بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, November 30, 2022

Tips: Five Signs Of People Who Are Sad Or Unhappy With Themselves

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What are the signs indicating that some people are depressed or actually unhappy with themselves despite efforts to act cheerful?
📝 Answer: 1] They usually act like obnoxious bullies towards those individuals whom they perceive as a threat because of jealousy. It's easy for them to be unkind, treating others disrespectfully to pacify their misery. By attempting to disturb others' peace, they believe they can feel less unhappy or less inadequate.
2] A large portion of their lifetime is wasted on jealously spying on the lives of strangers who don't have anything to do with them. Oftentimes you can tell that somebody isn't contented with their life if they nosily keep count of what others have and get to do. Frequently watching pretentious vlogs which fail to inspire you to become a better Muslim, stalking the social media posts of users whom you may secretly envy, and constantly comparing yourself to materialistic individuals are from the innumerable shortcuts to emotional distress. 
3] They readily indulge in gossiping. Anybody who seems okay with cowardly criticizing people behind their backs and talking badly about their intimate issues on a regular basis can't be truly at ease from within. If you were authentically satisfied with who you are, you'd focus on improving your own strengths for Allah's sake instead of consistently attempting to make others look or sound awful.
4] They generally give off negative, demotivating and distressful vibes. They appear to be scowling most of the time, they aren't very responsive to your text messages or calls and they tend to ignore your greetings. Those who are emotionally wounded oftentimes feel the need to bring others down to lift their insecure selves up. 
5] If they're genuinely sad or struggling with numerous problems which they fail to manage well, they typically slack off at school or work, being absent on many occasions without a valid reason and refusing to cooperate with others in doing the right thing.
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📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Tips: Seven Causes Of Stress And Ways To Avoid Emotional Distress

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Seven things which cause stress and how to avoid emotional distress or minimize its negative impact: 
❎ 1] Living life as a people-pleaser and without any actual purpose. Not being aware of your true goal in this dunya while being afraid to disappoint others.
☑️ Solution: Live only to please Allah the Almighty and worship Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala patiently so we're worthy of Jannah's entry. Confidently say no to people's requests and expectations if they go against Allah's Commands and our belief.

❎ 2] Consistently comparing your journey to others' tests, nosily spying on vlogs which fail to inspire you to become a better Muslim, and allowing jealousy to overwhelm you.
☑️ Solution: Focus on thanking Allah the Most Wise for the countless blessings which He chose to grant you, and concentrate on attaining your own goals. Don't be distracted by whatever and whoever doesn't deserve your full attention, including miserable individuals who are desperate to see you look "jealous" to appease their disturbed ego and insecurities.

❎ 3] Being careless and naive with the way you use social media, spitefully stalking users whom you despise due to envy, and frequently indulging in aimless debates.
☑️ Solution: Be extremely selective and stubbornly cautious with the content and information you knowingly absorb. Unapologetically unfollow those who post meaningless status updates which mostly provoke unpleasant emotions. Distance yourself from individuals with bad intentions.
 
❎ 4] Expecting every single individual out there to be nice all the time just because you strive to be a well-mannered human being.
☑️ Solution: Acknowledge the truth that not everyone on earth is blessed to receive the affection of responsible parents like yours who are educated about good manners. When some individuals treat you disrespectfully, understand that they're either expressing their frustrations regarding unresolved problems or they enviously can't stand knowing that you surpass them in many areas - for instance, you traveled to more countries, can communicate in Arabic language more eloquently, or it's obvious you aren't insecure like they are, and they dislike how you're way more confident.

❎ 5] Forcing yourself to stay awake when you're actually tired or sleepy. 
☑️ Solution: Take frequent naps when necessary. Listen to calming Qur'an recitations and read from the Noble Qur'an more regularly to enjoy inner peace.

❎ 6] Deliberately neglecting your duties to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala on a regular basis and taking Allah's Legislations lightly, such as praying Salat Al-Fajr late too often, listening to forbidden music as a hobby or indulging in sinful gossip, so your heart feels guilty at times or empty. 
☑️ Solution: Always try your best to maintain strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala (especially by saying lots of Dhikr and Istighfaar) and, as much as possible, avoid those actions which clearly displease Him. Strengthen your faith Imaan by seeking authentic knowledge of Islam day and night. Don't sabotage your soul through arrogantly committing sins and embracing ignorance.
 
❎ 7] Demanding yourself to be "perfect" 24/7 and questioning your self-worth whenever you make mistakes.
☑️ Solution: Learn from your errors. Learn from others' faults. Have good thoughts about Allah the Most Forgiving and know that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves to forgive. Practice accepting Allah's Qadr/Decree with steadfast patience and contentment. Don't worry too much about issues which Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can control.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Tuesday, November 29, 2022

Tips: Don't Allow shaytan And These Eleven To Spoil Your Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ If you truly love your husband for Allah's sake, never allow our archenemy shaytan and these eleven to spoil your marriage: 
1] Feeling dissatisfied that your marriage doesn't appear to be as "idealistic", romantic or visibly enjoyable as the marriages of your friends and colleagues. 
2] Unreasonably expecting your husband to never disappoint and offend you, as if he's not supposed to be human nor feel some emotions of his own. 
3] Arrogantly refusing to forgive your husband even if he has tried to apologize to you directly numerous times. A marriage between Muslim husband and wife/wives may not continue until Jannah Paradise if the ego/pride or kibr of one of them is bigger than the weight of all mountains on earth combined.  
4] Being unrealistically, unreasonably and inconsiderately overly demanding, wanting your other half to be "flawless" while you yourself are full of imperfections as well. 
5] Wrongly assuming that the main sign your husband loves you is if he consistently spoils you with full attention while striving to keep you satisfied by granting large allowance.
6] Stumbling upon or overhearing unpleasant news about couples breaking up and being tempted to jump on the lousy bandwagon. "Lots of mismatched lovers splitting up? Looks like a trend I need to try. It's okay... someday somehow I can find a more deserving guy." Wrong. Marry another man and he may be even worse than the one you left, or choose to remain separated while struggling with deep-seated regret.
7] Letting yourself lose that easily to the devastating effects of witchcraft or sorcery which some awfully envious outsiders may have carried out against you and your husband. 
8] Ignorantly denying the fact that it is lawful for men in Islam to be married to up to four wives, without requiring straightforward permission from the former wife/wives to remarry, as long as the Muslim man is financially capable to sustain a big family and agrees to strive to care for his multiple wives as fairly as he can for Allah's sake.
9] Unattractive tendency to feel defeated by jealousy, frequently mistrusting your spouse and irrationally misinterpreting your husband's polite manners towards other females as "cheating" or "disloyalty". 
10] Not being strong enough to control your fluctuating feelings for certain individuals and stupidly fantasizing how they could satisfy you a lot more than your husband can. 
11] Idiotically obsessing over so-called romance films and pathetically wishing your love story were exactly similar to one of them, not staying contented with the halal love journey which Allah the Most Loving wisely designed for you.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Sunday, November 27, 2022

