Note: Seven Quirks Which INTJ Wives Can Relate To

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven quirks which you can relate to if you're a Muslim wife with an INTJ personality type:   

1] You don't question why Allah the Most Wise legislated capable Muslim men to be married to up to four wives. Since polygyny deals with logic and you generally make decisions logically, not emotionally, you're one of the few females who choose not to complain when the husband wishes to remarry. 

2] You can easily sense or guess the current emotions and motives of most people, including your husband, since Allah the Most Merciful gifted you with intuition. You can tell for instance why somebody behaved rudely towards you, either because they were having a tough day or obvious jealousy triggers them to act insecure. With your husband you're able to spoil him with fierce loyalty and being forgiving readily, as marriage life is not a plaything to be taken lightly.

3] Even if your husband may have quarrelled with you in the past and there are instances when he'd act in a way that many sensitive individuals would find offensive, you are incapable of having your feelings hurt since you view insults as opportunities to improve yourself or you quietly laugh at the so-called criticism if none of it is factual. 

4] Envy is a sentiment which you can't feel at all when you notice other couples thriving in their own polygynous or monogamous marriages. You'd rather focus on staying contented in your own path towards Jannah Paradise, while helping your husband pass Allah's tests with you, than nosily peer into the different journeys of other examinees. 

5] Emotional stories of divorcees and whiny complaints of any wife concerning her husband can't influence you to doubt the validity of your marriage. Even if all of your friends, colleagues, and the neighbors' pets were divorced, you'd stubbornly persist in loving your husband for Allah's sake, defending his admirable qualities like a staunch attorney who refuses to quit on a valuable client. 

6] Because you're imaginative and future-oriented, divorce is an option you don't want to try. You can imagine all the awful scenarios and problematic outcomes of being a divorcee - one of which is rejecting all marriage proposals you receive from interested suitors and wanting to have a second wedding only with your first spouse. 

7] As a true introvert, you don't feel "empty" or "lonely" when your husband is with his other wife, with some of his friends or colleagues, or when he's busily working or studying in a faraway city. Alhamdulillah, although you miss your dear husband, you're able to efficiently make good use of your time by reading, researching online, listening to Islamic lectures and motivational podcasts, watching educative videos, or completing some tasks etc.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the intuition of the believer. Verily, he sees with the Light of Allah." Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited the verse, “Verily, in that are signs for those of discernment.” (The Noble Qur'an 15:75)

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3127

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Haythami 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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📑 Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, recite Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

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Poem: Live Life To Worship Allah And You Won't Stay Depressed

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 While it's normal to feel sad every once in a while, 

Choosing to stay depressed and ignoring the bright side 

Could show that you dislike what Allah decreed and likes, 

Unaware that life's a test, not all of our desires 

Can be acquired. Real bliss is in Jannah Paradise. 

~•~ 

The type of sadness which brings shaytan complacent smiles 

Occurs when some Muslims display they're unsatisfied 

With Allah's Qadr/Decree, they want an "easy" life, 

Free from responsibilities, no stress day and night, 

Or they hate Allah's tests and long for other souls' lives.

~•~ 

The kind of misery which makes shaytan widely smile 

Is sorrow felt with denial of the truth combined, 

When some Muslims doubt Allah's Mercy once loved ones die, 

Or they're doubtful of Allah's Justice if they surmise 

How it's unfair they're not rich while strangers enjoy life. 

~•~

Learn about shaytan, know what this enemy is like, 

And disappoint him whenever he tries to advise. 

Like a self-serving coach he'd scold you with spiteful lies, 

"They've got better lives. No one likes you. Kill yourself. Die. 

No use in living if you're tired in all days and nights."

~•~ 

To defeat him, live to worship Allah day and night. 

Fulfill your main purpose. Pass Allah's tests with a smile, 

Patient with Allah's choices, grateful at least you tried. 

Despite many falls and obstacles patiently rise.

Do Tawbah and ask Allah to help you win this fight.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety/righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe (challenging). If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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📑 Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, recite Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

Tips: Five Types Of Secrets Which Human Friends Don't Need To Know

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five types of secrets which you should never confess to any human friend or acquaintance, and it is wiser to keep such worries between you and Allah the Almighty while saying Du'a: 

1] Your feelings of attraction, whether intense or ambivalent, for somebody of the opposite or same gender. 

🚫 Why confiding to your friend about this would be a bad idea: They could start distancing themselves from you to avoid fitna, or if the attraction is mutual you could gradually slip into the major sin of zina (fornication / adultery), or they could use it as hot topic for gossip.

2] Strange dreams which some individuals could easily ridicule or joke about. 

🚫 Why it's generally safer to never narrate your lucid dreams and visions to other humans: They could misinterpret the meanings behind those dreams, a lot of which are blessings from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if you have a strong connection with Him, and those people may give you wrong advice regarding what you described, or if they're jealous of you in general they could plot against you to prevent you from reaching your goals. 

3] Atrocious acts you did to others or an inappropriate decision you've made concerning another Muslim, or anybody, behind their back. 

🚫 Why your past wrongs done against others don't need to be confessed to them: Besides the fact you're a Muslim while they are not priests, some of them may change how they perceive you as soon as you disclose all the bad things you did to them or said about them previously. To protect your friendship for Allah's sake, seek Allah's Forgiveness consistently, include your friends in your loving Du'as and perform kind actions occasionally to compensate for how you misbehaved formerly. 

4] Your struggles with depression or specific personality disorders while your intent is not to seek advice but solely to complain without finding solutions to problems. 

🚫 Why constantly expecting people to show you empathy while forgetting the fact that Allah the Most Loving hears and listens to you all the time isn't from good manners of a striving patient Muslim: Apart from inconsiderately acting as if you're the only person on earth with loads of obligations and puzzles to solve, such selfish behavior is almost as unreasonable, disrespectful, and illogical as a bunch of distraught students beseeching other schoolmates for tips when their teacher very clearly instructed that if they have any questions or require assistance they can directly consult him/her anytime.

5] Your interest or eagerness to marry your friend's spouse. 

🚫 Why loudly expressing your willingness to share your friend's husband could spoil your friendship: She could feel less safe and secure in your presence the moment you divulge such sensitive information, or even if she's fine with polygyny she may realize that you're not somebody whom she can count on at all, because instead of lowering your gaze here you are checking out the man whom she married for Allah's sake. If you're unable to stop yourself from purposely staring at what you're not supposed to stare at, how do you expect her to trust you with even more serious issues? 

Patience with the frustration of staying quiet about private matters, but your well-being and faith/Imaan stay safe, is better and more manageable than struggling to be patient with the bad outcomes of confessing your secrets which were spread due to impatience.

~•~ 

📖 Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: Some Advice On How To Deal With Missing A Muslim Who Died

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Advice to the bereft and those still trying to deal 

With missing somebody whom they talked to frequently, 

With the demise of a loved one, close friend or colleague, 

And with grief that comes with denying reality 

As recalling them feels as if they were just a dream: 

~•~ 

Firstly, embrace with patience Allah's Qadr/Decree. 

Acknowledge the fact that dunya is temporary. 

Every soul and living being whom Allah decrees 

Us to meet in destined ways will die eventually. 

The One Who never dies is Allah the Almighty. 

~•~ 

When some relatives pass away, when some colleagues leave, 

And when the souls of your friends depart from their bodies, 

Know that their lifespan and the date when they'd be deceased 

Were already decreed by Allah the Almighty. 

None can stop Allah if He wants someone's life to cease. 

~•~ 

When you come across people who remind you slightly 

Of loved ones or acquaintances who died recently, 

Or see their empty seat, or nostalgic memories 

Of them sadden you, shed tears but don't weep unduly. 

Weeping excessively shows one doubts Allah's Mercy. 

~•~

Whenever you miss a Muslim whom you previously 

Spoke to often before they died unexpectedly, 

Kindly mention them in your prayers regularly, 

Asking Allah to forgive them, accept their good deeds, 

And that you reunite in Jannah eventually. 

~•~ 

📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him." (Avoid wailing or excessive crying over those who've returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.)

Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292

In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: A man said, "O Messenger of Allah, which of the believers is the best?" The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those with the best character." The man said, "Which of the believers is the wisest?" The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who remember death often and have best prepared for it with good deeds; those are the wisest."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4259

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani  

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Note: As Much As Possible Avoid Suspecting A Muslim's Niyyah Intention

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Oftentimes it can be difficult for a servant to determine the kind of niyyah/intention they make behind an action, so what gives them the right to have absolute certainty regarding the intentions of Allah's creations? Who are you to feel so sure that a Muslim is doing a good deed to show off or impress Allah's servants when you haven't inspected thoroughly all of their thoughts, feelings and situation? Instead of suspecting a Muslim's motives and obsessively criticizing them without valid evidence, focus on your own shortcomings and self-development.

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man does not accuse another man of wickedness or disbelief except that it will be turned against him, if his companion is innocent."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5698

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

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