you. No. Their care for you can't be denied. 

They love you so much that they're willing to sacrifice 

Fitna and zina, so you both deserve Paradise. 

~•~

Think of restrained vampires that refuse to take a bite 

Out of the necks of potential victims whom they like. 

Oftentimes someone who loves you would push you aside 

To protect you from their ills or dangers they may hide, 

And they're afraid of losing self-control anytime.

~•~ 

For Allah's sake accept His Decree when some decide 

To emotionally disconnect from you online. 

Rather than wanting you more when you're seen left and right, 

They pray for you sometimes and love you from the sidelines, 

Seeking Jannah where hearts aren't tested with desires.

~•~

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees (the chastity of) what is between his jaws and what is between his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-detach-from-those-who-distract-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-secret-to-feeling-indifferent-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-evolve-and-transform-positively.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-three-signs-youve-become-too.html 

Poem: Three Ways To Respond To Rudeness And Spiteful Comments

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Three ways to respond to insults and hurtful comments, 

So you stay firm for Allah, not swayed by His servants: 

You can return an insult with a witty comment, 

Agree with critics then ask rhetorical questions, 

Or ignore their ignorance with rewarding patience.

~•~ 

For instance, if someone tells you "you're nasty", "you stink", 

Answer with "well, at least the smell of perspiration 

Can easily vanish by changing clothes and bathing, 

While your disgusting speech and depressing upbringing 

May take ages to be fixed for your development." 

~•~ 

If some address you with "shorty" or "tiny person", 

Say "you're short too, when compared to tall trees and mountains.". 

If told "you've gained so much weight. You look better when slim.", 

Tell them "I know. But no one asked for your opinion." 

~•~

If called "ugly", answer "say that to your reflection." 

Or question "are you training yourself to be champion 

At verbalizing nonsense? Or are you showcasing 

The fact you're a sad product of negligent parents 

Who failed in teaching good manners and educating?" 

~•~ 

If some accuse you of "riyaa", "wanting attention", 

Chillax, trust Allah the Most Just and the All-Knowing, 

Don't get upset by lies, lame jokes, and false assumptions. 

How foes and opponents treat you is a reflection 

Of their sorrow that stems from envy or self-loathing.

~•~ 

Other times better than responding is wise silence. 

Ignoring liars' insults doubles their annoyance. 

Refusing to interact with troublesome persons 

Shows you know they're incapable of understanding 

Your language, thus they're not worthy of your attention.

~•~

Confident happy souls don't walk around insulting 

Others, even if "insults" come with legit reasons. 

Somebody's rude or unfair treatment is evidence 

They're either envious of your joys and achievements, 

Or your strong faith and confidence intimidate them.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-on-how-not-to-be-overly.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-on-how-not-to-be-affected-by.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-dont-be-affected-by-what-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-3-ways-to-react-when-insulted.html 

Poem: Dear Muslim Wife, Understand That Your Husband Also Has Feelings. Apply Empathy.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Note to self, and reminder to loyal, grateful wives: 

The man who was selected by Allah the Most Wise 

As your soulmate and travel buddy to Paradise 

Has feelings too. While at times he can laugh, joke and smile, 

Oftentimes there will be moments when he needs to cry.

~•~

Your husband, a human, may shed tears when he sometimes 

Feels stressed by countless trials and challenges in life, 

When guilt engulfs him for not fulfilling his wife's rights, 

When he can't always meet the needs of his children/child, 

Or when he solves problems only for more to arise. 

~•~

Don't view him as a knight in shining armor who likes 

Rescuing damsels in distress every day and night, 

Without support like he symbolizes "perfect might". 

Stand by his side or comfort him whenever he's tired, 

And keep calm when tiredness ignites the urge to start fights.

~•~

Due to stress, he may speak angrily once in a while, 

Answer your messages after some days have gone by, 

And respond to you in ways you're tempted to describe 

Him as "bad-tempered", "moody", "too bossy" or "unkind". 

You'd tolerate his flaws if your love isn't a lie.

~•~ 

Even well-designed robots require charging sometimes. 

Don't be surprised if your spouse isn't himself at times. 

Guys also have feelings. Let your partner verbalize 

And show you, his wife, precisely how he feels inside.

Patience is a must-have to ensure blessed marriage life.

~•~ 

Your husband isn't abusive if he was beguiled, 

Badly influenced or affected by evil eyes, 

Advised by toxic friends or relatives who dislike 

Seeing you two thriving towards Jannah with delight, 

Or sorcery was carried out by foes from outside. 

~•~

When it seems as though he's struggling with nosy spies 

Who command him to treat you in a way that's not right, 

Win this battle by not doing what shaytan desires, 

Lovingly pray for your husband every day and night, 

And don't let pride stop you both from earning Paradise.

~•~

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-authentic-love-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-be-strong-wife-and-love-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-some-tips-to-be-your-husbands.html 

Poem: Some Questions To Ask Yourself To Check If A Friendship Is Worth Keeping

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some questions to ask yourself to help in deciding 

Whether your friendship with someone is worth maintaining, 

So your love isn't wasted, they can quit pretending, 

And you reserve your kindness for those more deserving 

Of your care, attention, patience, and supplications: 

~•~ 

Are they ungrateful? Do they act like they've forgotten 

All those moments when you tried to be helpful to them? 

Have you known their names for more than five years yet something 

Tells you they're toxic, from them you can't learn anything, 

And you're better off without their disturbing presence? 

~•~

Are their answers to your messages delayed often 

Not because they're working but due to narcissism, 

To keep you waiting, as though your life depends on them? 

Are their manners ugly? Do they scowl and stay silent 

Usually when you greet them to soothe their self-loathing? 

~•~

Are they shy when you're around yet when you start walking, 

They discuss you and indulge in lousy backbiting? 

Do they answer your queries with vague and curt statements, 

As though your goals and confidence intimidate them? 

Does your faith/Imaan clash with their lies and bad acting? 

~•~

Do they distract you from Allah? Each time they're present, 

Do you doubt yourself or notice your moods worsening? 

If you responded with 'yes' to the above questions 

And this wrong "friend" acts like a spy for your opponents, 

Avoid them for Allah. Allah's Love is sufficient.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-allah-grants-us-what-we-need-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-as-long-as-we-have-allahs-love-we.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-what-friendship-breakups-teach-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-red-flags-of-toxic-friends-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-unfollow-toxic-users-without.html