๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Question: A group of friends and I had a falling-out (silly argument). I approached them to apologize for whatever I did that offended them but they still refuse to treat me in a friendly way like they used to. They even deleted me from their group chat and unfriended me on social media. What can I do to become close to them again?
๐ Answer: A group of sad clowns, sorry, individuals with such gigantic ego and lousy oversensitivity, who are too obsessed with themselves that they can't let go of the past drama, aren't worthy of your companionship and attention. There's a stronger reason to avoid them for Allah's sake if they happen to be toxic narcissists who are excessively attached to this transient dunya while they fail so badly to inspire you to become a better Muslim.
If Allah the Almighty observed any goodness in their hearts, He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala could have guided them to becoming softhearted and humble enough to forgive you. Perhaps Allah the Most Wise allowed them to drift apart to protect you and your faith Imaan from their negative vibes, obnoxious competition accompanied by jealousy among themselves regarding materialism and ridiculous stuff, and their awful tendency of probably gossiping about you when you weren't listening to their absolute nonsense.
Imagine them being worms, snakes or leeches that decide to slither away from you once they discovered that you're a genuine diamond, with a tough surface, or "you can't mess around with me" persona that intimidates them, and they realized you can't provide them with the substance they're desperately searching for. To them, you can't spoil them with false flattery so they choose to avoid you. They're absolutely terrified of getting caught for concealing some ugly lies and invented tales about themselves to appear less plain or tedious, so they frequently exclude you from their shallow gatherings to make you feel as insecure and inwardly gloomy as they are because they despise seeing you cheerful, thriving and contented.
Attain inner peace in patiently accepting Allah's Qadr/Decree and remind yourself that you weren't created in such a way to be appealing to every single soul whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wants you to meet. Inevitably the more you appear successful or the more you emit good vibes due to strong faith Imaan, Taqwa and inner beauty, the more you may encounter envious females who resent you for being able to do multiple things which they can't carry out (for instance being capable of communicating in Arabic language Alhamdulillah or being one of the few formidable Muslimahs who are fine with polygyny etc.) or haven't yet accomplished.
Don't force yourself to become "friends" again with people whose despicable pride and ignorance about Islam overshadow their willingness to demonstrate beautiful character. Who cares if they don't like you back, and why bother wishing to be liked by them if they, due to their insecurities, envy and inward misery, likely abhor themselves so much so that they are unwilling to beautify their souls with the strength to pardon other Muslims for Allah's sake?
For Allah's sake move on confidently, unapologetically unfollow those who are too spiteful and sorrowful to be followed, and focus on doing what you believe can lead you closer to Allah's Love regardless of how His servants perceive us.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Aslam Al-Habashi RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, "How is this?" Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated (obsessed) like a child. When you hate someone, you want destruction for your companion (sister or brother in Islam)."
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
