Source: Sahih Muslim 560
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to
Islamic reminders, Hadith, notes, poems, poetry, lessons, reflections etc.
بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.
Friday, July 15, 2022
Hadith: Importance Of Making Sure That One Isn't Too Famished Or Distracted While Praying
Thursday, July 14, 2022
Note: Feel Unsurprised And Unfazed When Someone Removes You From A Facebook Group Chat Or Some Online Forums
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📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how do you usually react when a user removes you from a Facebook group chat or bans you from an online forum?
📝 Answer: Not surprised, not offended and not bothered at all (Alhamdulillah), especially if I never even checked the messages at that group chat and I don't have the slightest care and curiosity regarding what its members were discussing.
If I were an active participant, regularly posting messages at that group chat, I'd guess I was either deleted by mistake or the admin removed me as a member because I wasn't participating enough or they couldn't stand the kind of posts I was frequently sharing etc. Regardless of what the reason behind my expulsion was, I'd understand they have every right to select which members stay in the group and which ones need to be discharged to abide by the group's guidelines, because that's something I myself may do if I managed my own group chat and found the presence of certain users unnecessary.
Once I discover that a user deleted me from a group chat which I was never genuinely interested in joining, I'd delete the whole message thread so I don't have to bother with frequently noticing the group's name each time I check the inbox and recalling trifles which are completely irrelevant to me. If ever I encounter somebody online or offline who's part of that group chat, I would obstinately desist from asking them any question related to topics discussed in the group I was deleted from. Why bother attempting to gain more information on something which fails to inspire you to become a better Muslim and chattering about it won't do anything to improve the quality of your overall lifestyle?
As long as we strive to maintain strong connection with our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, being rejected or despised by any of His servants, particularly those whose values are massively different from ours, isn't a big deal.
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📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318
Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📑 Note: Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, recite Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a~
Tips: If You're Single And Interested In Marrying
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📜 Question: What advice can you give to an unmarried Muslimah who feels very eager to marry a seemingly pious Muslim man, whether he is already married or still single?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best.
1] Cautiously analyze your feelings of attraction and try to figure out why you find this guy attractive. If his outward good looks, physique and personality are what cause you to feel attracted, but he lacks sufficient qualities to be worthy of being your husband in the future, then alter your overall perception of him, for Allah's sake abstain from interacting with each other as much as possible, and consider him as just a distraction from your goals if he doesn't have the guts to carry out a marriage proposal in a halal way.
2] If you adamantly sense that you can
Inn-sha-Allah become happier and more successful in both worlds as this Muslim's future wife, then inform your parents about your serious interest in marrying a man whom you believe is a nice match for you.
They can Inn-sha-Allah assist you in arranging your marriage to him at the most befitting time.
If your mother and father aren't alive, you may consult your paternal male relatives (male mahrams from your father's side, not your mother's side as they're not as closely related to you as your father's male relatives) starting from your (paternal) grandfather, brother / brothers, half brother / half brothers, paternal uncles, paternal nephews (sons of one's brother from the same father) etc.
If not one paternal male mahram is available to be your waliyy (guardian), your maternal grandfather and uncles may help you with marrying the Muslim whom you wish to marry for Allah's sake, in case a Muslim leader who is more qualified and suitable to act as your waliyy (guardian) isn't around to assist with the matrimonial rites. Allah the Most Wise knows best.
3] Remember to pray the two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara before informing a male mahram (your father, grandfather, brother etc.) regarding your willingness to marry a certain individual whom they can speak to directly.
If things work out and your father, grandfather, brothers etc. informed you that the man is willing to be your spouse then Alhamdulillah. If not, then patiently accept Allah's Qadr / Decree and understand that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has better plans for you.
📜 Note: Even if you and that man become officially engaged, you still can't go on "dates" nor meet in seclusion since you're not yet connected until the advent of the actual Nikaah / Waleemah / marriage ceremony.
4] If the man whom you're interested in marrying for Allah's sake happens to be the brother of a close friend of yours, you may discuss the matter with her after you've prayed Salat Al-Istikhaara. Never log in to her social media accounts pretending to be her with the motive to persuade him to consider you as his future wife. Lies, deception and bad intentions are obstacles to a blessed marriage life.
5] Even prior to considering a decent Muslim as your future husband and potential soulmate, do what you can for Allah's sake to ensure that you likewise have the characteristics which are necessary to being an ideal partner and righteous Muslim wife. Don't be one of those immodest females who enjoy uploading selfies and photos of themselves intending to search for the "perfect" guy.
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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not resisting or complaining) is her consent."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6946
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Wednesday, July 13, 2022
Hadith: For Allah's Sake Make Sure That You Perform Wudhoo / Ablution As Properly As You Can
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Remain upright (steadfast, firm upon the truth) though you cannot encompass it entirely. Know that the best of your good deeds is the prayer and that none preserves his ablution but a believer (only the true believers strive to perform wudhu/ablution as properly as they can)."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 277
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Al-Nawawi said, “Our scholars agreed upon the recommendation to renew ablution, which is that one with ablution later performs it again, without having lost his ritual purification.”
Source: Al-Majmū’ Sharḥ Al-Muhadhab 1/469
Note: Don't Compare Your Marriage Life To Other Love Stories
💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 Not everyone has the same love story. I remember my dear mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) telling me how my father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) used to make many attempts to court her, like the typical romantic Maranao guy with classic bell-bottoms back in the 80s, but she would reject every one of his efforts to gain her attention until he had the courage to speak to her family to officially seek her hand in marriage. Alhamdulillah my parents got married, visited several countries around the world including the US and UK, networked with Da'ees like Bilal Philips and AbdurRahman Dimashqiah, wrote several Islamic books together which were published by Darussalam Bookstores, and although their very first son passed away before I was born Alhamdulillah they did an excellent job at raising me and my brothers with a strict but worthwhile upbringing. Before my mom died from cancer she requested my dad to remarry so their kids can have a stepmother. My father however chose to have her as his only wife until after some months it was Allah's Qadr that my dad passed away following her. I believe his medical complications were also due to severe sadness from being a widower.
I pray that Allah the Most Merciful reunites my dear parents in Jannatul Ferdaus and accepts all their good deeds with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.
My husband's mother from what I know got married when she was around 14 or 15 years old. Alhamdulillah she and her husband, who happens to be my uncle (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) since I married my cousin, were able to have twelve children together Alhamdulillah, with one baby boy that passed away before my husband was born.
My brother Ahmad since he was a baby was engaged to get married in the future to his childhood friend whom we'll nickname "A". A's mother and my mother gave birth at almost the same time in 1988 Dammam (northeastern Saudi Arabia). Because they were close friends, they promised they would let their babies (boy and girl) get married when they become adults. However since Allah's Plans always overtake His servants', that plan didn't take place. Thus my brother Ahmad got married to our paternal cousin who's around three years older than him. Alhamdulillah they currently have five adorable kids, whereas A is married to a Saudi guy whom she met in Malaysia and has one beautiful half-Saudi half-Filipino daughter at the moment.
My brother AbdurRahman, with Allah's Will, was the one who got married to his childhood friend Eemaan. They were never close though as little kids, but our families regularly attended the same gatherings back in Riyadh city. I pray that Allah the Most Loving blesses them with many pious Muslim children. Ameen.
My love journey is a complicated one, but Alhamdulillah every struggle comes with a set of lessons learned from whatever we experience. In my teens I received several marriage proposals, one coming from a religious Pakistani guy, one from a Filipino Muslim who was employed in Madinah at that time, one from a Filipino residing in USA, and another from a childhood friend whose name is like one of my brothers Abdul-Rahman. I rejected them all, claiming this one was too baby-faced, that one was too shy, this one was younger than me and I preferred an older guy. After some time my mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) with her motherly instincts thought I was having a haraam connection with one of my former best friends, but that wasn't the case, we just enjoyed talking to each other on the phone a lot. Because she was worried I might turn into a "lesbian" (no, I'm not gay, queer, or bisexual), which is probably why in her opinion I kept saying no to the marriage proposals I was getting, she and my dad finally got me arranged to marry my first cousin, a medical doctor. So Alhamdulillah in Shawwal 2006 I got married at age 20 to my cousin who was 28 then. Since I grew up in Saudi Arabia while he was raised in Mindanao, we saw each other like complete strangers in the beginning and Alhamdulillah we learned more about love along the way. When I was around 26 years old I became his first wife when he married this Visayan lady who's one year older than me. Alhamdulillah through this marriage I became more enthusiastic and supportive of polygyny after doing extensive research on its virtues and benefits.
Another brief love story I want to mention is that of a childhood friend who divorced her husband after having one daughter with him. Several years later they remarried and Alhamdulillah they're able to have more children. Another older acquaintance, a mother of one of our students here at Wisdom Islamic School, also divorced her husband at one point but after a number of years went by, they remarried and had more kids with Allah's Will.
Never compare your love journey to others' marriage lives, as our Qadr, capabilities and roles are not exactly the same. What makes a marriage blessed isn't the couple's large number of children nor how much money the head of the family makes, but what really adds blessings and barakah to your marital life is genuine love for Allah's sake. A marriage is a blessing from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it protects both wife and husband from getting into zina / forbidden relationships, and if it trains you to embrace patience / Sabr and gratitude / Shukr thereby completing the other half of your Deen and leading you to Jannah Paradise where the sincere believers can enjoy perfect and flawless love for eternity.
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, then get married. Verily, it restrains the eyes and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast (Sunnah fasts) as it is a means of control."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806
Sahih Muslim 1400
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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