๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Questionnaire or survey regarding marriage life to sweetly reflect on your friendship with the man whom Allah the Most Wise has chosen as your other half and soulmate:
1] What special quality does your husband have which makes him a wonderful friend to you?
His cute sense of humor. Alhamdulillah, although I'm generally a very serious type of person who doesn't find most things amusing, my husband is amazing at joking and lightening the mood, so I often laugh easily when he's around.
2] What is something remarkable about you which you believe makes you a good friend to your husband?
My unwavering loyalty to him for Allah's sake Alhamdulillah. No matter how many times he's made a mistake or somehow disappointed me, I continue to forgive him and won't trust anybody who dislikes him or doubts his efforts to be an ideal family man and breadwinner.
3] What is a true fact about you two which not many people know about?
Before I was born, there was a baby boy before me but with Allah's Will my older brother passed away in infancy. Similarly, there was a baby before my husband was born but the infant was returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. That's one of the interesting things which make me and my husband so alike - we're like special gifts to our parents from Allah the Most Wise.
4] List 3 to 5 things which you and your husband have done together which can be described as "fun" or "enjoyable".
1. Riding a boat ride in Malaysia if I'm not mistaken and here in the Philippines, Alhamdulillah.
2. Playing badminton together even though I'm not good at sports in general.
3. Him watching some basketball matches on TV while I'd sit beside him reading a book or using my cellphone.
4. Him frequently preparing our meals (before he got busy with work) while I'd help with washing the dishes and setting the table, since he's way better than me at cooking.
5. Praying together Alhamdulillah is always a pleasant moment, particularly when he's my Imaam and I get to listen to his fabulous Qur'an recitation voice.
5] List 3 adjectives found in your husband which most individuals would agree are essential features of a true friend.
Alhamdulillah I can describe my dear husband (ESFJ 3w2) as funny, understanding and caring, plus fatherly and charismatic with children.
6] List 3 to 5 things which you've done that show you're indeed a true friend to your beloved husband.
1. Regularly buying him drinks, snacks and gifts without expecting anything in return.
2. Listening to him attentively whenever he speaks. Never disrespecting him or deliberately doing anything which I know could offend him as much as possible.
3. Mentioning his notable traits or deeds to others whenever there's an opportunity to do so. Speaking well of him so others view him in a good light.
4. Forgiving him consistently and persistently for Allah's sake, not wanting ego to be much larger than the patience and love I keep and maintain for my dear husband.
5. Immediately defending his name whenever someone jealous talks about him negatively or keeping my distance from those who display unreasonable enmity towards him evidently.
7] What is something which you wish your husband did more of to be a better friend?
To be more communicative when responding to many of my text messages. He's not really into typing long text messages, unlike me when I'm comfortable around somebody. But I understand why he doesn't like typing lengthy messages because he's really busy most of the time as a medical doctor, and Alhamdulillah I've learned to patiently tolerate a lot of his delayed responses or very brief messages.
I firmly believe that
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise my dear husband and I can have better conversations of higher quality.
8] As your good friend, what are some valuable lessons, tips or advice which your husband has given or shared with you?
1. To be more lenient and forgiving for Allah's sake with one's loved ones.
2. To be more easy-going and not too uptight or strict.
3. To appreciate and be grateful for Allah's sake for all blessings and gifts even if they appear small or simple, Alhamdulillah.
9] As one of his best friends, what is one advice or sentence which you usually tell him?
"For Allah's sake stay strong and always patient", also letting him know that I'll forever love him for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala even if he considers remarrying again as I'm perfectly okay with him being married to up to four wives.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter (Jannah) Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
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