Poem: Defeat Evil Desires With Taqwa.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Developing a "crush" is like falling in a hole.
It wasn't planned nor is it part of your main life goals.
While feeling attracted is something you can't control,
You can stop your feels from growing into obsessed mode.
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Perhaps what you found fascinating or intriguing
About the recipients of your confirmed attraction
Are their unusual traits, kindness, unique appearance,
Intelligence, or their stares build intense connection.
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Regardless of your age, whether single or married,
At one point or another you may get distracted
By your nafs to notice people who are attractive,
Feeding you with thoughts that make your urges comforted.
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It's a constant battle between doing the right thing
And surrendering to acting upon strong feelings.
Your heart desires to approach those alluring persons,
While your inner voice strives to save you from destruction.
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Equip yourself with Taqwa and aim to love Allah
More than yourself, people, and that which leads to fitna.
Replace vile fantasies with Istighfaar and Du'a,
Dhikr, recalling death, and preparing for Jannah.
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Admit, yes, you like that crush, but you love Allah more.
By preferring Allah's Love, you'll no longer adore
Temporary souls who are dangerous for your soul.
Detach from those distractions, so zina won't occur.
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Lower your gaze. Avoid them or lessen needless talks.
Swap wrongful daydreams for Qur'an reading and Du'as.
Recall your goal to reach Jannah and earn Allah's Love.
In loving Allah, not His slaves, you'll have a whole heart.
~*~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the companions came to the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they asked him, “We find within ourselves that which is too grievous to speak of.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “You have indeed found it so?” They said yes. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “That is sincere faith.”
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “That is (a sign of) pure faith.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 132
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves, as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287, Sahih Muslim 127
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "Know that passing thoughts are not harmful. Indeed, they are only harmful if they are sought after and engaged. For a thought is like a passerby on the road; if you ignore him, he will depart from you."
Source: Al-Jawāb Al-Kāfī 1/157
📖 Aslam Al-Habashi reported: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, “How is this?” Umar said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated like a child. When you hate someone, you love destruction for your companion."
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Note: Lessons I've Learned From Hurt Emotions

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 A Facebook user asked me through inbox this question "Have you ever had someone/somebody in your life who made your life miserable since you were kid?"
I believe that question should be paraphrased because Alhamdulillah I wouldn't consider my life as "miserable since I was a kid".
Although I've gone through various instances where my feelings were hurt numerous times, those trials only made my faith/Imaan stronger Alhamdulillah as many valuable lessons were derived from each distressful or challenging experience.
Some examples of tough situations that I've experienced where I got hurt are:
1] When as a student in an Arabic national school back in Riyadh city, almost every time a teacher or administrative staff would mispronounce my full name out loud, a lot of my Saudi classmates would laugh, finding my "Mababaya" surname funny. Several of the girls would make jokes on how my family name sounded like "Mama" and "Baba" so much so that I tried to cancel it and wrote "Mariam Omar M." on my notebooks and exam papers. Still there had to be regular attendance checkups where my full name would be mentioned followed by instant giggles and laughter. I find it strange how I was able to tolerate their teasing from kindergarten to seventh grade, even after encountering a few bullies who complicated my studies and frequently stole my money.
For eighth grade my dear parents (May Allah have mercy on them. Ameen.) transferred me to English private international schools because the mathematics subject, particularly algebra, was getting too difficult that even my father couldn't always help me answer my assignments.
2] When my husband angrily told me "You think I love you? Stop thinking I love you." while arguing with him about an issue I can't really recall. I can remember though how that verbal fight happened in the first months of our marriage when we were just starting to learn more about each other. I think I was around 21 or 22 at that time while he was 30 or 31.
Alhamdulillah I forgave my husband, and refuse to let prideful ego get in between us.
3] When I saw that my husband's second wife got a wedding ring while I didn't receive a ring from him, as his first wife. Upon confronting my husband about it, he lovingly explained to me how I'm supposedly "religious" and in Islam married couples don't need wedding rings to prove they're married. Alhamdulillah I understood his decision especially since the second wife is a revert (balik Islam) who wasn't yet familiar with the rulings we Muslims are expected to follow.
Inn-sha-Allah if my husband ever gets a third wife and she gets a wedding ring despite being born Muslim, I won't be bothered because I still firmly believe that wives and husbands aren't obliged to imitate non-Muslims in wearing an object to symbolize their marital status. I'm female; do I need to put on a flowery hat with the words "she" or wear pink all the time to emphasize womanhood? No. I don't even like the color pink. Plus since I no longer wear watches and bracelets because it actually feels uncomfortable to have something dangling around my wrists, and Alhamdulillah I'm not in that fashionista-wannabe stage anymore, the more it doesn't make sense to wear a tight ring on my finger. I won't allow a tiny ring to define the value of my loyalty towards my other half, when loving my husband for Allah's sake is far greater than the worth of tangible diamonds and gold.
4] When I was delightfully excited to befriend this lady around my age and introduced her to another friend of mine only to realize those two became really close friends who preferred to hang out without me. I realized that a group of three friends or trio normally can't get along for long periods unless their interests, likes, dislikes, goals, and personality traits are peacefully in sync with each other. Alhamdulillah we're still acquaintances who treat each other with basic courtesy, accompanied by some distance so our values don't bring about conflict or unnecessary drama.
5] When another woman invited me to her residence nearby and I was looking forward to being one of her close friends until one day I found out she initiated a sleepover with other females around our age. One of them posted about it on her timeline, which is how I discovered they had a sleepover without me. I'm not being sensitive. I just find it very odd and passive-aggressive how she didn't invite me when she made it clear during my first visit that I'm welcome to sleep in her house some time. Imagine me bringing you to a restaurant and we dine together, then I tell you "This was fun. Next time we should come back here and try out the other dishes." then when that next time comes I invite other friends and completely treat you like the dinner we had before never happened. It doesn't feel nice, does it? I guess some people haven't learned yet to let go of their immature ways when they were younger. It's true; age doesn't measure maturity levels, what can is integrity or good character. After some careful contemplation, I figured maybe she's jealous that I am one of those few women who are okay with polygyny or she's envious that I'm married to a medical doctor.
🔹 Tips on how to deal with hurt feelings:
1] Remember our actual purpose in life, which is to worship only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not to satisfy nor adjust to the expectations of His servants.
2] Understand that humans, including ourselves, are full of flaws, imperfections and susceptibility to forget or misinterpret. Forgive those who have hurt us, whether their hurtful acts were done deliberately, forgetfully or unknowingly. At one point or another, we too may have hurt other individuals purposely or unintentionally. Forgiving others, whether we choose to reconcile with some of them later or simply forgive and move on, grants freedom to the heart when it no longer carries the heavy burden of wounded emotions.
3] Be inspired by the admirable strength, patience and resilience of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, who on one occasion had some filth placed on his back by some obnoxious unbelievers while he was praying in front of the Ka'bah and his daughter Fatima RadhiAllahu 'anha patiently removed it from her father. The noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was considered as a "madman", "lunatic", "liar", "sorcerer" or "magician" by many polytheists and hypocrites yet he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam remained courageously steadfast, firm and strong in faith/Imaan.
If Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, namely the best of all human beings, was not exempted from being the recipient of some ignorant people's enmity, antagonism, false accusations, ridicule, and rejection, who are we to assume that we don't deserve to get hurt?
This is dunya.  Expect to get hurt.
Hurt can either lead us to feeling hopeless or we can use it as a positive asset to intensify our trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, aware that Only Allah the Almighty can judge us, and so long as Allah the Most Merciful loves us, we can survive confidently without attachment to people who will be called to account for their deeds on the Day of Judgment.
Heal from hurt by allowing it to positively transform you into a better Muslim who is contented with Allah's Love and who appreciates the virtues of rewarding Sabr/patience.
In Jannah Paradise all our worries, hurtful experiences and sorrow can be gladly forgotten.
~*~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the  phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Keep Moving Forward Towards Allah.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 When we make effort to progress in life for Allah,
Eagerly making gradual steps to deserve Jannah,
We find some "friends" who mock us or who doubt our niyyah.
We move forward while they linger in realms of fitna.
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Despite enjoining right, forbidding wrong, and helping,
Correcting their wrongs to aid them in self-improvement,
They resist and gladly insist on vile temptations
Like gossiping and pursuing haraam relations.
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"Don't judge me.", "Mind your business." are their usual statements,
Along with "You're so self-righteous.", "That's your opinion."
"We're still young. YOLO!" to justify sinful actions.
Indeed Only Allah knows who deserves His Guidance.
~*~
We can't save our loved ones if they prefer misguidance,
If they're consumed by ignorance or innovation
(Bid'ah) or if their refusal stems from arrogance.
We'll stay patient, knowing we've done our best to help them.
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Let them find us weird or cringe by our transformation.
While we're repenting and they revile our improvements,
We often pray for them and pity their ignorance.
Accept we can't force people to have the same thinking.
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As long as we do Da'wah (Call and invitation),
Calling people to honor Allah's Laws and Rulings,
We can move on from those who respond with rejection,
And know Allah is the Only One Who can guide them.
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Alhamdulillah Allah saved us from our past sins,
From dunya's deceptions and deceitful companions.
If ever flashbacks of our misguided acts return,
We remain firm for Allah. Steadfastly keep moving.
~*~
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Note: We Can't Control People, Just Our Reactions.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 💌 Some aspects about people we can't control: 1] While we can't control people's decisions and we can't force everyone to agree with our beliefs, opinions and perceptions, we can control our reactions to their wrong choices, misinterpretation and mistakes by having patience. Someone's incorrect way of seeing something shouldn't influence us to be like them. 2] While we can't control their behavior and enforce everybody to maintain good character, we have the ability to control how we react when they demonstrate bad manners. A person's rudeness and disrespectful conduct towards us should train us to be more patient, not hatefully bitter. 3] While we can't control how some people make us feel, whether they've triggered feelings of sadness, hurt, jealousy, anger or attraction, we have the freewill Alhamdulillah to control our actions, refusing to act wrongly on any intense emotion. We can't control people, but we can control how we deal with them. Don't let something that you can't control stress you out or distract you from your life goals. When certain circumstances get out of hand or become unmanageable, always seek guidance and help from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who has full control over everyone and everything. ~*~ 📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“ Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Learn From Allah's Creations.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Five positive traits good Muslims ought to have,
Which are learned from His wonderful creations.
Through these creatures, with Allah's Mercy above,
We can derive some beneficial lessons.
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Like the tiger, show courage for Allah's sake.
Be brave as you walk along Allah's Straight Way.
Rely on Allah, and use the means He gave
In obedience, while trusting Allah always.
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Show wisdom as the owl does in reacting.
Know that all things from Allah has a set time.
Take that chance to do good, be understanding,
And of Islam seek knowledge to be more wise.
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As the falcon, be observant and watchful.
Of the hypocrites' lies and scams be careful.
Be quick when speed is needed, stop if you must,
Slow down when you should, and know whom you can trust.
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Just as the just lion - Royal and regal,
Show justice, and be fair for Allah the King.
Guide the lost, defend your friends, remain loyal,
Lead the Way to Allah and depend on Him.
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Like the wolf, be independent, never lone,
Don't mind if you can't find a friend who is true.
Your goal: To be with Allah and Jannah's Home.
You are: Okay when alone, better in groups.
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As a Muslim, you aim to please God Allah.
With your mercy and kindness, you share Islam,
While including Muslims in your good Du'as,
So Paradise near Allah is where you land.
~*~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the  phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim