Note: Some Notes About Depression

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Depression may exist in those who lack energy, enthusiasm and motivation to get out of bed, preferring sleeping instead of dealing with the outside world. So a lot of them tend to cancel plans, take breaks from work, procrastinate, avoid socializing or stay isolated for long periods. It can also be present in those who try to keep themselves busy with many activities, intending to remain distracted with what makes them forget about their worries, problems and heavy responsibilities. Depression can be found in both people who don't have a lot of friends to count on and in celebrities who are surrounded by thousands of fans worldwide yet they feel empty inside as though there's something else that's missing.

Anyone from any social class in society, whether wealthy or financially struggling, can experience depression if they don't believe in Allah's Existence. Without knowing the main purpose of our creation, when things go wrong or we're dissatisfied with life from constant comparison, we may wrongfully start thinking there's no point in living. Inner joy, peace and contentment are all possible when we realize the reality of why Allah the Almighty created us, which is to live our lives to worship Only Allah until we see Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in Jannah for our faith/Imaan and sincere striving with patience.

Don't be depressed because of lacking trustworthy companions; you have Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who always listens and understands exactly how you're feeling.

Don't be saddened if the job you currently have doesn't allow you to get as rich as you wanted to be; what matters is you continue trying your best to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala patiently and care for your loved ones with halal income that also enables you to do charity when necessary.

Don't aim to collect money for a luxurious mansion in this temporary platform of examinations; this dunya is fleeting and your destination should be Jannatul Ferdaus where happiness and perfection are everlasting.

Whenever negative feelings of regret, anxiety and sorrow visit you, recall they're meant to expiate your sins as purification, remind you that you're human, and focus on attaining Allah's Love with more Dhikr, Du'as, prayers, acceptance of Allah's Qadr and good deeds like frequent Qur'an recitation. Furthermore, the more you dislike this world for whatever reason, see it as an encouragement to persistently strive to please Allah the Most Merciful until you're deserving of Jannah's entrance.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318, Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2807

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If the sins of a servant are numerous and he does not have good deeds to compensate, Allah will afflict him with sadness as an expiation for him."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 24708

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti

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Note: Random Facts About Oneself Survey (A to Z get-to-know-you questions)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 A-Z get-to-know-you questions, random survey, some facts about oneself: 

1] Adjective which accurately describes you: Loyal.

2] Breakfast you usually have: Bread and coffee. Alhamdulillah.  

3] Countries / cities you've been to: Alhamdulillah some of the places I've traveled to include 

Saudi Arabia, Malaysia (Kuala Lumpur, Langkawi, Pahang, Putrajaya), Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong, Thailand, France (Paris), England (London), Denmark (Copenhagen, Aalborg), Egypt (Cairo, Giza), USA (Washington DC, New York, Los Angeles California, Orlando Florida, Mississippi), UAE (Dubai, Abu Dhabi), at the airports only - Bangladesh, Bahrain, Qatar, Oman, Greece etc.

4] Dream you still recall: Seeing several Muslimahs in a large hall praying in different groups then walking away from the divided groupings and approaching an unidentified Muslimah wearing niqab and clad in all black who offered me a cup of tea or some warm beverage.

5] Error you've made in the past and you avoid it as much as possible: Making instant judgment about some people without being actually acquainted with them yet. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

6] Five qualities you want or admire in an ideal friend: 

Trustworthy, truthful, confident (not insecure nor prone to jealousy), ambitious (with notable goals) and supportive.

7] Gardening - do you enjoy it? I'm interested in it but haven't actually tried it yet. 

8] Helpful tip or advice from your dear parents: 

From my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) - Be kind and generous whenever you can. Don't stop fasting the Sunnah fasts. 

From my dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) - Be humble. Don't meddle in affairs which do not concern you.

9] Inspirational quote or Hadith you'd like to share: 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will make easy for him a path to Paradise."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

10] Joking or being playful with others - how often is it done?

Generally I'm serious and somewhat quiet around those whom I'm not close to. The more familiar I am with somebody, the more comfortable I am with showing my sense of humor now and then. 

11] Kindness - define it, in your own words. 

Kindness doesn't always signify giving out gifts and freebies to those whom one cares about, but to be kind is to maintain good manners and prevent oneself from treating people unjustly.

12] Love - explain it, from your perspective. 

When you truly love a Muslim for Allah's sake, including your spouse, you want them to succeed, thrive and be happy in both worlds, so patiently you help one another do the deeds which lead you to Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. 

13] Married - are you? If so, in what year did you marry? 

Alhamdulillah, yes I'm married. After rejecting several marriage proposals back in Saudi Arabia, my husband and I married in the year 2006. I was 20 while my husband was 28.

14] Nine turn-offs, awful attributes which cause you to be uninterested in wanting to befriend someone: 

1~ Numerous times they've proven to be dishonest and unreliable. 

2~ They are selfish and greedy opportunists.

3~ In general they behave like typical narcissists with overinflated ego.

4~ They are lazy, passive and unclear or not direct when communicating.

5~ They've made it evident that they're not very eager to learn more about Islam, attend Islamic classes or listen to beneficial lectures. 

6~ They are unconfident and seem to care too much about how society perceives them.

7~ Occasionally they partake in gossip and readily believe in rumors.

8~ You can sense that they're jealous of you by their frequent eye-rolls, disrespectful conduct, and unreliability.

9~ A lot of times they mistrust you and suspect your motives.

15] Opinion you have which a lot of individuals disagree with: 

I believe that if a Muslim husband is financially, emotionally and responsibly capable, he has the right to be married to up to four wives regardless of their tribe and nationality. 

16] Personality MBTI and/or enneagram type: 

INTJ 1w9 Alhamdulillah.

17] Question you frequently ask others: 

"How are you?", "Are you sure?" and "Why?"

18] Rainy or sunny weather, which do you prefer? Rainy weather. Alhamdulillah, there are more blessings especially when you say Du'a during rainfall. 

19] Subjects you disliked in school: Math and chemistry. 

20] Teacher's name whom you still remember: 

Abla Salwa at Al-Yamama National School in Riyadh city. She was one of the kindest teachers I've met. 

21] Unappealing quality or bad habit common among some individuals but which you refrain from: 

The urge to gossip or spread a Muslim's secrets. 

22] Vegetables you enjoy eating: Pumpkin, cucumbers, potatoes.

23] Weird fact about you: 

Alhamdulillah it's easy for me to emotionally detach from certain individuals. 

24] Ex-friends - do you have any? If so, what did you learn from disconnecting? 

Alhamdulillah yes. I've learned that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the Only One Whom we can fully trust, and that a friendship can't last long if one of the individuals is envious.

25] Year 2020 - what have you learned from it? 

To maintain strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while being carefully selective about the content you absorb online and offline.

26] Zoom application - when was the last time you used it? 

Maybe some time ago. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Hadith: A Recommended Du'a To Recite Frequently Before Sleeping

📖 Al-Baraa’ ibn ‘Aazib RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When you go to sleep, perform ablution (wudhoo) as (you do so) for your prayer, then lie down on your right side and say: 'O Allah, I submit my face to You, I entrust my affair to You, and I commit myself to You, in hope and in fear of You. There is no refuge or place of safety but with You. I believe in the Book which You have revealed, and in the Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) whom You have sent.' Then, the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Make these your last words. If you died in this night of yours, you will have died upon (the fitrah) pure nature."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6311, Sahih Muslim 2710

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Tips: Some Advice On How Not To Feel Nervous Or Tense Around "Attractive" People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Some advice on how not to feel tense or nervous around individuals whom you find "attractive", good-looking or "intimidating":

1] Learn to control your gaze, refrain from staring at them unnecessarily, and quit putting them on a pedestal. Don't overestimate their agreeable qualities. Never assume they're 100% "perfect" nor guess you don't have what it takes to be up to their level. 

2] Recall that despite their tall height, supposedly good looks or impressive credentials, ultimately we are all slaves of Allah the Almighty and He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala will always be above us. 

3] Remind yourself that they're similar to you in terms of being humans with their own sets of flaws, shortcomings, struggles they often go through, problems to solve, worries and other emotions they occasionally feel. Now and then they excrete body wastes and perspire like you do. Why worry too much about appearing "flawless" when they themselves have countless imperfections?

4] Acknowledge the fact that even if you perceive them as "unique", "awe-inspiring" or "outstanding", somebody else or a number of Muslims around the world may still outdo or surpass them in many ways. Don't treat them as though they're the most exceptional and invincible entity you've ever encountered. Even if they sometimes behave as though they're entitled to preferential treatment, maintain proper manners with them without underestimating yourself and denying the gifts which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to grant you. 

5] Keep a strong connection with Allah the Most Powerful, strengthen your faith/Imaan further by continuously seeking authentic Islamic knowledge sincerely for Allah's sake whenever you can, and strive to please only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala rather than desperately wanting to be seen as part of the "in-crowd" or someone who's "appealing". Confidently believe that your overall success in both worlds is not dependent on any of Allah's servants.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Tips: Five Things We Must Not Expect From Actual Narcissists

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Five things we should not expect from somebody who is struggling from actual kibr / narcissism: 

1🌼 Truth: 

A lot of narcissists like to invent supposedly remarkable stories about themselves most of which aren't true, intending to make themselves appear "special" or "superior" to individuals whom they're secretly envious of. 

❎ For example: A narcissistic woman in her fifties frequently brags to her neighbors that she worked as a photographer for a magazine in the middle east, while in reality she was employed as a housemaid in Saudi Arabia for only two years. Her lies are designed to inflate her own ego, as she can't afford to be truthful concerning her previous occupation. 

2🌼 Support / sympathy / words of encouragement: 

Since narcissists are typically more concerned about their wants than others' needs, they're unable to display empathy for anybody unless that individual can clearly benefit them in numerous ways. 

❎ For example: A narcissistic "friend" almost never shares your online posts regarding your halal business or affordable items you're showcasing for sale because they don't want you to succeed in any way.

3🌼 Sincere apologies: 

The pride or ego of a typical narcissist is usually so enormous that they are misled to assume they're too "flawless" and "infallible" to commit a single mistake. Their deluded attitude prevents them from courageously acknowledging their faults and saying sorry whenever they are aware of having done something wrong. 

❎ For example: A narcissistic professor or instructor who publicly scolded you some time ago for something they wrongly assumed about you wouldn't bother reaching out to you to apologize, even if they realized after the incident that they are actually the one who is at fault.

4🌼 Strength to forgive and accept an apology: 

If a typical narcissist is too proud and too cowardly to sincerely apologize, likewise they'd be too egotistical, too selfish, and too insecure to pardon you. 

❎ For example: A narcissistic cousin with whom you had an argument about a particular topic, whether serious or trivial, pridefully refuses to communicate with you because they're still offended by your opposition to their views.

5🌼 Actual good character/ integrity / reliability: 

Although some narcissists seem eloquent and charismatic, if you really spend time around them, you'd witness that they truly lack decent manners, they're mostly unreliable, and they'd treat you disrespectfully whenever an opportunity arises.

❎ For example: Narcissist colleagues purposely ignoring your salaams while answering others' greetings "cordially", "clumsily" bumping your shoulder when walking by, and refraining from responding to most of your messages so you can feel as sorrowful as they are, conducting themselves obnoxiously because these narcissists can't stand feeling so jealous of you.

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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