Note: Three Reasons Why We Dislike Some Strangers And This Grudge Or Indifference Has Nothing To Do With Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why we dislike some strangers and this grudge, uneasiness, or lack of interest in wanting to befriend them has nothing to do with jealousy: 

1] Their name, overall appearance or general attitude reminds us of somebody who mistreated us in the past. Recalling a troublesome or disrespectful person every time you interact with a particular individual can reduce the willingness to get to know them better if you still haven’t solved certain misunderstandings. 

2] A lot of their life choices, behavior and actions remind you of toxic things you’re trying to avoid. If you value good character and integrity, it makes sense that you won’t gravitate to gossipers, actual narcissists, chronic liars, people who break promises repeatedly and who don’t take their responsibilities seriously. 

3] Indirectly they make you feel bad about a special loved one. If “A” reminds you of someone whom you love for Allah’s sake “B” in terms of their looks or temperament but “A” has notable qualities which “B” doesn’t, you may hesitate to connect with them on a more personal level if talking to them or following any of their online content makes you doubt your connection with “B”. It is not easy to network with souls who threaten your values and well-being in any way.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated:  Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The believer is not stung twice from the same hole.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782, Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Tips: Ways To Tell If Your Friend Or Acquaintance Is A Narcissist

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven signs indicating that your friend or acquaintance is narcissistic (actually arrogant), and it's wiser to minimize interactions with them: 

1] You've heard them gossip and talk badly about others more than once regarding their looks, mistakes, clumsiness, flaws, body odor, values which they don't approve of, weight gain etc. 

2] They seem to expect too much from you while not giving enough in return. They have a sense of entitlement, constantly expecting attention, sympathy, freebies, gifts and compliments from you while clearly not bothering to reciprocate your favors. 

3] Whenever you unintentionally upset or disappoint them, instead of making effort to understand your situation or kindly asking why you didn't follow through on a promise or agreement, they act childishly passive-aggressive, give you the silent treatment for several days, or carry out plans to teach you a lesson. Then after soothing their hurt ego, they behave as though there wasn't any drama. 

4] They try their best to always look flawless while not caring at all about how you appear, not because they genuinely appreciate inner beauty and a strong personality but because they want their overall image to outshine yours. 

5] They're awful listeners yet demand that you listen to all the supposedly fabulous stories they invent about themselves purposely designed to make you feel jealous or insecure. 

6] They frequently roll their eyes or scowl whenever you want to inform them something, as if they find your statements boring and insignificant. 

7] From their body language, unpleasant aura and disrespectful attitude towards you, it is easy to tell that they envy your life, confidence or achievements. You hardly receive congratulations and words of encouragement from them yet they expect you to treat them like VIPs 24/7 as if you're their compliant servant. 

AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty says: 'Might is My Garment and Grandeur is My Cloak; whoever competes with Me regarding any of them, I will punish him.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2620

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/note-checklist-to-determine-if-you-have.html 

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Poem: The More You Understand Your Dear Husband, The Easier It Is To Maintain Patience With Him

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If you can patiently wait for the Maghreb Adhaan 

While fasting, then you should be able to understand 

You too can stay patient, when you have strong faith/Imaan, 

With your husband who's a human, aware that each man 

Has feelings and can falter when things get out of hand. 

~•~ 

If you can wait for rain clouds to stop wetting the lands, 

Calmly hope for the fruition of trees and growth of plants, 

And await Allah's Response to your prayers and wants, 

Then you have strength to compassionately understand 

Patience with your spouse is simple with firm faith/Imaan. 

~•~ 

"How can you maintain patience..." if you ask "with the man 

Whom Allah wisely chose as your soulmate?" Understand 

That he's human, flawed and imperfect, just as you'd want 

Him to know you can't always please him, meet his demands 

Twenty-four-seven and act like a perfect servant.

~•~ 

Understand there will be moments when he needs to rant, 

Whine about work, ignore you to treat other loved ones, 

Drop your calls for tasks which he sees are more important, 

Or when he acts out each time stress and grief he confronts. 

I don't condone abuse, but understanding your man...

~•~

...whom Allah sent as your friend, not flawless assistant, 

To help each other serve Allah in the way He wants. 

Through each other's flaws your faith/Imaan can be enhanced 

When you embrace patience while love for Allah commands 

You to keep loving your spouse to earn Jannah's entrance.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Islamic Links: Some Reminders From Brothers In Islam Moosa Richardson And Abu Khadijah

‎بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy.

(Allah the Almighty knows best.) 

Some recommended Islamic knowledge based websites in the English language. Recommended by Ustaadh Moosa Richardson (حفظه الله) [May Allah preserve him. Ameen].

