بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Saturday, May 28, 2022

Tips: Checklist To Determine If Your Husband Truly Deserves You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📝 Checklist to determine if your spouse is worth loving and keeping for Allah's sake, patiently remain as your husband's loyal and patient wife if you end up checking most of these, whether you are in polygyny, LDR (long-distance relationship) or a monogamous marriage: 
1🔹 From the very beginning, you sincerely agreed to marry your husband for the sake of Allah the Almighty, eager to complete the other half of your Deen. You accepted your husband's marriage proposal not for his wealth or status but to accompany him on a loving journey to Jannah Paradise. [    ] 
2🔹 The first time you made actual eye contact with your husband, you felt shy or bashful, with your awkwardness or nervousness indicating that you really felt attracted to him. [    ] 
3🔹 Overall you strongly believe that your husband is a good man, despite his faults and imperfections. [    ] 
4🔹 Your husband, with Allah's Will and Mercy, was able to teach you at least one valuable lesson which other individuals aren't capable of teaching. Or you acknowledge that ever since you married your husband for Allah's sake, Alhamdulillah, you've become a better Muslim. [    ] 
5🔹 At least three of your husband's relatives, regardless of how old they are, harmoniously get along with you. [    ] 
6🔹 You truthfully respect your husband's current occupation and/or you admire how your hard-working husband tries his best to earn only halal income. [    ] 
7🔹 You can imagine feeling remorseful if ever you asked for a divorce. You'd rather strive to maintain patience, for Allah's sake, with your husband than occasionally pass by a non-mahram whose face reminds you of all the wonderful moments you've enjoyed together. [    ] 
8🔹 Other couples' love stories can't make you feel jealous at all. Instead of feeling envious, noticing another wife thriving in her marriage inspires you to be even more loyal to your husband for Allah's sake. [    ] 
9🔹 You're willing to relocate with your husband or work as his secretary or assistant if necessary. [    ] 
10🔹 Chatting with your husband online and face to face is enjoyable, informative and beneficial, not boring or too toxic. [    ] 
11🔹 You can visualize wanting a second wedding with your husband if ever you had to temporarily split up. You understand that it's possible to remarry your soulmate twice if Allah the Most Wise decrees it. [    ] 
12🔹 You and your husband have at least three common goals, qualities or interests. [    ] 
13🔹 You remember that you prayed two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah before agreeing to marry your husband for Allah's sake. [    ] 
14🔹 Earnestly you hope and look forward to seeing your husband become more successful as a dedicated Muslim, with Allah's Will, at the most ideal timing. [    ] 
15🔹 It's easy for you to defend your husband and think of reasonable excuses to back him up whenever critics criticize him. [    ] 
16🔹 Numerous times you've shed tears while mentioning your husband's name in loving Du'as. [    ] 
17🔹 The fact that you can afford to let your husband remarry or be employed in a different city is one of the countless evidences of how much you truly love your soulmate for Allah's sake. [    ]
~•~ 
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Friday, May 27, 2022

Links: Three E-Books (Summary And Two PDF Documents Of More Than 100 Selected Poems)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗂️ Da'wah According To The Noble Qur'an And Sunnah Of The Beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. (Summary - PDF not for sale) 
📁 Just Sharing Islam (1st ebook of 103 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale) 
 
