Poem: Some Secrets To Not Feeling Jealous At All

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 From my secrets to feeling unfazed by jealousy, 

Unaffected when some people try to purposely 

Make me "jealous" when their acts simply provoke pity, 

Are contentment and patience with Allah's Destiny, 

And positive self-talk which can augment self-esteem.

~•~ 

I believe Allah distributed His gifts wisely 

To His servants. No matter how much each soul receives, 

There's wisdom in what Allah gives, withholds, and retrieves, 

To observe if we'll respond with gratitude or greed, 

And if the blessings become keys to Jannah's entry.

~•~

If I sense that certain users online cheesily 

Post photos or status updates to arouse envy, 

I don't get "jealous", can't wish "if only that were me", 

As I refuse to admire anyone who's guilty 

Of inauthenticity or insecurities. 

~•~ 

If I feel that someone loves Allah the Almighty, 

While their faith/Imaan is firm and their good vibes are real, 

I reject invites from shaytan to greet jealousy, 

Since the gifts a soul enjoys come from Allah Only, 

And I don't take for granted what Allah chose for me.

~•~ 

If I truly "envied" some, I'd act ungraciously, 

Mistreating them and gossiping to soothe misery. 

Still I'm not "envious", can't question Allah's Decree, 

And when I spot things I want enjoyed by somebody, 

I thank Allah, knowing Allah knows what's best for me.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no envy but in two cases: A man whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it rightly (for Allah's sake), and a man whom Allah has given wisdom and he judges and teaches others with it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 73 

Sahih Muslim 816

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

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Poem: Three Instances When You Have A Right To Cancel A Friendship

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Three instances when you have every right to end it - 

A toxic bond with those who hurt you without regret, 

And friendship with someone who has zero interest 

In strengthening piety and passing Allah's tests, 

Even if they seem sorry for past slights and missteps: 

~•~ 

First instance: When damage they've caused they refuse to fix, 

When they withhold sincere apology yet expect 

You to forgive them for the serious mistakes they did, 

And they've no plans to make up for broken promises, 

Reconciling with them brings no moral benefit. 

~•~ 

Second: When the words they previously described you with 

And their false accusations are too foul to forget, 

When each time you talk to them you're sadly reminded 

Of their lousy jokes and awful remarks they once said, 

Don't reconnect with souls who relish lies and gossip. 

~•~

Third: When the vibes they emit are clearly negative, 

As they hide some truths from you or they envy your gifts, 

And attempting to restore links makes it feel as if 

You're a bird re-entering a cage it exited 

Or a careless prey that serves as an easy target. 

~•~

With those who are bad for us no need to reconnect. 

By doing this we're not prideful, but trying our best 

To choose correctly whilst striving to pass Allah's tests. 

People can drain or inspire us. Carefully select 

Friends whose presence carries more blessings than demerits.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Tips: Qualities Of Effective Leaders

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Some of the qualities of an effective leader:

1] Has integrity, dedicated

2] Innovative, creative

3] Honest, sincere, reliable

4] Capable of practicing active listening

5] Self-confident

6] Visionary, optimistic, persistent

7] Strong communicator, has good communication skills

8] Knows when and how to delegate, maximizing productivity and team performance

9] Decisive, strives to avoid ambiguity and uncertainty 

10] Skilled and resourceful in finding solutions to problems 

11] Fair, faithfully refrains from favoritism, injustice and prejudice 

12] Inquisitive, genuinely curious, willing to learn and discover new things 

13] Inspired, self-motivated, inspirational, motivational, encouraging

14] Humble

15] Can sympathize, has care or concern for others 

16] Self-disciplined, knows how to set a good example

17] Emotionally intelligent

18] Passionate, determined 

19] Resilient

20] Responsible, dutiful and takes accountability for one's actions 

21] Supportive, capable of mentoring or advising

22] Tech-savvy 

23] Has empathy and ability to understand others' needs and conditions 

24] Agile

25] Empowered and can motivate others for Allah's sake.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719

Sahih Muslim 1829

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Note: Importance Of Avoiding Suspicion And False Assumptions

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If a sister, who normally shakes hand with you upon meeting, enters a lecture hall and didn't give you a handshake when she saw you, don't feel bad and instantly assume she was ignoring you. She was probably in a hurry looking for a vacant seat and couldn't shake your hand because if she had to offer a handshake, she'd feel obliged to shake the hands of the other sisters around you, which would take a while, and she didn't want to distract the attendees from the Islamic class.

If you found out that a Muslimah wasn't fasting on Yawm 'Arafah while she regularly reminded other Muslims online to fast on the first days of Dhul-Hijjah, don't be quick to accuse her of hypocrisy. Perhaps she wasn't feeling well, or she woke up after Salat Al-Fajr without Suhoor or the niyyah (intention) to fast, or she was having her monthly period.

If you see a friend at a mall being overly friendly with an older strange guy whom you've never been introduced to before, don't have negative thoughts of them assuming they're a couple guilty of a haraam relationship. The man could be your friend's elder brother, uncle, nephew, foster brother or half-brother, who are all mahrams to her whom she can't marry yet they're allowed to accompany her on long journeys like Hajj or exchange handshakes.

If you notice an ustadh coming out of a building or office and right behind him is one of the sisters in Islam that you know, do not immediately guess they were doing something haraam/forbidden. It just so happened that they left the place at almost the exact same time.

From now on Inn-sha-Allah let us train ourselves to always give another Muslim an excuse to his/her actions, rather than falling into the sin of false accusation, incorrect assumption or unjust suspicion. Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has every right to judge His servants as He knows about everyone's actual conditions, situations and intentions. 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Al-Bayhaqi narrated that Hamdun Al-Qassar, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If one of your brothers commits an error, seek seventy excuses for him. If your hearts do not accept it, know that the fault is with yourselves.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 10436 

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Note: Importance Of Avoiding Sins Publicly And Privately As Much As Possible

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Beware of appearing to be devout, righteous, and practicing through the Islamic posts you sometimes share, religious phrases you frequently utter, and modest clothing you wear yet when you think you're alone and no human is watching, you'd spoil yourself with certain sins which other Muslims may never imagine you'd be commiting. The following are some examples of wrongdoings which many may be guilty of, and they'd be doing themselves a huge favor if they hasten to Tawbah/repentance if they don't want their good deeds to be invalidated on the Day of Judgment: 

1] Masturbation. If you can't afford to touch yourself indecently in front of your own parents, it is even more important that you avoid masturbating in front of Allah the Almighty and His noble Angels who are assigned to record your intentional actions and statements. 

2] Listening to songs and watching music videos, when you've previously made it clear that listening to music as a recreational activity or hobby is haraam/forbidden. 

3] Watching porn and inappropriate films while hypocritically commanding Muslims to refrain from watching movies. 

4] Involving oneself in plagiarism, forgery and any form of deceit, while warning Muslims against betrayal and purposely telling lies.

5] Trying zina (fornication, adultery) with somebody of the opposite and/or the same gender through sexting, phone sex or clandestinely meeting up in a hotel, dormitory, or during sleepovers, then when you're in public together you act as though you have no feelings for each other.

6] Nosily interfering with others' private lives and spying without any legitimate reason. For example, when someone unfriends a Facebook user only for the latter to sign up for new accounts to be able to see their friends-only status updates. If a Muslim unfriended you on social media, patiently move on and stop worrying about what's going on in their current lives.

7] Drinking alcoholic beverages or knowingly consuming haraam foods when you consistently remind others to stick to what's halal. 

May Allah the Most Merciful forgive all our sins and mistakes, and keep us away from hypocrisy/nifaaq. Ameen.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I certainly know people from my nation who will come on the Day of Resurrection with good deeds like the mountains of Tihamah, but Allah will scatter them like dust." Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “O Messenger of Allah, describe them to us and tell us more, so that we will not become like them.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are your brothers and from your ehtnicity, taking up worship at night as you do, but they will be people who transgress the sacred limits of Allah when they are alone."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4245

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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