Poem: On The Topic Of Sexual Orientation And Labelling One's Sexuality

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 As a Muslim who strives to serve Allah the Most Wise, 

I don't label myself "lez", "pansexual", or "bi". 

While I don't buy labels, I know and I can't deny 

The fact that life's a test and shaytan with all his might 

Will do his best to divert humans from Paradise. 

~•~ 

While I don't call myself "lez", "pansexual", or "bi", 

I know that shaytan can play with hearts and he can try 

To entice a striving Muslimah to theorize 

That she has fallen in "love" with someone's loyal wife, 

When shaytan loves it when people spoil each other's lives. 

~•~

While I'm not officially "lez", "pansexual", or "bi", 

I understand that our foe shaytan may oftentimes 

Push us to ask ourselves, "these feelings are real, but why?"

When fixation with similar souls can't be denied.

Needless talks are then shunned, so fitna is minimized.

~•~ 

Just because I'm not "lesbian", "pansexual", or "bi" 

Doesn't mean it's perfectly fine, as much as I like, 

To stare at other females, with or without desire. 

I shall control my gaze, and look only when required, 

Since shaytan has his ways to make unwanted sparks fly. 

~•~ 

Zina ain't limited to lust between girls and guys, 

But it can also occur when some ladies admire 

Each other too much as though their hearts were magnetized. 

Shield yourself with Taqwa. Talk to Allah day and night. 

Love Allah more than anyone, to win every fight. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (indecent thoughts, imaginations, or feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287 

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, what I fear most for my nation is the deed of the people of Lut / Prophet Lot  'alaihis salaam (i.e. homosexuality, zina between same genders)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1374

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man should not look at the nakedness (private parts) of another man, and a woman should not look at the nakedness (private parts) of another woman. A man should not lie with another man under a single blanket, and a woman should not lie with another woman under a single blanket."

Source: Sahih Muslim 338

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/lgbtq-homosexuality-gay-muslims-and-islam/ 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-on-dealing-with-fitna-of-same-sex.html 

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Poem: What Zuhd / Asceticism Really Means

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 What does it mean to have Zuhd / asceticism? 

Zuhd doesn't imply absolute abandonment 

Of the lawful joys in life nor complete abstinence 

From enjoying the blessings that Allah has given. 

Zuhd doesn't involve toxic self-deprivation. 

~•~ 

Zuhd isn't purposely depriving yourself from 

Doing what makes you happy which isn't forbidden, 

Having a good profession to earn halal income, 

And traveling around to see Allah's creation. 

It has nothing to do with conscious self-destruction. 

~•~ 

To have Zuhd is to survive as Allah's servant, 

To make use of the things Allah gave to worship Him, 

And enjoy some halal delights so with contentment 

We thank Allah more for each blessing and provision, 

Preferring Jannah, while knowing this world is fleeting. 

~•~

It means awareness that dunya isn't permanent, 

That Allah, not life, owns us, and no comparison 

Is there between Jannah's bliss and dunya's distractions, 

And when some call us "poor", we don't find it insulting, 

As we're enriched with Islam, Allah's Love and Guidance. 

~•~

While it's fine to chill and unwind every so often, 

Do charity, when there's chance, so your faith can strengthen

And your station in Paradise attains enhancement. 

Regardless of social class and accommodation, 

Pray that Jannatul Ferdaus is our destination.

~•~ 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2807

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Nine Clear Signs That A Muslim Wife's Love For Her Husband Isn't A Lie

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Any female con artist and sex worker can claim that she loves a man or describe how much she enjoys frequent sexual intimacy with him when, in reality, she's only pretending to care as she selfishly wants his money and/or children. 

🔹 Nine clear signs that a Muslim wife truly loves her husband for Allah's sake, and her love isn't a lie:

1] She trusts him, or at least shows that she doesn't constantly suspect him. Just because he occasionally interacts with other females for necessity, particularly his female customers if he manages a store, female patients if he's a medical doctor, and female students if he teaches, doesn't mean he's guilty of adultery. 

2] She patiently accepts it when her husband is unable to provide sufficient money at times, especially whenever he is financially struggling. She didn't marry him for his wealth but she wants him to join her in a loving journey to Jannah Paradise. 

3] She tries her best to treat their children well, doing whatever she can to educate them about Islam and good manners. A woman who despises her husband may take out her frustration and anger on his kids once in a while, if he can't always meet her expectations. 

4] When her husband temporarily loses his job or he has tons of debts, a loyal wife goes out of her way to assist him, finding a decent profession for him, or kindly allowing him to spend from her salary if she is much wealthier than he is. 

5] She's capable of practicing unlimited empathy with him, understanding why and when to give some space when he requires to chill with his male friends and colleagues, while avoiding unnecessarily whining about his delayed replies to her messages, indifference to her missed calls, or certain personality disorders which he may be struggling with momentarily. 

6] She lovingly makes effort to harmoniously get along with his parents, siblings, relatives, and other wife/wives if she's in a polygynous marriage. 

7] She has enough patience and bravery for Allah's sake to allow her husband to remarry. She doesn't oppose his right to be married to up to four wives, as she understands that Allah the Almighty legislated this with infinite wisdom. She'd rather be a co-wife than have him disappear from her life. 

8] When eating and drinking, she enjoys taking bites or sips from where her husband ate and drank from, as though she savors receiving his kisses indirectly. 

