Note: Busy INTJs vs Avoidant INTJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: How can you know when an INTJ personality type is just busy or if they are being avoidant? 

📝 Answer: When someone with the INTJ personality type cares about you as a friend or loved one but they're preoccupied with several tasks which they're trying to complete: 

1🔹 At least once every three months or so they make effort to visit you or contact you on social media, initiating chat conversations or commenting on at least one of your status updates. 

2🔹 When speaking face-to-face and you're of the same gender, they look at you with a genuine smile, offer a hug or enthusiastic handshake, and occasionally give gentle pats on your shoulder or arm to display affection. 

3🔹 Although they may seem in a hurry while interacting, they don't forget to ask how you're doing or request to send their salaams to your loved ones with whom they're familiar. 

4🔹 You can tell they're not bothered by your delayed replies, just as they hope you'd have patience with their late responses, when they're able to continue your online conversations without scolding you about your inability to answer them earlier. 

5🔹 From time to time they hand out freebies or gifts without asking for anything specific in return. 

📨 When an INTJ is purposely avoiding you because they don't feel secure around you, they're trying to avoid gossip, or they dislike how you oppose their values (for example you disagree with polygyny which they advocate openly): 

1] They deliberately refrain from asking you about your past, interests, and plans for the future even though INTJs are generally very curious and inquisitive when they find something or somebody intriguing. 

2] Even if you're neighbors, coworkers or classmates, avoidant INTJs would do whatever they can to minimize unnecessary interactions with you. They'd rather find solutions to solve a problem by discussing their ideas with a cat (feral, domesticated, imaginary) than unwillingly interact with a person who is a threat to their values. 

3] If you have mutual friends with an INTJ while they aren't connected to you on Facebook, an INTJ who is uninterested in building a connection with you would never stalk your timeline, respond to your comments, or type lengthy messages when chatting, although they're actually capable of talking for long periods if they discuss topics which interest them while they regard you as a trustworthy individual.

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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow up a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-five-signs-that-someone-who-has.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-five-reasons-why-were-uninterested.html 

https://www.onlinepersonalitytests.org/intj-women/ 

https://personalitygrowth.com/intj-gossip-how-the-intj-handles-gossip/

https://www.crystalknows.com/personality-type/intj

Poem: A Righteous Muslim Wife Is A Loving Friend To Her Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 You know she's her husband's friend, and her love's not a lie, 

When she can shush her pride to ensure the bond survives, 

And seeing other couples thrive in their marriage lives 

Inspires her to pray for her spouse more each day and night, 

While she does what she must to keep the link tightly tied.

~•~ 

It's clear that she's her husband's real friend when she can rhyme 

About him anytime she likes despite rolling eyes, 

And efforts to understand him doesn't make her tired. 

Instead of whining about his faults foes criticize, 

Her friend's favors and merits she loves to magnify.

~•~ 

She won't quit even if his feelings are paralyzed 

Temporarily due to impact of the evil eye, 

Sorcery done by outsiders who envy their life, 

Or his workload and worries are what destabilize 

His ability to show empathy all the time.

~•~

She's more stubborn than a mule that won't budge to the side 

When advised to leave her spouse and search for a new guy. 

She's the kind of friend whose loyalty can't be denied. 

Even if he departs, she'd still love him from inside. 

True friends don't ditch. They drag you with them to Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-my-brief-love-story-and-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-tips-to-cope-with-ldr-and-how-to_7.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-countless-ways-that-my-dear.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-advice-for-muslim-wives-to-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-some-tips-to-be-your-husbands.html 

Hadith: Important Du'a To Say Each Day And Night (sayyidul Istighfaar)

📖 Shaddad bin Aus RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best supplication for seeking forgiveness ('Sayyid-ul- Istighfaar') is to say: 'Allahumma Anta Rabbi, laa ilaaha illaa Anta, khalaqtani wa ana 'abduka, wa ana 'alaa 'ahdika wa wa'duka mastata't, a'udhu Bika min sharri maa sana't, abu'u Laka bini'matika 'alayy, wa abu'u bidhanbi faghfir lee, fa innahu la yaghfirudh-dhunooba illaa Anta. (O Allah! You are my Rabb (Lord, Cherisher and Sustainer). There is no true god except You. You (Allah) have created me, and I am Your slave, and I hold to Your Covenant as far as I can. I seek refuge in You from the evil of what I have done. I acknowledge the favours that You (Allah) have bestowed upon me, and I confess my sins. Pardon me, for none but You (Allah) has the power to pardon).' He who supplicates in these terms during the day with firm belief in it and dies on the same day (before the evening), he will be one of the dwellers of Paradise; and if anyone supplicates in these terms during the night with firm belief in it and dies before the morning, he will be one of the dwellers of Paradise."

[Sahih Al-Bukhari]

Reference: Riyad As-Salihin 1875

In-book reference: Book 19, Hadith 7

Poem: This Is How I Know For Sure That I Love My Husband For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If I were asked, "how do you know you love your husband? 

How can you tell your love is true, you're not pretending, 

And his profession isn't why you remain with him?", 

I'd say, and Allah knows best how I feel from within, 

"Loving him for Allah is what makes love genuine. 

~•~ 

Though this bond at the moment lacks physical passion,

As Allah the Most Wise destined that my dear husband 

Would work at a distance so I can't see him often, 

I maintain connection by having his name mentioned 

In frequent supplications, with my faith increasing. 

~•~ 

I know I love my husband when I can imagine 

A scene in which he could request for separation 

While I'd calmly tell him that we should still solve problems, 

And if he'd insist on leaving, I would keep loving, 

Waiting for a fresh start and second wedding with him. 

~•~ 

I know I love the human whom Allah has chosen 

As my soulmate when, although most don't find him handsome,

To me he's good enough, a blessing that's inspiring,

And sweet puzzle to be solved with wisdom and patience. 

When I'm able to defeat pride, I know I love him. 

~•~

When attractive souls come and go in my surroundings 

While my loyalty for my spouse stays unwavering, 

And when I can't feel envious upon noticing 

Other content couples, as real love is uncommon, 

Know I'm not lying about loving my dear husband."

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-countless-ways-that-my-dear.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-some-advice-on-how-to-solve.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-its-easy-to-stay-in-love-with-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-clear-signs-that-you-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-advice-for-muslim-wives-to-not.html 

Tips: Nine Signs That You're Not A Narcissist Who's Arrogant And Insecure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Nine signs which prove you are not a narcissist who's arrogant and insecure:

1] You believe that all humans are Allah's servants, you're not better than everyone, and there is something valuable to learn from every soul whom you're destined to meet. 

2] With a genuinely grateful attitude, you're humble enough to thank people, whether Muslim or non-Muslim, for even the simplest favors and acts of kindness they've done. 

3] You don't pridefully hesitate to apologize when you recognize you've made a mistake. 

4] When you discover or learn something helpful, you occasionally share the useful information with others hoping that somebody out there could also benefit from it. You care for others' well-being, not only your ego and selfish progress.

5] You willingly forgive for Allah's sake, without being a pushover. Since you're capable of putting yourself in others' shoes and applying empathy, you're not the type of person who gets disappointed easily. 

6] You intensely dislike gossip. If some individuals are discussing a person disrespectfully behind their back, you either leave the draining conversation or advise the gossipmongers to quit cowardly backbiting. 

7] Now and then you research articles and videos on how to identify narcissists so you can learn what to avoid, as you'd hate to be one of them, or you've asked a number of loved ones previously for advice concerning practicing humility. Someone who is actually guilty of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) would lack self-awareness and willingness to change their toxic traits, because they like to imagine they're already "perfect". 

8] You don't feel entitled nor act as if the people around you are obliged to treat you with VIP (very important person) treatment 24/7. An actual narcissist would feel infuriated if an acquaintance arrived from a long trip and didn't buy them any souvenir, give someone the silent treatment if the latter didn't answer their messages in a manner they desired, and obnoxiously spread rumors about you if you indicate you're not in the mood to chat. 

9] Just as you never judge people according to their outward appearance, you don't oblige yourself to appear "flawless" or "on fleek" all the time. Real narcissists who conceal tons of insecurities despise facial blemishes, acne, weight gain, and "bad fashion sense". They're unaware that being desperate to look fabulous on the surface while snubbing those who haven't reached their level of "awesomeness" stems from low self-esteem.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abdurrahman.org/2014/09/04/riyad-us-saliheen-imaam-nawawi-chapter-072/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-actual-narcissists-vs-actually.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/note-checklist-to-determine-if-you-have.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-some-signs-that-someone-you-know.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-five-signs-of-covert-narcissist.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-nine-signs-of-actual-narcissists.html