๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐️ Seven things which if spotted in someone would inspire me (as an INTJ) to refrain from talking to them as much as possible (and never will I bother browsing around their social media posts) to preserve my faith / Imaan and overall well-being... if they:
1. ...were caught gossiping about others more than twice or cowardly talking about me negatively.
2. ...appear obviously nervous and uncomfortable around me numerous times as if they're more afraid of me than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem.
3. ...display awful lack of manners while their evident disrespectful acts imply they're intensely envious of me.
4. ...exhibit any form of enmity or animosity towards even one of my family members and relatives particularly if they question why my dear husband is deserving of my loyalty.
5. ...are uninteresting, unreliable and ineffectual when it comes to communicating both online and face to face.
6. ...unreasonably expect me to be there for them "all the time" and to never say no to their requests.
7. ...act passive-aggressive a lot, especially if they're older than me, and very often misconstrue many of my statements so much so that it's better to stay quiet if they're nearby when we are in the same venue than to initiate awkward conversations which could lead to unnecessary drama.
Allah the All-Knowing knows best. The souls whom Allah the Most Wise has destined for us to meet on earth are like books in a library which we can choose from before embarking on an important journey. We don't need too many reading materials for us to feel "fulfilled" and "complete" - just the right selection of few reliable books which we believe can
Inn-sha-Allah cause our faith Imaan levels to increase. Gladly distance yourself from those with empty pages and meaningless content, and any writing that could negatively influence our self-esteem.
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๐ Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
๐ Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim