Poem: Don't Be From The People Who Are Too Proud And Too Sad To Admit They're Sorry

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 The bigger one's ego, the harder it is to say 

"I'm sorry", "forgive me for what I did yesterday", 

And "please accept my apology. I'll compensate 

For any loss or damage that was clumsily made." 

Connections can weaken when ego gets in the way. 

~•~ 

Three reasons why some people can't admit their mistakes: 

The level of contentment with their lives is small-scale, 

So their eagerness to sadden you stems from self-hate, 

Or pride causes them to presume they're flawless always, 

Or they're driven by intense envy to misbehave. 

~•~ 

If someone's response to your messages was delayed 

And why they answered late isn't tactfully explained, 

Or a rude shopper's cart collided with yours one day, 

And some sellers didn't give the right amount of change, 

Let Allah deal with them, and move on for Allah's sake. 

~•~ 

For people's apologies it's better not to wait, 

As most are insecure and immersed in dismal states. 

Don't expect those with bad ethics to enunciate 

That they regret behaving badly and straight away 

They'll correct their errors when from pride they're not yet saved. 

~•~ 

Pardon their shortcomings and choices, for Allah's sake. 

Through encounters with them we're trained to never betray 

And act improperly with any of Allah's slaves. 

When mistreated by souls who carry around self-hate, 

Thank Allah. "Sad" and "insecure" aren't from your traits. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"The supplications of three persons are never turned away (rejected): A fasting person until he breaks his fast, a just ruler, and the supplication of the oppressed which is raised by Allah above the clouds, the gates of Paradise are opened for it, and Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3598 Grade: Sahih

Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said:

"Beware of the supplication (Du'a) of the oppressed, for the supplication of the oppressed is answered."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa 1890 

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Hadith: The Prohibition Of Sculpting And Drawing Images Of Living Beings

📖 Abu Talhah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The angels do not enter a house in which there is a dog, nor an image in a likeness." Abu Talhah RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam means by likeness an image of living souls.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3225 

Sahih Muslim 2106

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every maker of graven images will be in Hellfire. Every image he made will be given a soul to punish him in Hell." Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma said, 'If you must do so, make images of trees or whatever does not have a soul within it.'

Source: Sahih Muslim 2110

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: Patience For Allah's Sake vs "Toxic Positivity"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Please note that toxic positivity isn't in 

Staying patient with the man whom Allah has chosen 

As your trusted friend to Jannah, travel companion, 

And sweet soulmate whom you can spoil with your compassion. 

Allah loves those Muslims who for His sake have patience. 

~•~ 

Toxic positivity isn't in welcoming 

Challenges to have Sabr with your man's shortcomings, 

Decision to study or work in a different 

City so you can't enjoy his soothing vibes often, 

Or ability to care for more than one woman. 

It's not toxic if it's blessed, worthwhile, and rewarding. 

~•~

Choosing to smile and stay hopeful isn't toxic when 

Understanding your spouse shows your love is genuine, 

Missing him inspires you to increase supplications, 

Forgiving your soulmate causes your faith to strengthen, 

And patience which brings you near Allah isn't tiring. 

~•~ 

Toxic positivity is clear when you're: Acting 

Cheerful while indulging in sins such as gossiping, 

Laughing at people's flaws as one conceals depression, 

Earning sins while feeling certain to be forgiven, 

And behaving as if dunya is everlasting. 

~•~ 

Patience with something or somebody gets toxic when 

There's no improvement after long periods of waiting 

And optimism only invites newer problems. 

For Allah's sake, stand by your husband if you love him 

From day one. Don't let shaytan ruin any blessing.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Note: Five Things Done By Awfully Insecure Couples Which Confident Wives And Husbands Avoid

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five things done by clearly insecure couples which actually confident Muslim husbands and wives do not do: 

1] Frequently uploading photos of themselves on social media whenever they're on a date, in a restaurant, or when socializing with other couples. 

2] Posting flirty comments regularly on each other's Facebook timelines and social media posts, when they can discuss certain issues with one another through inbox or face-to-face. 

3] Making it a requirement to wear matching outfits or clothes with the same colors whenever possible, intending to emphasize how they're together while many individuals are already aware of their marriage. 

4] Constantly feeling the need to check on the cellphones and electronic gadgets of one's spouse, inspecting the messages they receive, and occasionally interrogating them about their whereabouts, connections and plans. Not being able to trust one another for Allah's sake due to struggling with loads of insecurities. 

5] Testing and pranking each other a lot to determine if they both truly love one another. For example, when a guy assigns a male acquaintance to flirt with his wife or signs up for fake accounts to check if she's genuinely loyal, and when a woman keeps asking her husband insecurely if he really loves her or not. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Tips: What I, An INTJ Personality Type, Do When Unfriended On Facebook

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, what would you do if you found out that some users unfriended you? Or what's a rational way of reacting to certain people's decision to discontinue being "friends"?

📑 Answer: Alhamdulillah, without fabricating lies and ego soothing, my usual reaction when I discover that a user unfriended me on Facebook is I don't feel surprised or offended at all because:

1) I understand that people are temporary. The Only One Who always remains is Allah the Almighty.

2) Since I'm strictly selective regarding who I regard as an actual friend, I'm incapable of getting emotionally attached to people easily. So even if an acquaintance or neighbor left after several years, their departure doesn't affect me, as there was no real connection built in the first place.

3) Even if the person who unfriended me had pleasant qualities or they can't be described as "toxic", I'd accept Allah's Will, with contentment, in letting them go because Allah the Most Wise decides who gets to stay in our lives and who should exit stage right for our own well-being. 

Once a user is no longer connected to me on social media, I don't bother stalking their accounts or thoroughly reading their posts and any comment mentioning their names. They're like withered leaves which fell from a tree, and picking them up for future use or evaluating if they've changed positively doesn't sound appealing to me. 

Oftentimes Allah the Most Loving causes us to meet particular souls only for us to separate on a destined date to train us to rely on nobody but Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. The more we get accustomed to noticing people come and go, the more our heart detaches from the longing for others' approval to just focusing on attaining Allah's Love and Guidance to Jannatul Ferdaus where the hearts of Allah's slaves aren't tempted anymore by negative distractions such as undue suspicion, dishonesty, and jealousy. 

As for relatives who aren't on my "Facebook friends" list, including my dear husband, my brothers and some aunties, of course I care about them for Allah's sake and Alhamdulillah we're on good terms. I respect the right of any human to select what kind of status updates and content they regularly absorb on their news feed.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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