Poem: Five Signs Of A Covert Narcissist

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five qualities which most covert narcissists possess, 

And although they seem "humble", "shy" and "introverted", 

Inwardly they're conceited, most of the time selfish, 

Proud enough to show disrespect, too weak to forgive, 

And kibr incites them to be manipulative: 

~•~

One: Arrogance keeps them from forgiving wrongs you did. 

Despite your apologies and gifts you sometimes give, 

They can't pardon and move on but sink in deep hatred. 

Two: They judge people based on looks and socialize with 

Just those who are attractive, who share their foul motives. 

~•~

Three: Though generally they're not very talkative, 

When they're with close friends they indulge in toxic gossip, 

Backbiting about others like insecure critics. 

Four: They'd only be "nice" if you do what they request. 

They're unfair and unkind when they get disappointed. 

~•~

Five: Prone to jealousy, when others attain success 

They act distant, unsupportive, uninterested, 

And they'd offer wrong tips so their rivals cannot rest. 

Internally they rejoice when seeing you upset, 

And when you're thriving they'd pretend they didn't notice. 

~•~ 

Since your faith and feelings can't stay safe with narcissists 

Who mainly wish to connect so their own needs are met, 

Avoid them for Allah's sake, help only when needed, 

And in amplifying their pride don't ever assist. 

Through them, practice shunning what Allah prohibited.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-actual-narcissists-vs-actually.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-nine-signs-of-actual-narcissists.html 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202007/how-identify-covert-narcissist

Hadith: Importance Of Keeping One's Vows, Promises And Oaths For Allah's Sake

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever vows to obey Allah, let him obey Him. 

Whoever vows to disobey Allah, he must not disobey Him."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6700

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Tips: How Most INTJs Would Respond To Insults And Criticism

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, how would you react to insults and criticism? 

📝 Answer: 

1🔹 If the supposedly offensive remark is true, I'd agree with them, confirm they have a point, and acknowledge the fact that they also aren't perfect. 

🗨️ For example, if someone says: "Your room is nasty, I'm not joking." 

My response: "You're right. It's an absolute mess. I'm waiting for the ideal time to start cleaning." or "Yes, I can see that. 

Inn-sha-Allah one of these days I'll try to clean it up." 

If they ask "When?" I could say "As soon as you cleanse your heart from impure characteristics like arrogance and jealousy" or "when Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees that special moment."  

2🔹 If the insult isn't true at all, and it's obvious that the critics are lying about me, I'd feel nothing, indifferent, and unaffected. I'd probably be laughing at them from inside, finding it amusing how they're audacious enough to assume they know me while in actuality they don't. 

🗨️ For example, if someone says: "Liar, you only love your husband for his money." 

My reaction would be: "Whatever. If you insist on misjudging me according to your little fibs, ignorance, and fabricated jokes, so be it. At least my "lies" aren't as abominable as the false claims of a delusional atheist whose ability to analyze logical concepts in Islam was overshadowed by his immeasurable insecurities and gigantic ego." 

3🔹 If the "insult" or disrespectful conduct didn't make any sense, I'd confidently walk away from the toxic individual, stubbornly ignore them, or ask them something like "Are you okay? Are you going through some tough times lately that you desperately need to spread your sadness with others so you're not the only person who's emotionally suffering? Shall I help you search for a spouse on a matrimonial website so you won't be insecure anymore and you can finally stop misbehaving? But then again, who'd want to marry an obnoxious bully whose self-hatred compels them to be gossipy and troublesome?" 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-let-critics-decelerate-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-dont-be-affected-by-what-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-on-how-not-to-be-affected-by.html 

🔹 To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new 

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp 

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/ 

Hadith: Warning Against Celebrating So-called "Halloween"

💐 In The Name Of Allah

 The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

https://www.salafisounds.com/just-3-minutes-on-halloween-by-abu-khadeejah/

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever imitates a people is one of them."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4031

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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https://youtu.be/ztUFsLmOihw 

 https://youtu.be/r--DBIgJSz0

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Poem: How Can You Tell If A Person's Vibes Are Good For You?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Three signs that someone's energy is in line with yours, 

That a person's vibes are good, not toxic, so convos 

With them flow smoothly and connecting doesn't seem forced, 

As though Allah the Almighty destined that you'd both 

Meet on earth, network and help each other reach your goals: 

~•~ 

First sign - when they're around, you're calm. Overall your pulse 

Vibrates in a way that shows your heart is not disturbed. 

When they're nearby, you can relax, while you don't feel worse 

In their presence or absence. They're not the kind to hurt 

You with lies, deceit, gossip, rumors, and unkind words.

~•~ 

Second sign - when talking to them, you can be yourself, 

In a sense that when it's your turn to speak, there's no urge 

To sugarcoat your remarks so you won't get ignored, 

Or to act like someone you're not so they don't get bored. 

Connecting with potential friends doesn't require force. 

~•~

Third sign that Allah decreed you'd vibe with righteous souls - 

Though they thrive or grow faster, you're not jealous at all, 

Because you're in the same team. If they attain a goal 

Or showcase they're better at something, you win also. 

They're just swift rowers if you were rowing the same boat. 

~•~ 

Be careful when choosing your close friends. Stress and remorse 

Are often the results of befriending the wrong souls. 

Don't search for smiles, jokes and laughter. Most acts are rehearsed.

Instead observe your current moods when around some souls. 

Their vibes suit yours if they inspire you and bring comfort.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-how-to-tell-if-somebodys-vibes-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-souls-who-connect-with-us-and.html 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/souls-of-believers-meet-after-death-the-souls-of-the-living-meet-the-dead-in-dreams/