📂 Journeying Back To Jannah (2nd ebook of 135 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale) 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2699
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: What It Means To Have Patience As Your Dear Husband's Loyal Friend And Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 If you ask me, "As your husband's loyal, grateful wife, 
What does it mean to have patience? Does patience imply 
Tolerating abuse from someone who sometimes lies, 
Condoning injustice, denying a woman's rights, 
Acting as if you're fine while you hide your frequent cries?" 
~•~
That's not the kind of patience which wise wives must apply. 
Patience for Allah inspires me to know that this life 
Is brief, not everlasting, so trials which arise 
To purify souls before entry to Paradise 
Become manageable. Grief can gradually subside. 
~•~
Patience for Allah's sake, as your husband's pious wife, 
Helps you become stronger emotionally when pride 
And lousy whispers from shaytan try to jeopardize 
The link you have with your spouse, as your soulmate's tough wife. 
It's part of being human to err once in a while. 
~•~
You're like a hopeful teacher who knows from deep inside, 
With Allah's Mercy, students' faults can be rectified. 
Spoil your husband with empathy. Give him lots of time 
To learn from your good example and heartfelt advice. 
Patiently check his progress. Pray for him day and night.
~•~
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: When the verse was revealed, "And those who hoard gold and silver," (Surah At-Tawbah 9:34), some of the companions said, “This was revealed about gold and silver. Were it only revealed that we may know which wealth is best to take.” The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help him in his faith."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “And a believing wife to help one of you in matters of the Hereafter.”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105
Sahih Muslim 1053
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
 
 
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https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

Tuesday, May 24, 2022

Tips: Quiz You Can Take To Determine If Somebody Is A Friend Or Acquaintance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📝 Some questions to ask yourself regarding a person to determine if they're a true friend, toxic friend (aka "frenemy") or just an acquaintance:
1➡️ How long have you been acquainted with this individual? 
A] They've been in the same city for a long time but only recently we've started talking to each other. Or less than two years. 
B] Only for a few months but it seems as they already regard me as a "friend" even though I still don't know enough details about them. Or I've been acquainted with them for more than three years but I'd say we're not really close. 
C] Alhamdulillah we've been connected for more than five years and I'm hoping our friendship continues even until we both reach Jannah Paradise.
2➡️ How often do you chat online or check up on them? 
A] Only if I need to ask questions or give instructions, and our conversations are usually very brief or formal. 
B] I feel as though I'm mostly the one taking the initiative to start a conversation with them and sometimes I can sense that our dialogues are unpleasantly awkward or "artificial". 
C] Every other day or at least once every two months. True friends don't require to conversate every single day and night to maintain the connection. 
3➡️ Have you ever invited them to accompany you for shopping or join you to attend some social events? 
A] Not yet. 
B] Once or twice, but I stopped inviting them when I realized their vibes don't mesh with mine. Or yes, a number of times, but they frequently rejected my invites. 
C] Several times, yes, and Alhamdulillah we try to meet up whenever we're both not busy, which seldom happens but it's okay, I believe we are still friends even if we can't see each other 24/7.
4➡️ How would you feel if you knew that they'd be attending a certain conference or large gathering? 
A] Nothing really. Their presence and absence don't impact me in any way. 
B] Slightly anxious, worried or disappointed. 
C] Even more excited and motivated to attend because your good friend is attending. 
5➡️ If their residence was just a few steps away from yours, how often would you pay visits? 
A] Probably rarely or only on special occasions. 
B] I'd prefer to keep my distance since they're a negative influence and I don't trust them. Or only if they insisted that I visit and I would go feeling reluctant. 
C] Whenever I feel like visiting them for Allah's sake and when I'm sure they're not preoccupied with other tasks so I won't cause disturbance. 
6➡️ Were there moments when you felt upset with them but later decided to forgive their mistakes from within? 
A] I don't know them well enough yet to feel emotionally connected. 
B] They've done some things online and offline which bothered me oftentimes but I'm trying my best to patiently understand them. 
C] Yes, while misunderstandings occur sometimes, eventually we forgive each other for Allah's sake and don't want pride/kibr/ego to get in the way of a worthwhile connection. 
7➡️ Tell the truth. Do you feel at least one percent jealous of them? 
A] Why would I feel envious of a complete stranger? I barely know them. 
B] Not "jealous" but more like annoyed or disgusted by their desperate attempts at making me feel "jealous", with their occasional brags and lame efforts to show off. 
C] I wouldn't state that I envy them. I admire their noble traits and achievements for Allah's sake. Seeing them happy makes me feel calm, not jealous or insecure in any way. 
8➡️ Can you count all the times when they've proven to you that they're sincerely helpful and supportive? 
A] I hardly communicate with them online and face to face. I don't bother following their status updates, so I can't describe them in the first place. 
B] Maybe less than five? In some instances though I feel that their act of kindness comes with a selfish agenda.
C] The number of times when they've been kind and caring are too many to list. Or I already consider them as part of my small circle of carefully selected friends. There's no need to keep count of what they did and couldn't do once I regard friendship with a Muslimah as worth keeping for Allah's sake. 
9➡️ How do you typically feel when you're about to check their latest posts on social media? 
A] I don't follow their status updates. I'm not really interested in what they have to say.  
B] From time to time I'd feel a bit anxious, worried that they may have posted a passive-aggressive status update about me or somebody else indirectly. 
C] Enthusiastic and eager to learn what I can benefit from their Islamic reminders for Allah's sake, or excited to respond to some of their newest posts to maintain our connection for Allah's sake. 
10➡️ Which of these adjectives most accurately suit them? 
A] Uncommunicative, aloof, unrelatable, distracted, or mysterious. 
B] Gossipy, dictatorial, cringeworthy, narcissistic, or unpredictable. 
C] Inspiring, comforting, generous, dependable, or easygoing. 
If your overall result, when referring to this person, is mostly: 
A's 🔲 they are just an acquaintance. 
B's ❌ they could be a toxic friend or enemy pretending to be on your team. Avoid socializing unnecessarily with them, as much as possible, to protect your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being.
C's ✅ they have a lot of the qualities which make an individual deserving of your trust, support and empathy for Allah's sake. A considerable amount of patience, sincere intention behind willingness to network, and ongoing forgiveness are necessary to ensure that a connection goes on until your reunion 
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/tips-ways-to-tell-if-your-friend-or.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-red-signs-of-toxic-friendships-and.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-checklist-to-find-out-if-someone.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-good-righteous-friends-vs-toxic.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/tips-some-ways-to-determine-if-person.html 
https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

