Poem: Dunya Isn't Everlasting. Prepare For The Meeting With Allah The Almighty.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Contemplate and reflect on how many people died 

Unexpectedly, most of whom wished for longer lives. 

How many passed away before trying marriage life, 

Before completing their studies, or while still a child?

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How many women were widowed while they never tried 

Making love or traveling with their spouse far and wide?

How many took their last breath whilst in their beds at night, 

And news of their sudden death brought loved ones much surprise?

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How many friends got into arguments due to pride, 

Unaware that one of them after some days would die?

How many relatives went without formal goodbyes,

With wills they did not write and huge fortune left behind?

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How many tourists were excited for some fun times 

Only to be taken by Allah during their flight?

How many died in car accidents, physical fights, 

Earthquakes, floods, or by lightning, with Allah's Will and Might?

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Note to self, and dear human: Death can come anytime. 

So prepare yourself to meet Allah each day and night, 

With good deeds for Allah and trusting Him as you strive 

To do sincere Tawbah before your destined demise.

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Don't wait for clear warnings or for old age to arrive 

To be inspired to pack your luggage for the next life. 

Delete your selfies, albums of songs, indecent files, 

And have the guts to detach from forbidden desires.

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For Allah's sake purify your heart. Keep this in mind: 

"I've forgiven all Muslims, even those I dislike."

Day and night say Dhikr, and Surah Al-Mulk recite.

Please Allah to be from those who smile when death arrives.

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📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is a chapter in the Qur'an, not but thirty verses (Surah Al-Mulk), which will argue on behalf of its companion until he enters Paradise. It is the chapter: 'Blessed is He (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is the Dominion.'" (The Noble Qur'an 67:1)

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat 3667

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the human being dies, (the rewards of) his deeds come to an end except for three: Ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge (taught or left behind), or a righteous child who prays for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1631

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path."

Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma would say, “If you make it to the evening, do not wait for the morning. If you make it to the morning, do not wait for the evening. Take from your health for your sickness, and from your life for your death.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6053

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

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Note: How Some INTJs View Some ISFPs, ESFPs And INFPs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, which three of the 16 MBTI personality types do you find most challenging to get along with often, and why? What would you typically do if you were willing to befriend them for Allah's sake as you share similar goals and interests?

📝 Answer: I usually clash with many ISFPs, ESFPs and INFPs, unless they're a family member. When it comes to my relatives, I try my best to maintain good connection with them regardless of their MBTI personality type. 

What I hate about the following types from what I've observed: 

ISFPs - when they make wrong choices or act impulsively without carefully thinking about the consequences of their actions, and when they're unable to discern or acknowledge the long-term benefits of doing something because they are more concerned about how they feel in the present moment. 

ESFPs - when several of them indulge in childish gossiping and childishly make fun of how others appear or dress, and when they'd do whatever they can to obtain something they desperately want regardless of seeming selfish, greedy or irrational.

INFPs - when a lot of them are overly sensitive and expect you to babysit their fluctuating feelings or spoil them with affection when they've forgotten about the multiple instances in which they proved to be very unreliable. 

❎ From my turn-offs: Stubbornness in remaining ignorant, unwillingness to correct one's mistakes, persistence in doing illogical acts in spite of the outcomes, deliberate dishonesty, cowardice, injustice, arrogantly deriding other humans while denying that you too have plentiful imperfections, pointless gossip and unreliability. 

✅ If I'm actually interested in connecting with an ISFP, ESFP or INFP, I'd: 

1] Ask them more questions about themselves to be better acquainted and go out of my way to show that I care about them for Allah's sake. 

2] Instantly defend them in their absence and presence when naysayers mention their name negatively. 

3] Prolong meaningful conversations with them online and offline, and know when to give them space. 

4] Advise them gently one-on-one instead of brashly criticizing them in front of an audience or intentionally ignoring their mistakes due to disinterest in their self-improvement. 

5] Train myself to be more understanding or tolerant of the things they do which I oppose, or frequently supplicate that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala grants them more guidance. 

⚠️ Note: Inability to get along peacefully with certain personality types is not an excuse to resort to bullying and behaving oppressively. If you can't connect with a particular individual, simply minimize unnecessary interactions with them for Allah's sake as much as possible to preserve your overall well-being.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Hadith: Allah the Almighty Does Not Oppress His Servants

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'O My servants, I have forbidden injustice for Myself and I have forbidden it (oppression, injustice) among you, so do not oppress one another. O My servants, all of you are astray except for those whom I have guided, so seek guidance from Me (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and I shall guide you. O My servants, all of you are hungry except for those whom I have fed, so seek food from Me (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and I shall feed you. O My servants, all of you are naked except for those whom I have clothed, so seek clothing from Me (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and I shall clothe you. O My servants, you sin by night and day and I forgive all sins, so seek forgiveness from Me (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and I shall forgive you. O My servants, you are unable to harm Me and you are unable to bring benefit to Me (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala). O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you, to be as pious as the most pious heart of anyone of you, that would not increase My dominion at all. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you, to be as wicked as the most wicked heart of anyone of you, that would not decrease My dominion at all. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you, to rise up in one place and make a request of Me, and were I to give everyone what he requested, that would not diminish what I have any more than a needle would diminish the sea if put into it. O My servants, it is only your deeds that I record and then recompense for you. Let him who finds good praise Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), and let him who finds something else blame no one but himself."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2577

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Tips: Some Advice On Dealing With Negative Feedback And Criticism

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some advice on dealing with negative feedback and criticism: 

✅ If the criticism is valid, true and justified, while it was delivered appropriately with good intention (the critic wants you to improve and genuinely cares about you): 

➡️ Be thankful for their concern and grateful for the many opportunities to become a better Muslim. 

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✅ If the criticism is invalid, wrong and unjustified, while it was delivered inappropriately with bad intention (the critic just wants you to feel bad about yourself): 

➡️ Completely ignore their absurd insults, avoid meaningless dialogues with them as much as possible, and learn not to be like them in being obsessed with fault-finding. Patiently persist in doing what you believe can please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala as long as you're not purposely harming anybody including yourself. 

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✅ If the criticism is factual and there's good intention behind it but it was delivered wrongly: 

➡️ Acknowledge that the criticism is valid. Don't be too arrogant to deny your mistakes. Request the critic to correct your errors next time in a more decent and morally acceptable way.

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✅ If the criticism is valid but its delivery and the actual motive behind it are wrong: 

➡️ Benefit from the honest feedback. Utilize the criticism intelligently for self-improvement. Avoid envious critics and toxic pessimists for Allah's sake as much as possible. 

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✅ If the criticism is clearly inaccurate and the negative comments don't describe you at all, but the way they were conveyed are seemingly considerate and those advising actually want what's good for you: 

➡️ Clarify to the confused critics, with good manners, how they misunderstand the issue or explain to them politely how they're the ones who got it wrong. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is a mirror to his faithful brother. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back." 

Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, 'The believer is a mirror to his brother. If he sees something wrong in him, he should correct it.' 

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 239 

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-trust-allah-and-never-be-affected.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-go-for-allahs-love-and-mercy-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-tips-on-how-to-avoid-staying-hurt.html 

https://youtu.be/BBzE39q5_Jk 

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Poem: What Is Love? "True Love" - What's Its Definition?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Ever asked yourself these questions "why do you love him? 

What is it that keeps you attracted to your husband? 

Do you love your spouse for being blessed with cute children, 

Or was your affection formed since you found him handsome? 

Do you love him for his wealth, jokes or social standing? 

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What motivates you to stay loyal to your husband 

When there are other men who are wealthier than him, 

More prestigious and successful in their profession, 

Or more good-looking so he holds your full attention?

Why still respect your spouse despite frequent arguments?

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What is love to you? True love - what's your definition?" 

What is love? Well, from my experience, understanding, 

And opinion, true love comes with sincere intention. 

It's when you accept the man whom Allah has chosen

As your soulmate and this bond leads to Jannah's entrance.

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Love isn't "Do this for me and I'll do the same thing." 

Nor "Always be nearby if your care is genuine.", 

But true love is the one that's felt for Allah our King. 

It's learning to love the man whom Allah has chosen, 

And this love trains you to be more kind, brave and patient. 

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Love inspires you to pardon your husband's shortcomings, 

To practice Shukr when he's present and sweet patience 

Or Sabr in his absence and when he's mistaken. 

Love for Allah's sake reminds you your spouse is human 

And in Jannah you can enjoy his flawless version. 

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You can tell that loving your husband is a blessing

When this love strengthens your faith Imaan as a Muslim,  

When you're inspired to say Du'a each time you miss him, 

And his keenness to remarry isn't a problem. 

Love is when you won't let pride disrupt a connection. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, (Sujood) prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-love-for-allahs-sake-and-marriage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-what-it-means-to-truly-love-for.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-how-i-prove-my-love-to-my-husband.html 

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