Poem: Include The Muslim Ummah In Your Du'a

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "Dear Allah, make him more eloquent and bless his speech, 

Guide him to speak truthfully and accept his good deeds.", 

"O' Allah, the Most Loving Who always hears and sees, 

Protect my loved ones and friends, grant them all that they need, 

And in their efforts to serve You please keep them sincere." 

~•~ 

"Dear Allah, from the Muslim Ummah who feel lonely 

Or stressed at times when they deal with life's difficulties, 

Provide them more guidance so in both worlds they succeed, 

Increase their love for learning Islam and right belief,

And give them insight, inner joy, contentment and peace." 

~•~

"O' Allah, those Muslims who got married recently, 

I pray that through their marriage they thrive in piety, 

That their journey is a blessing and they stay happy.", 

"Dear Allah, please heal so-and-so and give them relief, 

Bless this one's business and help them earn income with ease."

~•~ 

"O' Allah, the Most Kind Who knows all my wants and needs, 

Forgive those who gossiped about me, kindly release 

Them from vile qualities like suspicion and envy. 

I pray that Allah softens their hearts and they believe 

In the correct 'Aqeedah, far from bid'ah. Ameen."

~•~

It takes strong faith/Imaan, kindness and humility 

For a Muslim to mention others regularly 

In their Du'a/supplication with sincerity. 

When praying for other Muslims don't be miserly. 

Such invocations profit your soul similarly.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No supplication is quicker to be answered than a supplication on behalf of one absent (supplicating for other Muslims)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1980

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-what-it-means-to-love-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-be-generous-enough-to-pray-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/tips-advice-on-how-to-deal-with-loved.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-warning-against-constantly-cursing.html 

Tips: Some Of The Benefits Of Understanding A Person's MBTI Type

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Imagine that you're staying in a retreat, resort or dormitory with several friends for one week, and you're sharing one kitchen. Just when you're about to wash your plate and spoon, you notice that the sink is full of unwashed dishes. While you decide to focus on washing only your utensils, others may not exactly behave like you. Some may:

1] Gladly wash the plate and spoon which they used along with the other dishes, wanting rewards for compassionately trying to make others' lives easy. 

2] Wash their utensils and only some of the unwashed dishes, so they earn rewards without getting too tired, while hoping somebody else can continue washing the rest. 

3] Quickly wash their utensils then angrily march around the building, commanding everyone to wash their own dishes next time because they're not their maid. 

4] Lazily leave their plate and spoon on the sink with the other unwashed plates, imagining how fabulous it would be if there were fairies or android robots who'd automatically keep the surroundings clean. 

5] Responsibly wash your utensils then place the unwashed dishes on top of each person's bed, everybody receiving a note stating (written in all caps and red marker), "Cleanliness is part of faith. Please tidy up your mess next time." 

6] Calmly wash your own plate and spoon, then patiently wait for the next group meeting when you can gently advise your friends to do the dishes as soon as they're done using them. That way, nobody has to suffer doing somebody else's work. 

7] Aggressively push all the unwashed dishes aside until they smash on the floor, and once you're done washing your utensils, you tell everybody who gathered in the kitchen to see what the loud noise was about, "that's what happens when zombies don't do their job." 

Since the temperament, attitude and personalities of people on earth are not entirely the same, it makes sense that we can't always get along peacefully with every individual whom Allah the Most Wise decreed us to meet. However, by having some understanding of somebody's MBTI personality type, we can adjust our behavior or choices if we're seriously interested in strengthening our relationship or friendship. 

🗂️ By understanding that a person is... 

• Introverted ( I ): We won't get offended if they request us to bring only a few companions to their small gathering or to avoid inviting individuals whom they don't know, and we shouldn't expect them to initiate conversations because aimlessly chatting about random topics is not an enjoyable activity for many introverts who'd rather read or browse the web in their homes. 

• Extroverted ( E ): We mustn't feel embarrassed if they're too chatty, playful or noisy in public, because that's how some extroverts naturally function, and their decision to invite others to your outing is meant to increase the enjoyment, not necessarily to consume the food that the hosts are offering.

🗂️ By understanding that a person is... 

• Sensing ( S ): We can be more careful about the way we answer their questions. Sensors generally prefer answers that are very specific, factual, and precise. The more details you give them the better. Since a lot of them get startled easily, from having strong senses of hearing, seeing, smelling and touching, we can be more cautious with the way we present ourselves when they're around (that is, if we care enough about how they perceive us).

