بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Sunday, June 26, 2022

Tips: Five Things Which Insecure Females Do And How To Deal With Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Five things which an insecure female may do when she's jealous or intimidated by you, whether she's in her teens, twenties, thirties, forties etc.: 
1] Because she is insecure and envious, she finds it too difficult to congratulate when you achieve something, show support when you can benefit from some words of encouragement, and offer genuinely helpful tips when you ask for advice. 
2] She acts obnoxiously quiet and distant when you're thriving or in a good mood, yet when somebody criticizes you publicly or makes a joke at your expense, she quickly laughs and gets entertained by witnessing you in distress. 
3] Because noticing you happy saddens her, as she envies you, she'd do whatever it takes to depress, demotivate and demoralize you, for example by frequently ignoring your messages on a group chat or setting up a large social event, sleepover or outing while deliberately leaving you out. She's shamelessly desperate to upset you in any way so that your "sadness", "loneliness" or disappointments can prevent you from functioning well, attaining your goals, and succeeding in both worlds. 
4] She gossips about your flaws, faults and any of your attributes which she despises whenever she has the chance, assuming that by cowardly belittling you behind your back, the people who listen to her silly gossip would perceive her as more "superior". 
5] Spitefully she tries to keep track of your social media posts through somebody else's profile or a fake account, so she can amuse herself by reading negative news you share or nosily amass certain info which compel her to become more competitive jealously. 
➡️ How to deal with very insecure jealous females: 
1] Don't expect good manners, integrity, and support from them. 
2] Don't get surprised if they disappear from groups where you're discussed or mentioned positively, and when critics scold or make fun of you, they giggle and act talkative suddenly. 
3] Never feel affected, offended and bothered by their rudeness and frequent exclusion of you. Don't show them the kind of reaction they desperately want whenever they carry out their little tactics to disturb your inner peace which they really envy. 
4] Never doubt your own worth even after you've discovered that they've been gossiping about you. If they ridicule you for some aspects, recall how blessed you are, Alhamdulillah, that you don't struggle from their insecurities and inward misery which trigger their lousy conduct and rudeness. 
5] For Allah's sake, avoid needlessly socializing with them and don't bother stalking their social media accounts. If you stumble upon their comments or status updates, swiftly ignore and skip reading the entire content, as though briskly walking past unnecessary items on stores which don't interest you at all. 
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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

Links: The Importance Of Hajj / Pilgrimage




Hadith: Warning Against Wailing, Being Impatient With Allah's Qadr/Decree And Crying Too Loudly Over The Deceased

Allah the Almighty knows best. 

📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him." (Refrain from wailing or crying too loudly over those who have returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.)
Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292
In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379 
📖 1657. 'Umar bin Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is (punished) tortured in his grave for the bewailing (of the living) over him."
[Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim] 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-seven-things-to-do-to-respect.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-stages-of-bereavement-and-some.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-some-advice-on-how-to-deal-with.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-some-notes-regarding-doing-good.html 
https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/5701/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AC%D9%85%D8%B9-%D8%A8%D9%8A%D9%86-%D9%88%D9%84%D8%A7-%D8%AA%D8%B2%D8%B1-%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%B2%D8%B1%D8%A9-%D9%88-%D8%A7%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D9%8A%D8%AA-%D9%8A%D8%B9%D8%B0%D8%A8-%D8%A8%D8%A8%D9%83%D8%A7%D8%A1-%D8%A7%D9%87%D9%84%D9%87 

Saturday, June 25, 2022

Tips: When To Forgive And Move On. When To Forgive And Reconcile.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Oftentimes when you argue with some oversensitive individuals or those with bad intent in trying to connect with you from the beginning, they blurt out all of their actual perceptions of you and mention remarks which they'd later regret revealing. Although it is not easy for everybody, it is encouraged to forgive other Muslims for Allah's sake just as we too would want Allah the Almighty to pardon our shortcomings when we seek His Forgiveness. In spite of that, being lenient and forgiving shouldn't compel us to stay connected with individuals whose presence brings more damage than merit. 
📨 When can we simply forgive a person and move on, without bothering to salvage the toxic "friendship" (we don't want anything to do with them anymore)?
1] If they mentioned something like "so it's true what those people said" or "so-and-so told me such-and-such about you. I see they're right" during the argument. You can't form meaningful connections with resentful gossipers who enjoy backbiting and believe in the validity of nonsensical rumors. 
2] If they lack courage or integrity to clearly clarify their misconduct, or they respond to your questions with other queries such as "What about so-and-so? They did what I did. Why don't you scold them or condemn their acts also?", "Do you know that there are many others who did a lot worse than what I did?" and "Why do you act like you're the only perfect human being? I did what I did for a reason." You can never trust anybody who is too egotistical, prideful, selfish, greedy, or narcissistic to admit their mistakes and take responsibility for their actions. 
3] If you realized they shamefully lied to you on more than one occasion. For instance, you requested them one day if they could accompany you to go shopping, and they cheerfully agreed. You asked them on the same day if they were really willing to join you outdoors and they reassured that you weren't causing any inconvenience. However, after you confront them about an abominable mistake they could've refrained from, they suddenly accuse you of being inconsiderate because once upon a time, you "made" them feel obliged to accompany you for shopping while they actually had more important tasks to do. Avoid building friendships with people who are not truthful, not trustworthy, and not transparent enough concerning how they truly feel. You can't gain anything valuable by talking to someone who willfully conceals certain truths from you, and they're more concerned about their own greed than rectifying themselves to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
✅ When can you forgive a Muslim for Allah's sake and consider reconciliation? 
1] If they expressed that they were genuinely sorry and shed tears, or they were teary-eyed while apologizing.
2] If they eagerly promise to not repeat what they did while you notice positive change in their overall behavior. 
3] If they apologized to you one-on-one plus they recruited some mutual acquaintances to apologize to you on their behalf. 
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 
Sahih Muslim 2998 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi  

Links: Explanation Of The Book "Kitaab At-Tawheed" (Speaker ustadh Abu Muadh Taqweem)



PDF Document e-book "Concise Commentary On The Book Kitaab At-Tawheed" by sheikh Saleh Al-Fawzaan (to learn more about Islam for Allah's sake, not for sale)

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=a3HQZQeGEUE&list=PLodS-V1Zb6SNCoTVUKO6tsFrTb-4-Dlgf&index=1