Note: Three Things Which Actually Sad People Do. Avoid These If You Are Truly Happy From Within.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Three things which are common among individuals who are actually unhappy despite pretending to be cheerful, being popular on social media, cracking jokes frequently or living luxurious lifestyles: 
1] Instead of living to please our Creator Allah the Almighty, people who are unhappy from within strive to satisfy Allah's slaves. Constantly being a people-pleaser is one of the shortcuts to depression. 
➡️ TikTokers and YouTubers who eagerly compete with others to gain more likes, followers and views may not be truly contented from inside.
2] Wasting most of one's lifetime nosily and jealously spying on others' lives, watching vlogs of strangers who can't inspire them to become better humans, or obsessively stalking accounts of users who post negative content regularly or who don't want anything to do with the nosy stalkers. 
➡️ People who are actually happy on the inside focus on their own blessings and progress instead of constantly comparing themselves to others. 
3] Trying to survive life without a noble purpose and aim, aimlessly browsing around social media for long periods, and carrying out acts of worship not to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sincerely but as a custom. 
➡️ A lot of those who committed suicide, a major sin in Islam which we must avoid, may have taken their own lives because they lost the attachment to temporary things and people or they couldn't achieve specific goals which contradict the real reason why we human beings were created. 
Don't attach yourself to Allah's servants. Stay connected to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who never dies and with Allah's Mercy you'll always be grateful, at peace and contented, aspiring to remain on the right way to Jannah Paradise where we can enjoy everlasting bliss.
~•~
📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Mus'ad Ibn Sa'eed RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The servant will continue to face trials until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398 
Grade: Sahih 
📖 Fadalah Ibn 'Ubayd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Blessed is one who is guided to Islam, whose livelihood is sufficient, and who is contented."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2349
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani