Tips: Advice On How To Detect Actual Haters

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📋 While some individuals don't talk to you a lot because they're either frequently busy or you haven't connected well yet, others are actual haters even if they pose as "approachable potential friends" and they're regularly accessible. 

Seven signs that a person actually abhors you, due to intense jealousy or an unresolved conflict, so asking them for any advice and entrusting them with personal information should be avoided as much as possible: 

1] On a regular basis, they don't answer your salaams online and face to face, despite knowing the importance of returning a Muslim's salaam. 

2] While trying to communicate online and offline, you notice an ugly pattern in them repeatedly mispronouncing your name or spelling it incorrectly yet they're capable of saying others' names without a single error. 

3] Numerous times they conducted social outings or gatherings to which you weren't invited, and ironically they'd later question why you weren't there. 

4] Very rarely do they ask about your family yet they seem to expect you to inquire about how they and their loved ones are doing. 

5] They're incapable of laughing whenever you try to share some comical remarks yet when you make a mistake and somebody publicly scolds you, they laugh at the situation easily. 

6] The way they often look at you can be described as an obvious scowl and whenever you attempt to actively participate in a meeting or group discussion it appears as though they're rolling their eyes with annoyance, telling themselves something like "not again... attention-seeking". 

7] It's so typical of them to view your chat or text messages without responding to you and you're not surprised when they leave your recent message on seen mode because that's what they recurrently do. If an individual fails to communicate with you in a decent manner, they could be depressed and their self-hatred provokes them to act obnoxiously or they treat you disrespectfully since they're guilty of despicable envy.  

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me: "O young man, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor (grudge) from your heart towards anyone, then do so." 

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2678

Grade: Hasan 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

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Tips: Suggested Checklist (To do list)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📋 Suggested checklist:

5 Categories: 

1🟩 Mandatory/necessary/must do these without excuse as much as possible. 📨📥✅

Pray Salat Al-Fajr. {   } 

Pray Salat Adh-Dhuhr. {   } 

Pray Salat Al-'Asr. {   } 

Pray Salat Al-Maghreb. {   } 

Pray Salat Al-'Ishaa then Sunnah Salat Al-Witr. {   } 

Morning Dhikr, Tasbeeh, Istighfaar and other Du'as. {   } 

Evening Dhikr, Tasbeeh, Istighfaar and other Du'as. {   } 

Prepare and have breakfast (or Suhoor meal if you plan on fasting). {   } 

Prepare and have lunch (unless you're fasting). {   } 

Prepare and have dinner. {   } 

During school days, login and logout, attend meetings etc. {   } 

During school days, check around Moodle and update or review dashboard etc. {   } 

During school days, attend assembly. {   }

During school days, conduct class, check and update records, documents, grades etc. {   } 

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2🔲 Recommended/slightly important/do them anytime today or in the evening. ☑️ 

Read at least two pages from the Noble Qur'an or recite more Surahs. {   }

Each day and/or night read at least one authentic Hadith even if you've read it numerous times. {   }

Listen to at least one recorded Jumuah Friday Khutbah in Arabic and/or English language. {   }

Listen to several Islamic lectures, watch some motivational videos and/or read some Islamic books or articles etc. {   }

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3🟪 Voluntary/just optional/you can do them in the daytime, at night or cancel it. 📝 

Pray at least two Rak'ahs of Salat Ad-Duha anytime from after sunrise until around 20 minutes before Salat Adh-Dhuhr. {   }

Pray at least two Rak'ahs of Salat At-Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl anytime from around 2:30 AM until a few minutes before Salat Al-Fajr. {   }

Laundry, washing then hanging some of the clothes etc. {   } 

Have at least one hour or 45 minutes nap. {   }

On school days, check around, supervise or monitor during Salat Adh-Dhuhr. {   }

On school days, check around, supervise or monitor during Salat Al-'Asr. {   } 

On school days, check on some of the staff, some classrooms and have casual or meaningful conversations if necessary. {   } 

Work on some admin-related tasks, print or staple some modules, check, review, revise etc. {   }

Check inboxes on Gmail, Facebook messenger application and Moodle etc. and respond to important messages. {   }

Share some knowledge or at least one Islamic reminder.  {   }  

Take some notes while listening to selected lengthy Islamic lectures, at least for some minutes then resume listening. {   }

Read some PDF documents in Arabic and/or English language. {   }

Merienda/snacks while watching some videos or listening to some lectures or podcasts etc. {   } 

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4🟨 Other activities which could be rewarding and beneficial if done with the right intention, but you may postpone them. 📖 

Arrange some rooms, organize and tidy up etc. {   }

Review old notes and listen again to some of the lectures you've listened to previously. {   } 

Visit some relatives, spend time with family for Allah's sake and go out etc. {   }

Browse around YouTube and websites related to self-development etc. {   }

Check some social media posts and reconnect with family, relatives and some sisters in Islam checking their timelines and browsing around selectively etc. {   }

Actually read actual books in Arabic and/or English language. {   }

Learn at least one new word in Arabic and/or English language, discover something new and research etc. {   }

Accomplish other tasks, review, tutorial etc. {   }

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5🟥 For Allah's sake absolutely avoid these as much as possible to take care of your overall well-being. ⚠️

Stalking irrelevant social media posts of users who aren't in your list of Facebook friends or who are not connected to you in any way. {   } 

Maintaining long dialogues online and face-to-face with individuals who can't inspire you to become a better Muslim in any way. {   } 

Watching meaningless videos that could trigger you to feel demotivated and browsing around channels with nonsensical content. {   }

Trying to interfere with issues which clearly don't have anything to do with you. {   }

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Tips: A To Z Checklist Of Some Of Your Husband's Actions So Your Love For Him Can Increase For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A to Z checklist / questionnaire regarding some actions which your husband has done and/or still does to inspire you to continue loving him with gratitude, patience and loyalty for Allah's sake: 

Your husband...

A] Allows you to occasionally visit your family and friends - he is not overly jealous and insecure. ( ✓ ) 

B] Bought or brought you souvenirs often after arriving from duty, work and/or travel. ( ✓ ) 

C] Cooked for you at least twice and/or complimented you on your cooking. ( ✓ ) 

D] Drove you several times to destinations which you asked him to transport you. ( ✓ ) 

E] Economizes when necessary and encourages you to spend money for Allah's sake wisely. ( ✓ ) 

F] Finds a way to make you laugh and smile effortlessly. ( ✓ ) 

G] Gives you some space when necessary, so he isn't obnoxiously nosy and/or goes to the Masjid frequently. ( ✓ ) 

H] Helps you with some household chores whenever he can. ( ✓ ) 

I] Inspires you every night and day to become a better Muslimah. ( ✓ ) 

J] Jokes with you now and then, as he loves to see you in a joyful mood. ( ✓ ) 

K] Kisses and/or hugs you goodbye whenever he embarks on a journey. ( ✓ ) 

L] Listens to you patiently or eagerly whenever you complain about an issue or share with him some news. ( ✓ ) 

M] Massaged you oftentimes when you felt tired and manages, with Allah's Will, to motivate you to work more ambitiously for Allah's sake. ( ✓ ) 

N] Negotiates well when necessary. ( ✓ ) 

O] Optimizes his time as much as possible. He isn't one of those immature guys who waste much of their lifetime nosily spying on strangers' lives and aimlessly watching uninspiring vlogs etc. ( ✓ ) 

P] Played with you at least twice some games or sports like badminton etc. ( ✓ ) 

Q] Quietly or very gently wakes you up for Salah when the time for prayer has arrived. ( ✓ ) 

R] Respects your mother and/or father, as well as your relatives. ( ✓ ) 

S] Shared and shares with you some of his belongings, like jacket or large slippers, whenever he can. ( ✓ ) 

T] Tried to teach you something which you weren't familiar with before and/or shed tears with you when you both were discussing some emotional topics. ( ✓ ) 

U] Understands your language and overall personality. ( ✓ ) 

V] Valiantly apologized to you at least once. ( ✓ ) 

W] Washed some of your clothes or did the dishes for you at least once and/or works with admirable determination. ( ✓ ) 

X] Excellently recalls a lot of random facts about you, such as your date of birth and favorite color. ( ✓ ) 

Y] Yearns to reunite with you and his other loved ones in Jannah Paradise with Allah's Mercy. ( ✓ ) 

Z] Zealously does what he can to ensure that his earnings are halal / lawful. ( ✓ ) 

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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."

Sunan Ibn Majah 2055

In-book reference: Book 10, Hadith 40

English translation: Vol. 3, Book 10, Hadith 2055 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Note: Eleven Questions To Ask Yourself To Feel More Certain That You Married A Good Man

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Eleven questions to ask yourself to feel more certain that you've indeed married your soulmate for Allah's sake: 

1] When you look back on the first actual conversations with your husband, can you wholeheartedly smile as you recall his cute efforts to be romantic or flirtatious with you? 

2] Can you mention at least three instances when he has been helpful, kind and compassionate to you? 

3] Do you miss his comforting hugs and loving presence whenever he is absent? 

4] If you had the option to choose between staying over at a resort with some close friends for one week and moving to the city where your husband is employed, would you select the latter as long as you're granted consent to visit your family whenever you like? 

5] If you're incapable of completely satisfying your husband, can you be strong enough to stay married while he loves another woman as his legal second wife, because you'd rather keep loving him faithfully while you're in a polygynous marriage than have him disappear from your life? 

6] Whenever his responses to your calls and messages are delayed, are you able to understand his side and still forgive him for Allah's sake with astounding patience? 

7] Whenever you encounter or notice supposedly happy couples, instead of feeling jealous, do you instantly thank Allah the Almighty for bestowing upon you the unique love story which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined for you and your husband? 

8] Does loving your husband sincerely for Allah's sake beautifully inspire you to become a better, wiser, more mature, more patient and understanding Muslimah? 

9] Do you love it whenever your husband leads you in prayer and every time you hear an Imam reciting some verses from the Noble Qur'an you're usually reminded of your husband's amazingly soothing voice? Or if ever your husband asked for divorce, can you imagine rejecting all marriage proposals from interested suitors while patiently waiting for another wedding from your ex-husband, aware that divorcees in Islam can remarry twice?

10] Although you can't always meet your husband or go on halal dates with him, are you capable of staying fiercely loyal to him, avoiding "emotional affairs" and anything which could lead to fitna, even when he hasn't been around for a long time? 

11] Is it true that you've cried or shed tears many times while mentioning your husband's name in heartfelt Du'as, praying that Allah the Most Merciful protects him, guides him and enables him to pass Allah's tests so you can both succeed, with Allah's Will, in making it to Jannah Paradise? 

Allah the Almighty knows best. If you've answered "yes" to at least seven of the above questions, then it's likely true that your husband is your soulmate whom you should never quit on. Don't let the shaytan who envies your joy feel smug about his attempts to disrupt your obvious blessing.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

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Note: 5 Traits Of Emotionally Draining Individuals And Some Energy Boosters

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five qualities of emotionally draining individuals - if you recognize at least two of these in an individual, it is better to avoid them for Allah's sake or minimize unnecessary conversations, as much as possible, to protect your emotional well-being: 

1] They claim to despise gossip yet they indulge in backbiting frequently. 

2] They whine to you a lot, as though they expect you to miraculously solve their problems almost every time they irrationally complain about something or somebody. Ironically when it's your turn to ask for advice, they act uninterested or tell you that they don't know what to say. 

3] They go silent or become obnoxiously distant upon noticing you expressing any form of joy or gratitude, yet when you make a mistake they're quick to criticize and point out your errors in detail. 

4] Due to their gigantic load of insecurities and intense envy of you, they regularly one-up you or narrate random stories to suggest that they're a lot "better", more "successful" or more "experienced" than you. 

5] It is clear that they're not supportive of your goals and interests, which is why most if not all of your talks with them are awfully awkward, boring or unproductive. 

✅ When dealing with acquaintances, neighbors or colleagues who are emotionally draining: 

1] Unapologetically unfollow them on social media and quit reading the content they upload if you believe that doing so can strengthen your faith Imaan and keep you away from negative emotions (such as unwarranted jealousy, confusion, uncertainty etc.). 

2] Don't force yourself to continue chatting with them if there are other more important, meaningful and rewarding tasks to do than pretending to like someone who is too toxic for you. 

3] Intentionally refrain from asking them questions about their personal lives, so you don't need to tolerate their invented lies nor should you pay attention to those with bad intentions in attempting to connect with you. 

✨ Seven energy boosters: 

1] Reciting from the Noble Qur'an with a melodious voice and reflecting on Allah's Magnificent Words. 

2] Resting for some minutes or looking at Allah's beautiful creations in nature while saying some Du'a and Adhkaar (including lots of Istighfaar).

3] Reading some beneficial Islamic books and articles which are useful for self-development. 

4] Watching motivational videos or listening to some recorded Islamic lectures. 

5] Memorizing or familiarizing yourself with some authentic Ahadith (narrations and statements of the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam). 

6] Spending some moments with a pet or showing kindness to furry animals when you're not busy. 

7] Visiting some family members and relatives for Allah's sake when you have the opportunity. 

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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