Tips: 3 Qualities Which Make You Seem Intimidating And 3 Types Of People Who May Feel Intimidated By You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three positive qualities which make you seem very "intimidating" and "unapproachable" by certain people: 

1] Your trust in Allah the Almighty, your strong faith / Imaan and confidence (not insecure arrogance) inspire you to be resilient, to take the initiative when necessary and to not quit instantly. 

2] It is obvious that you are incredibly selective and cautious regarding your choice of close friends. With Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala guiding you, you're not afraid to stand out and you don't oblige others to cheer for you constantly. 

3] Comparing yourself to other individuals and acting upon toxic feelings of jealousy due to inferiority complex are some of the things you refuse to do stubbornly. 

❎ What kind of person would hesitate to connect with you, as they find you intimidating? 

1] The one with low self-esteem, who feels inadequate (not good enough) around you and gets jealous easily. 

2] An untruthful person with a bad agenda, who seeks to manipulate people and take advantage of their kindness. Apparently they lost interest in getting to know you better once they've discovered that you have the guts to speak up, the potential to expose their lies, and the integrity to unapologetically detach from those who are dishonest.

3] A selfish narcissist who goes out of their way to anxiously avoid you since they don't want you stealing any of their joys or limelight.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Tips: Suggested Morning Routine

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Suggested morning routine: 

1] Wake up at around 2:30 AM or 3:00 AM, saying the prescribed Du'a upon waking up, and say Istighfaar ("AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem") at least 100 times. 

2] Pray Salat At-Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl, at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs, and Salat Al-Witr if you didn't pray Witr after Salat Al-'Ishaa. 

3] Supplicate for at least ten to fifteen minutes, say Du'a and talk to Allah the Almighty while facing towards the Qiblah direction. 

4] If there are still several minutes left until the Adhaan of Fajr Salah, take a nap only if you can be sure that you won't oversleep or watch some beneficial videos and browse the net until it's time to pray Salat Al-Fajr. 

5] After praying the Fajr prayer, sit for a few minutes to say the morning Dhikr and Du'a, including: 

"AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem" 100 times,

"SubhanAllah wa Bihamdih" 100 times, 

And "laa ilaaha ilAllah Wahdahu laa shareekaLah LahulMulk wa LahulHamd wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay-in Qadeer." 100 times. 

6] Read some Surahs from the Noble Qur'an including: 

Surah Al-Fatiha, Ayatul Kursi, the last two verses from Surah Al-Baqarah, Surah Yaseen, Surah Al-Waaqi'ah, Surah Al-Mulk, Surah Al-Kahf if it's Jumuah Friday, Surah Az-Zalzalah, Surah At-Takaathur, Surah Al-Kaafiroon, then three times Surah Al-Ikhlaas, Surah Al-Falaq and Surah An-Naas. 

Make it a habit, as much as possible, to read at least two pages from the Noble Qur'an every night and/or day for Allah's sake.

7] Have a nap after the morning Adhkaar or carry out some tasks (e.g. seeking authentic knowledge and listening to at least one Islamic lecture) and then pray Salat Ad-Duha anytime from after complete sunrise to around twenty minutes before Salat Adh-Dhuhr, at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs so your day can 

Inn-sha-Allah be filled with more barakah / blessings.

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever recites the ‘Verse of the Throne’ (Ayat Al-Kursi) after every prescribed (obligatory) prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entry into Paradise but death."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 7406

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-benefits-of-praying-tahajjud.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-brief-story-on-how-i-started.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/hadith-virtues-of-praying-sunnah-salat.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-join-those-who-pray-tahajjud-often.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/five-authentic-modes-of-dhikr-after-the-salah/

Poem: The Effect Of Loving My Husband For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 The love I have for my spouse isn't ordinary, 

Not the same as the one shown in romantic movies 

Where the protagonists act in a way that's unreal 

And they teach you that marriage is meant to flawlessly 

Keep you happy like joy is the only mood to feel. 

~•~

Striving to love my husband for Allah's sake truly 

Has caused my faith/Imaan levels to vastly increase. 

With Allah's Will, I've learned to accept Allah's Decree, 

Check the bright side or merits of each difficulty, 

And maintain patience because the feelings are sincere. 

~•~

Patiently loving my husband for Allah's sake leads 

Me to value his well-being more than his money, 

His connection with Allah more than time spent with me, 

And his delight whenever he wants to remarry 

If I have defects when it comes to intimacy. 

~•~

Loving my other half solely for Allah's sake means 

I'll try my best with help from Allah the Almighty 

To take good care of my husband like we're in one team, 

Praying for him and coaching him regarding our Deen, 

And still being his wife if ever he remarries. 

~•~

The impact of loving him for Allah's sake revealed 

That the more you love your spouse for Allah sincerely, 

The more you can forgive him while polygyny seems 

Feasible, and though his frequent absence brings unease, 

Wanting him in Jannah makes tough loyalty easy.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-love-for-allahs-sake-and-marriage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-love-your-husband-truly-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-undeniable-signs-that-man-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-nine-clear-signs-that-muslim-wifes.html 

Tips: What To Do During Times Of Fitna As A Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things to do during times of fitna: 

1] Strengthen your connection with Allah the Almighty and increase your faith/Imaan levels by seeking authentic knowledge of Islam regularly and implementing what you learn sincerely. 

2] Maintain Taqwa and do more good deeds which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves, such as praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl and Salat Ad-Duha, while striving to avoid the actions which Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned against. 

3] Continue to say Du'a and Dhikr as often as you can, specially lots of Tawbah and Istighfaar (asking for Allah's Forgiveness and saying "AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem"). 

4] Ensure that you attain Islamic knowledge from reliable sources. Stay away from bid'ah, extremism and anything which could lead to fitna directly and indirectly. 

5] Know when to speak (online and offline) or share ideas with wisdom and when it's safer to keep certain thoughts to yourself to remain safe and silent. 

6] Don't feel bad about being strictly selective and cautious regarding your choice of close friends. Loneliness or feeling like an outcast in society while still being loved by Allah the Most Loving is better than wasting energy socializing with untrustworthy companions who are a bad influence on your overall well-being. 

7] Always make sure that any information you intentionally absorb on the internet won't affect your faith/Imaan and personality in a negative way. Not everything you read, come across and watch must be taken at face value. If you can sense that something isn't right about a particular individual, content or webpage, then it may be wiser to distance from them for Allah's sake until you witness valid proofs that they are reliably in accordance with what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love.

Allah the Almighty knows best.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Soon (some time before the day of Judgment) the best property of a Muslim will be a flock of sheep which he takes to the top of a mountain, or in the valleys of rainfall, fleeing with his religion from tribulations."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 19

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: We were gathered around the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while he mentioned tribulations (fitna/fitan), saying, "If you see that people have disordered their commitments, diminished their trusts, and are as jumbled as this," and he interlaced his fingers. I stood to come near him and I said, “How should I act if that happens?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Stay in your house, control your tongue, accept what you know is good, reject what you know is evil, take care of your affairs specifically and abandon the affairs of the common people."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4343

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Miqdad Ibn Al-Aswad RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials (tribulations / fitan). Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials. Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials. How good is one who is afflicted but bears it patiently!" 

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4263, Grade: Sahih

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Note: Checklist To Determine If Your Husband Is Actually Your Friend And Soulmate

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Eleven questions to ask yourself to feel certain that you have indeed married your soulmate for Allah's sake: 

1] When you look back on the first actual conversations with your husband, can you wholeheartedly smile as you recall his cute efforts to be romantic or flirtatious with you? 

2] Can you mention at least three instances when he has been helpful, kind and compassionate to you? 

3] Do you miss his comforting hugs and loving presence whenever he is absent? 

4] If you had the option to choose between staying over at a resort with some close friends for one week and moving to the city where your husband is employed, would you select the latter as long as you're granted consent to visit your family whenever you like? 

5] If you're incapable of completely satisfying your husband, can you be strong enough to stay married while he loves another woman as his legal second wife, because you'd rather keep loving him faithfully while you're in a polygynous marriage than have him disappear from your life? 

6] Whenever his responses to your calls and messages are delayed, are you able to understand his side and still forgive him for Allah's sake with astounding patience? 

7] Whenever you encounter or notice supposedly happy couples, instead of feeling jealous, do you instantly thank Allah the Almighty for bestowing upon you the unique love story which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined for you and your husband? 

8] Does loving your husband sincerely for Allah's sake beautifully inspire you to become a better, wiser, more mature, more patient and understanding Muslimah? 

9] Do you love it whenever your husband leads you in prayer and every time you hear an Imam reciting some verses from the Noble Qur'an you're usually reminded of your husband's amazingly soothing voice? Or if ever your husband asked for divorce, can you imagine rejecting all marriage proposals from interested suitors while patiently waiting for another wedding from your ex-husband, aware that divorcees in Islam can remarry twice?

10] Although you can't always meet your husband or go on halal dates with him, are you capable of staying fiercely loyal to him, avoiding "emotional affairs" and anything which could lead to fitna, even when he hasn't been around for a long time? 

11] Is it true that you've cried or shed tears many times while mentioning your husband's name in heartfelt Du'as, praying that Allah the Most Merciful protects him, guides him and enables him to pass Allah's tests so you can both succeed, with Allah's Will, in making it to Jannah Paradise? 

Allah the Almighty knows best. If you've answered "yes" to at least seven of the above questions, then it's likely true that your husband is your soulmate whom you should never quit on. Don't let the shaytan who envies your joy feel smug about his attempts to disrupt your obvious blessing.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

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