Note: Tips To Let Go Of Long-Term Grudges

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 It is understandable to hold a grudge against somebody who purposely hurt you and they never directly apologized for the injustice they caused. It doesn't make sense however to hate a complete stranger, such as a vlogger or "social media influencer" who isn't even aware yet of your presence, and an acquaintance who already said they were sorry, following up with kind favors to compensate for their mistakes.
Hating certain individuals for Allah's sake doesn't mean we behave barbarically towards them but we avoid getting too close to their negative influence.
🔸 Tips to stop despising a person, particularly a relative or colleague, so your heart can be free from the heavy burden of resentment:
1] Understand they're Allah's slaves, humans who are prone to forgetting and making errors occasionally. Someday on the Day of Judgment all of us, including them, will be questioned for what we did intentionally.
2] Remember all the pleasant actions they've done for us in the past, such as the freebies they gave and free rides they offered. Recall their positive qualities, the special roles they have in the Muslim community, and the acts of generosity they can offer.
3] Imagine them dying or receiving news of them having passed away. Will your long-term grudge and prideful ego benefit you on land and in your own grave?
4] Courageously attempt to sympathize with those whom you can't like. Realize it's not their fault that they seem to be too different from you. Know that they similarly have their own set of struggles, insecurities and problems they often deal with.
5] If you can't learn to appreciate them, at least don't be a toxic hater or troublesome "troll". Unfollow them on Facebook, don't watch their YouTube videos, and quit stalking their posts and messages online. Don't be one of those insecure users who post passive-aggressive status updates about the people they envy and can't stand.
While it is better to minimize interacting with those who disagree with our values, our disagreements or differences shouldn't make us forget about the virtues of maintaining good character. Their tendency to gossip, backbite and deliberately tell lies is not an invitation for us to copy their toxic lifestyles. Disliking flies and mosquitoes for being annoying doesn't mean we must likewise buzz around and bite others to be on the same wavelength as them.
We should still try to give others the benefit of the doubt or second chances, understanding that anyone can eventually transform positively if Allah Wills, and Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows the final destination and reality of His servants.
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me: "O young man, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor from your heart towards anyone, then do so."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2678
Grade: Hasan
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other.
Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam pointed to his chest three times, and he said: "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his life, his wealth, and his honor."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2564
Grade: Sahih

Hadith: Virtues Of Praying Sunnah Prayers

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The first action for which a servant of Allah will be held accountable on the Day of Resurrection will be his prayers. If they are in order, he will have prospered and succeeded. If they are lacking, he will have failed and lost. If there is something defective in his obligatory prayers, then Allah the Almighty will say: 'See if My servant has any voluntary prayers that can complete what is insufficient in his obligatory prayers.' The rest of his deeds will be judged the same way."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 413
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Love With An Ocean Of Emotions

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 It's not love without an ounce of hate or confusion -
Nor is it love if there's no training to stay patient.
Dear husband, (though he may not read all my sensations,
I pray I can rewind these moments there in Heaven.)
~•~
Dear soulmate and other half whom Allah has chosen,
I hate how you must work in a city that's distant,
Hate how we don't get to see each other so often,
But I love how our love still stands despite the distance.
~•~
I hate how we don't have our own crib or apartment,
Hate how you seldom get the chance to try my cooking,
But I love looking forward to our weekly meetings
At the school I work and at the house you were raised in.
~•~
I hate how you can't sleep beside me every evening,
Hate missing your cuddles after we had our wedding,
But I love how your image sometimes shows up in dreams,
Sending me signals that you miss me similarly.
~•~
I hate how you and I can't make love through poetry,
Hate how we differ in terms of personality,
But I love how you inspire me to rhyme like crazy,
While our love story increases me in piety.
~•~
I hate how you can't always see the intensity
Of my faithfulness towards you when you're not with me,
When I lower my gaze and snub those who are flirty,
But I love how Allah witnesses my loyalty.
~•~
I hate how some see you as unsatisfactory,
Claiming I'm too good for you and you're out of my league,
But I love how I'm content with Allah's Destiny,
And how Allah selected me to teach you our Deen.
~•~
I hate how when I miss you I would lose energy
And drop the zeal in doing some fave activities,
But I love how love's sorrow subsides eventually,
When love pushes me to supplicate wholeheartedly.
~•~
I'll always love you for Allah's sake dearest hubby,
Although loving you is mostly the cause of my tears.
May Allah the Most Loving make our bond a blessing,
An inspiration to many and key to Jannah. Ameen.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

