Poem: Three Kinds Of Friends Whom We Like, But Just One Of Them Is Worth Keeping And Loving For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three kinds of friends whose companionship may bring delight, 

With whom you have lots in common, who are sweet and kind, 

And nearly each time you see them you feel energized, 

Inspired by their confidence, courage, or cheerful vibes, 

But just one of these groups is worth keeping in your life: 

~•~

The first kind of friends: Freeloaders, leeches, parasites, 

Opportunists or greedy pals who stick by your side 

For as long as you spoil them, being constantly nice, 

Buying gifts, paying for their meals when dining outside, 

Giving rides, while they give nothing - not even advice.

~•~

You may enjoy their company because oftentimes 

They do share some jokes or make effort to see you smile, 

But behind the facade and forced friendliness, they hide 

Motives to use you as a tool to improve their lives. 

Once your worldly merits are gone, they vanish from sight.

~•~

Second type of friends: Buddies with shared likes and dislikes, 

Who may have thought when they first spotted you, "This, I like, 

I feel relaxed with them, and in some ways they remind 

Me of myself. Their skills and attributes I admire." 

While they dispel loneliness, they can't teach nor inspire.

~•~

They're the sort to ask you, "Have you seen the film last night?", 

"Can we watch this now? Do your projects another time." 

And "You watched that viral vid on guys pranking their wives?" 

Although their presence may invite laughter, fun, and smiles, 

They can't benefit in your journey to Paradise. 

~•~

Third category of friends: Sincere Muslims who strive 

To fulfill their duties to Allah, respect your rights, 

Motivate you to do good like pray Qiyaam Al-Layl, 

Share Islam with you, and ensure you remain upright, 

And three never stem from them - rumors, rudeness, and lies. 

~•~

You're blessed if you have a few righteous friends in your life, 

Including your spouse, who love it too when you advise, 

Correct each other's faults and remind to do what's right. 

Since they're not guilty of fraud and envy from inside, 

One true friend can help in your travel to Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

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Poem: Different Types Of Ignoring And How To Deal With Those Who Purposely Ignore You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Six types of people who make effort to ignore you, 

And a seventh group of souls whose love for you stays true, 

Oftentimes preoccupied with loads of things to do: 

One - The disinterested, who can't relate to you, 

Like bears that bypass jewels not knowing their value.

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Two - The jealous, who can't stand what makes them insecure. 

They'd rather flee than compliment those who've acquired more. 

Three - The careful and self-aware secret admirer.

Of their strong feelings for you they're scared yet fully sure. 

They seek to guard their faith, so you both wouldn't be lured. 

~•~

Four - The incompatible, whose values clash with yours. 

They've freewill to decide, just as you take your own course. 

Five - The confused, who got you all wrong, who still feel hurt. 

Distance is their shield from recalling your past insults. 

To like someone they can't not everyone can be forced.

~•~

Six - The scared or stressed out who can't handle too much work, 

Like students who look away when they'd hate to be heard. 

Avoiding your orders, your distrust of their self-worth, 

Desire to change them, or zeal that brings them discomfort, 

Could be why their actions sometimes make you feel ignored. 

~•~

Seven - The busy, distracted, focused on their goals, 

Who seldom check their inbox or abhor making calls. 

While they're not purposely trying to leave you alone, 

They're overloaded with tasks, ideas to think of, 

Or they savor solitude like withdrawn introverts.

~•~

To deal with moments when you feel unjustly ignored: 

Say Du'a, talk to Allah with Whom you can't be bored, 

Read often the Noble Qur'an, to attain rewards, 

Increase Adhkaar, research writings or vids on self-help, 

And spend some time with loved ones who recognize your worth.

~•~

Recall you're not the only human being on earth. 

Don't oblige anybody to always put you first. 

Let others contact you, respond, and freely approach 

Only when they're ready, when their mood is undisturbed. 

Love Allah most, and His slaves' apathy won't provoke.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Poem: Don't Be Affected By What People Claim About You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three qualities if found in a person then their words 

Carry no meaning, specially if they're meant to hurt: 

First quality - their life lacks significant purpose,

They don't serve Allah, they follow shaytan the accursed, 

And when compared to donkeys, their morals are much worse.

~•~

Don't trust all remarks that an unbeliever utters. 

If they oppose Allah, what they say shouldn't matter, 

Especially if the truth isn't what they're after,

But what matters more to them is watching you suffer. 

Dismiss their lies and jokes. Overcome them with Sabr.

~•~

Second - they're unaware of every move that you make, 

Heedless of many of your dreams and statements you state, 

Ignorant of your past and feelings you don't portray, 

And if they don't know you completely, then there's no way 

For them to judge you when their guesses contain mistakes.

~•~

Third - they can't define your worth if they themselves are flawed. 

If they bark insults or leave rude comments, calmly nod 

And tell yourself, "I get it. They criticize my flaws 

To be distracted from their sorrows and countless faults. 

If they're happy, they wouldn't provoke others at all."

~•~

Ignore deluded critics' misperceptions and slurs. 

If their claims can't inspire progress or they're plain absurd, 

Don't take it personally. They're the ones who are hurt 

By ignorance or character filthier than dirt. 

Only Allah can correctly judge us in both worlds.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Hadith: Good Etiquettes Regarding Sneezing And Yawning In Islam

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah likes sneezing and dislikes yawning. When one of you sneezes and praises Allah, it is a duty on every Muslim to say to him: 'May Allah have mercy on you.' As for yawning, it is from shaytan. When one of you yawns, let him hold it back (restrain the yawn) as much as he can. When one of you yawns, shaytan laughs at him."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5872

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Poem: Three Signs You've Become Too Attached To Someone And What To Do To Detach Peacefully

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three signs you've become too attached emotionally 

To another human, and this "love" is unhealthy: 

One - With them, there's separation anxiety. 

When they're absent, you feel empty, distressed or angry, 

Can't function well without them, as though you're incomplete.

~•~

Chatting with them keeps you energized, bubbly and pleased, 

And simply having them nearby brings about relief. 

Grief and worry emerge as soon as they disappear. 

If they leave you for some days, you wonder anxiously, 

"Did I push them away somehow? Do they still like me?"

~•~

Two - You think of them a lot, far too excessively, 

Hoping they're okay and that they miss you equally, 

Thinking of them often before you pray, eat and sleep, 

As if thoughts of them are needed to breathe peacefully, 

When abnormal attachment actually makes you weak.

~•~

Three - Seeing them care for others evokes jealousy. 

If they discuss someone else, you ditch them pridefully, 

Disinclined to even ask about their family, 

Because you desire them for yourself so selfishly, 

Like leaves firmly glued to feeble branches of a tree.

~•~

Tips to detach from someone easily or gently, 

Whether they're your spouse, loved one, or friend you've known for years, 

So if they die, move out, or they make you feel unheard, 

You can move on without them patiently or gladly, 

Satisfied with the Love of Allah the Almighty:

~•~

Know that each soul we meet is like life's difficulties, 

Meant to test our faith/Imaan and they're temporary. 

Accept that all humans have flaws and ability 

To offend or disappoint you occasionally. 

Thus never assume they'll stick around permanently.

~•~

Prioritize serving Allah and trust Him Only. 

Know that what follow you to your grave are your good deeds. 

Respect yourself enough to let go confidently 

Of any person who fails to take you seriously, 

And tell yourself often, "Allah is Enough for me.".

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Aslam Al-Habashi RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, "How is this?" Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated (obsessed) like a child. When you hate someone, you want destruction for your companion."

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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