Poem: Divorce Is Permissible But It's Despicable To Me

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 While divorce for some females symbolizes "freedom" 

And "the best choice" to "escape" from a "loveless romance", 

I view it as a testament and confirmation

That an ex-wife's love wasn't real from the beginning. 

If it were true, she'd find solutions to stay with him.

~•~

While most regard divorce as the "correct decision" 

If the spouses can't deal with disputes, discontentment, 

And frequent absence, I see it as an evidence 

That they weren't determined enough to keep fighting

For their marriage and overall they lacked inner strength.

~•~

While divorce shows "courage" according to some women, 

To me it indicates cowardice and impatience, 

Selfishness in having too many expectations, 

Insincerity when defeated by distractions, 

And banality when unable to solve problems.

~•~

With the fact that divorce is lawful I've no problem. 

It's illogical though for a man and his woman 

To agree on breaking the beautiful connection,

Which Allah the Most Wise destined, for trivial reasons. 

Why disconnect a link when it's clearly a blessing?

~•~

Why follow the crowd that decides based on emotions? 

Why treat marriage like half-finished meals thrown by children

Who don't know the importance of proper consumption? 

If your spouse can get toxic, don't quickly discard them. 

Train them to improve and wait for their development.

~•~

Your husband ain't food that you can throw in the dustbin

When loving him can't be done to your satisfaction. 

He's a human, just like you, with flaws and shortcomings. 

Pass Allah's tests in marriage with lots of trust in Him 

And with the sort of patience that won't think of quitting. 

~•~

While divorce is viewed by some as the "right solution" 

To incompatibility and disappointments, 

I perceive it as a cowardly move or action 

Confirming that one's love wasn't really genuine. 

Links which lead to Allah shouldn't be quickly broken. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." 

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-never-compare-your-halal-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-why-i-despise-divorce-even-though.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-dear-husband-thank-you-loving-you.html

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Tips: Always Trust Allah The Almighty And You Can Cope Better With Social Anxiety

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five tips to cope better with social anxiety, 

Or social phobia, when you feel scared excessively 

Of socializing or being judged negatively, 

Feeling like people are always staring intently, 

Mostly unable to rest due to fears and worries:

~•~

One: As His servant, fear Only Allah Almighty 

Who controls all things, including Qadr/Destiny. 

Don't let your fear of people's judgment and enmity 

Stop you from serving Allah and striving to succeed. 

Concern with people's views mustn't become blasphemy.

~•~

Two: People care more about themselves generally. 

So while at times you wonder, "What do they think of me? 

Am I presentable? Did I behave decently?", 

Some question their choices or conduct similarly. 

Why impress humans who are not perfect entirely?

~•~

Three: Say the morning and evening Adhkaar frequently. 

A stable connection with Allah can guarantee 

Stronger levels of faith/Imaan, healthy self-esteem 

So you don't deem yourself unhappy or unworthy, 

And you seek Allah's Love, not fellow slaves' flattery.

~•~

Four: Understand if you cancel an activity, 

Like asking questions during class for more clarity 

Or correcting someone's mistake done innocently, 

All because of shyness, you miss out abundantly 

On the rewards of kindness and enjoining good deeds.

~•~

Five: Negative thoughts such as, "Shut up, you're nobody. 

Don't bother talking. You'll sound nervous, unclear and weird.

Keep pretending to be busy, so they won't come near." 

Stem from our enemy shaytan who wants us to fear 

Other creations to commit shirk indirectly.

~•~

Fear just Allah Who made us, grants guidance and can shield, 

Our Creator Allah Who owns all worlds, skies and seas. 

When you feel anxious around a strict boss, skilled colleagues, 

Or someone who displays more outstanding qualities, 

Calmly breathe and tell yourself, "Allah is Greater. HasbunAllah wa Ne'm Al-Wakeel.".

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever among you sees evil, let him change it with his hand (by stopping it physically). If he is unable to do so, then with his tongue (verbally, by warning or speaking against that wrongdoing). If he is unable to do so, then with his heart (by at least hating the sin instead of admiring the wrongdoers), and that is the weakest level of faith." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 49 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-when-to-have-shyness.html

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Poem: What True Love Is And What Love Isn't

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 True love, from my perspective, is felt for Allah's sake. 

It's to be contented with the man whom Allah gave 

As one's spouse, travel buddy to Jannah's lofty gates, 

And friend with whom one's secrets in most cases stay safe. 

Love doesn't need to be "give and take" each night and day. 

~•~

Love ain't "Do this for me; I'll do exactly the same." 

Or "Be what I expect you to be, do what I say,

And don't talk to females besides me or you shall pay.". 

True love is devoid of threats, precisely equal weights, 

And scrutiny of every word which one's soulmate states."

~•~

Love isn't "If your love is real, put it on display, 

Upload photos of us both enjoying fancy dates, 

And sweet feelings for each other frequently proclaim.". 

Love can be quiet, proven when your dear husband prays 

For you while you likewise lovingly mention his name.

~•~

Love doesn't cause you to be arrogant or ashamed.

When your husband errs, you quickly forgive his mistakes, 

Aware that he's human. For his progress you can wait. 

Genuine love, in my opinion, strengthens your faith 

And inspires you to love Allah much more than His slaves. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." 

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-happens-when-allah-most-wise.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-vs-toxic.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-i-love-my-husband-for-allahs-sake.html 

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Poem: Advice On Dealing With Some People Who Are Too Difficult To Like

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 "What tips can you share regarding those whom you despise, 

While your dislike isn't just due to their lousy vibes, 

But you loathe them too since they've lied to you many times, 

Or you can't stand how they like to gossip and backbite, 

And being near them causes cheerful moods to decline?"

~•~

Visualize them as pesky flies. Each time they fly by, 

Depart from their vicinity, or when they're nearby 

Don't bother asking them questions on personal life, 

And never consider requesting for their advice. 

Lions do not require favors from insects to thrive. 

~•~

If you know their Facebook profiles, do not feel obliged

To check what they upload as most content could be lies 

Or they post snide insults aimed at you as deep inside 

They're jealous of you, and their envy can't be denied. 

Don't build connections with those on whom you can't rely. 

~•~

Avoiding toxic people doesn't imply foul pride, 

But you're shunning distractions, don't wish to be beguiled

Into committing wrongs which bar you from Paradise, 

And time is too precious to waste on what's not worthwhile - 

Time-wasters who leave you feeling "drained" or "uninspired".

~•~

If there are certain souls with whom you can't reconcile

As your differences are more vast than river Nile, 

Don't oppress yourself through bullying with undue spite. 

Maintain good manners like you were trained to be upright. 

Choose your close friends carefully without being unkind.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me: "O young man, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor (grudge) from your heart towards anyone, then do so." 

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2678

Grade: Hasan

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-how-mature-adults-and-muslims.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-5-kinds-of-people-who-dont-deserve.html 

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Tips: Five Clear Signs That Your Husband Is Emotionally Mature

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Five clear signs that your husband is emotionally mature: 

1] For Allah's sake he strives to avoid conflict. As much as possible he stays away from aimless arguments and childishly quarreling with individuals who are a lot younger than him. 

2] He tries his best to treat Muslimahs well, including his wife/wives, mother and other female relatives. An "adult" male would be awfully immature and actually unmasculine if he frequently criticizes, disrespects and gets back at females, as he is obnoxiously oversensitive. Doing so would prove that his despicable ego is a lot more gigantic than his ability to have patience with women. 

3] He refrains from using social media for the wrong purposes, nosily stalking users' accounts with awful feelings of resentment, and spying on others' lives - aimlessly watching vlogs of actors who can't inspire him to become a wiser human being or obnoxiously interfering with matters which don't have a single thing to do with him. 

4] He has admirable capability to be gentle, funny, charismatic, empathic and lovingly playful with children, while he does what he can to educate his child/kids about good etiquettes. 

5] He is genuinely interested in becoming a better Muslim, ensuring that he prays in the Masjid for Allah's sake regularly while being receptive to reminders to seek and apply authentic Islamic knowledge with Ikhlaas / sincerity. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I enjoin you to treat women well, for the woman was created from a rib and the most curved part of the rib is its highest point. If you try to straighten it, you will break it. If you leave it as it is, it will remain bent. Thus, I enjoin you to be good to the women."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3153

Sahih Muslim 1468

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children, and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719

Sahih Muslim 1829

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

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