Tips: Some Things You Can Do To Make Sure You're Always In A Good Mood

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As a Muslim whose MBTI personality type is INTJ what are some things which you usually do to make sure that you remain in a good mood?

📝 Answer: 1] Increase in saying Dhikr (e.g. "SubhanAllah wa Bihamdih. SubhanAllah Al-'Atheem") and Istighfaar (say "AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem" as often as I can).

2] Frequently send salutations upon the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, specially more so on Fridays. 

"Allahumma salli 'alaa Muhammad wa 'alaa aali Muhammad, 

kamaa sallayta 'alaa Ibrahim wa 'alaa aali Ibrahim, 

Innaka Hameedun Majeed. 

Allahumma baarik 'alaa Muhammad wa 'alaa aali Muhammad, 

kamaa baarakta 'alaa Ibrahim wa 'alaa aali Ibrahim, 

Innaka Hameedun Majeed." 

3] Read at least two pages or any Surah from the Noble Qur'an every day and/or night. 

4] Contemplate, meditate and reflect upon Allah's beautiful creations while listening to some calming recitations from the Noble Qur'an. 

5] Listen to at least one recorded Khutbah / Jumuah Friday sermon in Arabic or English on YouTube. 

6] Listen to some Islamic lectures in Arabic or English language on YouTube, SoundCloud or Spreaker.

7] Read carefully selected articles, writings and blog posts online related to Islam, psychology and personality development. 

8] Occasionally visit some family members and relatives when I'm not busy. Spending quality time conversing or being playful with children, nephews and nieces. 

9] Feeding cats and petting them once in a while. 

10] Deliberately avoiding online and offline content which are toxic and negative, including meaningless vlogs of noisy YouTubers who aren't inspiring. Feeling a sense of accomplishment Alhamdulillah whenever I'm able to avoid gossipers, futile group conversations and untrustworthy individuals who emit bad vibes.

11] Taking naps in the daytime when necessary and trying to analyze the meanings behind a lot of my lucid dreams.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The Mufarridun (the isolated or those who like to isolate themselves) have gone ahead (in gaining rewards)." He was asked, "Who are the Mufarridun?" He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Those men and women who remember Allah much."

[Sahih Muslim]

Arabic/English book reference: Book 16, Hadith 1436 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: Love Doesn't Hurt If It's Lawful And Purely For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Love hurts? No. Love doesn't hurt when it's for Allah's sake. 

When loving the man whom Allah chose as your soulmate 

And travel partner to Jannah is not one bit fake, 

Your faith/Imaan level doesn't drop but escalates 

And though your spouse is busy, you don't go through heartaches. 

~•~ 

When love is real, all for Allah, not just "for display", 

You feel motivated to strive, you're willing to wait 

For your friend's return when he's been gone for many days, 

And patience is a trait you easily cultivate 

Which makes it easy to forgive when mistakes are made. 

~•~ 

"Love" hurts? Yes, when that "love" is toxic, clearly misplaced, 

Mispositioned, messed up, and designed to formulate 

Dangerous pathways to zina which Allah forbade,

Like lusting over someone whose gender is the same 

As yours or flirting with somebody you can't obtain.

~•~

Sinful "love" aches because it's from shaytan's silly games 

To distract you from thriving upon Allah's Straight Way. 

To defeat the devil's plots and not be led astray, 

Discard thorns of ignorance and bravely educate 

Yourself more about Islam to enhance Imaan/faith. 

~•~

If it must be done, from every "crush" stay far away, 

Lessen needless interactions and control your gaze. 

Distractions ditched for Allah can someday be replaced 

By rewards for patience you maintain each night and day, 

With Allah's Love and guarantee to reach Jannah's gates.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Tips: Seven Things Which Narcissists Can't Do And How To Recognize Them On Social Media

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things which many narcissists refuse to do because of kibr/arrogance: 

1] Most narcissists don't have the courage or actual confidence to do something which they're not entirely sure of because they fear the likelihood of embarrassment and making mistakes. They want people to witness that they're completely "perfect" and free from flaws. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

2] Since a lot of narcissists can't admit that they've made a mistake or misjudgment whenever they're clearly wrong about something, they hate making apologies. If self-interest or necessity compels them to say sorry, they'd apologize but begrudgingly while having no plans to rectify their errors. 

3] Seeing how narcissists generally get jealous of others, as they aspire to be "better than everybody", giving sincere compliments and words of encouragement are too difficult for them to do. 

4] Because narcissists care more about their selfish selves, ego and public image, they frequently invent lies or conceal certain truths to preserve positive reputation. Keeping your secrets, fulfilling promises, proving they're trustworthy, following through plans and defending you when you require support are from the challenging tasks which they won't do unless bribery is involved. 

5] Showing gratitude and thanking you for favors oftentimes cause them to feel "fake" or "artificial" because in reality they don't appreciate most people and can't genuinely thank you for what you can offer. A lot of narcissists are also too arrogant to ask for help, wrongly believing that "they don't need people at all, but people need them to survive". 

6] Narcissists typically reject admonitions and advice coming from anybody whom they perceive as "incompetent", "delusional", "uneducated", "insignificant" or "not up to standard" even if the tips they receive can improve their condition or religious well-being. 

7] Inability to attentively listen to people's problems, concerns and suggestions is common among those struggling with narcissism. If you send a message requesting them to advise you about something or asking them for a favor, they commonly leave you on "seen mode" or claim they'll get back to you later only to return after a long period of prideful silence and this time they're demanding you to pay attention to them. 

💻🚩 Three obvious signs of narcissists on social media: 

1] Frequent uploading of self-aggrandizing selfies and group photos a lot of which are filtered or photoshopped. 

2] Displaying interest in watching and sharing TikTok videos more than listening to beneficial Islamic lectures. 

3] Regularly gossiping or ranting on their online updates concerning individuals whom they can't stand. Collecting fans to dislike a particular individual through whining about them on their Facebook timelines, not with a motive to warn others against dangerous persons but to comfort their own emotional wounds. 

May Allah the Almighty forgive all of our faults and keep us away from every unpleasant characteristic which He dislikes including selfishness and kibr/arrogance. Ameen.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Three Reasons Why We Dislike Some Strangers And This Grudge Or Indifference Has Nothing To Do With Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why we dislike some strangers and this grudge, uneasiness, or lack of interest in wanting to befriend them has nothing to do with jealousy: 

1] Their name, overall appearance or general attitude reminds us of somebody who mistreated us in the past. Recalling a troublesome or disrespectful person every time you interact with a particular individual can reduce the willingness to get to know them better if you still haven’t solved certain misunderstandings. 

2] A lot of their life choices, behavior and actions remind you of toxic things you’re trying to avoid. If you value good character and integrity, it makes sense that you won’t gravitate to gossipers, actual narcissists, chronic liars, people who break promises repeatedly and who don’t take their responsibilities seriously. 

3] Indirectly they make you feel bad about a special loved one. If “A” reminds you of someone whom you love for Allah’s sake “B” in terms of their looks or temperament but “A” has notable qualities which “B” doesn’t, you may hesitate to connect with them on a more personal level if talking to them or following any of their online content makes you doubt your connection with “B”. It is not easy to network with souls who threaten your values and well-being in any way.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated:  Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The believer is not stung twice from the same hole.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782, Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Tips: Ways To Tell If Your Friend Or Acquaintance Is A Narcissist

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven signs indicating that your friend or acquaintance is narcissistic (actually arrogant), and it's wiser to minimize interactions with them: 

1] You've heard them gossip and talk badly about others more than once regarding their looks, mistakes, clumsiness, flaws, body odor, values which they don't approve of, weight gain etc. 

2] They seem to expect too much from you while not giving enough in return. They have a sense of entitlement, constantly expecting attention, sympathy, freebies, gifts and compliments from you while clearly not bothering to reciprocate your favors. 

3] Whenever you unintentionally upset or disappoint them, instead of making effort to understand your situation or kindly asking why you didn't follow through on a promise or agreement, they act childishly passive-aggressive, give you the silent treatment for several days, or carry out plans to teach you a lesson. Then after soothing their hurt ego, they behave as though there wasn't any drama. 

4] They try their best to always look flawless while not caring at all about how you appear, not because they genuinely appreciate inner beauty and a strong personality but because they want their overall image to outshine yours. 

5] They're awful listeners yet demand that you listen to all the supposedly fabulous stories they invent about themselves purposely designed to make you feel jealous or insecure. 

6] They frequently roll their eyes or scowl whenever you want to inform them something, as if they find your statements boring and insignificant. 

7] From their body language, unpleasant aura and disrespectful attitude towards you, it is easy to tell that they envy your life, confidence or achievements. You hardly receive congratulations and words of encouragement from them yet they expect you to treat them like VIPs 24/7 as if you're their compliant servant. 

AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty says: 'Might is My Garment and Grandeur is My Cloak; whoever competes with Me regarding any of them, I will punish him.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2620

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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