Tips: Seven Things Which Unhappy And Insecure Individuals Can't Really Do

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Seven things which many depressed, unhappy and insecure individuals find very difficult to do: 

1] Being sincerely happy for you, celebrating your wins and achievements, and feeling at ease when you're in a good mood. 

2] Offering some help when you require assistance, granting support when you can benefit from some words of encouragement, showing concern for your well-being, defending you in your absence or presence when some critics malign you, and providing helpful tips and advice. 

3] Treating you with proper conduct and common courtesy. 

4] Answering your salaams, greetings, invitations, calls and messages responsibly and as timely as they can. 

5] Truthfully apologizing to you once they're aware that they've committed a mistake. 

6] Wholeheartedly thanking you and expressing gratitude upon knowing that you've done them a favor. 

7] Sharing their joys or sharable items they have in abundance. 

In general, a person with sore muscles and a toothache may not interact with you as cheerfully as an individual without any ailment would, because their discomfort prevents them from behaving appropriately, unless they're strong enough to maintain good manners regardless of how they're feeling from within. 

Next time Inn-sha-Allah when you encounter a seemingly disrespectful and grouchy stranger, such as an uncongenial salesperson or waiter, understand that maybe they're struggling with a lot of personal problems which cause them to misbehave, and they're not as confident as you to be capable of retaining beautiful character despite their fluctuating moods.

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📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

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Tips: Genuine Friends Are Very Rare. Nine Signs That Someone Is Worthy Of Your Love For Allah's Sake.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Broken friendships usually occur when both of the friends have too much pride/kibr that they're unable to forgive one another. Other times it's because one of them was actually a "fake friend" and enemy in disguise. Inauthenticity, deceitfulness, unreliability, selfishness and intense jealousy eventually cause potential friends to drift apart. 

Just because somebody regularly chats with you late at night, often invites you to supposedly fun outings, or buys you drinks and snacks once in a while doesn't imply they're a trustworthy friend. For all you know, maybe they are only acting as though they care about you to collect more info about the company you're working in, to take advantage of your generosity, or to use you to stay connected to certain individuals whom they're more interested in networking with. The more "fake friends" you have, the more susceptible you are to wasting valuable time, money, gifts, emotions, and energy on people who may be more harmful to you than beneficial. It's better to be contented with at least one true friend (such as your spouse, parent or sibling/half-sibling) than to desperately want a connection with almost every soul whom Allah the Almighty decrees you'd meet. 

✅ The following are nine signs which indicate that a person is worthy of your true love for Allah's sake and you should try your best to avoid taking them for granted, as they could be a genuine friend: 

1] More than twice they have shared some useful links or announcements inviting you to join them to attend an Islamic seminar, class or online lecture. 

2] If you're both females, at least once they helped you fix your hijaab ensuring that no strand of hair is being shown or they remind you to wear your niqab when non-mahram males are around. If you are both males, they have invited you to pray on time with them at the Masjid numerous times, particularly to pray Salat Al-Jumuah and Tahajjud or the Taraweeh prayers during Ramadan. 

3] They always make sure that they answer your salaams, instead of being from those insecure individuals who respond to a Muslim's salaam only if they're well-acquainted or if they are in a good mood. 

4] They're not afraid to correct your mistakes and offer advice when you need counseling. Their usual way of advising is through sending you a direct message or one-on-one rather than scolding you publicly. 

5] They've informed you, at least once, online or face to face that they love you for Allah's sake or that you're one of those Muslims whom they regularly mention in their loving Du'as. 

6] They don't easily get offended by you, or they willingly forgive you for Allah's sake even if you haven't apologized yet. 

7] You know for sure that they really dislike gossip. Backbiting about mutual acquaintances is not something they typically enjoy doing. 

8] You can sense that they don't judge you at all by your outward appearance, your income and size of your residence. 

9] You have no problem describing them as "inspiring", "helpful", "caring", "supportive" and "understanding".

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

📖 Ibn Hibban RahimahuAllah narrated that Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one who is silent, and one who is silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalaa 56 

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Tips: What To Do When Told "You Are So Weird" Or "You're So Annoying"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: What should I do if I were told “you’re so weird” or “you’re so annoying”?

📝 Answer: “Weird” them out or “annoy” them further by refusing to change yourself to appease them, as long as you believe that whatever you’re doing is meant to please Only Allah the Almighty and your actions aren’t designed to deliberately disturb anybody. Whatever critics claim about you doesn’t always determine your worth and reality.
Imagine a long dining table filled with a wide variety of international cuisines while you’re one of the guests. Although you’d be willing to try out every one of the dishes presented, not all of the edibles you taste may be to your liking. Some may be too salty, others too sweet, and others, just by their overall appearance, would probably look too eccentric or terrifying for you to eat. Similarly, don’t expect every soul whom Allah the Most Wise decrees that you’d meet to find you “likable”.
The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam himself, the best and most well-mannered of all human beings, encountered some hostility from the unbelievers, polytheists and hypocrites. Putting effort into maintaining good character and treating people courteously as much as possible won’t guarantee that all of Allah’s servants will return your kindness with amity. Wolves in general would still devour unsuspecting sheep even if the latter sent the carnivores a bundle of carnations wanting peace, and a lion wouldn’t suddenly become “vegan” or herbivorous just because you’re not a consumer of lion meat.
Let people describe and label you however they like, as long as you strive to sincerely serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala and your action which some regard as “annoying” isn’t a major or minor sin persistently done out of kibr/arrogance.
If there’s something about you though which can actually offend, annoy or distract some individuals, such as occasionally emitting foul body odor when stressed out or having bad breath after you’ve eaten something too flavorful, don’t allow your ego to prevent you from doing what is sensible. Do what needs to be done to achieve group harmony, if necessary. If those who criticized you continue fault-finding while overlooking their own imperfections, acting as though they’re flawless, then do yourself a favor and for Allah’s sake avoid inessential interactions with them to preserve your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being.

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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu ‘anha narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by the displeasure of Allah, Allah will leave him to the patronage of the people.”

Source: Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 2414

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil.

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Tips: Nine Signs That You Are Thick-skinned

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Nine signs that you're thick-skinned and Allah the Almighty blessed you with a strong personality: 

1] You don't doubt your self-worth nor act overly upset when some Facebook users unfriend you or reject your friend requests. 

2] You remain unfazed and unaffected when people criticize you, whether in a one-on-one setting or social gathering. Although you're capable of responding to insults with a clever comeback, most of the time you choose to ignore trolls and insecure individuals who may misconstrue your words.

3] You've been yelled at, scolded or laughed at several times but Alhamdulillah those incidents only inspired you to become tougher for Allah's sake and to move on confidently. 

4] You don't feel the need to keep anybody on your list of blocked users. After arguing with a user, if ever you get into an argument, you may block them temporarily to let them know you're uninterested in chatting further, then you unblock them after some days while staying away from stalking their social media posts. 

5] In general when somebody treats you disrespectfully, instead of wondering if there's something wrong with you, you analyze the possible reasons behind the disrespectful person's misconduct and thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you're not as miserable as that person is inwardly. 

6] You're courageous enough to show up the next day at work or school, rather than hiding yourself and being absent, when you go through a situation which many people may regard as "embarrassing" or "awkward". 

7] You're not afraid to walk past individuals who had a misunderstanding with you nor are you scared to attend meetings or conferences which are attended by some acquaintances whose attitudes conflict with yours. 

8] You don't overreact irrationally when some users fail to answer your messages in a timely manner. 

9] You don't make it a big deal when some individuals didn't answer your salaam, aware that they're probably ignorant of how to properly exchange greetings in Islam or they were distracted by other tasks or thoughts.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Some Tips On How To Deal With A "Broken Family"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Some advice to kids, teens and Muslims who can relate concerning "broken families" - what you can do to patiently deal with your mother and father being separated, particularly if one or both of them remarried, and you tried your best to reconcile them but they mutually moved on while still loving you: 

1] Look forward to attaining rewards for striving to have patience with what Allah the Almighty destined, as a Muslim who strives to accept Allah's Plans and Qadr/Destiny. Understand that whatever occurs in the universe only takes place because Allah the Most Wise allowed it, and there's always wisdom behind every occurrence even if we may not be able to grasp the reasons yet. 

2] While you can't fully control the actions, feelings and choices of your parents, you have the freewill to select how you can respond to your parents' decisions. As a Muslim, ensure that you behave in a manner which pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and which won't lead to any sort of trouble in this world and the afterlife. 

So if your parents have made it clear that they're already contented with the new spouses, show both of them respect by not arguing with them regarding their remarriage. Maintain family ties with your mother and father even if they've decided to avoid one another to protect each other's emotional well-being. 

3] Try to put yourself in your parents' shoes. If you have finalized your decision to quit staying in touch with somebody who is too incompatible, unbearable and toxic for you, you wouldn't find joy in pretending to like them if some loved ones insisted that you remain connected. While you may enjoy dining out with two individuals whom you regard as friends but they despise one another simultaneously, those two would probably be better off and farther away from fitna and avoidable problems if you spent quality time with each friend separately, not in the presence of the person who triggers their bad moods. 

4] Confidently believe that your connection with particular individuals, or any of Allah's servants, has nothing to do with your entry to Jannah Paradise and passing Allah's tests. You can 

Inn-sha-Allah make it to Jannatul Ferdaus even if your parents are no longer married to each other and if any relative disowned you. In fact, on the Day of Judgment, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best, you'll be more concerned about yourself, your deeds and the results of your actions much more than worrying if your family is complete or not. 

5] Sincerely continue doing Da'wah for Allah's sake to both of your parents and their families often, so that 

Inn-sha-Allah you can all succeed in deserving a beautiful entrance to Jannah Paradise where there will be no room at all for negative emotions including resentment, unjustifiable suspicion and jealousy - all instigated by our archenemy shaytan.

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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The bond of family (kinship) is suspended from the Throne and it says: 'Whoever upholds me, Allah will uphold him. Whoever severs me, Allah will sever him.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5643, Sahih Muslim 2555

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Jubayr Ibn Mut'im RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The one who severs his family ties will not enter Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5638, Sahih Muslim 2556

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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