Note: 7 Things Which You Avoid Doing Since You're Not Immature

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things which you, if you're a truly mature adult, do not do: 

1] You do not act like obnoxious bullies nor do you give irrational instructions to people, including children, to mistreat others. 

2] You do not cut in line (go in front of an individual who's already queuing) unless you have an urgent need to do so and you are decent enough to apologize for any misconduct you display. 

3] You avoid making shallow judgments and boisterously ridiculing others. If you dislike a person for whatever reason, you keep your resentment to yourself, gracefully staying away from childish mockery and infantile gossip. 

4] You're capable of dining out and attending gatherings without obliging yourself to frequently take pretentious photos of the meals you've enjoyed, childishly flaunting what you ate to your online stalkers, almost in the same way some toddlers flaunt their colorful scribbles to their babysitters.

5] You don't get overdramatic nor do you make it a big deal when you discover that you weren't invited to a gathering, aware that the host likely didn't have sufficient budget to accommodate large numbers of guests, or they innocently forgot to invite you because they've got lots of loved ones and acquaintances to contact, or they cancelled their invitation because they figured that you'd automatically decline their invite due to busyness and preoccupation with other tasks.

6] Your rich values and remarkable self-control prevent you from acting on the urge to steal anyone's property and unattended belongings. Stealing is a despicable action which you'd never want to do.

7] As much as possible you refrain from blurting out supposedly offensive and disrespectful remarks, loudly expressing your loathing for someone or something as though you're controlled by your emotions, unless you're a witness of injustice and you intend to rectify a situation.

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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wherever you are, follow up a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Tips: Some Examples Of Group Conversation Games

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Two conversation games and two wholesome activities which you can try with a group of three or more family members, friends, acquaintances and colleagues (of the same gender) to become more familiar gradually with each other for Allah's sake: 

1✅ "Ask And Answer Questions": 

• Form a circle or be seated around a table. 

• The person who volunteers to ask the first question asks all the participants any random question which they also get to answer. 

📝 Examples of questions one can ask: 

1✓ Which of the main four rightly guided caliphs (khulafaa ar-raashideen) RadhiAllahu 'anhum do you find most relatable? Briefly explain your choice.

2✓ If you could delete a whole year from your life story or return to it to fix all the mistakes you may have done during that time period, which year would that be and why? 

3✓ Mention two to three Individuals from those whom you care about for Allah's sake whose personality, actions or life decisions inspire you to become a better Muslim. In what ways do you feel inspired by them?

• When all the participants have answered the first question, the person beside the first questioner asks the next question and so on etc.

2☑️  "Ask And Answer Questions Within 15 to 25 Seconds":

• Almost similar to the conversation game above but with limited duration to speak. A mechanical timer or timer application on an android phone can be used when playing this game.

• A participant who fails to answer a question within 15 to 25 seconds doesn't get to ask any question until after a particular round, when all the participants have attempted to ask and answer questions.

• Before the game starts, the participants write their questions on separate sheets of paper, without showing their questions to the other participants, then tear the sheet of questions into separate pieces then fold them so the group can pick one from the shuffled pieces of paper. Three to five questions must be asked by each participant or the one who volunteers to lead the game can decide how many questions every participant is allowed to ask.

📝 Examples of questions that can generate quick responses: 

1✓ Was there ever an instance in your life when you shed tears because you sympathized with someone? Who is that person whom you felt sorry for?

2✓ If you could select only three from your loved ones to travel with you abroad, to a country which you haven't visited before, who would those three be? 

3✓ What is one thing which you believe you're very good at, and you haven't seen anybody from your relatives who has mastered such skill yet?

3✅ "Encouragement To Read Together From The Mushaf (The Noble Qur'an)":

• Form a circle, be seated on the floor or around a table. 

• On separate cards or square sheets of paper, write random numbers of pages from the Noble Qur'an. Shuffle those cards or paper whenever a participant is about to select one. 

• When a participant randomly chooses a card or paper, they hold a Mushaf (with wudhu/ablution and as long as the female holding the Mushaf doesn't have her monthly excuse) or they open a Noble Qur'an application on an android phone then go to the page according to the number they've selected. The participant recites the Ayaat/verses on those two pages of the Mushaf / Qur'an application then the participant beside them reads to the group the translation of those verses/Ayaat in the language which is understandable to the majority. 