{Compilation & Recommendation Source: http://www.bakkah.net/en/ubayd-advice-internet-forums-identities.htm#comment-80883}

Bismillah, [in the Name of Allah]:

http://www.followthesalaf.com

http://www.TROID.ca

http://www.Islaam.ca

http://www.TheNobleQuran.Com

http://www.SahihalBukhari.Com

http://www.SahihMuslim.Com

http://www.LearnArabic.Com

http://www.Aqidah.Com

http://www.TawhidFirst.Com

http://www.AboveTheThrone.Com

http://www.alBaseerah.com | Bradford UK

http://www.dusunnah.com | Shepherd’s Bush, London UK

http://www.cardiffdawah.co.uk | Cardiff, Wales UK

http://www.salaficentre.com | Manchester, UK

http://www.SalafiPublications.com | Birmingham UK

http://www.SalafiMasjid.com | Birmingham UK

http://www.markazmuaadh.com | Slough UK

http://www.germantownmasjid.com | Philadelphia USA

http://www.ah-sp.com | Abu Hakeem Bilaal Davis UK

http://www.abukhadeejah.com | Abu Khadeejah, Birmingham UK

http://www.salafiebooks.com | Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq UK

http://www.rahmaniyyahpublishing.wordpress.com | Abul-Hasan Maalik USA

http://www.Wahhabis.Com

http://www.Salafis.Com

http://www.Manhaj.Com

http://www.Takfiris.Com

http://www.Ikhwanis.Com

http://www.IslamAgainstExtremism.com

http://www.Shariah.Ws

http://www.Bidah.Com

http://www.Asharis.Com

http://www.Maturidis.Com

http://www.Mutazilah.Com

http://www.Shia.BS

http://www.Barelwis.Com

http://www.Nabahani.Com

http://www.SayyidQutb.Com

http://www.FiqhOnline.Com

http://www.Dajjaal.Com

http://www.IbnTaymiyyah.Com

http://www.IslamJesus.ws

http://www.Islam4Kids.Com

http://www.PiousMuslim.Com

http://www.AlHajuri.Com

http://www.SalafiBookstore.Com

http://www.SalafiSounds.Com

http://www.FatwaIslam.com 

In the Name of Allāh, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy.

As-salāmu 'alaikum wa rahmatullāhi wa barakātuh.

I pray you are well and in strength of Imaan, may Allah preserve you upon the Sunnah. Ameen.

Please display caution with regards to promoting websites and events and speakers that are not endorsed by the scholars, OR at least by the students of knowledge living in the countries these "Da'wah activities" emanate from.

Furthermore, be cautious and look for which websites they are linking to if any. If there are no links, then why? Why not link to Salafi websites that are known for da'wah activities upon Salafiyyah for years (and are supported by the great scholars)? Why not link to Salafi Publications, Troid, Sahab, Sunnah Publishing, etc?

So look to the links section, if there is one. If they don't make themselves apparent then do not promote them until you have sought references from the Salafi students of knowledge in the city or country the site is coming from.

Salafis cooperate with each other and aid each other and show alliance to each and support each other, and maintain attachments to the scholars - This is how we recognise the people of truth in our towns and cities and countries. The one who conceals himself, isolates himself away (in his Da'wah) and does not cooperate with well-known Salafi centres and mosques in his country usually has an agenda. Why is he isolated? Why set up independent Da'wah away from the other Salafis? Why not show alliance with them? Important considerations.

It is the pursuit of personal agendas (in the guise of Da'wah) that leads to separation in our ranks, causing feuds and even misguidance. There are too many historical examples to quote here, but please beware, baarakAllahu feekum.

So here are some tell-tale signs: Not endorsed by well-known Salafi Mosques and Maraakiz in the city or country; no web links to local Salafi Mosques and Centres; or no links at all; overt self-promotion; no links to Salafi websites globally; set up by people unknown on the "Da'wah scene".

So do not promote or endorse without asking the people of the town, for "indeed the people of Makkah are more familiar regarding its streets".

Wa-as-salaamu 'alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh.

Abū Khadījah 'Abdul-Wāhid Alam

Salafi Publications, Birmingham, England.

https://www.troid.org/forum/14-general-discussion/1857-take-caution-do-not-rely-on-unknown-speakers-sites

Note: Why My Dear Husband And I Are Soulmates But Not "Facebook Friends"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: Why is it that you and your husband aren't connected on social media?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah, while my husband and I occasionally chat online, especially since he is employed in a different city, we aren't "Facebook friends" because I prefer it that way. From the benefits of not stalking his Facebook timeline are: 

1] Not making myself feel upset or insecure every time I notice a comment on any of his status updates coming from some of his female colleagues, female acquaintances (particularly from his high school and college days as he was one of the supposedly popular students back then) and female patients. I'd hate to be that kind of unconfident wife who regularly asks her husband questions like "who's this message from? How long have you known her? Are you 'cheating' on me?" not only because I'm perfectly okay with him being married to up to four wives but I feel that acting that way would signify I can't trust him. It's not easy to reciprocate the love of somebody who suspects your every move. 

2] I married my husband for Allah's sake so we can both make it successfully, with Allah's Will, as friends, soulmates and teammates to Jannah Paradise. I wasn't put on earth to scrutinize every one of his acts and statements (online and offline, 24/7, rain or shine), ensuring that he never does anything which confirms he's actually human. I believe that Allah the Most Wise is the One Who knows precisely how to deal justly with all of His servants in this world and on Judgment Day. 

3] Just as I want my dear husband to believe that my loyalty is authentic, I want him to feel, sense and acknowledge the fact that I trust him for Allah's sake, while being aware of how he already knows that all humans will be questioned about what they intentionally did and said on the Day of Judgment. While you can't compel a loved one to instantly change some defects or negative aspects of themselves, you can choose to focus on appreciating their commendable qualities and lovingly set a good example so they gradually become inspired by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala through you to improve as a striving Muslim.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said:

"The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-for-allahs-sake-speak-to-your.html 

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