• Intuitive ( N ): We can respond to their questions briefly or describe the overall meaning of an event or incident, purposely leaving out unimportant information. Many intuitives prefer looking at the big picture, the summary and main points of a discussion, concept or project, rather than fussing over every single detail. It shouldn't surprise us that sometimes they look distracted or oblivious when we're trying to catch their attention, because they're mentally someplace else contemplating about the future or preoccupied with analyzing. Don't feel insulted if you have to pronounce their names multiple times for them to notice you. 

🗂️ By understanding that a person is... 

• Feeling ( F ): We won't be surprised if they get hurt easily, overreact emotionally, and oftentimes make illogical decisions just to ensure that a situation is a win-win for everybody. With sensitive types, we can first compliment on their commendable qualities or express gratitude for the tasks they did well before attempting to criticize them, to maintain good relations.

• Thinking ( T ): We train ourselves to be more thick-skinned, resilient and open to negative feedback, whenever they attempt to evaluate us according to what they believe is rational, fair and logical. With thinkers who easily brush off insults and criticism, we can discuss issues without needing to sugarcoat things. In fact, for many of them, the more direct, real and transparent you are, the more they'd respect your authenticity and straightforwardness. 

🗂️ By understanding that a person is... 

• Perceiving ( P ): We won't have to worry too much about canceling or postponing plans with perceiving types because they're typically flexible, adaptable, relaxed, easygoing and spontaneous. Seeing how most perceivers dislike feeling restricted to rigid rules, repetitive routines, and fixed schedules, if you're eager to get along with a perceiving personality type, try to minimize being overly organized, perfectionistic and strict. 

• Judging ( J ): With judging (it doesn't mean "judgmental") personality types who are more comfortable with following a stable schedule, organizing, doing most things step by step, carefully planning and properly preparing, we can feel more at ease knowing we're dealing with individuals (as long as they're not sociopaths or narcissists) who'll try their best to fulfill a promise, accomplish a task and complete an assignment. While most perceiving types are likely to share mere suggestions or avoid bossing others around, many judging personality types welcome leadership roles and giving instructions. An INFP, for example, could be more successful babysitting two kids than if they were to be the head chef in a frequently crowded restaurant, and an ISFP may not enjoy working as a school supervisor just as much as an ESTJ or ENFJ would. 

Awareness of your MBTI personality type and others' MBTI can 

Inn-sha-Allah make it easier for you to identify who can work with you efficiently or patiently tolerate your quirks, and you become more aware of what you can do to strengthen a bond with another Muslim, including your spouse if you're married.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-on-self-discovery-and-mbti.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-more-reflections-on-mbti-typing.html 

~•~

To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

Tips: Advice On How To Deal With Loved Ones Who Can't Reach Out Or Communicate In A Regular Basis

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Seven possible reasons why some of your loved ones, friends, colleagues and neighbors can't always check up on you, so you won't feel insecure about where you stand in their lives: 

1] They may be busy at the moment with their work, school assignments, projects, business or meetings offline, so much so that it's difficult to grab the opportunity to ask how you're doing, because by the time they've completed a task, they're either too tired to initiate online conversations or they have other tasks to complete. 

2] They consider you very intimidating or you generally give off unapproachable vibes. Imagine yourself as a frightening dragon who lives in a gigantic tower that doesn't have a ladder nor staircase and your freakish abode is surrounded by tall brick walls overlapping a garden of thorny trees and prickly vines. It would take large amounts of courage or eagerness for some individuals to skillfully climb and reach out for a quick greeting. 

3] They currently struggle with severe shyness or social anxiety. Attempting to start a casual dialogue with anybody online and offline often makes them nervous or edgy. 

4] From observing your frequent updates and logins, they believe that you're already doing well and there's absolutely no need to inquire about your well-being. Maybe if you disconnected from social media for several weeks, they'd seem more concerned and try to contact to ensure you're okay. 

5] They probably feel that sending you a random message may be annoying for you, or they assume that your inbox contains numerous unanswered messages and they're refraining from messaging you so your stress doesn't escalate. It's their way of showing you they care by respecting your privacy and space. 

6] They don't regard you as close enough yet for them to chat with on a regular basis. Just as you'd rather sit beside a family member in an airplane than next to complete strangers, you'd find it artificial or uncomfortable to maintain small talk with a stranger whom you're not interested in, particularly if there's no significant purpose in regularly chatting.  

7] They're the kind of introverts who refuse to make the first move regarding social niceties. Visualize them as being feral cats that don't bother approaching humans unless the latter got something visibly valuable to offer them. They have a preference for keeping their distance and staying in their lane than getting out of their comfort zone to socialize unnecessarily. 

📋 How to deal with loved ones, including your spouse working in another city or country, who cannot check up on you as often as you'd like: 

• Practice tons of empathy and patience with them for Allah's sake. 

• Remember the wonderful moments and enjoyable times you've had together. 

• Frequently include each other in your loving Du'as, especially when praying Tahajjud, every Jumuah/Friday, and while fasting Sunnah fasts. 

• If direct communication with them is not easy, you can request some of their relatives or friends to forward your salaams to them. 

• With patient anticipation, pray that Allah the Most Merciful reunites you and your Muslim loved ones in Jannah Paradise where you can talk to each other for however long you desire.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the best people to Allah are those who are the first to greet with peace."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5197

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "You will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you will not have faith until you love each other. Shall I show you something that, if you did, you would love each other? Spread peace (salaam) between yourselves."

Source: Sahih Muslim 54, Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-do-good-only-for-allah-and-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-with-or-without-many-friends-what.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-on-people-whom-i-cant-always-talk.html

Poem: On The Few Women Who Are Uninterested In Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 While some women are eager to get married early 

And others are pleased their marriage took place in their teens, 

In my life I know seven females personally 

Who are older than forty years old and seem to be 

Contented not requiring a man to be complete. 

~•~

From the reasons why some women choose to not marry, 

Regardless of how many proposals they received: 

They believe staying single lets them live more freely,

Far from marital stress and responsibilities, 

Or they're avoiding the challenge in polygyny...

~•~

...Or they sense they're not ready to raise a family, 

Or they like kids but won't be carriers of babies, 

The process of giving birth for them is not easy, 

Or they know they're incapable of feeling any 

Desire for men, and trying to love one feels phony. 

~•~

Whatever is the reason why some women perceive 

Marriage as just "optional" or "unnecessary", 

Recall that forced marriage in Islam is unseemly. 

None from her maternal and paternal family 

Can force a Muslimah to marry unwillingly.

~•~ 

Let each Muslim lady select her future hubby, 

And don't scold her if she prefers to wait patiently 

For her perfect spouse when she attains Jannah's entry. 

To those who are choosy regarding whom to marry: 

Marry for Allah. Be the wife that a good man needs.

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will restrain his impulses (desires)."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence is her consent."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547

Sahih Muslim 1420

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-arranged-marriages-vs-forced.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-warning-to-fathers-brothers-and.html 

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https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/12372/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%AA%D9%86%D8%A7%D8%B9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%B9%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC  

Poem: What Often Leads To Conflict Or Incompatibility

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 One of the reasons behind somebody's enmity 

And spite towards you despite not knowing you really, 

Is the fact you're both different, your goals don't smoothly 

Align with each other, and most of your qualities 

Clash which makes it easy for them to loathe and mistreat.

~•~

Perhaps they like to fit in with the majority, 

They dread to look weird, and seek to please society, 

While you strive to deserve the Love of Allah Only, 

You don't fear standing out, you prefer to be unique, 

And stick to your beliefs even if most disagree.

~•~ 

Maybe your inner beauty informs them they're ugly 

Inwardly if they carry unjust grudge or envy, 

While your trust in Allah and strong personality 

May remind them of their myriad insecurities. 

Their antipathy can't make their character pretty.

~•~ 

Probably your marriage, welcoming polygyny, 

And patience trigger guilt or shame they didn't succeed 

In some tasks previously, while your choice to patiently 

Persist in loving your husband for Allah bravely 

Offends them greatly, since they're weak emotionally.

~•~

Just as wolves and bears won't benefit from worms and bees, 

And a lion's presence could disturb the peace of sheep, 

We can't expect to get along with each soul we meet, 

Specially if our haters' hate stems from jealousy 

And countless differences lead to disharmony.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Aslam Al-Habashi RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, "How is this?" Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated (obsessed) like a child. When you hate someone, you want destruction for your companion (sister or brother in Islam)."

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-how-to-react-when-some-users.html 

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