• Once those two have completed reading the Ayaat/verses in Arabic and the second language, another participant chooses a random page then reads the Ayaat/verses which the participant seated beside them later reads next.

4☑️ "Encouragement To Read Some Ahadith / Narrations of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.":

• Almost similar to the previously mentioned activity but this time instead of reading some random Ayaat/verses from the Noble Qur'an, the group can read a random Hadith and share what they've learned by carefully reading the narration, making sure that it is authentic and sound, not fabricated.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-seven-types-of-difficult-people.html 

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https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-chatty-you-can-be-based-on-your-personality-type/

Links: PDF Booklet On The Rites Of Hajj And Umrah

📔 Islamic PDF document booklet on "the Rites of Hajj and 'Umrah" compiled by Abu Khadeejah Abdul-Wahid Alam based on the works of the major scholars of the era: Ibn Baaz, Ibn 'Uthaimeen, Al-Albaani and Salih Al-Fawzaan - May Allah the Most Merciful have mercy on them all, accept their good deeds and make them and us among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. (This PDF document is a sadaqa jaariyah, not for sale):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CgSK-SAPzVY7e53wkyMOUE0uLmVRaEa6/view?usp=drivesdk

https://abukhadeejah.com/hajj-and-umrah-madinah-guide-book-complete/

Note: How An INTJ Can Become Indifferent At Times

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three usual instances when an individual with the INTJ personality type can become very indifferent or unconcerned: 

1] When an INTJ contentedly feels indifferent to jumping on the bandwagon: Just because a lot of celebrities or social media influencers follow a particular trend or buy certain products which are high in demand, most INTJs would remain unimpressed and unwilling to participate in something which conflicts with their strongly held values. 

2] When they unapologetically abstain from nosily stalking the accounts of users who "ghosted" them or excluded them from specific gatherings: If some individuals refused to invite or reconcile with an INTJ, don't expect that INTJ to stalk your online posts (so you can keep the cowardly passive-aggressive remarks and uploads to yourself since they won't bother scrutinizing them) nor watch videos (or random "vlogs") on YouTube and elsewhere which are related to the event you wrongly assumed they'd be "missing out" on. 

3] When they're genuinely uninterested in absorbing content irrelevant to their goals and when they gladly desist from feeling negatively affected by people's criticism: You claimed that an INTJ is such and such? They'll probably acknowledge the fact that your disrespectful acts are a confirmation of your intense jealousy or they could guess you're struggling from severe sorrow due to your enormous load of insecurities.

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📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Tips: Seventeen Questions To Avoid Asking Your Husband To Prevent Unnecessary Drama

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💚 Seventeen questions to avoid asking your husband to avoid unnecessary drama and preventable arguments: 

1❎ "Do you really love me?" 

2❎ "Who do you love more - me? Or your mother?" 

3❎ "Whose cooking do you enjoy more - your mother's? Or mine?" 

4❎ "Tell the truth, do you ever think about remarrying?" Or "Do you have plans on having a second wife?" 

5❎ "Do you think she's pretty?" Or "Who's prettier - me? Or that woman?" 

6❎ "On a scale of one to ten - how beautiful am I? Be honest!" 

7❎ "Which female celebrity do you want me to look more like?" 

8❎ "Who do you love more - me? Or your sister/sisters?" Or "Am I prettier than your sisters? Or do you find them better-looking than me?"

9❎ "Do you ever regret our marriage?" 

10❎ "Do you feel jealous whenever I talk to non-mahram males?" 

11❎ "Be as frank as you can - are you a lot happier being married or single?" Or "Do you ever wish you're still single so you have less responsibilities?" 

12❎ "Are you sure you don't have another cellphone which you secretly use to communicate with non-mahram women?" 

13❎ "How come you never react to any of my Facebook posts?" Or "Why won't you comment on my social media posts more regularly?" 

14❎ "Who do you enjoy spending quality time with more often - your male friends or me?" 

15❎ "Why do you spend more time with your male friends / brothers than with me? Are we married or what?" 

16❎ "Why do you always arrive late?" 

17❎ "Can you please have a makeover so you appear more handsome like this male celebrity?"

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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