Poem: Be Patient Enough To Keep Secrets.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Despite the fact some think I'm too chatty or open,
Most of my thoughts, feelings and dreams remain unspoken.
Extremely few can be regarded as a close friend,
And even with them I don't disclose all sentiments.
~•~
I could be very talkative if I wanted to,
Sharing what I've seen in a dream so it's understood,
Expressing every worry, idea, point of view,
And whatever info I've gathered from random news.
~•~
But then again by speaking recklessly I just lose,
Exposing myself to those who lack moral virtues,
Who may twist my words, gossip, or have them misconstrued,
Or take offense so they turn to strangers I once knew.
~•~
So instead of texting this person and that daily,
Revealing to them intimate reflections freely,
I suppress the urge to open up, and silently
Transfer my worries to say Du'a contentedly.
~•~
Only Allah knows about the emotions I feel,
My concerns, my fears, and secrets I cannot reveal.
Allah, I believe, is the One Who listens and heals.
Trust none but Allah, even if people's lips are sealed.
~•~
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi (Fair due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Most of the sins of the children of Adam (humans) are on their tongues."
Ibn Mas’ud said, “O tongue! Speak goodness and be rewarded, or remain silent and be safe, lest you become regretful.”
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 10300
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Aswad ibn Asram RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, advise me.” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Can you control your tongue?” I said, “But what do I control if I cannot control my tongue?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Can you control your hands?” I said, “But what do I control if I cannot control my hands?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not say anything on your tongue except what is right, and do not stretch out your hand except to do good."
Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 2867
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: On Loving Righteous Muslims For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Around the world are souls whom I love for Allah's sake,
I gravitate to them as plants lean to the sun's rays.
Their love for Allah and strong faith are what captivate,
So I'm inspired to pray for them nearly night and day.
~•~
Though to some I haven't told they're loved for Allah's sake,
Guessing they're too busy, or they reside far away,
Or they'll find me strange, or the feelings are not the same,
My love is shown in Du'as when I pronounce their names.
~•~
Other ways in which love for Allah's sake is portrayed
Include defending them when some gossip and defame,
Checking on them once in a while, hoping they're okay,
Concealing their secrets, and correcting their mistakes.
~•~
I love them lots for Allah for how they motivate
Me to learn Islam, be more cautious of what I say,
To stay patient, fast Sunnah fasts every other day,
And to avoid bid'ah so I do not go astray.
~•~
Although my affection may not be clearly displayed,
Only Allah knows that I do love them for His sake.
This love lacks extreme attachment but gives needed space,
Freedom to strive together towards Allah's Straight Way.
~•~
📖 Al-Miqdam ibn Ma’di RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When one of you loves his brother, let him know."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2392
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you will not have faith until you love each other. Shall I show you something that, if you did, you would love each other? Spread peace between yourselves."
Source: Sahih Muslim 54
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the prophets and the martyrs.'"
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2390
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Notes: Tips On How To Deal With Insults And Criticism

