Tips: Some Advice On Remaining Steadfast For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Allah the Most Merciful said:

"Indeed, those who have said, "Our Lord is Allah " and then remained (steadfast) on a right course - the angels will descend upon them, [saying], 'Do not fear and do not grieve but receive good tidings of Paradise, which you were promised.'" (Surah Fussilat verse 41:30)

💎 Some tips to attain patience and steadfastness in Islam:

1] Remember your actual mission and purpose in life. Strive to fulfill your duties to our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

2] Recall Allah's blessings on you, especially the blessing of being Muslim, guided by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to the truth and correct 'Aqeedah.

3] Train yourself to stay grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Say Dhikr and Du'a as frequently as you can.

4] Focus on your journey. Avoid comparing your tests to others' exams and trials.

5] Understand the virtues of patience and why Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala often tests those whom He loves.

6] Attain genuine happiness by striving to do what you can to join those whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves.

7] Take good care of your heart by maintaining strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

8] Aspire to remain truthful and avoid lies as much as possible.

9] Sincerely seek Allah's Forgiveness day and night.

10] Don't be too hard on yourself. Acknowledge Allah's Mercy.

11] Be consistent and continue moving forward towards Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

12] Consistently acquire authentic Islamic knowledge through reliable sources.

13] Remain steadfast upon the right path, avoiding anything which could lead to misguidance and bid'ah.

14] Genuinely help other Muslims for Allah's sake. Support one another in doing the deeds which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love.

15] Say more Du'a and wholeheartedly supplicate to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that He keeps you steadfast and patient.

The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam is the best role model from whom we can learn many noble traits like patience and steadfastness. The other Prophets of Allah 'alaihim as-salaam were also notable examples in maintaining patience and steadfastness throughout their lives. 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Sufyan Ibn Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, "O Messenger of Allah, tell me of a word in Islam which I will not need to ask of anyone after you." The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Say, 'I have faith in Allah,' and then remain steadfast."

Source: Sahih Muslim 38

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Imagine The People You Meet As Items At A Grocery Store (On Incompatibility)

💐 In The Name Of Allah, The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🛍️👝 Imagine the people you meet as items for sale at a supermarket or grocery store. Although all of those products may be in good condition, you'll realize that you won't be interested in purchasing every single one of them for the following reasons: 

1] You can't afford to buy them at the moment. 

2] You don't really require them for now. There are other things which are more important. 

3] You've tried them before and you didn't enjoy the experience, or they remind you of someone or something that's unpleasant in your opinion. 

4] You could be slightly curious about them until you admit they're not intriguing enough to hold your attention. 

5] You were too distracted or walking too fast that you unintentionally overlooked them.

✅ Lesson: Even if you're one of those kindhearted believers whom Allah the Almighty loves and guides, there will always be a number of individuals who are not eager to connect with you because: 

1] They assume beforehand that you'll instantly reject them, or they believe they're not up to your level. Low or lack of confidence causes them to feel as though they are "not good enough" for you. 

2] They're too focused on some tasks or too emotionally preoccupied to even think of befriending you, or they can't see any purpose in trying to network with you. 

3] Your name or presence reminds them of somebody who mistreated them in the past. Maintaining a cordial connection with you would make it difficult for them to move on from previous emotional scars. 

4] They perceive you as too different and unrelatable. Not having a sufficient number of similar goals and interests, particularly if there's an obvious language barrier, can lead you both to feeling mutually uninterested in becoming close friends. 

5] They simply didn't notice you or they were unable to recognize the merits of starting a friendship with you. 

It's not your fault that some souls on earth can't reciprocate your efforts to get acquainted with them. Striving to patiently accept what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees and doesn't destine is part of being a Muslim.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Tips: What Immaturity Is And What It's Not

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Immature adults generally act like children and most of the time lack good manners when dealing with others. 

🔹 You're not immature if you often enjoy spending time with kids, including your nieces and nephews, particularly when taking care of them. The term "immature" suitably describes adults who spend most of their lifetime plotting of ways to bully and get back at somebody who is a lot younger than them. 

🔹 You're not immature if oftentimes your bedroom, residence or office gets messy and unorganized, especially when you are too stressed or fatigued to maintain its tidiness. A person would be immature if they instantly judge everybody based on their outward appearance and environment they reside in without prior attempt to actually become acquainted with them. 

🔹 You're not immature if you sometimes smell like perspiration, specially if you've been walking around a lot, you have health issues, or you are still preoccupied with tasks that are tiring. Immature adults tend to make fun of others' flaws and imperfections as though they themselves are completely free from shortcomings. 

🔹 You are not immature if you occasionally giggle when you find an inoffensive joke or witty remark funny. You would be immature if you repeatedly laugh at other people whenever they slip, lose their balance, mispronounce a word, make mistakes or find themselves in awkward situations, instead of making effort to show empathy. 

🔹 You are far from being immature if you're uninterested in winning every single debate and arguing with those who are too arrogant to forgive, apologize or admit their wrongs. Immaturity is obvious when one is incapable of letting go of past slights and misunderstandings. 

