Tips: Wiser To Ignore Insecure Trolls Than Indulge In Ignorant Squabbles

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What's the best way to respond when somebody tagged you in an inappropriate post or sent you indecent photos? 

📝 Answer: 1] After quickly noticing that you were tagged in an inappropriate post, don't look at the image thoroughly, don't read the whole message of the user who tagged you, and don't bother analyzing the comments which the post received. 

2] Instantly untag yourself and block the user who tagged you along with anybody whom you believe is connected to such individuals, if you feel that blocking is more effective than individually deleting irrelevant posts from that user. 

3] Say Du'a against the individuals who are fooling around because of their awful upbringing. 

4] Learn not to copy their obnoxious acts and be grateful that you're nothing like them. 

5] Gradually disconnect from social networking websites or lessen your time on platforms where inwardly sad trolls enjoy pranking others to distract themselves from their self-loathing and insecurities.

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📖 Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for it is carried above the clouds. Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 3630

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

Note: Stay Contented With The Love Story Which Allah Granted You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If you're a professional baker, which I'm not, you already know that different cakes and pastries don't require the exact same ingredients for them to be successfully baked and well designed. Banana cake, carrot cake, chocolate, vanilla and mocha flavored cakes don't have the same recipe. The presence of one ingredient in a dessert does not imply that another is a failure simply due to that ingredient's lacking or unavailability. 

Visualize five loyal, patient and contented wives in completely different love journeys: 

1] A wife who got married at the age of eighteen, divorced three years later then remarried her first husband after noticing his value and appreciating his loving efforts to win her back. 

2] A wife whose husband is employed in another country and they only get to be physically near each other at least once a year. 

3] A wife whose husband happens to be her first or second degree cousin while he tries his best to be as fair as he can with his two wives for Allah's sake. 

4] A woman who became a wife, with Allah's Will, in her late thirties after declining several marriage proposals because she stubbornly insisted on patiently waiting for her former ustadh's marriage proposal. 

5] A fourth wife in a polygynous marriage who finds it challenging to get along with her co-wives but she is determined for Allah's sake to maintain patience with them, aware that perfect bliss and everlasting peace can be enjoyed in Jannah Paradise. 

Not all couples' marriages are entirely similar. While many have had grandiose weddings in luxury hotels or function halls, others were glad to conduct their wedding ceremony at their own house or outdoors in a field. While a few spouses are satisfied with just one child or not having children, other wives and husbands prefer caring for large families. Some ladies can handle not seeing the husband for several weeks, while other women would rather move to the city where the husband works in even if they have to cope with polygyny as long as they're not residing far away from the husband. 

What is believed to be okay or necessary with one couple does not signify that another couple are in a "loveless marriage" if the latter's love story doesn't have similar features, on condition that each of the spouses similarly aim to protect the marriage for Allah's sake, striving to do what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves to be worthy of eternal joy in Jannah Paradise where its inhabitants won't be tested with negative feelings including envy, unjustified suspicion, and discontentment with Allah's wise and fair decisions.  

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-to-stay-contented-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-never-compare-your-halal-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-not-everyone-on-earth-has-same.html 

Poem: Affluence Isn't Always A Sign That Allah Loves Someone

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 All the riches of Qarun / Korah couldn't save him 

From dying and gradual destruction through misguidance. 

Think of past celebs who died while they were affluent, 

Did their costly outfits, classy cars and large mansions 

Follow their corpses underground or benefit them? 

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What's the point of enjoying a life of opulence 

When a slave is deprived of Allah's Love and Guidance? 

Don't they know that earth and its joys are not permanent, 

That Allah created us mainly to worship Him, 

And that delight in Jannah is more everlasting? 

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In working to earn halal income there's no problem. 

What is wrong is to regard money as evidence 

That Allah loves you, while financially struggling 

Implies that you're unloved and deficient in blessings, 

When many from the poor shall deserve Jannah's entrance.

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While it's fine to work for Allah and help your loved ones, 

Don't form opinion that having wealth in abundance 

Proves that you're one of Allah's most devoted servants.  

The Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) before didn't reside in 

Towers and castles yet Allah the Most Kind loves him.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2354

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Perish the slave of Dinar, Dirham, Qatifa (thick soft cloth), and Khamisa (a special garment), for if he is given (wealth), he is pleased; otherwise (if he does not receive wealth) he is dissatisfied." 

Sahih Al-Bukhari 6435 | In-book: Book 81, Hadith 24 |(English): Vol. 8, Book 76, Hadith 443 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O Abu Dharr, do you say an abundance of possessions is wealth?” I said 'yes'. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you say a lack of possessions is poverty?” I said 'yes'. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated this three times, then he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Wealth is in the heart and poverty is in the heart. Whoever is wealthy in his heart will not be harmed no matter what happens in the world. Whoever is impoverished in his heart will not be satisfied no matter how much he has in the world. Verily, he will only be harmed by the greed of his own soul."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 1618

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-contentment-with-allahs-destiny.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-richness-in-faithimaan-and-manners.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-contentment-with-simplicity-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-what-zuhd-asceticism-really-means.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-true-wealth-is-in-faithimaan-and.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/old/1860 

Tips: How Some INTJs Deal With Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As a Muslim INTJ personality type, how do you deal with jealousy? Or what is your coping strategy whenever you feel slightly jealous of a friend?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah since I'm one of those who strive to stay contented with Allah's Qadr/Decree, I'd say I hardly feel envious of others' tests and blessings. There are moments though when a female acquaintance would share some joyful news about her spouse, specially if they get to see each other a lot more often than I do with my husband, but her act of sharing her joys doesn't compel me to insecurely indulge in gossip. Instead I'd be inspired to be extra loyal, additionally grateful, and more appreciative of my husband.

