Note: Call Me Weird If You Like And With Allah's Will I'll Continue Loving My Dear Husband For Allah's Sake

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ 13 Lessons learned on loving your spouse, from around 17 years of being married (Alhamdulillah):

1] Getting married isn't the main source of happiness. Your joy, inner peace and contentment should be found in sincerely obeying Allah the Almighty. Regardless of what your marital status is (married, single, widowed, separated), you can never be happy if you don't have Islam, faith/Imaan and Taqwa / piety, as well as awareness of adherence to the correct 'Aqeedah/belief.

2] Genuinely loving your husband for Allah's sake, with actual sincerity / Ikhlaas and patience / Sabr, can 

Inn-sha-Allah help you go through any trial, challenge and difficulty in marriage life. By stubbornly remaining loyal to your destined soulmate for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, you have the ability 

Inn-sha-Allah to continue loving him patiently as his faithful wife despite the different kinds of struggles which you both go through once in a while.

3] Instead of feeling easily hurt when he doesn't return your calls or answer your text messages instantly, be brave enough to forgive, understand him and accept the likelihood of him being so busy, or realize maybe he didn't reply because he had no load that time to send text messages, or if you're in a polygynous marriage, maybe his other wife (who could be insecure and awfully envious of you) is trying to disrupt your communication if you're in polygyny. Earn abundant rewards by practicing patience for Allah's sake rather than insisting on divorce unreasonably.

4] Be grateful for even the smallest acts of kindness and gestures of love from your husband, whether it's found in him feeding you with his own right hand while eating together, drinking from the glass you drank from, enjoying the dishes you cook for him while refraining from inconsiderately criticizing your cooking, letting you lovingly massage him, and showing enthusiasm or willingness to pay close attention when you inform him how your day went or you wish to share some insightful lessons.

5] It's not always that you get to sleep and spend time with your husband. There will be moments when he has to travel to another city or country for several days or months, so at times you anxiously miss him. Missing someone's presence is clear evidence that you really care about them.

6] Don't expect everything to be ideal or absolutely flawless in marriage. Expect instances when your husband makes a mistake, hurts your feelings or cancels appointments. Acknowledge the truth that your spouse is precisely similar to you in being a human. Consider every disappointment as an opportunity to develop your strength in accepting Allah's Qadr/Destiny with rewarding patience.

7] Being patient with your husband doesn't indicate you're weak or you are settling for less than what you actually deserve, but you're in actuality strong enough to not let your ego take control over your actions and you don't allow temporary examinations to keep you upset.

8] It's not a necessity for every Muslim couple to be exactly alike and perfectly compatible for them to get along with each other. In some marriages, the husband is more religious than his wife, whereas in other love journeys, the pious wife has a beautiful chance to inspire her husband to become more righteous for Allah's sake with admirable perseverance.

9] The number of kids that Muslim couples have together do not necessarily measure the quality of their love life. It is possible for a man and woman to remain married without bringing up any children. Their infertility is a test from Allah the Most Merciful, to examine their level of patience and contentment or acceptance of Allah's Decree. Not having offsprings may be their chance to earn more of Allah's Love by showing interest in taking good care of orphans or those who are deprived of the affection of responsible parents.

10] It is absolutely normal for husbands and wives to argue with one another now and then. Instead of considering divorce after an argument, find the courage to be the first to forgive for Allah's sake, the first to apologize, the first to reconcile and make sincere effort to sympathize with how your husband is different. If he stubbornly insists on committing an obvious wrongdoing though, such as smoking or gambling, don't be too quick to abandon him. Pray to Allah that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala guides your husband and include your spouse in your frequent supplications.

11] Your marriage life is a blessing and gift from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it leads you and your spouse to Jannah Paradise, protects you from haraam/forbidden relationships, and trains you to give preference to pleasing Allah over surrendering to shameful desires.

12] In some cases there can be a possibility for a wife to feel attracted to someone other than her husband, or for a man to admire other women who are not his wife/wives. This is another type of test from Allah the Most Forgiving. You are not accountable for whatever thoughts or feelings you have, as long as you try your best to ensure you don't put those inappropriate urges into intentional actions. Strengthen your connection with Allah the Almighty, patiently persist in disciplining your nafs, and courageously lower your gaze as a striving Muslim.

13] Once in a while you may feel slightly jealous of other people's marriages, especially if the sort of friends you hang out with tend to frequently brag about how their love lives seem "perfect". Rather than doubting the quality of your own marriage or feeling discontented, confidently be happy for them, encourage them to stay loyal for Allah's sake, and appreciate the love journey that Allah the Most Loving wisely selected for you. What works for you may not work out for others, and what goes well with others' love lives may not be suitable for your love journey. Since Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala created His servants with unique roles and abilities, not everybody goes through life's trials similarly. 

There are various ways of reaching the peak of a mountain, either by traditional mountain-climbing or mountaineering, ascending a flight of stairs if a stairway has been constructed, riding a cable car if there is one, flying with a helicopter or jet plane, or even just imagining or visualizing you've already reached the top of the mountain. 

Avoid comparing the chapters of your marriage life to others' romance. Do your best for Allah's sake to be a pleasant wife to your husband until you reunite in Jannah Paradise where profound bliss and perfection can be enjoyed for eternity.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-my-brief-love-story-and-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html 

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold to them: The Book of Allah (The Qur'an) and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic)

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:

Abbas Abu Yahya

Abdul Hakeem Mitchell

Abdulillah Lahmami

Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan

Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis

Abu Humayd Saalim

Abu Idrees

Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq

Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid

Abul Hasan Malik

Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam

Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi

Abu Talha Dawud Burbank

Abu Uways

Anas Waters

Anwar Wright

Hamza Abdur Razzaq

Hassan Somali

Moosaa Richardson

Mustafa George

Raha Batts

Rasheed Barbee

Rayaan Barker

Sa'eed Rhana

Umar Quinn

Uways at-Taweel

🧾 List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:

- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz

- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani

- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn

- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i

- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 

- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan

- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā

- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān

- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād

- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī

- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri

- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari

www.YouTube.com/infowishes

💚Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your prayers.

🗂️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya 

Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from 

Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17bcwBZE9fKy2kATblygJVrKdgmeqFQu7

📑 I only have 2 accounts on Facebook, Alhamdulillah I never upload selfies and while I'm of Maranao tribe I can't speak Tagalog or other Filipino dialect fluently yet since I was born in Saudi Arabia with English as my first language. Inn-sha-Allah I'm still learning 🌼

Note: Don't Be A Petty Wife (some notes from ChatGPT)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 Petty actions from a husband can range from minor annoyances to more significant behaviors that can strain a relationship. Here are 20 examples of petty actions a husband might exhibit, along with suggestions for graceful and mature responses from his wife:

1. **Leaving dirty clothes on the floor**: Instead of getting upset, gently remind him about where dirty clothes belong and encourage him to use the laundry basket.

2. **Leaving dishes in the sink**: Rather than immediately cleaning up after him, kindly ask him to help with washing dishes or loading the dishwasher as a shared responsibility.

3. **Interrupting conversations**: Politely let him know that interrupting makes it hard to communicate effectively and ask for his attention when you're speaking.

4. **Leaving lights on**: Rather than nagging, remind him that turning off lights saves energy and money, and ask him to be more mindful.

5. **Leaving empty containers in the fridge/cabinet**: Instead of annoyance, calmly suggest he checks before leaving empty containers and offer to help organize the pantry together.

6. **Forgetting special occasions**: Instead of expressing hurt, gently remind him of the importance of the occasion to you and suggest making a note in a shared calendar.

7. **Leaving wet towels on the bed or floor**: Instead of frustration, suggest hanging towels properly and discuss the importance of maintaining a tidy living space together.

8. **Not replacing the toilet paper roll**: Rather than irritation, calmly mention the empty roll and ask if he could replace it next time.

9. **Leaving personal items lying around**: Instead of getting annoyed, discuss organizing personal items together and finding a designated spot for each item.

10. **Not listening attentively**: Instead of feeling ignored, kindly ask for his full attention when discussing important matters.

11. **Being late without notice**: Instead of frustration, express how being punctual is important to you and suggest planning together to be on time in the future.

12. **Leaving a mess in the bathroom**: Instead of cleaning up after him, suggest setting aside time to clean the bathroom together or assigning specific cleaning responsibilities.

13. **Leaving crumbs on the kitchen counter**: Instead of cleaning up silently, mention it and ask if he could wipe the counter after preparing food.

14. **Ignoring household chores**: Instead of doing all the chores yourself, calmly discuss dividing tasks fairly and making a schedule that works for both of you.

15. **Being overly critical about small things**: Instead of being defensive, calmly discuss how criticism affects you and suggest constructive ways to communicate concerns.

16. **Checking his phone constantly**: Instead of feeling neglected, express your feelings and discuss boundaries around phone use when spending time together.

17. **Leaving personal projects unfinished**: Instead of commenting negatively, encourage him to complete projects or discuss if he needs assistance to finish them.

18. **Making sarcastic remarks**: Instead of reacting emotionally, calmly address how sarcasm affects you and ask for open and respectful communication.

19. **Not expressing appreciation**: Instead of feeling unappreciated, express your feelings and encourage each other to acknowledge and thank one another.

20. **Leaving things halfway done**: Instead of frustration, suggest setting aside time to finish tasks together or discuss the importance of completing what's started.

In all these situations, responding with grace and maturity involves clear and respectful communication, setting reasonable expectations, and finding solutions together as partners. It's important to address issues calmly, without blame or defensiveness, to foster a healthy and supportive connection/marriage.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Signs of a petty wife may include:

1. **Constant Criticism:** Nitpicking over trivial matters or finding fault in insignificant details.

2. **Jealousy:** Feeling threatened or insecure over small matters, like friends or hobbies.

3. **Overreacting:** Blowing small issues out of proportion and creating unnecessary drama.

4. **Passive-Aggressiveness:** Using indirect or subtle ways to express dissatisfaction or annoyance.

5. **Scorekeeping:** Keeping track of perceived slights or favors and bringing them up repeatedly.

Signs you're not a petty wife might include:

1. **Emotional Maturity:** Handling conflicts calmly and rationally, without resorting to petty behaviors.

2. **Generosity:** Being supportive and encouraging towards your partner's interests and friendships.

3. **Effective Communication:** Addressing concerns directly and openly, rather than through passive-aggressive means.

4. **Trust:** Having confidence in your relationship and not letting insecurities dominate your interactions.

5. **Flexibility:** Being able to let go of small annoyances and focus on the bigger picture of your marriage.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (52)

Note: Some Notes Regarding The Need To Cancel Certain Plans At Times (ChatGPT)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

...various reactions people might have when a meeting or gathering is cancelled:

1. **Understanding and Supportive**: Responding with empathy and offering to reschedule at a more convenient time.

   

2. **Disappointment**: Expressing sadness or frustration, especially if they were looking forward to the meeting or gathering.

3. **Relief**: Feeling relieved or indifferent, particularly if they were not enthusiastic about attending in the first place.

4. **Frustration**: Being annoyed or irritated, especially if the cancellation disrupts their plans or schedule.

5. **Curiosity**: Asking for more details about the cancellation reasons or trying to understand the circumstances.

6. **Agreement**: Agreeing with the decision to cancel, perhaps because of external factors like bad weather or unexpected events.

7. **Indifference**: Showing no strong emotion either way, being neutral about the cancellation.

8. **Proactive**: Immediately suggesting an alternative time or method for the meeting to take place, showing flexibility and initiative.

9. **Resentment**: Feeling slighted or ignored, especially if the cancellation seems avoidable or disrespectful.

10. **Disbelief**: Reacting with surprise or skepticism, particularly if the cancellation was unexpected or poorly communicated.

These reactions can vary greatly depending on the individual's personality, their level of investment in the meeting or gathering, and the circumstances surrounding the cancellation.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Here are some immature ways of responding to various reactions when a meeting or gathering is cancelled:

1. **Understanding and Supportive**:

   - Immature Response: "Whatever, it's not a big deal. Just forget about it."

2. **Disappointment**:

   - Immature Response: "Ugh, can't you just get over it? It's not like it was that important."

3. **Relief**:

   - Immature Response: "Good, I didn't really want to go anyway."

4. **Frustration**:

   - Immature Response: "Stop complaining. It's not my fault."

5. **Curiosity**:

   - Immature Response: "Why do you care so much? It's cancelled, end of story."

6. **Agreement**:

   - Immature Response: "Yeah, well, stuff happens. Get over it."

7. **Indifference**:

   - Immature Response: "I don't care if you care or not. It's cancelled."

8. **Proactive**:

   - Immature Response: "Why are you making such a big deal out of this? Just chill."

9. **Resentment**:

   - Immature Response: "Oh please, stop being so dramatic. It's just a meeting."

10. **Disbelief**:

    - Immature Response: "Believe it or not, it's cancelled. Deal with it."

These responses are dismissive, disrespectful, and fail to acknowledge or address the legitimate concerns or feelings of the other person. They can escalate tensions and hinder productive communication or resolution of the situation.

⤴️ ChatGPT

...some mature responses to use when a host abruptly cancels a meeting or gathering:

1. "Thank you for letting me know. I understand these things happen."

2. "I appreciate the update. Let me know when you're available to reschedule."

3. "No problem at all. I hope everything is alright on your end."

4. "I understand, life can get busy. Just let me know when we can connect again."

5. "Thanks for informing me. Let's find another time that works for both of us."

6. "I understand the situation. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help."

7. "I appreciate you reaching out. We can always catch up another time."

8. "Not a problem. Let me know if there's anything I can assist with."

9. "I understand schedules can change. Let's aim for another date soon."

10. "No worries. I appreciate you letting me know ahead of time."

These responses convey understanding, flexibility, and readiness to reschedule without placing any blame or creating discomfort for the host.

⤴️ ChatGPT

There are several probable reasons why a host might have to cancel a meeting or gathering:

1. **Unexpected Personal Commitments**: Such as family emergencies, sudden illness, or other personal obligations that demand immediate attention.

   

2. **Work-related Issues**: Last-minute deadlines, urgent meetings, or unexpected work emergencies that require their immediate presence.

3. **Logistical Challenges**: Such as transportation issues, venue problems, or other logistical issues that make hosting the gathering impractical.

4. **Technical Difficulties**: Issues with technology or communication tools necessary for the meeting or gathering to proceed as planned.

5. **Unforeseen Circumstances**: Such as inclement weather, power outages, or other environmental factors that disrupt the ability to host the gathering.

6. **Double-Booking or Scheduling Conflicts**: Where the host inadvertently scheduled another commitment at the same time, making attendance impossible.

7. **Health-related Reasons**: Either their own or a close family member's health issues necessitating their immediate attention or care.

8. **Travel Complications**: Unexpected travel delays or cancellations that prevent the host from attending or hosting the event.

9. **Financial Constraints**: Budgetary issues or financial setbacks that affect their ability to host the gathering as planned.

10. **Safety Concerns**: Emerging safety concerns or unexpected developments in the location or environment where the gathering was to take place.

These reasons are typical and can arise suddenly, causing hosts to cancel meetings or gatherings despite their initial plans and intentions.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Poem: Critics Can Criticize And They Are Still Imperfect

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 Some secrets behind why some of us don't easily 

Get hurt when criticized or excluded frequently: 

We're here to please Allah Only, and know that envy 

Usually motivates the insecure to mistreat 

Those whose good traits remind them of their worse qualities.

~•~

Similarly critics are not perfect actually. 

They err and misconstrue at times just like you and me. 

If their opinions are mostly lies, why should we feel 

Offended if their jokes suit them more accurately?

Stay unfazed by nonsense and those corrupt morally.

~•~

I'm a liar? Please, don't act like you know me fully. 

Don't pretend as though you can read my thoughts entirely. 

Only Allah witnesses what I go through daily, 

While you can simply make guesses like examinees 

Select options randomly if they didn't study.

~•~

You claim I'm poor? Broke? Ungraceful? Nasty or ugly?  

Negative remarks typically come from those guilty 

Of intense jealousy or those who bad-mouth conceal 

Internal misery because if they were truly 

Contented, they wouldn't treat humans obnoxiously.

~•~

Trying to offend those who live for Allah Only 

Is like criticizing mountains and maligning trees 

That don't entertain feelings nor care how you perceive 

Them, particularly if you're the one actually 

Distressed emotionally and don't know me fully.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.”. (QaddarAllahu wa maa shaa-a fa'al) Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-seven-types-of-difficult-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-patience-with-those-who-hate-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-eleven-signs-of-people-with-strong.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/05/poem-to-critics-who-blurt-insults-so-my.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/tips-nine-signs-that-you-are-thick.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/07/tips-so-what-if-they-didnt-invite-me-at.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-3-things-that-intj-personality.html