🔹 Rightfully asserting your rights with their valid reasons does not make you immature. What does is when you always feel a sense of entitlement, insist that anytime you can grab what others have because you pridefully believe you deserve it somehow, and when you don't receive what you demanded, you overreact irrationally. 

🔹 Other negative qualities which are typical of immature adults include: Laughing boisterously when one should be taking something seriously, playing a game on one's phone or being deliberately inattentive when a lecturer is delivering a speech, and participating in childish gossip.

~•~

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Nu'aym reported: Fudayl Ibn 'Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”

Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728

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Note: Self-Respect vs Actual Narcissism

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five differences between somebody with self-respect and a person who is an arrogant narcissist: 

🔹 When browsing around social media: 

❌ A lot of narcissists tend to stalk the accounts of people whom they envy to monitor their moves so they can utilize whatever info they've amassed to compete against other users and post updates to prove their superiority. Some narcissists though may decide to unfollow you if they notice that you seem more competent, productive or successful than them in multiple ways. They can't handle the unpleasant feeling of jealousy every time they see you thriving in areas where they're struggling.

✅ Individuals who respect themselves actively avoid stalking profiles of those whose status updates can't inspire them to become better humans. Their choice to unfriend certain users isn't done out of egotism but they genuinely don't want to waste precious time absorbing content which could be more toxic than advantageous. 

🔹 Why they decided to stop trying to be close friends with you: 

❌ An actual narcissist loses interest in wanting to connect with you once they realize that you're somebody who's not easily taken advantage of, can't be manipulated, or you refuse to spoil them with the kind of attention which they obnoxiously feel entitled to. 

✅ Those with self-respect would unapologetically distance themselves from you because they got tired of tolerating your awful addiction to gossiping, telling lots of lies and treating them unfairly. 

🔹When talking in a meeting or group: 

❌ Typical narcissists would usually refrain from sharing tips and contributing to the discussion because they generally don't enjoy helping others out, unless doing so comes with a special advantage, or they're afraid of making mistakes as they desire to be perceived as "flawless". 

✅ Someone who has a healthy amount of confidence and self-respect, not arrogance, would occasionally share ideas which they believe can be beneficial for the team. They don't fear rejection, won't force anybody to hold the same opinion as theirs, and they know when to be silent and when to walk away from pointless arguments. 

🔹When practicing kindness and accepting requests from you for support or assistance:  

❌ The narcissist's main motive for assisting you is to look reliable so they can use those moments when they were useful as tools against you in the future. "Remember that one time when I helped you with such-and-such and that other incident when I defended you? Now it's your turn to return my favors. So do ABC then XYZ without complaints etc." is something a narcissist may say to persuade you to comply with their demands. Other narcissists would arrogantly ignore you if no superficial benefit can be gained from being cooperative.

✅ Those who respect themselves would only do what you ask them to if they are capable of carrying out those tasks and if cooperating with you on a particular matter does not contradict their values. 

🔹When uploading photos on social media: 

❌ Actual narcissists, who are in reality awfully insecure on the inside, feel desperate to be admired and perceived as popular. Whenever possible they'd upload pictures of the expensive meals or beverages they've enjoyed, and new places they have traveled to, with the sole intention of flaunting their affluence or to provoke envy in those whom they're secretly envious of. 

✅ Muslims with self-respect and who strive to sincerely please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala don't oblige themselves to constantly prove that their lifestyles are more enjoyable than others' lives. Since they're confident enough to not be overcome by negative feelings of jealousy, frequently taking selfies or broadcasting their material joys isn't included in their list of things to do to achieve happiness inwardly.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782, Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Poem: Do Not Let Social Media Make You Feel Insecure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Don't let social media make you feel so insecure. 

Don't allow some users' posts to make you feel unsure 

About the countless gifts which Allah chose to give you. 

While browsing around various profiles, never assume 

That some people's gains imply your value has reduced. 

~•~

Some people's need to showcase their wins, joys and virtues 

Online shouldn't be an invite for you to feel blue. 

View some of them as children flaunting their scribbles to 

Impress the grown-ups, while the others aren't secure 

With who they are, thus they're compelled to show off and prove. 

~•~

Those who don't always get to enjoy expensive food 

Often upload photos of drinks and meals they've consumed. 

Confident diners, who aren't one bit insecure, 

Don't feel obliged to photograph what they sip and chew. 

It's fine though to post pics to promote halal menus. 

~•~

Those who love taking pictures of themselves and in groups 

Should have some Islamic lessons properly reviewed. 

Obsession with selfies could show one feels insecure, 

Desperate to be told they're pretty, to feel valued, 

When good looks are less important than good deeds to do. 

~•~

So that social media doesn't make you insecure, 

Be careful with the info and content you consume. 

Unfollow users with narcissistic attitudes 

Whose posts can't inspire but cause you to feel insecure. 

And stay connected to Allah, with deep gratitude.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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