Note: Allah Judges Hearts, Not Appearance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Alhamdulillah throughout my travels and studies at the different schools I've been to, I've seen various types of beauties from a multitude of countries. Regardless of one's nationality, whether Filipino, Palestinian, Jordanian, Nicaraguan, Brazilian, Bengali, Pakistani, Indian, Lebanese, Malay, Thai, Kenyan, Turkish, Russian, Senegalese, Somali or Afghani, or if you're a wonderful mix of several nationalities say half-Syrian half-Saudi or half-Egyptian half-Japanese, you're beautifully unique.
Whether your nose is pointy and long, or short and cute, whether you have a small or wide forehead, naturally thin or dark eyebrows, narrow or full and pouty lips, dimples or freckles, if your eyes are big and gorgeous or oriental-like and squinted, whether you're slim, plump, beefy, chubby or athletic, and whatever is the color of your eye pupils and skin tone, you're a remarkably beautiful soul so long as your heart is pure, free from arrogantly assuming you're way more good-looking than others and devoid of negative qualities like envy, selfishness and suspecting people's intentions.
Another aspect that magnifies your inner beauty, besides good character, is confidence or self-esteem, accompanied by genuine gratitude to Allah the Almighty for the blessings He gave you. Your face may not look as perfectly proportioned or stunning as a celebrity who has done cosmetic surgery, but Alhamdulillah at least Allah granted you the ability to see, hear, speak and distinguish between right and wrong. Not only that but Allah guided you to the truth Islam, which is a privilege not given to everyone in the universe.
Without Allah's Love, without Islam and without noble manners and sincerity, a pretty face is nothing except a canvas of art portrayed to conceal a soul that currently feels empty.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but rather He looks at your hearts and actions."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2564
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Always Seek Allah's Forgiveness And Mercy.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Something that we can all agree on is the fact no human being on earth completely lacks flaws, imperfections and the tendency to forget, misinterpret and be overcome by desires once in a while. It is impossible to be entirely perfect and sinless, when this world was designed to be a platform of temporary tests with all sorts of temptations. There is a huge difference nonetheless between Muslims who commit sins due to falling into temptation and stubborn rebels who knowingly disobey Allah the Almighty out of sheer pride.
For instance, a person who steals their colleague's wallet full of cash due to inability to control themselves upon seeing it easily accessible, out in the open, commits a lesser crime than an experienced con-artist who enjoys taking strangers' money through deliberate lies and deceit.
Two persons of the same gender who get all sexual together on one occasion, because they weren't strong enough to resist their intense feelings of attraction, could be guilty of zina but their evil deed isn't as serious as that of an openly queer Muslim "advocate of LGBT+ rights" who has immoral relationships with many individuals, aware that adultery and homosexuality are major sins but refusing to believe they're punishable as long as their illicit activities don't harm anybody.
A Muslimah who prays yet currently doesn't wear the hijab, because she still isn't convinced about the virtues of veiling and dressing modestly, isn't as disobedient as one who pridefully disbelieves that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala commanded believing women to dress a certain way, whilst she has her own movement where she persuades other female Muslims to discard the hijab for the sake of "freedom" and "liberty".
Those who occasionally watch TV series with a motive to enhance their speaking skills or learn more about human psychology aren't as sinful as those who not only view movies when bored but also have a bad addiction to watching actual porn, unwilling to give up looking at inappropriate content because they like to think there's nothing wrong with their misdeeds.
A Muslim who suddenly utters offensive words and speaks in taboo language due to extreme anger isn't as shameful as one who habitually says the "F-word" and behaves disrespectfully while believing they're entitled to speak however they wish.
People will Inn-sha-Allah be rewarded according to their intentions and circumstances which drove them to the actions they willfully chose.
No matter how many times we've fallen into sin however, we must steadfastly keep fighting our nafs and defeat shaytan's vile insinuations.
From the believers whom Allah the Most Forgiving loves are those who frequently do sincere Tawbah/repentance, and who never quit saying Istighfaar until their souls are returned to Him.
📖 Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No man commits a sin, then purifies himself in ablution, then prays, and then asks Allah for forgiveness, but that Allah will forgive him." Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited this verse, 'Those who, if they behave immorally or do wrong, they remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins. Who forgives sins besides Allah? And they do not insist on what they have done, while they know better.' (The Noble Qur'an 3:135)"
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 406
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Some people among the idolaters had committed many acts of murder and adultery. They came to the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they said, “What you call to is good, but tell us what we can do as an expiation?” Then, the verse was revealed, 'Those who do not call upon another god besides Allah, who do not kill a soul that Allah has sanctified except for a just cause, and who do not commit adultery; whoever does so will meet a penalty. Punishment will be multiplied for him on the Day of Resurrection and he will be humiliated therein, except for those who repent, have faith, and do good deeds. For those, Allah will replace their evil deeds with good deeds.' (The Noble Qur'an 25:68-70). And the verse was revealed, 'Say to My servants who have transgressed against themselves: Do not despair of the Mercy of Allah.' (The Noble Qur'an 39:53)
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4532
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty stretches out His Hand by night to accept the repentance of those who sin by day, and He stretches out His Hand by day to accept the repentance of those who sin by night, until the sun rises from the west."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2759
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim