Poem: The Mindset Of A Loyal And Patient Wife When Her Husband Can't Always Be Around

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 How the mindset of a brave and patient wife should be, 

When she loves her husband for Allah wholeheartedly, 

As she deals with her husband's absence so frequently, 

With him assigned in another city or country, 

Or she's one of his many wives, in polygyny: 

~•~

"I testify I agreed to this marriage purely 

For Allah, to raise a righteous Muslim family, 

To attain means that lead to more of Allah's Mercy, 

To preserve modesty, and help my soulmate achieve 

Entry to Jannah Paradise, bringing him with me.

~•~

I admit that in marriage there'll be difficulties. 

From the trials encountered is inability 

To spend quality time with one's hubby constantly, 

No matter how much you wish that you could always see 

Each other, there comes a point when his needs interfere.

~•~

Unlike most wives who are attached, clingy and whiney, 

I choose to cope with my husband's distance patiently. 

In that is inner strength, not emotionally weak, 

And I know that Allah watches over him every 

Second of each day and night, whilst he's up and asleep.

~•~

The fact that my friend and I are married legally, 

That he's my husband while I'm his wife, suffices me. 

No need for constant convos to prove our bond is real, 

When Jannah's joys surpass this world that's temporary. 

I await Jannah where love can last eternally."

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2807

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Tips: Some Notes On The General Etiquettes Of Greeting With The Salaam

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📋 Some notes on the general etiquettes of greeting with the salaam: 

1] Initiating greeting with the salaam is a rewarding Sunnah. If you say the salaam upon entering a Masjid, lecture hall, room, office or classroom, 

you will Inn-sha-Allah receive rewards for saying salaam. If you choose to enter quietly without any salaam, there is no penalty or punishment.

2] Answering a Muslim's salaam is waajib/obligatory, since Allah the Almighty Himself commands the believers in Surah An-Nisaa that when we are greeted with the salaam, we should greet with a better greeting (say "wa 'alaikum as-salaam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh") or at least return it. 

3] It is closer to the Sunnah and tradition of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam for: The younger Muslim to first greet the older Muslim, the driver (in a vehicle) to first greet the person walking, the individual walking to first greet those who are already seated, and a small group to first greet a much larger group. This encourages a sense of humility, self-respect, and prevents one from treating others as though they are celebrities who feel entitled to be greeted first due to their social status.  

4] All actions are rewarded according to the doer's niyyah/intention. It is wiser to avoid greeting non-mahrams of the opposite gender if doing so regularly could lead to fitna or trigger gradual feelings of attraction. 

5] While it is encouraged to say the salaam upon entering a circle or meeting, it is more important, and from proper Islamic manners, to say the salaam again before one leaves the gathering instead of abruptly disappearing without notification. 

6] When some non-Muslims greet you with "as-salaamu 'alaikum", you may respond equally with "wa 'alaikum as-salaam". The response "wa 'alaikum" which the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam told a number of Jews on one occasion was said to answer their statement "as-saam 'alaikum". If a non-Muslim tries to greet you in a passive-aggressive way, you may answer back with "wa 'alaikum" meaning "and upon you too". 

7] Don't feel offended if some individuals purposely ignore your salaam. There are Angels and Muslim jinn around you who may have answered your greeting, and 

Inn-sha-Allah you'll be rewarded for having the courage to initiate salaams. 

Allah the Almighty knows best.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the best people to Allah are those who are the first to greet with peace."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5197

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When one of you arrives in a gathering, let him greet them with peace. When he intends to leave, let him depart with greetings of peace. The first greeting is not more worthy than the last."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5208

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The rider should greet with peace those who are walking, those who are walking should greet those who are sitting, and a small group should greet a larger group."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5880 

Sahih Muslim 2160

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Poem: The Upper Hand That Gives Is Better Than The Lower Hand That Receives

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Never regret being nice to another Muslim, 

And don't assume that those who receive freebies often 

Are fortunate to consume much of life's enjoyment. 

Giving hands are better than hands that keep on taking. 

Takers miss out on rewards which givers love gaining.

~•~

Better to be the kind person earning Allah's Love 

Than a poor beggar or taker who enjoys free stuff. 

Instead of questioning why so-and-so took a lot 

Of benefits from you or others, while you just got 

Few or naught, know Allah planned it and He's the Most Just.

~•~

Thank Allah for opportunities where you're inspired 

To share a dish with Muslims, help, and offer advice. 

Find every chance to be helpful, generous and kind, 

To be closer to Allah, and so in Paradise 

You join pleasant souls who weren't selfish with their lives.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is not a day upon which the servant awakens but that two angels descend. One of them says: 'O Allah, reward one who spends in charity!' The other says: 'O Allah, destroy one who withholds charity!'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1374 

Sahih Muslim 1010

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand. The upper hand is the one that gives (charity) and the lower hand is the one that takes (receives kindness)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1429 

Sahih Muslim 10331

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Poem: Describing My Husband's Personality Who's An ESFJ

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Briefly describing my man's personality type, 

To portray what most ESFJ husbands are like, 

So if in your fam there are some ESFJ guys, 

You can appreciate the good they offer sometimes, 

And with their quirks, likes and dislikes, you can sympathize:

~•~

Overall my husband is hardworking, organized, 

Respectful to his colleagues, to children very kind, 

Sympathetic to his patients, with strangers polite, 

Chatty when he feels like talking, playful oftentimes, 

Observant, ambitious, can take the lead when he likes.

~•~

Many times with his cars he's given others free rides. 

From his travels whenever my husband would arrive, 

He'd bring some gifts and souvenirs, or at least he'd try, 

And if he couldn't buy something, he'd apologize 

And make amends for shortcomings at a later time.

~•~

As an extrovert, my husband loves to socialize, 

Attend gatherings if he isn't busy or tired, 

Joke around with loved ones to share some laughter and smiles, 

Chat with the elderly so life lessons are acquired, 

And as a parent he's lenient, forbearing and mild.

~•~

Recalling a lot from the past since he was a child, 

He's the type to cherish sweet moments and who'd remind 

You about significant dates and tasks when required. 

ESFJs are sensitive, so don't be surprised 

If they shed tears or overreact once in a while.

~•~

To get along fine with ESFJs in your life: 

Listen to them when they speak, yet lovingly advise 

Them to switch topics when they've got the urge to backbite. 

Strive to fulfill promises, as they really hate lies. 

Friendly gestures they show you - value and recognize.

~•~

When they attempt to tell jokes, pretend to laugh or smile, 

So long as their statements don't offend a Muslim's rights.

From the signs an ESFJ cares: Giving advice, 

Sharing food with you, buying items they hope you'd like, 

And patiently tolerating your flaws or weird side.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a.

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Poem: So You Divorced? You Can Remarry Twice If You Still Have Feelings For The Guy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 To that woman who seems to take pride in giving up 

Loving the spouse whom Allah chose for her from above, 

Ungrateful, impatient, so love was easily dropped, 

Like a child that discards an unfinished lollipop, 

And she regards herself as "ideal"... Breaker of knots?

~•~

So you're an "ideal Muslimah" if you just give up? 

If you demand divorce when the journey gets too tough? 

If you stop loving your spouse because he loves his job? 

Coz he's not rich enough? Or the in-laws are too much? 

Coz he's not perfect? Not your clone? What, to be exact?

~•~

If you sought joy through marriage, you already messed up. 

Marriage doesn't assure that in life there won't be probs. 

In fact, when you marry, expect trials and mishaps. 

Marriage is a gift with many tests you aim to pass, 

Like swords need consistent care to ensure they don't rust.

~•~

FYI, once you're divorced, did you know this or not, 

In Islam you can remarry twice, resume the pact, 

Forgive each other for Allah's sake and start from scratch? 

This shows the virtues of loyalty, not giving up, 

Patience and contentment with the blessings that one has.

~•~

Not condoning abuse. Just warning against "fake love" 

And informing you that love can't last if these you lack: 

Sincere niyyah to marry and help your other half, 

Sabr and empathy, specially when times are rough, 

And awareness your husband ain't a bank nor robot.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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