Poem: What Insecure People Do And Tips To Not Feel Insecure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Signs of highly insecure people to clarify 

What it means to feel so unconfident from inside, 

Eager to please people more than Allah the Most High, 

Acting in insulting ways so you're not undermined:

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Most insecure folks tend to take a lot of selfies, 

Upload loads of photos to be spoiled with flattery.

They're big on make-up and looking flawless physically, 

And they judge others based on the shape of their bodies.

~•~

Confident people glow with faith and inner beauty.

They uplift others, defend those treated unjustly, 

Use their voice to inspire and hands to do charity, 

And they don't shy away from saying "Thanks" and "Sorry".

~•~

Most insecure folks feel obliged to flaunt they're wealthy.

So food and travel pictures they post regularly 

Are meant to prove they can afford worldly luxury.

The truly rich and secure don't broadcast their money.

~•~

Most insecure people enjoy putting others down, 

Behaving like bullies to soothe their interior scowls.

They're pros at spotting others' flaws, gossiping around, 

And when someone rightly taunts them, they act like sad clowns.

~•~

The confident don't gossip. They've better things to do.

Cheap rumors they don't buy, specially if they're untrue.

To them, mocking others' faults and defects is no use 

When they make mistakes at times, because they're human too.

~•~

Most insecure folks are clingy, get hurt easily, 

And doubt themselves when they deal with people's enmity. 

They likely stick to cliques despite their toxicity, 

Fearful of rejection, unconcerned with quality.

~•~

Confident people who trust Allah the Almighty 

Live life for Allah, not His servants submissively.

They do good patiently, regardless of mockery, 

And when they're "alone", they're independent, not lonely.

~•~

To avoid feeling insecure, take note at all times,

We're here to serve Allah, not keep His slaves satisfied.

Why worry what people think when Allah the Most Wise 

Is the One Whom we must submit to each day and night.

~•~

📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Stay As Your Husband's Patient Lover And Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Ways to be a good friend to your husband even if 

Your love is tough, in a long-distance relationship, 

Your romance takes place in a polygynous marriage, 

Work preoccupies him, or you don't have many kids:

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Firstly, love him for Allah's sake, take him as a gift 

Granted by Allah for you to specially nourish, 

Understand one another and each other assist 

To reach Jannah where you can have whatever you wish.

~•~

Second, when he disappoints you, give him excuses, 

Just as you'd want him to be one who quickly forgives.

Admit he's a human too, prone to forget and slip.

Accept that he has his own limits and weaknesses.

~•~

Third: If the man whom Allah picked is one who's complex, 

Courageously see him as a problem you can fix, 

A puzzle to solve with determination and wit, 

While trusting Allah the Most Wise to grant you success.

~•~

Four: Be patient with your spouse. Don't copy those who quit, 

Who expect their men to be impossibly perfect.

Let your patience be so splendid that shaytan admits 

Your strong Imaan shields you from falling into his tricks.

~•~

Five: When your husband doesn't send enough messages 

Or his way of communicating makes you upset, 

Pardon him and empathize. In Jannah you won't fret.

Persevere with Sabr to pass all of Allah's tests.

~•~

To be your husband's friend, stay patient, wise, and forgive. 

Be much stronger than pride, black magic and selfishness,

Till you reunite in Jannah, glad you've succeeded, 

Grateful too to Allah you're victorious in marriage.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to Al-Ashajj 'Abdul Al-Qays, "Verily, you have two qualities which are beloved to Allah. They are forbearance and patience."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are forbearance and modesty."

Source: Sahih Muslim 17

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Don't Call Me "Toxic" Just Because We're Too Different

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 We're seen as "toxic" by those whom Allah didn't choose 

To enter our circle, so they tend to misconstrue 

Our intentions, accusing us of "bad attitude" 

When we just can't connect, hence they're easily eschewed.

~•~

They expect us to react to their posts constantly, 

Message them daily, massage their insecurities, 

And comfort their low self-esteem with sycophancy, 

Then when we disappoint, they accuse us of "envy".

~•~

Honestly, though we don't nurture "crab mentality", 

Some mistake our lack of interest for "jealousy".

You can't compel shoppers to buy more than what they need 

Or force them to purchase stuff which they think are lousy.

~•~

So don't claim a person is "mean" or "toxic" simply 

Because they're not always free to cheer, scan your selfies, 

Or their lack of Oscar awards makes it uneasy 

For them to act like they relate to you profoundly.

~•~

Only those whom Allah chose can see your true value.

If you're that complex, unique and special, very few 

Can match your vibes. Recall the story of Prophet Nuh ('alaihis salaam).

Seek Allah's Love, without needing His slaves to approve.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy." We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter." They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believer with good character."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me: "O young man, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor (grudge) from your heart towards anyone, then do so."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2678

Grade: Hasan

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638

Poem: Advice On How To Deal With People Who Envy You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three ways to deal with people who are jealous of you, 

Whose envy is confirmed each time they try to exclude 

You from gatherings with mutual friends, when they are rude, 

When they gossip, accuse, or deny your good value:

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One: You can sympathize, stay connected, and pity, 

Feel sorry they're sadly suffering from jealousy 

That prevents them from inner joy and serenity. 

Remind them you're imperfect too, so they feel relieved.

~•~

Two: Make friends out of them so they're not your enemies.

If you care enough, make the first move and be friendly. 

Help them if they need assistance, cheer when they succeed, 

And together to reach Jannah healthily compete.

~•~

Three: If befriending them is an impossible feat 

And they ditch you because your joys bring them misery, 

Then for Allah's sake leave their bad vibes confidently. 

Connecting with them isn't part of Allah's Decree.

~•~

Like the sun that shines brightly when some despise its heat, 

Let dark and ugly hearts detest your inner beauty, 

While you keep on doing good for Allah sincerely. 

As you level up in life, jealous critics increase.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy.” We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter.” They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “A believer with good character.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 'Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant.”

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours (removes) good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

Poem: What's It Like Being A Muslim Introvert

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some things you'll relate to if you're a true introvert, 

If you lean to introversion as an ambivert, 

Or if you're not into labels and you're self-assured 

That you don't need many friends to keep you reassured:

~•~

We believe Allah is above, watching us always, 

With Angels nearby to record what we do and say, 

And with other special Angels sent to supplicate 

For us when we mention Allah, learn Islam and pray.

~•~

We also know that surrounding us are some unseen 

Creation, beings and slaves of Allah from the jinns, 

Many of whom get inspired by our righteous actions, 

Hearing us when we're reading the Qur'an and praying.

~•~

Instances when we're "alone" don't make us feel lonesome, 

Since we have Allah and there are Angels recording. 

Adhkaar, Du'a, and good books are other companions 

That bring forth inner peace, rewards and sweet contentment.

~•~

Whether or not we're invited to large gatherings, 

We're fine if they forget us or cancel appointments. 

We prefer staying in to needless socializing, 

And we're selective regarding our interactions.

~•~

When we're "silent", we're saying Dhikr, supplicating, 

Contemplating, analyzing, thinking, observing, 

Planning and trying to decipher people's doings, 

Or we're desisting from blurting lies and rude statements.

~•~

Decision to distance from certain souls doesn't mean 

We despise them - no, we're just energy conserving. 

As we yearn for Allah and fulfill our life mission,

Solitude with Dear Allah stays calmly addicting.

~•~

📖 Sa’d Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (unknown, not famous)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2965

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those in solitude have raced ahead." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are those in solitude ('al-mufarridoon')?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are men and women who remember Allah a lot."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2676

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No people gather to remember Allah the Almighty but that the Angels surround them, cover them with mercy, send tranquility upon them, and mention them to Allah among those near to Him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2700

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56