๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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๐ Question: As a Muslim whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how do you handle awkward situations?
๐ Answer: Three examples of "awkward" moments I went through and sometimes do but I don't find them that bothersome:
1] During our first years of settling in the Philippines after moving from Saudi Arabia when I was trying to practice Tagalog language, I told a salesperson something like "oh buntis ka? Ilan months buntis (pregnant)?" to which the person answered "lalaki ako" meaning "I'm a guy." and I responded with something like "oh sorry, ha!
(A)kala ko babae ka" (I thought you're female).
2] Asking an individual "how are you? And so how are you?" (like a malfunctioned android robot) a number of times in one conversation or too frequently in one day when I've already asked them how they're doing upon our initial greeting.
3] Appearing ignorant when it comes to "formal dining" as the handle of the spoon or fork I'd be using would become messy at times, which is usually why I prefer to ask the staff at most restaurants where the washbasin is to wash my hands and eat with the right than struggle with utensils.
➡️ How to avoid "awkward" moments:
1] Think very carefully before you decide to do something and reflect in advance on the probable outcomes of your actions.
2] Thoroughly analyze your surroundings and see if the environment or condition you're in is convenient or ideal for you to proceed with the task you're about to carry out.
3] Considerately put yourself in the shoes of the other individual or group and imagine how they may react to your statements or feel about you after behaving in a certain way.
Those three points are some of the things which a lot of INTJs consider unimportant or unnecessary since they prefer to be direct and straightforward, eager to achieve their goals efficiently without giving too much thought on people's emotions and opinions. This is why looking "awkward" isn't that big of a deal for us.
☑️ Some tips on dealing with "awkward" situations:
1• Always live life to please and serve Only Allah the Almighty regardless of how His servants perceive you. As long as you believe that you're doing the right thing, without causing deliberate injury to anybody, you shouldn't care about how people view you. They're imperfect and prone to encountering "awkward" situations too.
2• Be aware that every feeling which you allow or encourage yourself to feel on earth is temporary. Feelings of "awkwardness" or slight "embarrassment" will
Inn-sha-Allah gradually subside, especially if you busy yourself with more productive, meaningful and rewarding activities including reading from the Noble Qur'an with sincere intention and saying some Adhkaar regularly.
3• Be humble enough to recall that you're a human being, so it's normal to make errors now and then. Learn from your mistakes and others' faults, and avoid repeating them as much as possible.
Being able to laugh at yourself when you make a mistake shows confidence and implies you are not the type of person to let temporary and trivial issues affect how you feel from inside.
Shame or disgrace on the Day of Judgment is a lot worse than feeling temporarily "ashamed" or "awkward" in this transitory dunya.
May Allah the Most Merciful always protect us from actual humiliation in both worlds. Ameen.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day (the Day of Judgement), let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, "Let him not harm his neighbor."
And in another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him uphold family ties."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672
Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
๐ Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "May Allah have mercy on a person who spoke rightly and was rewarded, or who was silent and remained safe."
Source: Shu’b Al-Imān 4579
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
๐ Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