Note: Some INTJ's Thoughts On INFJs And ENFJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what do you like and dislike about INFJs and ENFJs? How do you differentiate between those two personality types? 
📝 Answer: 🔸What I like or admire about most INFJs: 
•¶ Their overall quiet confidence, if they're not struggling with low self-esteem. 
•¶ Their ability to compassionately see people's good side and give plenty of excuses to those who behave questionably or inappropriately.
•¶ How a lot of INFJs are capable of having understanding, empathy and patience towards INTJs much more than other MBTI personality types can, particularly if they have numerous goals and interests in common. 
❎ What I dislike about some INFJs: 
¶• When they oftentimes say yes to somebody asking for a favor while it is more advantageous if the INFJ said no, and when they refuse to do something just to maintain "group harmony".
¶• When sometimes they can't provide you with immediate solutions or frank advice which can be put into action, anticipating your "satisfaction" with the fact that at least they attentively listened to you describe a problem.
🔹What I like or admire about many ENFJs: 
•¶ How it seems easy for most ENFJs to conduct regular gatherings and speak confidently to a large audience.
•¶ Their generosity and love for sharing what they have a surplus of.
•¶ Their intuitiveness and frequent accuracy in determining people's actual emotions, a skill granted by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if they're Muslim and not insecure. For instance, if they can sense that something makes you uncomfortable, they purposely avoid mentioning that thing or placing you anywhere near it as much as possible.
❎ What I dislike about some ENFJs: 
¶• When some ENFJs would assume you're "unhappy" or "lonesome" upon witnessing that you're not part of any clique or they feel sorry for you if it's obvious that you don't socialize a lot.
¶• When they side with the majority or crowd at times just to avoid conflict.
📑 How to distinguish ENFJs from INFJs: 
•|° INFJs, because they're introverts like INTJs, would be more carefully selective regarding their choice of close friends and/or more reclusive, reserved and mysterious than ENFJs. 
•|° Some ENFJs are more likely to give unsolicited advice than INFJs. 
INFJs may offer tips only after you've politely requested them to advise you.
•|° Most ENFJs could get lonely if they haven't had meaningful conversations with loved ones in a long time. After several interactions with people online and offline, most INFJs would require some rest or quiet solitude to feel reenergized. 
•|° Usually if they regard you as a very close friend, an ENFJ would try to persuade you to join them for a group outing, while an INFJ would give you lots of space and not make it a big deal if you are unable to always meet up with them.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 
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Note: Some Of INTJ's Thoughts On INFPs And ISFPs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what do you like and dislike about most ISFPs and INFPs? How do you differentiate between those two personality types? 
What are some of the things you'd usually do if you were close friends with an ISFP or INFP?
📝 Answer: 🔸What I like or admire about most INFPs: 
•¶ How a lot of them can be very open-minded, far away from being obnoxiously judgmental (if they're not struggling with jealousy and low self-esteem).
•¶ Their willingness to fight for others' rights and defend those whom they truly care about. 
•¶ How many INFPs don't focus too much on the way people perceive them as long as they believe they're doing what they value. 
❎ What I dislike about some INFPs: 
¶• When they're too oversensitive and misunderstand your actual motives behind asking them certain questions. 
¶• When some of them prove to be unreliable, somewhat forgetful regarding important matters and clumsy at times. 
🔹What I like or admire about some ISFPs: 
•¶ How creative and artistic many of them can be.
•¶ Their spontaneity and ability to be flexible sometimes. 
•¶ Their agility and capability of doing numerous tasks quickly - but only if they're in the mood to do them willingly.
❎ What I dislike about some ISFPs: 
¶• Their tendency to be stubborn at times regarding unreasonable demands or irrational choices. How a lot of them would do something just because they "feel like doing it" without understanding really why they're doing that thing. 
¶• When some of them would act unsupportive, uncooperative or cowardly passive-aggressive if you did something in the past which offended their sensitive feelings. 
📑 How to distinguish ISFPs from INFPs: 
•|° ISFPs are generally more observant and better at noticing little details than INFPs. 
•|° INFPs in general are more open-minded and receptive to different ideas, constructive feedback and eccentric thoughts etc. than ISFPs.
•|° Because many INFPs aren't always aware of their surroundings and not overly concerned with their overall appearance, you're more likely to meet an INFP wearing their shirt or outfit inside out while most ISFPs appear to be more neatly dressed or well put together.
•|° Quality time with an INFP could involve long and meaningful conversations which encourage them to reflect on their values and emotions. Quality time with an ISFP would likely consist of doing fun, adventurous or new activities outdoors... or indoors depending on their current moods. 
✅ From the things which I (INTJ) may do to indicate that I regard an INFP or ISFP as a friend: 
1] Regularly go out of my way, online and face to face, to check how they're doing and attentively listen to them rant or describe how they're currently feeling, then offer some words which are hopefully reassuring. 
2] Lovingly include them in my Du'as, whether or not I inform them that I pray for their well-being often. 
3] Frequently visit their social media accounts, pages, websites, blogs or YouTube channel(s) at least once every three months or so. 
4] Eagerly request for some advice or feedback from them when necessary. 
5] Prolong dialogues with them online and offline, and ask them random questions about themselves to be more acquainted with them instead of relying on my own assumptions about them.
6] Occasionally support their halal businesses or hobby if they have one. 
7] Directly approach them and advise them if I know that they've made an error, instead of letting them sabotage themselves through ignorance or continuity of carrying out the same mistakes. 
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

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