Tips: Seven Things To Avoid To Achieve Inner Peace And True Happiness

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things to quit for Allah's sake to achieve actual happiness and inner peace: 

1] Quit listening to songs and music. Instead, read and reflect more often on the Aayaat (verses) of the Noble Qur'an. 

2] Quit nosily spying on the lives of strangers who absolutely have nothing to do with you, and you don't gain anything valuable from watching their frequent vlogs. Instead, focus on valuing the unique blessings which Allah the Almighty chose to give you, and always aim to improve as a Muslim.

3] Quit stalking the social media accounts of people who make you feel bad and who are unable to inspire you to become a better human. Forty-five minutes of reading from the Noble Qur'an or listening to an Islamic lecture is more rewarding than thirty minutes of browsing through  negative, demotivating and nonsensical status updates. 

4] Quit expecting every single person on earth to have the exact same manners and temperament as you. Just because somebody treated you badly does not signify you're a bad individual. How others treat you usually reflects their character, upbringing and current moods. 

5] Quit being nice to people mainly because you want them to thank you or so they can return your favors in the future. Do good deeds sincerely to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and you can't be disappointed. 

6] Quit making it a rule that every time you dine in a restaurant or halal cafe you must take pictures and upload them on social media to prove how wealthy you are. If someone's motive for uploading photos of food and beverages is not to supportively promote a Muslim's halal business, then the need to regularly flaunt what they ate and drank may indicate that the foodie or coffeeholic is awfully insecure. 

7] Quit assuming that if a person doesn't go out much to chill with loved ones or if the quality of their social skills is low from your viewpoint then automatically you can label them as "depressed" or "lonely". A lot of introverts are genuinely contented with not having a large circle because few or no close friends means preserving oneself from: taking part in artificial conversations, flattering narcissists whose acts are not praiseworthy, avoiding responsibilities towards individuals who envy you secretly, gossiping childishly, and wasting priceless minutes when a Muslim's time should be spent on more worthwhile duties.

~•~ 

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of a person's perfection in Islam is to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Good / Righteous Friends vs Toxic Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ Five signs indicating that a person is a righteous and good friend: 

1] You feel comfortable and at ease when you're with them, aware that they won't suddenly criticize you in front of others nor talk badly about you when you're not around. Judging people's appearances and pridefully laughing at their mistakes are things they avoid doing.

2] For Allah's sake they regularly share Islamic reminders on social media, advise gently when you require consolation, and correct you whenever you do something wrong. 

3] They motivate you to treat your parents respectfully, maintain family ties, and show genuine concern for your loved ones, instead of wanting all your attention to themselves like insecure and manipulative narcissists.

4] After talking to them online or face to face, you notice a significant increase in the level of your faith/Imaan, because the topics you often discuss actually energize you and bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

5] You're incapable of feeling anxious before attempting to visit them and check their Facebook timelines, as you know that their actions, statements and postings are devoid of gossip and passive-aggressive behavior. You don't perceive them as a threat to your religious and emotional well-being. In fact, you look forward to learning from them as you can't get tired of their good vibes and positive influence. 

❎ Five indicators of toxic people who don't deserve our trust and friendship: 

1] You don't feel safe and secure when they're nearby, as if you can sense that they have the potential to offend you anytime or compel you to do something which you dislike. 

2] You've observed that even after a long time of being acquainted with their names, you still didn't learn anything valuable and inspirational from them. They seem to be more obsessed with pretentious selfies, consumerism and worldly matters than willing to put effort into seeking authentic knowledge of Islam through reliable sources.

3] You can tell that they despise one or some of your family members due to unreasonable reasons. Those who hold grudges against anybody from the individuals who are closely connected to you mustn't be trusted. 

4] After interacting with them personally and virtually, even for a few minutes, you feel emotionally worn out and unmotivated. Their words mostly consist of lies, rumors, gossip, mockery and complaints which trigger negative emotions.

5] Almost every time you're about to join a meeting with them or check their online posts, you feel agitated and uneasy, as though it is obvious that your soul's energy clashes with theirs.

~•~ 

📖 AbdurRahman ibn Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah are those who carry gossip, separating between loved ones and seeking misery for the innocent."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Tips: Ways To Tell If Your Grudge Is Due To Jealousy Or Being Too Different

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some ways to tell if your grudge against another Muslim is due to jealousy or being unrelatable and too different: 

❎ If you hate a certain individual because their beliefs, attitude, personality, interests and goals are too "weird" or in conflict with yours, you would: 

1] Feel uninterested in wanting to build any connection with them, so thinking of interesting topics to discuss online and face to face or asking them personal questions can be difficult. 

2] Acknowledge the fact that their absence and presence have no significant impact on you. When they've been absent for several days, you don't miss them at all. Once they're around and easily reachable, you prefer to keep your distance and begrudgingly interact with them only when necessary. 

3] Avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible (on social media and offline) because you can't gain anything valuable from being affiliated. Chatting with them feels artificial, time-consuming and pointless.

❌ If your hatred for some individuals actually stems from envy, you would: 

1] Act distant upon seeing them express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for the blessings which He gave, and angrily scowl whenever you notice a smile on their face. 

2] Ardently focus on their negative qualities much more than their agreeable traits, annoyingly make a big deal out of their mistakes, and publicly criticize them whenever you can to spoil their image and name. 

3] Admit that you cringe with jealous animosity whenever you go through their online posts or hear their voice and laughter. 

4] Agree that you've become accustomed or addicted to gossiping and backbiting about them, to feel good about yourself and less inferior. 

5] Avoid actually spending quality time with them because you can't stand how most of the information they oftentimes share with you trigger uncomfortable feelings of jealousy. 

📑 Reminder to myself and others: While you're allowed to unfriend and unfollow anybody whose Facebook status updates make you feel uneasy, it's not okay to utilize social media as a virtual stage where you behave like a politician bashing other politicians to obtain the crowd's votes and sympathies. Before attempting to collect fans to hate on another Muslim through sinful backbiting, ask yourself "am I about to disseminate info which can 

Inn-sha-Allah motivate others to become more confident Muslims? Or should these complaints be left unsaid because shaytan and his allies find arguments between Muslims absurdly amusing?"

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Note: All Human Beings Go Through Challenges And Hardships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Imagine yourself in these situations: 

1] After doing the groceries, you and another companion go in a taxi. Once you arrive at home, you realize that you forgot several shopping bags which you placed inside the vehicle's trunk (luggage compartment) and contacting the taxi driver is something impossible to do. 

2] For five consecutive nights you didn't have a proper sleep because you've been studying really hard to pass a board exam, which you failed in the previous year. On the day when the students are informed of their results, you don't see your name on the list of examinees who passed. Surprisingly, your friends who took their studies for granted were the ones who received the good news. 

3] You spent more than an hour cooking large amounts of spaghetti and other delicacies which you planned to bring to a long-awaited family reunion. On the way to the gathering, located in a remote village, while crossing a wooden bridge, all of the dishes you're carrying suddenly fall into the fast-flowing river when you lost your balance. 

4] As you're waiting for your flight in a crowded airport, you unknowingly switch packages with someone else who's traveling with a different airline. Upon arrival at your destination, you discover that the traveler unintentionally took your costly gifts and souvenirs, while you're wondering about what should be done with many boxes of toothpicks.

5] You're a bride who's about to marry the man of your dreams, who is simultaneously an Imaam, ustadh and engineer. Just before exiting the wedding venue with you, the groom's soul returns to Allah the Almighty, and you've become widowed on the same day you married. 

Whether you call it "bad trip", "bad luck" (Note: No such thing as luck and fortune in Islam.), "difficulty", "frustrating situation" or confirmation that your "life sucks", every human being inevitably goes through different forms of challenges, disappointments and trials. If everything on earth always went well according to all of the people's desires and wishes, and humans never felt sad or angry at all, then why would Jannah Paradise be created? 

This dunya (temporary world / life) is a platform of tests in which those who strive to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala occasionally go through a variety of examinations to be purified from the sins they've committed in the past and present. Allah the Most Wise does not give His servants particular tests except that He knows how every individual has what it takes to withstand and pass them. 

An effective teacher would examine you according to your level and competence. The more knowledge you've acquired on specific subjects and the more competent you are in a certain field, the more the levels of your tests would increase. 

✅ What to do when something upsetting occurs: 

1] Say "QaddarAllah wa maa shaa-a fa'al." meaning "Allah has decreed what He wills." and patiently accept that whatever occured or did not occur is part of Allah's Qadr/Decree. 

2] Look forward to receiving rewards from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for trying your best to maintain patience. 

3] Feel relieved that Inn-sha-Allah through every hardship some of your former sins get expiated. 

4] Confidently believe that if you're one of those believers whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves, oftentimes you're granted what you dislike and prevented from what you want to avoid fitna and excessive attachment to dunya. 

5] Remember that you're not the only individual in this universe with stress, worries and problems to solve. 

Even the best and most well-mannered of all humans, namely the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, went through various difficulties and tough times. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: I Love My Husband For Allah's Sake, Whether My Spouse Is Near, Far, Around Or Away - LDR

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 On behalf of each Muslim wife who loves patiently 

Her husband for Allah's sake with utmost loyalty, 

While her soulmate is employed in another city, 

Or being a faithful co-wife is her destiny - 

Here's my response to critics who doubt our love story: 

~•~ 

The inability to see my husband daily 

And have him sleep beside me every night doesn't mean 

Our love isn't real. It's real. For Allah's sake truly 

We married. I'm his wife, even in polygyny,

While he's my other half, soulmate, friend, travel buddy. 

~•~ 

Our romance is unique, not suitable for the weak 

And insecure emotionally and morally. 

Long-distance marriages require lots of bravery, 

Boundless patience, and trust in Allah the Almighty. 

Staying loyal despite distance proves the love is real.

~•~ 

Loving a spouse who works abroad or who's frequently 

Absent when he's busy with responsibilities 

Is like the link between salt and pepper, seriously - 

They go together and reconcile eventually. 

Cringey? Corny? Maybe you're guilty of jealousy...

~•~ 

...Jealous you lack willpower to love devotedly, 

Empathy to understand him and admirably 

Refrain from mistrusting your sweetheart, especially 

When he's out often and not nearby physically, 

And true faith to accept Allah's Decree patiently.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic)

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