Another secret or tactic I try in order to avoid acting upon jealous emotions is reminding myself of the negative qualities or different struggles found in the person who's bragging about to make me feel "jealous". For instance, if "A" appears to be so proud of how her husband takes her out to a fancy restaurant on a weekly basis, I recall how I'm blessed Alhamdulillah to not have her unpleasant tendency to occasionally tell lies and how she is incapable of doing some of the things which I can do Alhamdulillah such as reading Arabic text without the harakaat or vowels etc. 

If it's clear that other Muslims seem to enjoy their marriages, I'd train myself to be happy for them for Allah's sake because Allah the Most Wise is the One Who chose those sources of joy to examine their faith/Imaan, while I'd reminisce about the good times when my own husband and I traveled to various cities and spent time together before he became busier with his medical work Alhamdulillah. 

The stronger your belief in Allah's Wisdom and Justice in the way He distributed the gifts to His servants, the less you're prone to feeling insecure, "unaccomplished" or "inferior" whenever you notice others enjoying what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decided to grant His slaves to determine if they'll be thankful for those favors, if they'll behave arrogantly due to what they've been given (such as pleasant looks, tall height, and access to knowledge etc.) and if they can benefit other servants through them by inspiring, advising, or assisting others to reach the same goals which they've achieved with Allah's Will. Alhamdulillah.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a (true believer) believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-thank-allah-for-blessings-he-chose.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-more-contented-you-are-with-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-dont-compare-your-life-journey-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-i-cant-get-jealous-over-worldly.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-how-to-deal-with-insecure.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-its-hard-to-feel-jealous-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-some-secrets-to-not-feeling.html 

Tips: Some Advice On Dealing With ESFJ Personality Types

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

✅ Five qualities which healthy ESFJs have in common, from observing the overall attitude and personality of my husband and a sister in Islam from Malaysia: 

1] As affectionate and empathic individuals who care about the well-being of both loved ones and strangers, they are eager to help out, offer advice, and provide practical assistance whenever they can. 

2] They don't easily judge people according to their looks. They value inner beauty and reliability a lot more than superficial efforts to look "flawless". 

3] They're readily forgiving, resilient, and understanding. Mature ESFJs are not nosy, not impatient, and not annoyingly melodramatic. 

4] They diplomatically know when to be quiet and when to give somebody space. If a project or an agreement doesn't seem to be working out, they can effortlessly let go and try a different activity.

5] They are not people-pleasers. Confident Muslim ESFJs strive to prioritize pleasing Allah the Almighty instead of living their lives solely to meet everybody's demands. 

❎ Five characteristics which are common among unhealthy (insecure) ESFJs, from analyzing the overall attitude and mannerisms of some female acquaintances: 

1} Very often they readily display their emotions, negative or otherwise, without carefully thinking about the possible outcomes of their acts. 

2} Generally they tend to partake in toxic gossip and seemingly enjoy criticizing the lives of most people behind their backs, as if one's ego benefits from broadcasting people's flaws. 

3} They can be too impulsive when making unfair judgment about people according to their outward actions and appearance. 

4} If they dislike you due to intense jealousy or feel intimidated by your confidence, they can be obnoxiously uncommunicative, uncooperative, and unsupportive, or treat you disrespectfully in a passive-aggressive way. 

5} Envy is an unpleasant trait which most insecure ESFJs can struggle with. Seeing other individuals whom they don't regard as loved ones doing better than them in fields or activities they're trying to thrive in compels them to be loudly resentful, selfish, unreliable, needlessly competitive, and overly sensitive.

⭐ What you can do to connect with ESFJ personality types (ESFJ-A / ESFJ-T) if you are willing to get along, specially if they are family or neighbors: 

1) Occasionally do what you can to make it obvious that you have nothing against them and their values, without sacrificing your own dignity. 

2) When you overhear them gossiping or angrily ranting about so-and-so, if you genuinely care, try to approach them one-on-one and kindly advise them regarding why backbiting is something we must avoid for Allah's sake, as Muslims. Out of the 16 personality types, a lot of ESFJs tend to be stereotypically gossipy. 

3) While you frequently include them in your loving Du'as and compassionately correct them whenever they're wrong, patiently put up with their impulsivity, insecurities, and mistakes. Loved ones who are somewhat challenging to manage can train us to improve in applying patience and good character for Allah's sake. 

4) Ensure that you don't intentionally make them feel ignored or emotionally neglected. Some unhealthy ESFJs can quickly take offense if you haven't checked on them online and offline for several days. 

5) Always provide a justifiable reason if ever you cancel plans or did something which affected them negatively. Insecure ESFJs may start doubting themselves or your connection when dealing with misunderstandings and disappointments.

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-describing-my-husbands-personality.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/note-how-intj-wife-connects-with-her.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-on-self-discovery-and-mbti.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-what-each-personality-type-looks-like-when-they-are-unhealthy/ 

https://www.16personalities.com/articles/assertive-consul-esfj-a-vs-turbulent-consul-esfj-t