9] Numerous times she has dedicatedly written love poems or letters to him. A woman who has zero interest in a guy would never bother writing for him a lengthy message.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-be-strong-wife-and-love-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-how-i-prove-my-love-to-my-husband.html 

Tips: What You Can Do To Manage Some People's Disrespect

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: What can I do to cope with some people's disrespect? Even if I am nice to them, complete my tasks, or I've done nothing wrong to them on purpose, my boss and coworkers treat me disrespectfully. 

📝 Understand that even the best of all human beings, namely the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, encountered moments when he was treated unfairly and disrespectfully. Recall that time when he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went to Taif with Zaid bin Haritha RadhiAllahu 'anhu where they initially didn't receive a warm welcome, and when some leaders of Quraish disrespected the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while he was praying towards the Qiblah and his daughter Fatima RadhiAllahu 'anha did what she could to assist her kindhearted father. 

No matter how kind, seemingly successful, cooperative, educated, charismatic, righteous, or good-looking you are, wherever you go on earth, a temporary platform of tests, occasionally you may encounter some awfully rude and uncivilized people. 

🔹 There are three possible reasons why somebody, whether stranger or from your family, would treat you with disrespect: 

1➡️ They're jealous of you. 

Seeing you display traits, qualities, and achievements which they're currently lacking could explain their desperate longing to make you feel miserable. 

A ) If you regularly receive unfair and awful treatment from an immature woman, she's probably envious of your inner beauty and/or the fact that you're contentedly married to a doctor while the unproductive guy whom she ended up with is jobless, uneducated, or not as attractive as your spouse. 

B ) If your employer or any older individual, who claims to be an adult, consistently treats you with disrespect, it's likely because you in your twenties remind them of their failures, depressing life experiences, or insecurities they've had when they were around your age. 

C ) If the disrespectful individuals are much younger than you, their obnoxious behavior could signify they jealously resent how your parents did a better job than theirs in terms of educating and responsibly taking care of you, or they envy your pleasant looks and/or your overall lifestyle. 

2➡️ They're sad, emotionally unwell, or insecure. 

A lot of bullies resort to bullying when they themselves are being oppressed in their unhappy homes. So they're prompted to transfer their sorrows unto others through behaving disrespectfully. 

3➡️ They're sent as brief tests from Allah the Almighty to purify you from sins you previously did, train your patience, and inspire you to stay grateful that you don't resemble them in their immaturity and absurd attitude. 

Even if you decided to move out to another workplace, you may still come across a number of troublemakers and toxic colleagues. You can either learn to solve a Rubik's cube in a hall which you've selected, choose a different office where several jigsaw puzzles must be solved within a fixed time limit, or try a new venue where you'll be given multiple-choice questions to answer every minute. Wherever you go in this planet of imperfections, you can't completely avoid people who go out of their way to disturb you because not everybody is as blessed as you in having strong faith/Imaan and a beautiful heart/soul. Alhamdulillah always.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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🗒️ Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

Note: How Most INTJ Personality Types Deal With Making Friends And Maintaining Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some facts about most INTJ personality types regarding making friends and maintaining friendships: 

1] Since INTJ Muslims are introverted, they welcome solitude, and would rather spend quality time with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala than attempt to build a shallow link with a person who's clearly incompatible in many ways. 

2] Generally a typical INTJ doesn't feel "lonely", specially if they're aware that those who surround them at work, school, or home are too different from them in terms of values, goals, likes, dislikes, and overall temperament. 

3] INTJs intensely abhor lies, inaccuracies, false rumors, deceitfulness, and gossiping. A quick way to successfully turn off INTJs and inspire them to lose interest in wanting to befriend you is by criticizing other people behind their backs, backbiting, or basically proving you're morally obnoxious. If you can afford to backbite about another Muslim in my presence, I wouldn't be flabbergasted if you did the same when I'm not around. 

4] INTJs value seeking knowledge, striving to apply what they've learned, and enjoy meaningful discussions from which they can learn something valuable, useful, and productive. If you're somebody who despises learning and have nothing significant to teach us, a lot of INTJs may find you uninteresting, even if you likewise perceive us as boring "intellectuals" or "nerds".

5] A lot of INTJs have a preference for writing and sharing some of their thoughts or ideas through text than expressing themselves verbally. Don't be surprised if you notice that an INTJ seems brief when you're talking to them face to face, while they're not as verbose or talkative as they are when they communicate online. 

6] You know that an INTJ regards you as a friend if: At least three times they made sincere effort to send you a message or visit you, asked you for some advice because they respect your frank opinion, or showed you their vulnerable side, feeling comfortable enough to shed tears in front of you. 

7] INTJs find more enjoyment in discussing about the future than the past, more about theories than people's personal issues, and researching solutions rather than ranting. When attending a gathering or conference where most people are blabbering about irrelevant topics, an INTJ mostly remains silent yet observant, and may speak out only if they care enough to correct someone's misinformation. 

8] INTJs are low-maintenance friends who don't obligate their loved ones to reach out 24/7. So if you're a cousin or childhood friend, Alhamdulillah we're still on good terms, meaning I don't hold any grudge against you despite the fact that we haven't spoken to each other for several months or years.

9] INTJs are not clingy. We understand that we can't compel anybody to stay in our circle if they decide to leave anytime for whatever reason. Thus having ex-friends or temporary connections is something we're already used to, and we're not the kind of person who cries over a toxic bond, irrevocable mistake, or failed experiment. If an INTJ can't solve or tolerate a particular problem, we gladly move on, uninterested in looking back on what Allah the Most Wise didn't destine. 

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

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