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Note: Insults are hateful remarks meant to upset you.
Some of them are just lies, while others may contain truth.
The following are tips to deal with verbal abuse,
From one who can't vibe with those who are unkind and rude:
~•~
When told you're "useless", "unproductive", "good for nothing",
Let them know you serve Only Allah, not His servants.
To obey Allah, you don't need people's agreement.
Keep serving Allah in spite of His slaves' derision.
~•~
When numbers claim you're "ugly", "plain", or "not good-looking",
Let inner beauty glow with patience and contentment,
Thank Allah Who preordained your unique appearance,
And know your critics too are flawed with imperfections.
~•~
When notified you reek or emit perspiration,
Affirm their judgment and know they're not always fragrant,
Liquids their bodies release don't have flowery scent.
Their self-hate is proven when they bash other humans.
~•~
When informed you're "poor", "so weird", "boring" or "ignorant",
Respond to eye-rolls and censure with indifference.
Clearly they don't know you. Facts differ from assumptions.
Aim to please Allah. Don't entertain false opinions.
~•~
Regard each insult as a tool for self-improvement,
Or take it as a remedy to strengthen patience.
So what if some foes hate you? Welcome their rejection,
Source of inspiration to have your Imaan strengthened.
~•~
Know that shunning those who toy around with our feelings
Is wise training to trust Allah and seek His Guidance,
While enhancing our aptitude to abandon sins.
The One Who can judge us is Allah the All-Knowing.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him not harm his neighbor."
And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him uphold family ties."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672, Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not cause harm or return harm. Whoever harms others, Allah will harm him. Whoever is harsh with others, Allah will be harsh with him."
Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 11070
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Harithah ibn Wahb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Shall I not tell you about the inhabitants of Paradise? Every meek, humble person, but if they swore an oath by Allah, he would fulfill it. Shall I not tell you about the inhabitants of Hellfire? Every cruel, rude, and arrogant person."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4634, Sahih Muslim 2853
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: It Takes Lots Of Strength To Be A Loyal Wife.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Where there is love for Allah's sake, there will be some fights -
Frequent battles against my nafs and furious desires,
Fighting back the tears that focus on what is not right,
Striving to fulfill my goal to be a faithful wife.
~•~
Where there's darkness, I remind myself, there will be light,
Like glowing stars smiling brightly in dark skies at night.
If my spouse ever makes me cry, myself I'd advise
To stay strong for Allah, stay as my man's loyal wife.
~•~
Where sadness lingers, somehow joy follows with delight,
With lots of patience each time I wait and sacrifice.
Comforting my soul with trust in Allah and His Might,
I tell myself, "Sabran ya nafsee, be that strong wife."
~•~
Where there's confusion, explanation can come to light,
Through supplications to Allah every day and night.
As trials arise and life becomes more dramatized,
I recall my aim to be my man's devoted wife.
~•~
Where there are difficulties, there's blessing in disguise.
After hardship comes ease. Never give up. Try, then strive.
Allah may want to raise your status in Paradise,
By testing you. Thus stay as your husband's pious wife.
~*~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

Note: Advice On How Not To Get Offended Easily

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📜 Question: How can I stop being too sensitive? When someone insults me, criticizes or laughs at me, I tend to cry easily. What should I do to develop a thicker skin?
📝 Answer: Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala created His servants differently, each one with their own set of special traits, qualities, struggles, strengths and temperament. The four caliphs Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq, Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, Ali Ibn Abi Talib and Uthman Ibn 'Affaan RadhiAllahu 'anhum had different characteristics and not all of them were exactly similar in terms of courage, physical strength, resilience, softness and generosity.
Your quality of being sensitive is what makes you unique. Don't be ashamed of how Allah the Almighty made you. You can use your sensitivity in a positive way by using it to better deal with others tactfully, sympathize with people's needs and demonstrate compassion whenever you can.
🔸 To not get affected nor feel bothered by what critics say:
° Remind yourself that your goal in life is to please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. If some people try to offend you because they're not happy with you, so long as you're not disobeying Allah in any way, then don't pay any attention to people's insults, especially if their criticism happen to be lies that do not describe you.
° What people say about you and how they treat you actually reflect their current inner state and values. If some strangers or acquaintances treat you rudely, while you've never done anything wrong to them previously, note that they're either having a stressful day and they're immaturely passing on their misery unto you, they had a terrible upbringing or went through some sort of abuse, or they're low-key envious of the achievements you have or positive things you can do. Feel sorry for them. Thank Allah that He didn't make you an insecure bully and you're not in their shoes.
° Mere words and offensive statements cannot harm you as long as you don't give your haters permission to make you feel bad. Every time an obnoxious individual with zero good morals opens their mouth to insult you, try to guess where they're coming from. Are they criticizing you to feel better about their miserable selves? Practicing some words to expand their vocabulary? Is their snide remark or mockery meant to emphasize their jealousy? Or are they giving honest advice so you can improve as a Muslim, but they're saying it harshly? If a person's motive of criticizing you is to assist you in self-development, appreciate their concern and be strong enough to welcome constructive feedback. On the other hand, if some people are just insulting you for the sake of being randomly rude, imagine they're struggling patients at a mental hospital who don't know how to control what they say or do to you. Walk away from their nonsense with patience. Don't bother arguing with people who are ignorant of good Islamic values. Some girls simply hate a woman who seems to outdo, surpass or outshine them. Continue shining with vibrant confidence, Sabr and contentment.
Concentrate on striving to be the best version of yourself for Allah's sake as a Muslim, uninterested in people's approval, judgment and compliments.
📖 Abdullah Bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe."
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Al-Bukhari 10 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Amr Ibn Absah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is Islam?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "That you surrender your heart to Allah and that the Muslims are safe from your tongue and hands."
Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 20 Grade: Sahih